Biting more than i can chew. How can i do better?

[Youngkhngdiddy]

No one can tell when death and change will come. There is a proverb - don't be afraid of the clouds, remember that the sun is peeking out from behind the clouds.  Many world famous people have failed in their first attempt but the pain of failure does not deter anyone. Forget the past and focus on yourself first, don't care what others think about you. I've noticed that the forum has given a lot of great guidance. You can follow the instructions from there. Be diligent, develop the mindset to get up when you fall suddenly to keep the pace of life going. So prepare yourself humanly, set a goal in life and take slow and resolve to move forward. Success is staring at you.

    Financial struggles can affect ones state of mind and even cause them to make rash decisions on themselves. Everyone is trying their best to live through this storm of life, setbacks unendingly will arise in the process, they tend to make you feel disgusted and disappointed. Sometimes you may feel like you've exhausted all your options and steps to take but you just have to try harder. Be relentless, don't be ashamed of mistakes, mistakes would always be made but in the process of life, there's always room for corrections.
   Every new day, one wakes up to new challenges with a whole new different method to jumping through it. A timid and scared mind won't be able to face it, surviving is all about the depth of our toughness, its randomly said that there's no joy anywhere, everybody's eyes are red and anyone that loose guard or go off the track will have to face the consequences. Do well to have with you as many strategies to overcoming life as you can because they'll so much be handy in the shortest possible time.

[adzino]

Sorry to hear about the tough times that you had. iT happens to everyone at least once in their lifetime. People do make mistakes when they forget about the "reality". But it's great that you're looking to change yourself and turn things around in your life. Its always a good thing to realize and accept your mistakes. You know about your financial situations much better than us. So it is you who should take those decisions but I can suggest you some "normal" stuffs. You should start budgetting. Set aside money for things you must need like rent, food, and savings. Anything left can be your 'fun money' that you can use to enjoy. Remember, savings first and then comes the fun money. Don't forget about the emergency funds too. They aren't the same as savings. About the impulse buying, always ask yourself if you really needed it and what you could do with that money instead of buying something that you wouldn't need.

[Chilwell]

Learning to cook for example is one of the easiest ways to save money.

I agree with you because I observed that the most thing we spend money on in our daily lives is food, food is the number one expensive item in our lives because we must feed ourselves, and most people who have not married consider cook as a waste of time but if you calculate the money they spend daily in buy food is very huge, but if they decided to use that money to cook it will last for two days. if there is no money we tend to manage ourselves but when money comes we spend it anyhow, if we can control our feeding that will have a positive impact on our savings.

There are friends who are allowed to be brought to the fence of the house. There are friends who are only allowed to enter the house. There are friends who can exchange things with each other.
Hopefully you understand what I mean.

Normally we do have friends but friends increase or decrease depending on the level of our income, as for me I always believe that true friends are those who are with you when you have nothing. in this life, we just have to be careful when choosing a friend matter our financial status, money is a guest that doesn't come alone but comes with so many things, like a change of character. when we are getting money will always look above us and that is the number one problem we face, we forget the friends we have from the past and make friends with rich people and forget about old friends.

But like I suggest to everyone else, it's time to start cutting down on expenses. Think about what is necessary for you, and the things that you only desire to have, postpone them until another date.

Some people think that using a scale of preference is made for poor people who have no money to cover their needs, but they got it wrong because if the rich decide not to use it they will end up losing their money, control of our spending is for both poor and rich people.

[FinneysTrueVision]

I am a young man who is not married. I have made some mistakes in how I use money and the resources I obtain. So, I have come to share this problem with everyone in the hope of finding help and changing the way I misuse money.

When we are young we often lack the foresight to be able to properly handle our finances. There's nothing that can be done to recover what you have lost due to irresponsibility but you can take the lessons learned to adequately manage your future income. It's happened to me before and for a long period I was unable to earn very much.

It can take a while to bounce back but what has worked for me was completely cutting off most expenses aside from the bare minimum needed to live. I like to keep detailed information of how much money I have saved up and if it starts to get too low then I will look for an area to cut spending from.

[bluebit25]

I believe that you still have many good opportunities to develop yourself and achieve the goals you want. Perhaps your previous luck has run out, and your life has become unbalanced, causing you to pay the price for your current situation in your personal finances and social relationships. I always hope everyone will always be positive in life, and that the difficult things of the present should just be seen as a challenge to conquer. Moreover, in your case, you have certain skills that make it easy for you to start over from now on, it's just a matter of whether you accept to let go of everything that has passed and start a new journey. I myself am not very successful in life, but the value I seek is happiness, which I feel is created by myself and not dependent on anyone. Maybe our preconceived notions keep us stuck with material attachments when before you may have had plenty, but in reality, money should only be seen as a connecting tool.

[God bless u]

When we are young we often lack the foresight to be able to properly handle our finances. There's nothing that can be done to recover what you have lost due to irresponsibility but you can take the lessons learned to adequately manage your future income. It's happened to me before and for a long period I was unable to earn very much.

It can take a while to bounce back but what has worked for me was completely cutting off most expenses aside from the bare minimum needed to live. I like to keep detailed information of how much money I have saved up and if it starts to get too low then I will look for an area to cut spending from.

I think that if you have no responsibility of home then you have no concept of saving and making your financial system stable because you don't realize that how to earn money and how to spend it. BUT once you become a responsible person of a family then you will know about the Importance of saving as well as reduce spending on those materials which are not much important for life.

Regression occurs at any stage of life therefore we should teach our children earlier that they will have responsibility in future so if they learn well early they will do better otherwise they will have difficulties in carrying out a job as a responsible person. As you described about handling of family expenses same should be done by each individual because there is no possibility that a person will live always without any responsibility.

[mamesso]

Consider what has happened in the past as the most valuable experience in your life. I think the majority of young people who have above average income will take the same attitude as you, they choose to enjoy it instead of saving to achieve financial freedom in the future. A lifestyle that is classified as extravagant or always wanting to have something that one likes or desires is caused by not having responsibilities in one's life such as paying for the children/wife's life and household needs.

Now that conditions are starting to change a little, just think of what you are experiencing now as an early warning to change your lifestyle for the better. Learn all the lessons from the events you have experienced, at certain times you need to experience events like this to find out who are the true friends who always support you in good times and bad and who only take advantage of your economic condition and then leave you when your condition is in a pinch.

[Vishnu.Reang]

When I was in bad conditions 5 years ago that time my so called relatives never said that we are also there family member they never gave us importance while in family functions. But when slowly we start becoming financially stable, we purchase our own house and my siblings get into job including me that time they start giving importance to us that's why I learn lesson that if you are poor then there will be no relations in material world with anyone else. So earn money, save it and invest it where you are able to get money from money and never keep hope with anyone except money. money only have power to gives you everything in life from respect in society to love. There will be uncountable so called true friends when your pocket  is full.

[DabsPoorVersion]

Consider what has happened in the past as the most valuable experience in your life. I think the majority of young people who have above average income will take the same attitude as you, they choose to enjoy it instead of saving to achieve financial freedom in the future. A lifestyle that is classified as extravagant or always wanting to have something that one likes or desires is caused by not having responsibilities in one's life such as paying for the children/wife's life and household needs.

Now that conditions are starting to change a little, just think of what you are experiencing now as an early warning to change your lifestyle for the better. Learn all the lessons from the events you have experienced, at certain times you need to experience events like this to find out who are the true friends who always support you in good times and bad and who only take advantage of your economic condition and then leave you when your condition is in a pinch.

Yes, as this will serve as a valuable lesson to anyone who thinks that there is nothing permanent in this world. Maybe you are earning a lot today, but someday, your current situation will be upside down. Know how to prioritize yourself and your future. Do an investment you can count on if there are any unexpected things to happen.

Nowadays, most of the young people have this kind of situation. Having fun and enjoying a lifestyle like it will be a permanent activity in their life. Thinking that the money they have spent will be earned again. And a situation where they don't even know how to say NO to someone who needs financial help.