Am I a bad father for letting my daughter gamble?

[Sexylizzy2813]

I know most of you might think I’m an irresponsible gambler after reading this. But let me share a bit of my story first....

I started gambling when I was around 10 years old, IIRC. It was because of family influence, and yes I eventually got addicted. Hard to admit, but it’s the truth. over time though, I’ve seen some positive outcomes from my gambling experience. I became wiser, more calculated, and a bigger risk-taker and I was able to apply that mindset in running my own business.

Now, I’m a father, and my 17-year-old daughter is starting to gamble too playing slots and even doing some sports betting. I don’t know how to feel, part of me feels oddly proud of what she’s doing.

What does that make me?

Is nothing wrong and sometimes you can't be a gambler but your children will end up becoming a gambler, so these things has to do with control in as much as you see your children gambling you only have to keep tabs on them to always be on guard if not it will get out of hand in the sense that the children can become an addict that you as a father can't control them on when to stop or take a pause. Imagine you fighting to stop your child from gambling mean while you was ones a gambler and you feel by using force on the child that it will work? No, you past on that behavior to the child so is left for you to take control because you can't beat it out from the child.
Is simple, a goat will always give birth to a goat. But where my issue is, is when at 17 you feel proud of a child who's not an adult yet to gamble, you're not doing well as a father, even if you did it when you're 10 you should use your life as a lesson to teach your child on the right thing to do not following your foot steps.

[Dickiy]

The greatest fear of this action is, "what if this girl becomes addicted? " Just what if? Then it's going to become a big problem for the girl in the future which she might exhibit some addictive behaviors that no man would want to risk getting married to an addict or even after the is married, what happens when she starts using her kids money to fulfill her gambling needs, that means her children will suffer it too. If you must let your kid gamble, it should be at the right age and also with a strict guidelines of not becoming addicted.

The fear of the addiction is mostly the main issue around all of this because it usually start off as an innocent way of having fun and getting some money from it but then it later happens that things change and the unexpected happens you then have to start guarding and putting her back in oder from the addiction she may be suffering.  Obviously when it's time for marriage that aspect of her will not be revealed easily because they know how detrimental it could be.

Yes, that's what we all think, especially when we're talking about young children, who are still very unstable and vulnerable. The likelihood of them eventually becoming addicted gamblers is very high because they never think about limits or other things that lead to risk management. Young children also never think about self-control; they just want to play and play.

For me, allowing a child to engage in transparent gambling is the same as sacrificing their future. Do you want your child's future ruined? Surely not, right? Many addicted gamblers end up becoming thieves and getting into a lot of trouble.

[DiMarxist]

The greatest fear of this action is, "what if this girl becomes addicted? " Just what if? Then it's going to become a big problem for the girl in the future which she might exhibit some addictive behaviors that no man would want to risk getting married to an addict or even after the is married, what happens when she starts using her kids money to fulfill her gambling needs, that means her children will suffer it too. If you must let your kid gamble, it should be at the right age and also with a strict guidelines of not becoming addicted.

The fear of the addiction is mostly the main issue around all of this because it usually start off as an innocent way of having fun and getting some money from it but then it later happens that things change and the unexpected happens you then have to start guarding and putting her back in oder from the addiction she may be suffering.  Obviously when it's time for marriage that aspect of her will not be revealed easily because they know how detrimental it could be.

Yes, that's what we all think, especially when we're talking about young children, who are still very unstable and vulnerable. The likelihood of them eventually becoming addicted gamblers is very high because they never think about limits or other things that lead to risk management. Young children also never think about self-control; they just want to play and play.

For me, allowing a child to engage in transparent gambling is the same as sacrificing their future. Do you want your child's future ruined? Surely not, right? Many addicted gamblers end up becoming thieves and getting into a lot of trouble.

You are actually right, including children into gambling most especially when there are at the stage where they can't control themselves, including or teaching them how to gamble could actually cause great harm to their future.
You might think they are actually playing it for fun but nobody can predict the future it might escalate to what no one will expect, because they will focus on just chasing wins even when they are loosing and not understand what gambling is all about, but by bit thy become addicted at ur will actually affect their future.

[sompitonov]

You are actually right, including children into gambling most especially when there are at the stage where they can't control themselves, including or teaching them how to gamble could actually cause great harm to their future.
You might think they are actually playing it for fun but nobody can predict the future it might escalate to what no one will expect, because they will focus on just chasing wins even when they are loosing and not understand what gambling is all about, but by bit thy become addicted at ur will actually affect their future.

I would also consider this as an uncontrolled process, because even if we try to control every step of a minor, soon he will simply start thinking that he can try his hand at it himself, to test himself. This may be under the influence of youthful maximalism or simply to compete with friends, because everyone at that age will want to brag to others. In short, I can introduce gambling and need to them, but I must talk about the risks, so that when they encounter them one-on-one, they do not start doing all sorts of crap.

[xLays]

I won't be surprised if this happens to me too someday. That my kids will into gambling too. My kids don't often see me gambling online but they know about it.
I usually play in secret, but of course when I win or lose they will notice something to me like when I’m broke, sometimes I suddenly have money and they can’t figure out why. But honestly, I think they already know why is that.

In the end, it really depends on how they will they take it. Could be good or be bad. The best advice I can give is to tell them not to be greedy, because greed is the main reason people lose in gambling.
The saying "no one wins in gambling" is common, so this is my simplest advice I can share: don't be greedy.

[Bitcoin_people]

If you are a father, then definitely spend time with your daughter and ask your wife to be with your daughter most of the time so that she does not pay much attention to gambling. Since she is a teenager and she is young, she will easily become addicted to gambling, so prevent her from entering the bad side at this young age. It will never be good for your daughter to indulge in gambling at this age for her career, so you have to be vigilant and turn her away. Once your daughter becomes addicted to gambling, her career will be completely ruined, if she gets stuck in gambling while building a career, a family will also face problems. Therefore, if your daughter has a smartphone, it is very important to take it away and spend time with her in the family.

[virasog]

If you are a father, then definitely spend time with your daughter and ask your wife to be with your daughter most of the time so that she does not pay much attention to gambling. Since she is a teenager and she is young, she will easily become addicted to gambling, so prevent her from entering the bad side at this young age. It will never be good for your daughter to indulge in gambling at this age for her career, so you have to be vigilant and turn her away. Once your daughter becomes addicted to gambling, her career will be completely ruined, if she gets stuck in gambling while building a career, a family will also face problems. Therefore, if your daughter has a smartphone, it is very important to take it away and spend time with her in the family.

Putting too much restrictions on your daughter (or sons) will not make the situation better, infact the result would be that the children will still be doing gambling (as gambling is easy accessible these days) but they will hide this from their parents, this is more bad then to gamble in front of the parents.

To stop the teenagers isn't very easy and it is a risky task and can backfire on you if you do not tackle it with patience. Sometimes we have to teach our children many times because they are convinced. It's not like that you advise them once and they will agree to it.

[Muba20]

Gambling is very risky and it can't be predicted tp make money from it. If money is really the problem of people and the reason why they gamble it is better to look for something else doing which will generate money for one as steady source of income.  Relying on gambling to make money is dangerous and even more dangerous for teenagers because it is believed that the understanding of teenagers s always poor,  and when a teenager believes money can be made from gambling their is nothing can be done to erase the mindset and they become so desperate to make more money from gambling.

Yes gambling risky just as you said but the aspect everyone is very much concerned about is the addiction that's associated with it, anyone think that gambling is the easiest or the quickest means of making money is doing that to his or her own detriment, making money through gambling is not something anyone needs to take serious talk more of teenagers, parents advise and direct their children at that early age.
I agree with you that teenagers has a very shallow way of thinking that's what they shouldn't even be allowed to go closer to anything that relates to gambling because that's a very disasterous move.

Some parents feel that talking to their children about gambling can make them more interested in gambling, which is why they are not willing to discuss this issue openly with them. I think that parents should discuss about their gambling with their children who are not yet adults but have a good understanding of the online world, so that those children will get an idea about the negative aspects of gambling in advance. If this topic is not discussed, they may learn it from their friends, which can lead to worse things for them later.

[danherbias07]

I won't be surprised if this happens to me too someday. That my kids will into gambling too. My kids don't often see me gambling online but they know about it.
I usually play in secret, but of course when I win or lose they will notice something to me like when I’m broke, sometimes I suddenly have money and they can’t figure out why. But honestly, I think they already know why is that.

In the end, it really depends on how they will they take it. Could be good or be bad. The best advice I can give is to tell them not to be greedy, because greed is the main reason people lose in gambling.
The saying "no one wins in gambling" is common, so this is my simplest advice I can share: don't be greedy.

Same. I won't be surprised if my two sons gamble in the future. Like you, I don't let them see anything when I gamble, and in fact, I don't even use sounds when I play. But I do know that they have an idea of what I am doing.

Sometimes, we cannot prevent this, especially in this kind of era now. Ads about gambling and gambling platforms keep popping up on the very popular streaming site where my kids are mostly at. Then, there's the popular game, which is also like gambling, where they pay for items, or sometimes they hear streamers making a bet before they play.

[iBaba]

If you are a father, then definitely spend time with your daughter and ask your wife to be with your daughter most of the time so that she does not pay much attention to gambling. Since she is a teenager and she is young, she will easily become addicted to gambling, so prevent her from entering the bad side at this young age. It will never be good for your daughter to indulge in gambling at this age for her career, so you have to be vigilant and turn her away. Once your daughter becomes addicted to gambling, her career will be completely ruined, if she gets stuck in gambling while building a career, a family will also face problems. Therefore, if your daughter has a smartphone, it is very important to take it away and spend time with her in the family.

Some parents make this mistake of 'since I've given birth to her, she should take care of her' as a way of shifting responsibility from the father to the mother for instance. fathers tend to shift his responsibilities to their wives with this traditional mindset that the responsibility of taking care of a child lies on the wife especially when the child happens to be a girl. I don't know from which books our forefathers founded such practices but I can tell you for free that it is a very wrong mentality to view things from that lens. You cannot be so irresponsible not to carry out your responsibilities as a man and shift such to the woman then expect good results.

If a daughter starts consuming much of gambling at her tender age , I bet you that it won't only affect the child bit the entire family because at that age her exuberant is on a very high level so she seriously need to be on check in control of her decision making processes. At first , I see it as a negligence for the parents to have allowed her get that exposure, secondly the parents are supposed to take drastic measures towards curbing the issue before it transforms into addiction that will eat up the better part of their lives.

[Y3shot]

Some parents feel that talking to their children about gambling can make them more interested in gambling, which is why they are not willing to discuss this issue openly with them. I think that parents should discuss about their gambling with their children who are not yet adults but have a good understanding of the online world, so that those children will get an idea about the negative aspects of gambling in advance. If this topic is not discussed, they may learn it from their friends, which can lead to worse things for them later.

There is nothing to hide from your children; if you don't teach them what you think is bad for them to know, they will still get to know it outside, and at this point, they might even become a victim of it. When parents are open to teaching children both good and bad, they learn from it and stay away from it, knowing it is bad. If parents can be bold enough to teach their children about gambling and its effects, I don't think anybody outside can easily influence children to gamble.

[Dickiy]

Yes, that's what we all think, especially when we're talking about young children, who are still very unstable and vulnerable. The likelihood of them eventually becoming addicted gamblers is very high because they never think about limits or other things that lead to risk management. Young children also never think about self-control; they just want to play and play.

For me, allowing a child to engage in transparent gambling is the same as sacrificing their future. Do you want your child's future ruined? Surely not, right? Many addicted gamblers end up becoming thieves and getting into a lot of trouble.

You are actually right, including children into gambling most especially when there are at the stage where they can't control themselves, including or teaching them how to gamble could actually cause great harm to their future.
You might think they are actually playing it for fun but nobody can predict the future it might escalate to what no one will expect, because they will focus on just chasing wins even when they are loosing and not understand what gambling is all about, but by bit thy become addicted at ur will actually affect their future.

One thing I'm worried about is that my child will one day become a criminal who commits various crimes. As we know, many addicted gamblers engage in this activity and experience many problems in their lives. They are adults, capable of reasoning and weighing right and wrong, but they can still fall into addiction. What about young children? Of course, they are at a greater risk of addiction because they can't fully distinguish between right and wrong.

If I allow or inadvertently witness my child engaging in gambling, I believe it would be the same as failing to educate and protect them.

[bubilas]

If you are a father, then definitely spend time with your daughter and ask your wife to be with your daughter most of the time so that she does not pay much attention to gambling. Since she is a teenager and she is young, she will easily become addicted to gambling, so prevent her from entering the bad side at this young age. It will never be good for your daughter to indulge in gambling at this age for her career, so you have to be vigilant and turn her away. Once your daughter becomes addicted to gambling, her career will be completely ruined, if she gets stuck in gambling while building a career, a family will also face problems. Therefore, if your daughter has a smartphone, it is very important to take it away and spend time with her in the family.

I wouldn't do anything as radical as taking away a smartphone from a child or teenager, because it's an important thing for them, especially if they're going through a transitional period, then communication is very important to them and in fact, it's their most important resource at this age. But it's essential to know all the apps on a child's iPhone. Especially if it's a guy who's into eSports or football.

[GiftedMAN]

Some parents feel that talking to their children about gambling can make them more interested in gambling, which is why they are not willing to discuss this issue openly with them. I think that parents should discuss about their gambling with their children who are not yet adults but have a good understanding of the online world, so that those children will get an idea about the negative aspects of gambling in advance. If this topic is not discussed, they may learn it from their friends, which can lead to worse things for them later.

There is nothing to hide from your children; if you don't teach them what you think is bad for them to know, they will still get to know it outside, and at this point, they might even become a victim of it. When parents are open to teaching children both good and bad, they learn from it and stay away from it, knowing it is bad. If parents can be bold enough to teach their children about gambling and its effects, I don't think anybody outside can easily influence children to gamble.

When a child has access to smart phone believe it or not there are so many things he will find out by himself if you don't tell him about it so telling him the good, the bad and the ugly things is not bad but if you tell him the importance of doing the good things and avoiding the bad things it helps him to be aware and conscious of what he does in the future. Gambling advertisements are everywhere if you hide it from your kid they would find out about it and practice it without you finding out.