Why dont girls like me?

[bumpk1nK]

 I am 30 years old, and have never had a girlfriend, never even had sex. Now before all the laughing starts pleas know I have tried and tried but always come up empty handed when trying to get a girl to go out on a date with me.

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

Anyone here have any advice for me on how to step my game up and start closing the deals.

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[bumpk1nK]

Get rich.

I am well off though. I did pretty good with btc and I have money, I drive a nice car. My style of cloths is not so great. Maybe I should hire a professional shopper to help get me styled.

[UliJonHoth]

You're 30 - start going to a decent bar, preferably an hour or two before closing time - there'll be single chicks there looking for the same thing you are - just be confident and approachable - might have to lower your standards a bit, but you're not looking for a wife.

[gweedo]

Be confident, but if you want an easy hack. Rent a luxury car, I was in miami and I rented a ferrari 458 and girls were coming up left and right, got a few numbers that weekend.

[rigel]

I am 30 years old, and have never had a girlfriend, never even had sex. Now before all the laughing starts pleas know I have tried and tried but always come up empty handed when trying to get a girl to go out on a date with me.

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

Anyone here have any advice for me on how to step my game up and start closing the deals.

Try inscribing to a dating site.
You are not alone in being alone.

[DraggerC1]

it doesnt matter ho you look like as long as you have money!
unfortunatley iam a poor guy

[b!z]

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

There's your answer.

[Lethn]

Honestly, I'm 25 and in a very similar position, I'm focused on work more though My thing is that it's always girls outside my country that like me, if you're in a western country, if you don't treat women like shit it could well be the girls themselves that are the problem.

My plan is, save up a ton of money and get a passive income, visit another country, see if the girls there treat me any different, I suspect they will because I've chatted to plenty even in America compared to here in the UK. It's actually really a common problem and one of the most bitched about things on the internet from what I see and the theory is that women our age aren't looking for a relationship and then when they start hitting their 30's and 40's they get desperate to go with anyone just so they can have a family. There are all kinds of stories out there from men who were turned down by people in school and so on only to have the exact same woman show up on their doorstep trying to get them because they've been screwed over by tons of douchebags they thought were more attractive.

Whatever you do, don't let yourself get hooked up with a psychopath who's just looking to get herself a baby and yes, they exist, seems to be a pretty scary problem unique to western countries. For me? I'm actually fairly happy being single right now, especially considering the alternatives, money first, then sex, at least if anything goes horrible wrong you can prepare for the consequences that way.

Oh and honestly guys, if you saw some of the girls in the UK you'd fucking keep your penis out of their way as well trust me, I'm not talking based on looks just on the fact they're genuinely psycho or have no sense. My favourite thing was explaining this sort of thing to one of my teachers and low and behold while we were listening to the radio a girl came on who was 19 or so and apparently she had something like 8 fucking boyfriends already.

It's not neccessarily the number I'm complaining about, but if you're looking for a 'stable' relationship and you're having to get through that many guys then maybe it's not the men that are the problem for fucks sake.

Sorry, you've set me off, I've got my own issues and had to deal with a psycho girls in the past at school myself

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

And I actually agree with b!z, that's a pretty arrogant thing to say and will likely turn most women off.

[karimunwagonr]

How many women do you greet each day? that is the answer

[xmaxbit]

From my experience , I have concluded 1 thing that you are noticed by the girls when you walk alone before a group of girls. I had a girlfriend  but no sex. I think you should choose a girl and keep following her for 1-2 weeks and suddenly disappear for a day or two . Then she might ask you someday why you follow her. A talk is enough to start relationships.

[888coin]

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

I suggest you to find a girl (not necessarily be too beautiful) who you can talk with her comfortably first.

The easiest way to get a girl to go out on a date with you is to invite her watching a movie with you together. If she doesn't like watching movies, try to understand what she likes to do, and do something she likes with her etc.

Once you get enough experience, you can then try to find your idea girl.  

Good luck!

[bct-user]

Go find out a girl in another country. Example: brazil, asian. Bring your nice car too and dont forget to bring your btc on your wallet

[TaunSew]

I had a girlfriend  but no sex.

Dafuq this chyieet...  that was just a female friend, brah.

If I'm not in between her legs by the second date, I ain't showing up to the third.  Sounds like you got low libido or you on dat dere homo time.

This thread is fall of sad and I don't want to write an essay to explain why you all need to alpha up.  I'll just give you a link.

http://tunein.com/radio/Tom-Leykis-Show-s152257/
Listen to that everyday for the next month and see if it improves your game.  Else I'll send you to another link.

[Lethn]

Yes, because transforming yourself into an asshole will endear everyone to you especially women and get you in a long lasting relationship, like I've advocated for awhile now, the problem isn't men.

[Giggs]

Get on one of those dating apps like Tinder if you find it hard to talk to women or use another dating site. At least you can get to know each other first so its less aqward.

Be confident, but if you want an easy hack. Rent a luxury car, I was in miami and I rented a ferrari 458 and girls were coming up left and right, got a few numbers that weekend.

These are the types of women I'd avoid. Completely materialistic but its funny that anyone can just rent an expensive car to attract them. Seen a couple of vids on youtube of people things like this.

[Honeybooboo]

I am 30 years old, and have never had a girlfriend, never even had sex. Now before all the laughing starts pleas know I have tried and tried but always come up empty handed when trying to get a girl to go out on a date with me.

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

If you're educated well off good looking and nice then what's the problem? I think you probably just lack the confidence so that's the point you need to work on. Start going out with your friends more and when they get talking to groups of girls just try engage in the conversation. If you really are a nice guy women will see this so you've just got to work at making it easier to get to know them.

[OnionChip]

i had a girl donna was her name

[bornil267645]

Maybe you haven't met the right girl yet !!!

But then again, who am I to judge.

Don't get frustrated man.

Keep fishing...

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

[M.SH]

Maybe Not Be Problem From Your Side!!
Is From Side World Unmerciful!!!
Enough People Have Many Problem, And Are Many Betrayal, Are Lie, Are Not Affability In Between People,
So Nobody Can't Trust To Other And Have Awe To Start Connection,
Naturally Verity This To Amorous Connection!!
Tnx

[Beefcake]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.

1. Be well groomed.  Hair cut regularly, shower regularly, shave, etc.  Don't be afraid to wear a bit of face powder to cover up acne or other blemishes.  If you are having trouble with clothing style, then ask a female relative like a sister to help you pick clothes.  Trust me they love to play dress up and will be all over that.  Be sure to pick someone your age, you dont want to dress like a teenager.

2. Confidence.  This is very important.  It is a myth that you have to have money to get a girl.  It helps but is not the number one factor.  Stand up straight.  Good posture is key here.  To develop confidence when speaking to women what you need to do is actually just talk to more people.  Go up to strangers in the grocery store, book store, or anywhere in public and just say hi.  It will be hard at first.  Just fucking do it.  You need to be positive and smile when you talk.  You need to be positive because no one wants to be around negative people.  What I mean is, lets say a friend gets a new watch or car or something.  A negative person would say "woah he spent way too much on that crap.  He must be compensating for something."  A positive person would say "hey nice watch dude, it looks awesome."  Do this every day.  Make it a goal to talk to at least three strangers a day.  It does not have to be a full blown conversation, even saying hi is a good start.  And it doesn't have to be an attractive woman.  Men count too. It is hard to talk to strangers so this will help you build confidence.  Employees or other people that have to talk to you as part of their job do not count.  If you don't go out into public much, the get your ass out there every day.  You will meet more people.  You can also look at websites like meetup.com to find activities you enjoy with others.  I recently started rock climbing, and women like doing that too.  Its not just about meeting women though, if you get a larger social circle you will naturally meet more people.  Married people (especially women) love to set up their single friends.  So increase the size of your social circle and you will meet women as a part of the deal.

3. Exercise.  You should exercise daily.  Cardio such as jogging is a must.  You dont need a gym membership, just spend an hour a day jogging, doing pushups, etc.  There are plenty of great workouts online.  You will look better and feel better.  Plus it will boost your testosterone a bit and make you feel more confident.  You can also take up a sport you are interested in or a martial art.  Judo and Brazillain Ju Jitsu are great because they offer an excellent workout and you don't have to get punched in the face.  Don't skip this one.  It is a pain in the ass to work out every day, but make the time for it.  You won't regret it trust me (after you get over the initial hump of being sore all the time that is).

Best of luck, once you get started you will have fun, and find that it is not as hard as you think it is.  Don't worry about the rest, it will fall into place when you meet a woman and click with her.

[bumpk1nK]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

[Digitalmocking]

There's some decent answers in this thread, and some awful ones.

It all comes down to confidence.  That trumps everything.  It trumps looks and money and cars and every other superficial thing here.  The kind of girl you're going to attract because of your wallet or car isn't the kind of girl you're going to want to stay with any amount of time, because the next guy with a bigger wallet or better car will cause her to wander.

Read beefcake's post, then read it again, then print it out and read it.

You have to have confidence in yourself and what you do, then having the confidence to talk to women is simple.

I'm fat, I've been fat all my life, but confidence has never been an issue for me, so women have never been an issue for me.  I believe in myself, when you do that, others believe in you as well and you're attractive as a mate.

[ShamrockHannah]

Maybe the problem is that you're trying too hard. Girls don't find it very attractive if a guy is "trying" to impress her, can come across as desperate.

I know it's a cliche but there is someone out there for everyone and good things come to those who wait.

[sellingaccount5]

Post a photo of yourself so we can help you change your look.

[Trifixion713]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

That's great, man! Just be yourself and have a good time on your date - and don't blow her phone-up with calls and texts in between now and the date lmao Just remember there are tons of women out there and if this doesn't work-out, move on to the next one until you find one you click with.

[brunoshady]

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go get a prostitute and treat women like shit, its truely what american women want

[Scream]

Most girls agree that a good sense of humor is attractive. Humor can also relieve awkwardness. If you say something that doesn't go over well, follow it up with something funny and turn it into a joke.

[gentlemand]

Stop caring so much, start talking more. Be good, don't be 'nice'. Be firm regarding the things you don't like. Be positive about the things you do.

The more you focus on them, your own passions and the world surrounding you both, the more the self consciousness will fade away and the more the interaction will flow.

The person opposite you is not an unreachable goddess. They're simply another person who may be crapping themselves just as much as you might be. They eat, shit, worry and want to be loved and wanted like anyone else.

Don't be an asshole because you think it might get you places. I could never respect any woman who responded to that type of playground psychology and if anyone treats me mean to keep me keen they get told to fuck off.

There is no such thing as 'leagues'. How they look or their social status has little or no bearing on whether they might be interested in you. Same goes for you.

When I was as thin and pretty as a renaissance prince no one gave me a second look. These days I'm a tub of lard with a humongous beard. Since my, er, lifestyle change I haven't gone on a single date in recent years that didn't end up going places. Go figure.

The only thing that might have changed is that I've long overcome the pedestal thing and I'm interested in them as a complete human, not a trophy or delicate flower or the mindless gateway to a new level of existence affirmed by having sex with them.

I don't radiate any sense of desperation or neediness, in fact more often than not I'm looking for reasons not to take things any further because I'm not sure whether I can be arsed any more. I'm not indifferent or an asshole, but I know my own value and I'm not willing to compromise it. I've probably said no to more people than I've said yes to and nearly got beaten up a few times because of it.

I will treat everyone as I wish to be treated. If they decide I'm a prick then I'm confident in knowing who and what I am and that they're wrong or I'm reminding them of someone else.

Looks, money, exercise, that's just tinsel.

I'm sure it sometimes feels like an insurmountable barrier. It isn't. It's just a case of being true to yourself, continuing to grow and creating and embracing opportunities to meet as many women as possible. When it does happen for you, and it will, it'll feel like ancient history.

[Bad Uncle]

Post a photo of yourself so we can help you change your look.

Don't do this. You'll likely just be ridiculed which will make your confidence worse. Just work to improve that first and foremost and join a dating site and be nice to the women you talk to.

[Nikinger]

Don't join a dating site. Why:

• Often, a dating site has much many males than females
• Even a verified but ugly women gets more private messages then she's able to answer properly
• Danger of loosing money due to the boys who are doing ewhoring
• Sometimes even the operators are faking "verified" girl profiles in order to get you stay there ...
• ... until you get locked out off your account if you don't pay for "premium" features, just before your first "date"
• Finally: no girl really needs a dating site to find a nice guy

[Digitalmocking]

Don't join a dating site. Why:

• Often, a dating site has much many males than females
• Even a verified but ugly women gets more private messages then she's able to answer properly
• Danger of loosing money due to the boys who are doing ewhoring
• Sometimes even the operators are faking "verified" girl profiles in order to get you stay there ...
• ... until you get locked out off your account if you don't pay for "premium" features, just before your first "date"
• Finally: no girl really needs a dating site to find a nice guy

Met my wife on Yahoo Dating.

Had no problem with several dating sites.

[Pro_Crypto_Marty]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

Good job man! It's that easy sometimes.

Often what happens is you overthink certain failures and put too much energy into figuring them out. Your self-criticism becomes a self-fulfilling profecy and it overules and taints how you perceive people's reactions to you. You've probably caught more than one girl's eye over the years but just didn't recognize it when it happened.

Good luck on your date!

[SaktoWuN]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

[CoinCorps]

Get rich.

I am well off though. I did pretty good with btc and I have money, I drive a nice car. My style of cloths is not so great. Maybe I should hire a professional shopper to help get me styled.

Get yourself a mental evaluation. There is something wrong with you. You don't need to be a millionaire to get laid.

[Immortal Tech]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

Not if you drink too much, make a fool of youself then shit, piss and puke yourself. Be carefull with the booze. I prefer to stay lucid and on my game hehe.

[lazi]

I am 30 years old, and have never had a girlfriend, never even had sex. Now before all the laughing starts pleas know I have tried and tried but always come up empty handed when trying to get a girl to go out on a date with me.

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

Anyone here have any advice for me on how to step my game up and start closing the deals.

BUY CLOAKS and get rich...

Open champagne in discothek and fuck all girls 

[ShamrockHannah]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

Break out the Tequila!

[ellave]

Sory to hear that,you will find perfect woumen for you.

[CoinCorps]

Lies. All lies. You're probably quite ugly, or you smell like rotten cheese. In any case, you're probably going to die alone. Deal with it.

[ellave]

Lies. All lies. You're probably quite ugly, or you smell like rotten cheese. In any case, you're probably going to die alone. Deal with it.

GTFO Newbie

[defaced]

download tinder right this second. You are putting the P on a pedestal man. Like Nike said, just do it.

[yummyransom]

Be yourself. If somebody don't likes you then wait for the right one for you.

[M.SH]

Good

[GotaPauj]

Well try to be attractive as much as you can, and make some jokes i think lol

[ndnh]

Know what you want really (don't care too much about a particular thing. It gets into your head, so forget it for some time - a week or so about the complete topic. It actually helps, but is real hard, lol ) and be confident.
Be optimistic, and don't be desperate or frustrated.

Be (or believe you are) awesome, have a decent personality, and you will be fine.

Edit: Also culture/country is an important factor. You can figure out more than we can, to be frank.

Edit: How do you know girls don't like you? Get a friend who is a girl. It usually helps.

[b!z]

Lies. All lies. You're probably quite ugly, or you smell like rotten cheese. In any case, you're probably going to die alone. Deal with it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

[Giggs]

download tinder right this second. You are putting the P on a pedestal man. Like Nike said, just do it.

If you don't have much confidence or can't take a good selfie (or don't look very good lol) tinder wont be that great. Could be even more demoralizing if he doesn't get any matches. I think socializing would be better and give him more confidence.