Why dont girls like me?

[bumpk1nK]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

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[Digitalmocking]

There's some decent answers in this thread, and some awful ones.

It all comes down to confidence.  That trumps everything.  It trumps looks and money and cars and every other superficial thing here.  The kind of girl you're going to attract because of your wallet or car isn't the kind of girl you're going to want to stay with any amount of time, because the next guy with a bigger wallet or better car will cause her to wander.

Read beefcake's post, then read it again, then print it out and read it.

You have to have confidence in yourself and what you do, then having the confidence to talk to women is simple.

I'm fat, I've been fat all my life, but confidence has never been an issue for me, so women have never been an issue for me.  I believe in myself, when you do that, others believe in you as well and you're attractive as a mate.

[ShamrockHannah]

Maybe the problem is that you're trying too hard. Girls don't find it very attractive if a guy is "trying" to impress her, can come across as desperate.

I know it's a cliche but there is someone out there for everyone and good things come to those who wait.

[sellingaccount5]

Post a photo of yourself so we can help you change your look.

[Trifixion713]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

That's great, man! Just be yourself and have a good time on your date - and don't blow her phone-up with calls and texts in between now and the date lmao Just remember there are tons of women out there and if this doesn't work-out, move on to the next one until you find one you click with.

[brunoshady]

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[Scream]

Most girls agree that a good sense of humor is attractive. Humor can also relieve awkwardness. If you say something that doesn't go over well, follow it up with something funny and turn it into a joke.

[gentlemand]

Stop caring so much, start talking more. Be good, don't be 'nice'. Be firm regarding the things you don't like. Be positive about the things you do.

The more you focus on them, your own passions and the world surrounding you both, the more the self consciousness will fade away and the more the interaction will flow.

The person opposite you is not an unreachable goddess. They're simply another person who may be crapping themselves just as much as you might be. They eat, shit, worry and want to be loved and wanted like anyone else.

Don't be an asshole because you think it might get you places. I could never respect any woman who responded to that type of playground psychology and if anyone treats me mean to keep me keen they get told to fuck off.

There is no such thing as 'leagues'. How they look or their social status has little or no bearing on whether they might be interested in you. Same goes for you.

When I was as thin and pretty as a renaissance prince no one gave me a second look. These days I'm a tub of lard with a humongous beard. Since my, er, lifestyle change I haven't gone on a single date in recent years that didn't end up going places. Go figure.

The only thing that might have changed is that I've long overcome the pedestal thing and I'm interested in them as a complete human, not a trophy or delicate flower or the mindless gateway to a new level of existence affirmed by having sex with them.

I don't radiate any sense of desperation or neediness, in fact more often than not I'm looking for reasons not to take things any further because I'm not sure whether I can be arsed any more. I'm not indifferent or an asshole, but I know my own value and I'm not willing to compromise it. I've probably said no to more people than I've said yes to and nearly got beaten up a few times because of it.

I will treat everyone as I wish to be treated. If they decide I'm a prick then I'm confident in knowing who and what I am and that they're wrong or I'm reminding them of someone else.

Looks, money, exercise, that's just tinsel.

I'm sure it sometimes feels like an insurmountable barrier. It isn't. It's just a case of being true to yourself, continuing to grow and creating and embracing opportunities to meet as many women as possible. When it does happen for you, and it will, it'll feel like ancient history.

[Bad Uncle]

Post a photo of yourself so we can help you change your look.

Don't do this. You'll likely just be ridiculed which will make your confidence worse. Just work to improve that first and foremost and join a dating site and be nice to the women you talk to.

[Nikinger]

Don't join a dating site. Why:

• Often, a dating site has much many males than females
• Even a verified but ugly women gets more private messages then she's able to answer properly
• Danger of loosing money due to the boys who are doing ewhoring
• Sometimes even the operators are faking "verified" girl profiles in order to get you stay there ...
• ... until you get locked out off your account if you don't pay for "premium" features, just before your first "date"
• Finally: no girl really needs a dating site to find a nice guy

[Digitalmocking]

Don't join a dating site. Why:

• Often, a dating site has much many males than females
• Even a verified but ugly women gets more private messages then she's able to answer properly
• Danger of loosing money due to the boys who are doing ewhoring
• Sometimes even the operators are faking "verified" girl profiles in order to get you stay there ...
• ... until you get locked out off your account if you don't pay for "premium" features, just before your first "date"
• Finally: no girl really needs a dating site to find a nice guy

Met my wife on Yahoo Dating.

Had no problem with several dating sites.

[Pro_Crypto_Marty]

Thank you all for the great posts and ideas. I'm freaking out here because I have been quietly reading this thread trying to drill what I need to into my head and this morning I asked out the girl at Starbucks who sells me my tea every morning and she said yea and gave me here number. I'm truly grateful for all the help you guys have given me. I'lm goign to be calling her later tonight to arrange a date and I'll report back here after our first date.


You are all wonderful. Bless you all.

Bump.

Good job man! It's that easy sometimes.

Often what happens is you overthink certain failures and put too much energy into figuring them out. Your self-criticism becomes a self-fulfilling profecy and it overules and taints how you perceive people's reactions to you. You've probably caught more than one girl's eye over the years but just didn't recognize it when it happened.

Good luck on your date!

[SaktoWuN]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

[CoinCorps]

Get rich.

I am well off though. I did pretty good with btc and I have money, I drive a nice car. My style of cloths is not so great. Maybe I should hire a professional shopper to help get me styled.

Get yourself a mental evaluation. There is something wrong with you. You don't need to be a millionaire to get laid.

[Immortal Tech]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

Not if you drink too much, make a fool of youself then shit, piss and puke yourself. Be carefull with the booze. I prefer to stay lucid and on my game hehe.

[lazi]

I am 30 years old, and have never had a girlfriend, never even had sex. Now before all the laughing starts pleas know I have tried and tried but always come up empty handed when trying to get a girl to go out on a date with me.

Im educated, well off, good looking and nice. I just am at a loss for words when speaking to a beautiful girl and always fumble.

Anyone here have any advice for me on how to step my game up and start closing the deals.

BUY CLOAKS and get rich...

Open champagne in discothek and fuck all girls 

[ShamrockHannah]

OK so I will just mention three things that are important.


2. Confidence.  This is very important. 

this really needs to be said more. also alcohol is your friend.

Break out the Tequila!

[ellave]

Sory to hear that,you will find perfect woumen for you.

[CoinCorps]

Lies. All lies. You're probably quite ugly, or you smell like rotten cheese. In any case, you're probably going to die alone. Deal with it.

[ellave]

Lies. All lies. You're probably quite ugly, or you smell like rotten cheese. In any case, you're probably going to die alone. Deal with it.

GTFO Newbie