How many relationships have you home wrecked?

[codishmumu]

I don't really consider this homewrecking, but my old friend dumped his girlfriend, just because I said I was going to be around. We still talk and whatnot, but..that is so lame. He's in a "relationship" now, but it kind of sounds like I could have him whenever I please, which is lame. That's actually one of the main reasons why I didnt even meet up with him when he requested. He clearly had no reservations dumping a girl through a TEXT, and really didn't care about her feelings towards it just because I was gonna be around. It made me think: if another girl comes around that he likes more, is he gonna leave me too if we get in a relationship? Why should I care about his feelings if he didn't care for hers? What goes around comes right back around. He needs to have some self respect, and respect for others.. Don't dump someone, just because someone "better" is available to you...


Tell me your stories! I want long stories.

[codishmumu]

If you've got a story about when someone homewrecked your relationship, that's interesting to post too. PS: I'm not condoning home wrecking at all. I just want to talk about it.

[hedgy73]

I've never home wrecked anyones relationship. Been married 8 years and was with her for 3 years before marriage. Only ever dated single girls, was never interested in anyone already in a relationship. I understand it does happen but would hate it to happen to me so would never have done it to anyone else.

[zerorabbit23]

I've never had a relationship, so I've never wrecked any.

[gentlemand]

None and I would never, ever do that. I find the whole idea repulsive.

Funnily enough I've been talking to a lass via a dating site this week who after quite a bit of corresponding revealed that she was still married.

She told me it was a dead relationship, couldn't stand the idea of him touching her etc. I could imagine her rolling out the same lines about me to some weirdo a few years down the line too. NEXT.

On another occasion after a reasonably torrid night in the sack with someone she revealed the morning after that she still had a boyfriend. I was deeply unimpressed.

[bojan92]

 I was on one occasion but she was so slu**y. They are married now although she has been with a lot of boys while there were in a relationship. I never date girls with boyfriends. That was my first and only time, it is not a nice feeling when you consider that you will have someone someday and he or she will do this to you.

[codishmumu]

None and I would never, ever do that. I find the whole idea repulsive.

Funnily enough I've been talking to a lass via a dating site this week who after quite a bit of corresponding revealed that she was still married.

She told me it was a dead relationship, couldn't stand the idea of him touching her etc. I could imagine her rolling out the same lines about me to some weirdo a few years down the line too. NEXT.

On another occasion after a reasonably torrid night in the sack with someone she revealed the morning after that she still had a boyfriend. I was deeply unimpressed.

Sounds like some possible gold digging.

[OBAViJEST]

I was on one occasion but she was so slu**y. They are married now although she has been with a lot of boys while there were in a relationship. I never date girls with boyfriends. That was my first and only time, it is not a nice feeling when you consider that you will have someone someday and he or she will do this to you.

I feel the same way...and people seem to not even think about that possibility, rather than getting laid one night...it's disgusting and makes me feel like I'll never find someone loyal

[Sourgummies]

Encouraged a friends gf to be bisexual. She never came back to men.

[codishmumu]

I was on one occasion but she was so slu**y. They are married now although she has been with a lot of boys while there were in a relationship. I never date girls with boyfriends. That was my first and only time, it is not a nice feeling when you consider that you will have someone someday and he or she will do this to you.

I feel the same way...and people seem to not even think about that possibility, rather than getting laid one night...it's disgusting and makes me feel like I'll never find someone loyal

Sometimes it can be the other person's fault though. If you don't satisfy someone's every need and want, it makes them stray. Sometimes you really can't help that, but cheating is wrong. Bottom line.

[codishmumu]

You know, I wonder if anyone actually read my OP. I never touched the guy, or agreed to meet up with the guy, so it doesn't count as home wrecking...plus, I hate the term homewrecker....it is insulting to people who aren't scared to go after what they want...people should be more pissed at the person who was in the relationship, but that's just my opinion.

[gentlemand]

I hate the term homewrecker....it is insulting to people who aren't scared to go after what they want...people should be more pissed at the person who was in the relationship, but that's just my opinion.

Under those circumstances, unless you're kept in the dark about them being involved with someone else, people are going after what they want at the expense of another and potentially destroying a family's future.

If it's an open relationship then fine. But I know how I'd feel if my womanfriend was boning someone else behind my back so there's no way I'd allow myself to the bomb dropped into someone else's relationship.

[codishmumu]

I hate the term homewrecker....it is insulting to people who aren't scared to go after what they want...people should be more pissed at the person who was in the relationship, but that's just my opinion.

Under those circumstances, unless you're kept in the dark about them being involved with someone else, people are going after what they want at the expense of another and potentially destroying a family's future.

If it's an open relationship then fine. But I know how I'd feel if my womanfriend was boning someone else behind my back so there's no way I'd allow myself to the bomb dropped into someone else's relationship.

Yeah but protecting someone else's family isn't  your responsibility.......

It's the person that was in the family's responsibility. They're the one that cheated. You didn't. Sometimes the homewrecker doesn't even know if the person was in a relationship or not, so you really can't blame them.....blame the one that cheated. They should know better. I'm constantly called a homewrecker, just because  a guy in a relationship wants me. That's not my fault. I have never intentionally sabotaged a relationship. The guys seek ME out. I mind my own business, and don't even attempt to flirt back....

My OP is a PERFECT example of my character.

[gentlemand]

Yeah but protecting someone else's family isn't  your responsibility.......

But it is one's choice assuming there's full awareness.

I can either choose to participate in a total shit storm or walk away and find a situation with zero complication that hurts no one. For me at least that's a very easy one to make.  

If someone who is in a relationship comes on strong to me then that tells me everything I need to know about their strength of character and how they might treat me in the future.

I don't care how appalling or boring their current partner is, if they can't grow a pair and end it then that doesn't inspire confidence.

[illyiller]

TBH, it's not about any obligation to another person not to wreck their relationship. That's on them. If someone's stepping out on their partner, that relationship either has problems, or they need to accept that sexual monogamy is not for them. I couldn't possibly care less if a guy can't keep his girl interested. That has nothing to do with me.

Having said that, aside from the occasional piss drunk foray, I wouldn't knowingly hook up with someone who was involved. Because that ain't going nowhere.

[codishmumu]

Yeah but protecting someone else's family isn't  your responsibility.......

But it is one's choice assuming there's full awareness.

I can either choose to participate in a total shit storm or walk away and find a situation with zero complication that hurts no one. For me at least that's a very easy one to make.  

If someone who is in a relationship comes on strong to me then that tells me everything I need to know about their strength of character and how they might treat me in the future.

I don't care how appalling or boring their current partner is, if they can't grow a pair and end it then that doesn't inspire confidence.

Well, that's something you'll have to discuss with the person in the relationship that you're trying to get with.

[codishmumu]

TBH, it's not about any obligation to another person not to wreck their relationship. That's on them. If someone's stepping out on their partner, that relationship either has problems, or they need to accept that sexual monogamy is not for them. I couldn't possibly care less if a guy can't keep his girl interested. That has nothing to do with me.

Having said that, aside from the occasional piss drunk foray, I wouldn't knowingly hook up with someone who was involved. Because that ain't going nowhere.

That's not completely true. At least to me. Politely disagreeing.

[illyiller]

TBH, it's not about any obligation to another person not to wreck their relationship. That's on them. If someone's stepping out on their partner, that relationship either has problems, or they need to accept that sexual monogamy is not for them. I couldn't possibly care less if a guy can't keep his girl interested. That has nothing to do with me.

Having said that, aside from the occasional piss drunk foray, I wouldn't knowingly hook up with someone who was involved. Because that ain't going nowhere.

That's not completely true. At least to me. Politely disagreeing.

That's fine -- but what isn't true?

I just think people need to take responsibility for their [unhealthy] relationships. It's easy to blame other people, but the fact is, if someone is cheating, there are much deeper problems than "the homewrecker." Clinging to unhealthy relationships can cause real psychological distress when shit hits the fan later on. Better to nip it in the bud.

[codishmumu]

TBH, it's not about any obligation to another person not to wreck their relationship. That's on them. If someone's stepping out on their partner, that relationship either has problems, or they need to accept that sexual monogamy is not for them. I couldn't possibly care less if a guy can't keep his girl interested. That has nothing to do with me.

Having said that, aside from the occasional piss drunk foray, I wouldn't knowingly hook up with someone who was involved. Because that ain't going nowhere.

That's not completely true. At least to me. Politely disagreeing.

That's fine -- but what isn't true?

I just think people need to take responsibility for their [unhealthy] relationships. It's easy to blame other people, but the fact is, if someone is cheating, there are much deeper problems than "the homewrecker." Clinging to unhealthy relationships can cause real psychological distress when shit hits the fan later on. Better to nip it in the bud.

There's no doubt in my mind that you've fully articulated your response to the highest of your ability, and I totally respect and agree. The only thing I don't think is true here is constantly trying to get in someone's face, if you know they're not single. I think I might be slightly contradicting myself, so I'm gonna try to explain myself further. If you like someone, let them know. Just don't continuously harass them and get in their face about it.

[bojan92]

I was on one occasion but she was so slu**y. They are married now although she has been with a lot of boys while there were in a relationship. I never date girls with boyfriends. That was my first and only time, it is not a nice feeling when you consider that you will have someone someday and he or she will do this to you.

I feel the same way...and people seem to not even think about that possibility, rather than getting laid one night...it's disgusting and makes me feel like I'll never find someone loyal

Sometimes it can be the other person's fault though. If you don't satisfy someone's every need and want, it makes them stray. Sometimes you really can't help that, but cheating is wrong. Bottom line.

Yes you are right, you have to satisfy the person in order she or he to stay with you, but it is the lowest level to go with another person behind his back because you weren't satisfied. Brake up with him or her and do whatever you want, or what you need him when there is no one free to have s*x with