Are you even loved to begin with? I'm not even sure how to decide on that, so it's the strangest question to me.
My girlfriend and I literally were just having this long conversation about that before she got out of the bed asking each other if we show enough compassion in the relationship.
Mate, if you having this conversations with you girlfriend about your relationship, then I think it's time to find another one.
I don't the whole story, because I don't know the details, but when something goes wrong in one relationship and there isn't a way out about the problem, then the best thing is you should quit that.
Most of the people who are in the relationship, especially a long relationship and they don't feel loved enough it's because one of the partners is not prepare for that. So here is the question: How you will know that you are prepare to find your love of your live? - When you will start to love and respect yourself... that is the answer. I mean, how can you love someone if you are not prepare to love yourself?