What to do if you're crazy about a girl that has a boyfriend?

[BrightAnarchist]

I don't think the answer to the OP's questions will come from this thread. I think its something you gotta figure out for yourself. This is a very bad place to come to for advice about women lol.

lol true

So I've thought about the situation long and hard (no pun intended) I think the best advice is really just to move on, as much as that pisses me off and depresses me.

If she breaks up with him then I'll move in for the kill, but you can't wait around for people. She's great but she has a certain inertia about her when it comes to making life changes, so my gut is telling me that even if she realized that she liked me better, she may still end up marrying this shmo.

So, that's that for now. I'm still crazy about her, but I have too much dignity to waste on a girl that's already taken. I've seen friends waste years on specific girls with no results, and I deserve better than that crap.

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[Lethn]

It does suck but it is for the best, you really don't want to be put in the friendzone, if she has no interest in you she has no interest in you not much anyone can do to change that.

[BrightAnarchist]

It does suck but it is for the best, you really don't want to be put in the friendzone, if she has no interest in you she has no interest in you not much anyone can do to change that.

Well that's the thing, I think she does have some interest in me. If I was around a few months ago, I think there's a good chance she would be with me and not this other douche.

[Vbs]

I don't think the answer to the OP's questions will come from this thread. I think its something you gotta figure out for yourself. This is a very bad place to come to for advice about women lol.

lol true

So I've thought about the situation long and hard (no pun intended) I think the best advice is really just to move on, as much as that pisses me off and depresses me.

If she breaks up with him then I'll move in for the kill, but you can't wait around for people. She's great but she has a certain inertia about her when it comes to making life changes, so my gut is telling me that even if she realized that she liked me better, she may still end up marrying this shmo.

So, that's that for now. I'm still crazy about her, but I have too much dignity to waste on a girl that's already taken. I've seen friends waste years on specific girls with no results, and I deserve better than that crap.

You are already accepting defeat without giving it a try. If you try and fail, you learn something. Fail to try nets you nothing.

If she's already in an ok'ish relationship, she won't jump ship without first knowing if you are or not a better choice. You have to put up some cards on the table first.

Finally, and most importantly, focusing on any specific girl at the start of anything is just a big mistake. Diversify. Don't put all the eggs in the same basket. Focusing when there's nothing substantial yet will frustrate you alot in the long run, especially when the outcome may not be what you want. Meet other girls. After you have met 10 more, is this one really that important? Is she really that awesome then? Only you can answer that question.

[shep]

Best advice, find someone else.

If she's in a relationship that works for her she's not going to invest time building one with you.
If she does have feelings for you and is looking for more than friendship, you should be able to
tell simply by avoiding her for awhile. If you do run into her, be passive but friendly and don't
appear desperate.  Desperate guys are usually a huge turn off.

[SysRun]

It does suck but it is for the best, you really don't want to be put in the friendzone, if she has no interest in you she has no interest in you not much anyone can do to change that.

Well that's the thing, I think she does have some interest in me. If I was around a few months ago, I think there's a good chance she would be with me and not this other douche.

"other douche" implies that you are also a douche. Just let it go, man. Don't be that guy.

Just got caught up with your posts. Good for you.

[nathanghart]

It sucks, any advice?

Go back to your wife 

[b!z]

Accept it and fold. That's life (and that's poker).

Yes, it sucks, says the single man who's over 30. That's life.

[hardcore-fs]

Accept it and fold. That's life (and that's poker).

Yes, it sucks, says the single man who's over 30. That's life.

And all this crap is a copy of a British sit com... "Sorry"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sorry!_(TV_series)
Which is very funny.

[Monster Tent]

Find a girl you hate and buy her a house.

[BrightAnarchist]

So I sent her a funny email the other day, and she said "thanks I needed that, had a terrible day today".

Que pasa? My instinct gave me a moment of hope, and it was right on this: a quick FB check and I noticed her relationship status had just been changed to "single". Confirmed!

Although I don't wish her any "terrible days", inside I'm just screaming Wooooooooooooooohoooooooo!!

[vampire]

So I sent her a funny email the other day, and she said "thanks I needed that, had a terrible day today".

Que pasa? My instinct gave me a moment of hope, and it was right on this: a quick FB check and I noticed her relationship status had just been changed to "single". Confirmed!

Although I don't wish her any "terrible days", inside I'm just screaming Wooooooooooooooohoooooooo!!

Just don't get friend-zoned..

[Third Way]

So I sent her a funny email the other day, and she said "thanks I needed that, had a terrible day today".

Que pasa? My instinct gave me a moment of hope, and it was right on this: a quick FB check and I noticed her relationship status had just been changed to "single". Confirmed!

Although I don't wish her any "terrible days", inside I'm just screaming Wooooooooooooooohoooooooo!!

The hard thing about catching a girl on the rebound is making sure she doesn't go back to her old boyfriend.

To avoid this you need to make her accustomed to you and fast!

[cedivad]

Good luck man, i'm really happy of it.

Play your cards right, NEVER talk about her old boyfriend, and have a great time.

[molecular]

So I sent her a funny email the other day, and she said "thanks I needed that, had a terrible day today".

Que pasa? My instinct gave me a moment of hope, and it was right on this: a quick FB check and I noticed her relationship status had just been changed to "single". Confirmed!

Although I don't wish her any "terrible days", inside I'm just screaming Wooooooooooooooohoooooooo!!

The hard thing about catching a girl on the rebound is making sure she doesn't go back to her old boyfriend.

To avoid this you need to make her accustomed to you and fast!

this contradicts:

Just don't get friend-zoned..

I'm for befriending her. It's not that hard to go from friend to lover.