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how much RAM do you have, what are you running and what bitcoind version?
VPS #1 - 2GB, limited to the default 300MB that came with 0.12, no crashes since the update (March 1st)[1]
Edit: I had constant problems with this node before upgrading to 0.12.VPS #2 - 6GB, limited to 1500 MB has not reached the limit since the last reboot (March 24th)[2]
Home node - 16GB, limited to 1000 MB, barely runs long enough to fill the available memory. I think I left it running for 3 days once since the last update and it did not use more than 900MB.
All given values are for memory used for TX. I dont track overal memory imprint, but whenever I check htop on the VPS's there is memory left "free" (used for caching). In fact I have trouble getting the 6GB VPS to go over 3 GB used. All run 0.12 64 bit. They VPSs are Ubuntu variants, the home node runs Win7.
@knightdk could it be that you see higher memory use becasue you use test builds with additional logging?
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http://213.165.91.169/[2]
http://188.68.53.44/