[...] and in their eyes it will cost them more to implement a bitcoin payment system and to print the little box with a bitcoin option for every one of those flyers. Its easier to accept usd and that is the way it will stay for a long time to come. [...]
No, you're wrong. :-D. You are making an assumption on the cost of implementing a bitcoin payment system vs. the amount of additional donations that it would bring in. And when you assume you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me."
It costs virtually nothing to implement a bitcoin payment system. BitPay even doesn't charge 501c(3) nonprofits. And there is the potential for increased donations. Check out the list of projects/charities that accept bitcoins on the bitcoin wiki. Do you think that many charities would have accepted donations if the risk/benefit ratio was clearly not in favor of adoption?
Sure it might cost $0.0001 more per mailout to print a QR code. This is completely irrelevant as they print out full-page color glossy photos, entire calendars, sheets of promo address labels, all kinds of fancy shit to woo their potential donors. Ink for a QR code would be a tiny fraction of a percent of the total average cost of a mailer. It might take their IT guy a few hours to put a bitpay option in the donation page and set up an account with bitpay.
Companies tend to make risk/benefit analyses and yes, it is all about the numbers. I am looking at actual examples of other companies that have done this, and it is clear to me (based on their own analyses and action) that the benefits of accepting bitcoins (in many cases) outweigh the potential risks. But you are making an assumption (based on data you appear to have pulled out of your butt) about the "cost of implementing bitcoin" - what costs? And an implied belief that no one will actually donate bitcoins (contrary to the dozens/hundreds of organizations that currently accept bitcoin donations according to the wiki).
Personally, I've donated Bitcoins to at least 4 or 5 charities and I try to donate a little bit every time I find a worthwhile charity that accepts them.