iv read only you have to reset block chain which iv done really getting to me if I intstall an updated version will the wallet be in there ?
No, that doesn't even make sense. What you do locally to your blockchain, does not have an affect on the network. Your options are:
1) Do nothing; wait for the network to 'forget'/'drop' your transactions.
2) Attempt to accelerate it by using ViaBTC:
https://www.viabtc.com/tools/txaccelerator/3) CPFP / RBF (too late for the latter). I'm not sure about CPFP because you've already created a child with an inadequate fee.