Though i was aware of that theoretic solution - is that really possible with most wallets?
I saw some announcements recently from wallet providers, but i suspect not all wallets do even support this yet.
No, unfortunately many wallets do not give you the option to choose which nodes to use so you can't choose the blockchain that you want to use.
Doesn't connecting to a "prefered" node open new attack vectors, like sybil and MITM attacks?
Yes.
Because this is the development subforum:
Using the Hard Fork bit would fix this problem? (At least for 2 distinct chains)
Yes, although some software may need to upgrade to understand what to do if the hardfork bits are set.