Gambling and Relationships!

[streazight]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

I have a friend whose both parents gamble on a daily-basis. Fortunately for him, his aunt took care of him while growing up and by even paying for all the expenses. From what I heard, his parents are drowned in debt and about to lose their house if they do not pay the bank by next year. Luckily, my friend never bore any grudge from his parents, considering the circumstances that happened and he even offered to pay for the debt. What I learned is that, gambling can really destroy your life and affect everyone in your surroundings especially when it gets out of control.

That is so crazy. What a way to grow up knowing both your parents have been a gambling addict all along to the point of wrecking themselves.

The bad thing about such a thing is that there would be no one to even drag back the other partner if they are going astray. Gambling can be crazy if the impulse cannot be controlled and having 2 people in a relationship crazy about it can be crazier than anyone can imagine.

[South Park]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Play gambling in one place with family member will be very rare to see here in my place. We prefer to hide this habit from our relatives. But with best friends, we will do it if there are not enough people to play. We will share the money we won.

Exactly. In my place gambling is not accepted as something desirable in my place. Anyone involved in gambling is being talked about and is not always respected and if one of family members are found out to be gambling, that would be a big issue. Sometimes the person is being excommunicated in the family.

I suppose things vary from country to country, in my country if a person gambles no one cares, in fact many people gamble, no only in established casinos but in many places, you can go to many stores and you see a gambling machine, I think this is bad since I have seen little kids gambling on those machines and no one seems to care, not even their parents.

[fullhdpixel]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

I think if both couple are gamblers, that will be a horrible situation. No one of them will neutralize the situation but both will be into it. And if one loses another will try oll the more untill their last penny will be finished. I will not take a gambler partner if i will be asked and be given a choice to choose.

This is not a healthy relationship for me, because money is just a money, I will not let my family to get involved in this kind of addiction. I cannot say gambling is really bad at all but for me If you are addicted in gambling don't let your love ones to get involve because you know what is the effect of that, don't loose your family because of this.

Gambling is very bad if you get addicted to it. The gambler really does not care about relationships etc. they are just concerned about money and the pleasure they get form gambling.

I have seen some examples where gamblers started staying away from their families just because they did not want them to know about their gambling habits. Gambling has really destroyed many families and made many families suffer a lot.

[daringdiscovered]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Play gambling in one place with family member will be very rare to see here in my place. We prefer to hide this habit from our relatives. But with best friends, we will do it if there are not enough people to play. We will share the money we won.

Exactly. In my place gambling is not accepted as something desirable in my place. Anyone involved in gambling is being talked about and is not always respected and if one of family members are found out to be gambling, that would be a big issue. Sometimes the person is being excommunicated in the family.

I suppose things vary from country to country, in my country if a person gambles no one cares, in fact many people gamble, no only in established casinos but in many places, you can go to many stores and you see a gambling machine, I think this is bad since I have seen little kids gambling on those machines and no one seems to care, not even their parents.

I've never heard of machine that could be use in gambling, I've seen one, but you can't call it gambling since the money that you are going to bet is just a token, what I'm saying are those who are in the arcade lol. Maybe the reason why you could say that the parents of those kids that you were saying didn't ever care even if their children are playing gambling on those machines is because they didn't actually know that their children are doing such thing, well, there are parents who doesn't care about their children, but only few.

[diegz]

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Gambling is very bad if you get addicted to it. The gambler really does not care about relationships etc. they are just concerned about money and the pleasure they get form gambling.

I have seen some examples where gamblers started staying away from their families just because they did not want them to know about their gambling habits. Gambling has really destroyed many families and made many families suffer a lot.

I've seen people like that. They forgot their family, they never think about them if they are fine or if they are eating right on time. But when all their money is gone, they return home, then fight with their wives. It is becoming a daily routine to them.

They never think about their future, when they grow old, and how will their children react if the gambler asks money to them. Gambling addicts should think about it.

[gabmen]

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Gambling is very bad if you get addicted to it. The gambler really does not care about relationships etc. they are just concerned about money and the pleasure they get form gambling.

I have seen some examples where gamblers started staying away from their families just because they did not want them to know about their gambling habits. Gambling has really destroyed many families and made many families suffer a lot.

I've seen people like that. They forgot their family, they never think about them if they are fine or if they are eating right on time. But when all their money is gone, they return home, then fight with their wives. It is becoming a daily routine to them.

They never think about their future, when they grow old, and how will their children react if the gambler asks money to them. Gambling addicts should think about it.

They probably would realize things like that when it's already too late and they've lost what's really important for them. Sometimes ifnyou think about it, it's hard to understand why some addicted gamblers can stomach a miserable life for the sake of their vices

[puremage111]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Never had any gambling related stuff with my family

However, betting and gambling with friends is just so fun. Especially on Esport betting where we bet on the same Team, everyone were so excited when the team we are shouting is winning!

[Ziskinberg]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Never had any gambling related stuff with my family

However, betting and gambling with friends is just so fun. Especially on Esport betting where we bet on the same Team, everyone were so excited when the team we are shouting is winning!

Maybe I am just lucky because my wife has no interest in gambling, I really love to gamble and sometimes we cannot prevent to make mistakes when we spend more than the amount we budgeted, this might because a cause of bad relationship in the family but after a lot of mistakes I realize I should not be a slave in gambling, I understand my priorities and they are my family.

[richmcrich]

I think it's hassle if you are going to play gambling with someone. Sometimes it is uncomfortable especially when you are playing and thinking of him that was unfocused for me. And this seems destroyed my game and leading into losses. Sometimes it's better to be alone.

focus is required if one doesnt focus while gambling he wouldnt find out weather hes in profit or loss
he wouldnt be able to stop at the right time and might even miss your profits so always concentrate while
gambling

This is just not only with gambling but no matter whatever task you are doing, you need to stay focused in order to task in great way. As far as gambling is concerned, it is just like other games where though you are trying your luck but still need to stay focused in order to avoid any kind of blunder. Thinking about the massive losses and profits during the game etc. distracts you very badly.

[rickadone]

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Gambling is very bad if you get addicted to it. The gambler really does not care about relationships etc. they are just concerned about money and the pleasure they get form gambling.

I have seen some examples where gamblers started staying away from their families just because they did not want them to know about their gambling habits. Gambling has really destroyed many families and made many families suffer a lot.

I've seen people like that. They forgot their family, they never think about them if they are fine or if they are eating right on time. But when all their money is gone, they return home, then fight with their wives. It is becoming a daily routine to them.

They never think about their future, when they grow old, and how will their children react if the gambler asks money to them. Gambling addicts should think about it.

That is what usually happens to most gamblers eventually. They know something is wrong with them, they know people around them will try to stop them, and they know how people end up seeing them. In the long run, they just seclude themselves totally and then end up destroying their own lives in the process. Most people when it comes to gambling do not like attaching relationships, so I guess that may be the reason why.

[daringdiscovered]

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Gambling is very bad if you get addicted to it. The gambler really does not care about relationships etc. they are just concerned about money and the pleasure they get form gambling.

I have seen some examples where gamblers started staying away from their families just because they did not want them to know about their gambling habits. Gambling has really destroyed many families and made many families suffer a lot.

I've seen people like that. They forgot their family, they never think about them if they are fine or if they are eating right on time. But when all their money is gone, they return home, then fight with their wives. It is becoming a daily routine to them.

They never think about their future, when they grow old, and how will their children react if the gambler asks money to them. Gambling addicts should think about it.

That is what usually happens to most gamblers eventually. They know something is wrong with them, they know people around them will try to stop them, and they know how people end up seeing them. In the long run, they just seclude themselves totally and then end up destroying their own lives in the process. Most people when it comes to gambling do not like attaching relationships, so I guess that may be the reason why.

It is because they are lost in the world of gambling, they don't care about their family since they are too focused  about winning back their loses, what's important to them is their own benefits, their own satisfaction. Relationship will just come after gambling, even though they are losing their love ones, they don't even gives a shit, they are too numb to feel their family concerns about them on getting more addicted.

[the rise]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Never had any gambling related stuff with my family

However, betting and gambling with friends is just so fun. Especially on Esport betting where we bet on the same Team, everyone were so excited when the team we are shouting is winning!

Maybe I am just lucky because my wife has no interest in gambling, I really love to gamble and sometimes we cannot prevent to make mistakes when we spend more than the amount we budgeted, this might because a cause of bad relationship in the family but after a lot of mistakes I realize I should not be a slave in gambling, I understand my priorities and they are my family.

Sometimes it's very annoying if you want to gamble at the weekend but your wife wants more quality time, but so far my wife is very supportive of my hobby in gambling, she knows that I play gambling since before marriage and actually there is a big relationship where most of my profit from gambling is for a vacation with my wife.

[Mike Mayor]

I don't see how gambling can make a relationship better unless you count the time you spend bonding but it can be a place to meet people and make friends and begin relationships.

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Never had any gambling related stuff with my family

However, betting and gambling with friends is just so fun. Especially on Esport betting where we bet on the same Team, everyone were so excited when the team we are shouting is winning!

Maybe I am just lucky because my wife has no interest in gambling, I really love to gamble and sometimes we cannot prevent to make mistakes when we spend more than the amount we budgeted, this might because a cause of bad relationship in the family but after a lot of mistakes I realize I should not be a slave in gambling, I understand my priorities and they are my family.

Sometimes it's very annoying if you want to gamble at the weekend but your wife wants more quality time, but so far my wife is very supportive of my hobby in gambling, she knows that I play gambling since before marriage and actually there is a big relationship where most of my profit from gambling is for a vacation with my wife.

It is about priority. You must find time for both or take her with you. It's nice that you share your winnings with her just don't spend it all keep some Bitcoin for your future together.

[noormcs5]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Never had any gambling related stuff with my family

However, betting and gambling with friends is just so fun. Especially on Esport betting where we bet on the same Team, everyone were so excited when the team we are shouting is winning!

Maybe I am just lucky because my wife has no interest in gambling, I really love to gamble and sometimes we cannot prevent to make mistakes when we spend more than the amount we budgeted, this might because a cause of bad relationship in the family but after a lot of mistakes I realize I should not be a slave in gambling, I understand my priorities and they are my family.

Sometimes it's very annoying if you want to gamble at the weekend but your wife wants more quality time, but so far my wife is very supportive of my hobby in gambling, she knows that I play gambling since before marriage and actually there is a big relationship where most of my profit from gambling is for a vacation with my wife.

I feel happy to know about you, that your wife is supporting you in gambling, because usually i hear these stories that mostly wife feel disturbing with gamblers husbands. But in your story, it is really strong relationship with your gambling and your family, and i feel good about your supporting wife then enjoy in gambling and also enjoy in your vacation with your family.   

[naidray]

I think it's hassle if you are going to play gambling with someone. Sometimes it is uncomfortable especially when you are playing and thinking of him that was unfocused for me. And this seems destroyed my game and leading into losses. Sometimes it's better to be alone.

focus is required if one doesnt focus while gambling he wouldnt find out weather hes in profit or loss
he wouldnt be able to stop at the right time and might even miss your profits so always concentrate while
gambling

How will not you ever find out if you are in profit or loss in gambling ?
You do not need serious mathematics to do that or a special skill to know that. Once you get into the gambling game and you are sure of what you want to do or achieve before even starting, it would be not an easier for any gambler to make any decision to stop when it is time to stop. That is the reason many gamblers lose their relationships and hard earned money.

[JL421]

I think it's hassle if you are going to play gambling with someone. Sometimes it is uncomfortable especially when you are playing and thinking of him that was unfocused for me. And this seems destroyed my game and leading into losses. Sometimes it's better to be alone.

focus is required if one doesnt focus while gambling he wouldnt find out weather hes in profit or loss
he wouldnt be able to stop at the right time and might even miss your profits so always concentrate while
gambling

This is just not only with gambling but no matter whatever task you are doing, you need to stay focused in order to task in great way. As far as gambling is concerned, it is just like other games where though you are trying your luck but still need to stay focused in order to avoid any kind of blunder. Thinking about the massive losses and profits during the game etc. distracts you very badly.

thats right focus is important in most aspects of our life no matter how small or how least important the task is
if you dont have concentration is less likely that you will be able yo solve the task assigned to you

[Haywhy1]

I don't see the two have a happy ending, it always ends worse, we need to choose one out of the two

[BlockEye]

I don't see the two have a happy ending, it always ends worse, we need to choose one out of the two

I guess I'm luck enough that my partner as well as my family didn't mind me playing gambling, they even play along whenever I play dice or poker, it's just a matter of having time management and knowing once priority, i think there's no need to make gambling as big issue on relationships as long as your control on your betting still able to provide for what are needed for living.

[serjent05]

I don't see the two have a happy ending, it always ends worse, we need to choose one out of the two

I guess I'm luck enough that my partner as well as my family didn't mind me playing gambling, they even play along whenever I play dice or poker, it's just a matter of having time management and knowing once priority, i think there's no need to make gambling as big issue on relationships as long as your control on your betting still able to provide for what are needed for living.

I fully agree, it is about controlling oneself.  Why forget a hobby that a whole family can enjoy? I'm glad that you are able to take advantage of gambling activities and made it an activity that tightens your family bond.  It is clear, with your sample, that at the end, it is a person's action that will determine whether a thing will destroy or strengthen you and your bond with your family.

[Blue2012]

I don't see the two have a happy ending, it always ends worse, we need to choose one out of the two

You have a good point but there are some instances specially a partners who came from rich family their bonding is gambling with friends to entertain them but the fact that they will be addicted and lost controlling themselve that is not good from they family.

Bonding with gambling is not need to make it daily if you and your partbers know how to gamble, it is good if they do that occassionally like my cousin and his husband did they invite their friend they play offline gambling while drinking beer but it is once in a quarter or once every 6 months.