Gambling and Relationships!

[jhongzjhong]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Gambling and relationship should not be together because most of families Now is a broken home. We have to control ourselves in gambling. We have to face our family first before gambling. Gambling is not good in relationship.

That's mostly problem in gambling if all family involved in gambling, what i mean maybe the cause of arguments or cause of fights each other because of losing money to each gambler. But it depends upon if all members of the family having a work each then maybe that right to get involved in gambling.

But some of them they used gambling as a family bonding it is okay if they have a limit in gambling not to lose their all money on gambling.
Much better if they put limitation in spending money on gambling.

[Shinpako09]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

[lhadygreen]

It's indeed a bit strange. Sometimes an awkward moment.
But in our place that's not normal. We value good moral and right conduct.
We don't let children of today see us that way.

For me, much better to have a good relationship.

[bitllionaire]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

Gambling and relationship should not be together because most of families Now is a broken home. We have to control ourselves in gambling. We have to face our family first before gambling. Gambling is not good in relationship.

That's mostly problem in gambling if all family involved in gambling, what i mean maybe the cause of arguments or cause of fights each other because of losing money to each gambler. But it depends upon if all members of the family having a work each then maybe that right to get involved in gambling.

But some of them they used gambling as a family bonding it is okay if they have a limit in gambling not to lose their all money on gambling.
Much better if they put limitation in spending money on gambling.

We often see the elder brother or sister involve in gambling, but they never let their younger brothers or sister to start gambling. They know the fact about gambling and therefore they try to keep them away from gambling. In fact gambling is a game of luck and most probably we lose our money in gambling because we never remain as lucky for every time.

[Thanasis]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

Yeah you are right,if both of them are gamblers then they can't able to have a healthy life if both of them addicted to it or losing continiously,So gambling will affect the realtionships if they are exceed their limits otherwise it a great fun to spend time together.

[freedomgo]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

Yeah you are right,if both of them are gamblers then they can't able to have a healthy life if both of them addicted to it or losing continiously,So gambling will affect the realtionships if they are exceed their limits otherwise it a great fun to spend time together.

We can gambling but when time comes that gambling will dictate us that means we lose control and it's not good for us.
It will destroy relationship as you will lose time to things you love to do before and we know family time is very valuable but gambling will take that from you.

[Taki]

I have two examples. The first one is the family of my cousine, who's father is addicted gambler and who lost a lot of money in a life casino and gambling and in the end he lost his family as well. My cousin and her mom even do not know where he is now and they do not seem even somehow interested in that.
The next case is my own. My husband is a fan of online gambling (slots and poker), but we are ok with that both, cause of I always know where he is (infront of the computer) and I know that he is playing with small money which he gets from trading.

[MMA]

I have two examples. The first one is the family of my cousine, who's father is addicted gambler and who lost a lot of money in a life casino and gambling and in the end he lost his family as well. My cousin and her mom even do not know where he is now and they do not seem even somehow interested in that.
The next case is my own. My husband is a fan of online gambling (slots and poker), but we are ok with that both, cause of I always know where he is (infront of the computer) and I know that he is playing with small money which he gets from trading.

Yes it is  good that he is playing gambling in a control manner, but it is also a fact that once a person become addicted then he find it hard to control himself to quit or even stop playing gambling, May be very few people are playing gambling with discipline. I have seen so many people who play gambling without having any specially strategy, but continue playing gambling tell he lose everything he has.

[ronafurw]

I think there are only two different views that may result to a couple who both gamble. One is that they will have strong bond that may result to stronger relationship. Their hobby, which is gambling may be a good experience that they may enjoy and share together. On the other hand, this may also be the cause of their misunderstanding that may affect their relationship

I have a little bit different opinion in this regard. Even if the couple has a strong relationship between them but when one will lose money or something else to beloved one, there will be a feeling of distrusting coming from inner side which will be saying to him that he’s not your faithful friend. I think that feeling will make their bond weaker than it was before gambling. I am saying this because I have experienced this thing many times in my life.

I don't really like this idea of having a partner with same disease as me.

That sounds like a great thought. Having your partner into a profitable business must be a good idea but not into same frustrating area where you may catch your life time failures too.

I think gambling is not something that you can continue with your family members or the people who are close to you in your life because gambling always puts distances in you and your beloved ones as no one wants to see himself in loss while the one winning money from him who was once beloved to him and as you said that there would be an inner voice saying to him that he is not your faithful, it will truly happen and this could lead to the end of your relationship.

[Oilacris]

I think there are only two different views that may result to a couple who both gamble. One is that they will have strong bond that may result to stronger relationship. Their hobby, which is gambling may be a good experience that they may enjoy and share together. On the other hand, this may also be the cause of their misunderstanding that may affect their relationship

I have a little bit different opinion in this regard. Even if the couple has a strong relationship between them but when one will lose money or something else to beloved one, there will be a feeling of distrusting coming from inner side which will be saying to him that he’s not your faithful friend. I think that feeling will make their bond weaker than it was before gambling. I am saying this because I have experienced this thing many times in my life.

I don't really like this idea of having a partner with same disease as me.

That sounds like a great thought. Having your partner into a profitable business must be a good idea but not into same frustrating area where you may catch your life time failures too.

I think gambling is not something that you can continue with your family members or the people who are close to you in your life because gambling always puts distances in you and your beloved ones as no one wants to see himself in loss while the one winning money from him who was once beloved to him and as you said that there would be an inner voice saying to him that he is not your faithful, it will truly happen and this could lead to the end of your relationship.

I do think of this kind of scenario which isn't really right to gamble together with your loved ones,i don't even believe that someone could able to dare but I know there are cases which there are gamblers who do have this kind of behavior together with their loved ones.Its not really bad as long you are on your limits and nott abusing too much of your time and not abusing or losing too much of your funds.If you are doing this for the sake of entertainment then I don't see wrong with it.

[gamalzour]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

I think you have not read the statement of the forum because it is mentioned in the statement; gambling and relationship while you are saying that I have never been in that kind of relation. They are not asking you to tell about your life, they just simply want you to write few lines about this statement, that’s enough. I think if the couple plays gambling, it is much better than they play single because no matter where the game ends, the money will remain between both of them and they will enjoy also.

[pluMmet]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

Right I also argue that if gambling on do by the couple was not good, because the gambling will destructive to relationships and able to ruin everything, the in lived with a gambling will give you a negative effect and will make all the messy because when experienced loss it will make them do whatever ber the end of the lost her the matter on both

[xhienigat]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

Yeah you are right,if both of them are gamblers then they can't able to have a healthy life if both of them addicted to it or losing continiously,So gambling will affect the realtionships if they are exceed their limits otherwise it a great fun to spend time together.

We can gambling but when time comes that gambling will dictate us that means we lose control and it's not good for us.
It will destroy relationship as you will lose time to things you love to do before and we know family time is very valuable but gambling will take that from you.

It depends if both husband and wife enjoys gambling then they are in the same page gambling will be there bonding time and their children will probably gamblers too. Being this way may not be a good example for their children but believe me I have seen couple who both love gambling.

[emberbekas]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

Yeah you are right,if both of them are gamblers then they can't able to have a healthy life if both of them addicted to it or losing continiously,So gambling will affect the realtionships if they are exceed their limits otherwise it a great fun to spend time together.

We can gambling but when time comes that gambling will dictate us that means we lose control and it's not good for us.
It will destroy relationship as you will lose time to things you love to do before and we know family time is very valuable but gambling will take that from you.

It depends if both husband and wife enjoys gambling then they are in the same page gambling will be there bonding time and their children will probably gamblers too. Being this way may not be a good example for their children but believe me I have seen couple who both love gambling.

Would certainly be a bad example for children if both parents are gamblers. Especially if parents aren't able to hide their hobby from the view of the children. Children will certainly imitate what is done by their parents.

[Rinsend]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

That's also what I think if I dated or married fellow gamblers, that no one reminded to pause or rest if both were out of control. Just one gambler in the relationship, so if the gambler gambles too aggressively, there is one person who can calm the gambler in order to continue to gamble with complete self-control.

[sheenshane]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

That's also what I think if I dated or married fellow gamblers, that no one reminded to pause or rest if both were out of control. Just one gambler in the relationship, so if the gambler gambles too aggressively, there is one person who can calm the gambler in order to continue to gamble with complete self-control.

That's the hardest part to control if both of partners are the same addicted on gambling, that's why we need to have a mindset every gambler must have on that to control their limit in gambling. There some couples gambling is the way of their bonding like what happen to my uncle and anti every Sunday afternoon they go to in casino just to gamble and they have bring a money that ready to lose if unlucky at that time. So i think it depends upon on how to manage on this situations.

[mrcash02]

I haven't been on that kind of relationship but i've seen couples here in our place both played gambling and I can say it's not that good coz sometimes they lost both and no one will stop them or atleast instruct them that it is wrong as they are both a gamblers.

That's also what I think if I dated or married fellow gamblers, that no one reminded to pause or rest if both were out of control. Just one gambler in the relationship, so if the gambler gambles too aggressively, there is one person who can calm the gambler in order to continue to gamble with complete self-control.

Poor one who has to calm an aggressive gambler partner. 
If that is the case and the gambler addicted doesn't want to fix his addiction to become a normal person and stop making his/her partner suffer, the gambler's partner should left him/her. That is a worthless suffering that will only destroy the person, like the addicted partner is already destroyed.

[debuni]

About relationships... you just need to explain to your partner what is variance, short-term results and long-terms result.

Then when she/he sees the amount of money you are making over a long run, the problem is auto solved

[Baofeng]

About relationships... you just need to explain to your partner what is variance, short-term results and long-terms result.

Then when she/he sees the amount of money you are making over a long run, the problem is auto solved

Easy said that done. What if your partner didn't understand gambling? He/She doesn't even know how to bet. Well, we all know that in the long run, we will eventually lose so I don't think that its a viable explanation.

It's either he/she joins you in gambling, otherwise we need to adjust like quitting for the sake of your relationship. You have to decide what's important and prioritized things in life.

[Lionidas]

This is not strange but I think very probable. It might sound funny but I got a lot of female friends in casinos as well. You have to act confident and follow the basics though. Here you are taking advantage of the fact that both of you have some common interest. This gives you a topic to start the conversation.

unfortunately, I don't get any of female friends in the casino but I have many friends which are female and male on the gambling sites so I think I can make relationships on that site. I think I can take the advantage of the gambling site which is getting a new friend and enjoy the games although I cannot win in every round and I think it is fine for me.
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As far as I can remember any female players I have witnessed gambling are not good at it since they do not like to take risk in their bets.
They are in deceive in their choices and this is not attributes to have as a gambler in any situation you might be in.

In the heat of the moment any wrong decision you make can cost you winning a jackpot or losing it all.
So not being able to pull the trigger at the right moment is not a successful gambler.
In my eyes, it might be different for you but this is what I truly believe.