Gambling and Relationships!

[DPrillio]

I have no experience in this matter and I think gambling is not related to the relationship and it's only about the games. and if we play the games with our friends, we need to tell them that what we have to get in the end will not disturb our friendship and it's only to have some fun with them. I guess if we can explain to them that we are playing gambling is to get fun in the games and not chase the money, I think they will understand.

Gambling and relationship is very important, just thinking ourselves and not thinking about other people that we love might affect our relationship to them. Look, if you are paying too much attention in gambling, and only spending your little time that you have to your family, you might come to a point where you are completely into gambling, the feelings of your love ones is not important to you anymore because of your addiction.

It must be 80:20, 80% time for you family, and just 20% time for playing gambling.

Relationship is really very important as far as my knowledge is concerned but gambling is also important; this thing for the first time I am hearing from you my friend. No doubt if you would become so mean that you only start thinking about yourself and no one else, definitely your relationship with others will be disturbed whether you are very much close to them or not.

Well,  maybe all of us has different point of view regarding this matter but as for me gambling is not important if compared to relationship because I can leave life at ease without gambling but I cannot really live a life without my love ones. Compromising a relationship is usually the negative impact of a long run gambling, so beware while gambling to avoid such consequences.

[dynospytan]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

You have a good point but there are some instances specially a partners who came from rich family their bonding is gambling with friends to entertain them but the fact that they will be addicted and lost controlling themselves that is not good from they family. Bonding with gambling is not need to make it daily if you and your partner's know how to gamble, it is good if they do that occasionally like my cousin and his husband did they invite their friend they play offline gambling while drinking beer but it is once in a quarter or once every 6 months.

[emberbekas]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

[gabmen]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

Well i think there's something wrong there already if you're keeping your gambling a secret. If you're not really that hooked into gambling, i don't see anything wrong with even your relatives knowing your hobby. For me it's pretty much the same if you gamble with your close friends and relatives

[raven7886]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

You reflect the mind voice of most gamblers including myself. Even friends also fall into the category of relationships, we may go believing them for keeping up our secrets whereas other relations are known for creating unnecessary quarrels within our family members. This may sound wired for many other people here as their family system follows different cultures but this is how I am into a family system.

I never want my relations to know my gambling activities hence gambling with them is not at all my way of gambling. Even if any of them get chances to know about my gambling, I may go for making them believe like I am making big money from it or I play only for entertainment for free of cost.

[Pettuh4]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

Well i think there's something wrong there already if you're keeping your gambling a secret. If you're not really that hooked into gambling, i don't see anything wrong with even your relatives knowing your hobby. For me it's pretty much the same if you gamble with your close friends and relatives

It all comes to our lifestyles outside gambling and that is the reason why many feel shameful and don't want close associates to know because they might think they are wasting money on gambling whereas they keep telling their family and the p[eople around them that they do not have money

[Rinsend]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

It would not be a problem for you if all your friends do not want anyone else to know they're gambling. So also when you gamble with your brother, if they want it to be a secret, you all can keep a secret. The secrets that will be safe as long as nobody takes you gamble.

[Ziskinberg]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

It would not be a problem for you if all your friends do not want anyone else to know they're gambling. So also when you gamble with your brother, if they want it to be a secret, you all can keep a secret. The secrets that will be safe as long as nobody takes you gamble.

We can keep it a secret if we are enjoying gambling but once we are addicted and gambling is not giving us positive results anymore
that is the time where we need to be honest to our friends and family so we could seek some help to quit gambling for good.

[bearexin]

I have no experience in this matter and I think gambling is not related to the relationship and it's only about the games. and if we play the games with our friends, we need to tell them that what we have to get in the end will not disturb our friendship and it's only to have some fun with them. I guess if we can explain to them that we are playing gambling is to get fun in the games and not chase the money, I think they will understand.

Gambling and relationship is very important, just thinking ourselves and not thinking about other people that we love might affect our relationship to them. Look, if you are paying too much attention in gambling, and only spending your little time that you have to your family, you might come to a point where you are completely into gambling, the feelings of your love ones is not important to you anymore because of your addiction.

It must be 80:20, 80% time for you family, and just 20% time for playing gambling.

It hurts. Really we have so many stories of different gamblers who have lost their relationships. Not only with their girlfriends but with the families they were coming off. Their parents had cut out with them just because they were not listening to them and leaving that harmful game. So better is to leave this before your relations start leaving you and keeping you at arm’s distance.

Families are more important than girlfriends and if someone is left alone due to his gambling addiction, he should never put the blame on his close ones because he forced them to take such hard steps. No parents in this world want to kick out their children from their lives but sometimes, there is only one solution. Even if the decision is a bitter one, it has to be made for the safety of others.

Well if the kid needs to learn his lessons then parents needs to be strict and firm with their decisions if that's the only way they know their kid will realize his mistake then they should do it. And when things goes in the right place again parents will always willing to open their doors for their children.

But for giving lessons to your kids, you must be pure enough to withstand your statement with you practical experience. What if a father start talking to his child and asking him to stop gambling while the father himself is a gambler. In this case, do you think the father’s statement would have any effect on the kind? No, a big no. because what you haven’t proved practically don’t have any importance.

[meliodas]

Gambling at the same table with a close friend may not be a problem for me as long as my friend able to keep the secret regarding my habit. But if I have  to gamble with relatives, this for sure will bring another problem when I came home and I won't allow it to happen.

It would not be a problem for you if all your friends do not want anyone else to know they're gambling. So also when you gamble with your brother, if they want it to be a secret, you all can keep a secret. The secrets that will be safe as long as nobody takes you gamble.

We can keep it a secret if we are enjoying gambling but once we are addicted and gambling is not giving us positive results anymore
that is the time where we need to be honest to our friends and family so we could seek some help to quit gambling for good.

I don't know why people are hiding their bad habits to their love ones, there is no reason for that, because in the first place you committed such thing that you know that is bad for yourself and could affect the relationship you have with your family or even friends if you get addicted on gambling. It is not bad to play gambling if you could control yourself, in some point, but the majority would say that gambling is not really a thing that you should do.

[ahmad21]

This depends on the geographical location. In some developed countries of west, you can easily find couple, friends or best friends who gamble and support each other fully as the people there are open to such things. Whereas in some countries like that of Asia, it’s very rare to find such combination of couples or best friends as gambling is considered a bad habit and therefore the gamblers hide this from their families.

[doomloop]

This depends on the geographical location. In some developed countries of west, you can easily find couple, friends or best friends who gamble and support each other fully as the people there are open to such things. Whereas in some countries like that of Asia, it’s very rare to find such combination of couples or best friends as gambling is considered a bad habit and therefore the gamblers hide this from their families.

In my opinion, they really don’t give much importance to any relation that’s why they don’t really care about their friends even their family members that what they are doing with their lives. If we see in this aspect, I love the people of Asia because they really do care about their friends and family members and they also are well aware about what is happening in their lives and are also present to guide them.

[Devawnm367]

Ive never been in a relationship, where both are gamblers, my gf, lets me gamble she sometimes complains when I loose but never when I win???  She goes to casinos with me to just have a drink and have fun though!

[gowobonyok]

the other side of gambling is for relationship as well. because the world is vast, and we also need a broad insight as well. no exception gain insight from our relationship in the gambling world. because some of them, must have a good background. so it's good to start a business, or a new job.

[vina.lugtu]

I agree. It was a hard experience and it was painful to see someone who was addicted to gambling suffer. We all know that gamblers always have this attitude that they never give up and they will sell everything they have just to have another chance to gamble again. My uncle have this issue and he should be the riches guy in our family but all of it asset was gone because of gambling.

[ocid]

Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc...  Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.

What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.

You have a good point but there are some instances specially a partners who came from rich family their bonding is gambling with friends to entertain them but the fact that they will be addicted and lost controlling themselves that is not good from they family. Bonding with gambling is not need to make it daily if you and your partner's know how to gamble, it is good if they do that occasionally like my cousin and his husband did they invite their friend they play offline gambling while drinking beer but it is once in a quarter or once every 6 months.

I think this is something unique if someone can get a partner and have the same hobby that both have gambling habits. if both do the proper activities and do not harm many people, such as drunk while playing gambling and making trouble it is obviously very bad. but if both are able to play gambling in a professional manner, if both win the game then it will get a bigger double advantage.

[Blondy12]

Why is it strange for you? Friends, couples and even friends like to play together at casinos. I have seen on the movies people going together to Las Vegas casinos to play. It seems very normal for me, it's like people who go to amusement parks, clubs together to have fun.

Absolutely right mate. I don’t think there is something wrong for a couple to gamble together. Me and my wife do gamble together occassionally. It is like our date night, the only time we’ve got without our kids because usually when we out always be together with oir children like watching movies or going to a shopping malls or having out of town and since we do not do clubbings anymore, so our date night alone goes to a casino and played at the same table. I guess it is unsual but what is important is we had fun.

[denny27]

In the country where I live, it's not so visible or prominent that many peoples like that, who marry and then gamble together, or one family all do gambling together, well., I think this depends on the gambling popularity in each country certain I guess, I think it would be a ordinary thing for a country that's already familiar with gambling.

[logicgate]

I agree. It was a hard experience and it was painful to see someone who was addicted to gambling suffer. We all know that gamblers always have this attitude that they never give up and they will sell everything they have just to have another chance to gamble again. My uncle have this issue and he should be the riches guy in our family but all of it asset was gone because of gambling.

  I think this shouldn’t be a hard thing for one to see someone suffering just because of gambling because it was up to him that whether he wants a good life or a bad life at the end and I know everyone in gambling is clever enough and mature enough that he can easily understand what consequences gambling have at the end. I think that person deserves to suffer that’s why he is suffering.

[LEINADbtc]

No.
But just can't really imagine that. Like, do people go to the casino and stuff with their girlfriend?
That justs looks kinda messed up to me lmao. Yea, maybe for fun, but two partners being addicted? Damn.