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明朝再嫁的寡妇被当成过街老鼠 为何还有人再嫁?
December 08, 2017, 06:12:53 AM
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不得了,武松要回了,露水夫妻西门庆与潘金莲吓得够呛,连忙向见多识广的智多星王婆请教。王婆不慌不忙,出了个主意;;大官人,有什么难处之事!我前日已说过,幼嫁由亲,后嫁由身。古来叔嫂不通门户,如今武大已百日来到,大娘子请上几个和尚,把这灵牌子烧了。趁武二未到家,大官人一顶轿子娶了家去。等武二那厮回来,我自有话说。他敢怎的?自此你二人自在一生,岂不是妙!王婆又说,约定八月初六日,是武大百日,请僧烧灵。初八日晚,娶妇人家去。这是大明第一奇书《金瓶梅》中的情节,把个满脑子坏水的媒婆写得是活灵活现,不过列位注意到没有,王婆说,初八日晚,把潘金莲娶回去。(潘金莲和武松图片来源网络,感谢原作者,若有侵权,请联系删除)为何要是晚上娶回去呢?要把事快点办成,不是早上最好?免得夜长梦多?实际上,这是明朝的一个风俗。《中国风俗通史明朝卷》引用了明末莆田学者姚旅的《露书》里的两个例子,来说明明朝某些地方对再嫁妇女的歧视;;谓在人门前,即主其家不利,故一巷之内有过婚者,邻家各持棍石以待之。婚家亦知旧俗,皆以午夜背至旷地而后登车。说的是,邻居均以为再婚不吉,不准来接亲的车轿经过自己门前。为防不干净的东西进入自己家中,还拿着棍棒石头,一副凶神恶煞的样子守于家门。而娶再婚女的人家,为了免得麻烦,半夜背着新娘,跑到没人住的地方才让她坐车或上轿。另一个例子则是,过婚女家,亦不肯令从门出,甚至穴墙而径焉。意思是,寡妇的婆婆家甚至是亲娘家,也觉得再婚不吉利,因此,不能从正门出入,只能走后门侧门,甚至在墙上打个洞让她钻过去。列位,第一个例子,是不是想起了老鼠过街,人人喊打?第二个是不是想起了小狗钻洞?在明代,女性再嫁,就真如老鼠小狗一般,被人瞧不起。(柳如是剧照图片来源网络,感谢原作者,若有侵权,请联系删除)因此,在万茜、秦汉、冯绍峰主演的电影《柳如是》里,虽落风尘却高雅不俗的柳如是向钱谦益要求,想娶我过门,一定要大白天,走正门。柳如是要通过这种方式,向压抑女性的社会作斗争。那么,人们为何瞧不起再婚女?原因很多,比如传统,但也与明朝对守节的提倡脱不了关系。《明史列女传》是中国几十部正史里,记载人数最多的,占了整整三章。也就是说,明朝虽然不是中国历时最长的朝代,但其女性,却是最守节的;;巡方督学岁上其事。大者赐祠祀,次亦树坊表,乌头绰楔,照耀井闾,乃至僻壤下户之女,亦能以贞白自砥。其著于实录及郡邑志者,不下万余人,虽间有以文艺显,要之节烈为多。呜呼!何其盛也。(柳如是和钱谦益剧照图片来源网络,感谢原作者,若有侵权,请联系删除)从官宦人家的高等女子到偏远地区的下户姑娘,都能紧守贞洁,替朝廷争光,替家族长脸。一时之间,贞节牌坊遍地建,表彰诰命处处有;;然而我们知道,明朝灭亡之时,文坛首领钱谦益他老人家的气节,早就不知道被吹到哪里去了。柳如是拉他跳河殉国,他还嫌水冷呢;;可见,很多所谓的道德,都是来框别人,而非自己的。当然,搞笑的是,哪怕朝廷嚷得再大,各级官府再赞扬,也止不住明朝妇女们追求自己幸福的脚步。西门庆娶的孟玉楼、潘金莲、李瓶儿,都是寡妇。一边是对再嫁寡妇的鄙视,一边是妇女对冷冰冰牌坊的蔑视,也许,这样的世界,才是丰富多彩且精彩的。
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December 08, 2017, 10:00:02 AM
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追求自己的幸福没错,不被世俗的眼光所理解。
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