check your wallet through his laptop on blockchain.info
That would not be a smart thing to do.
Bitcoins transactions are instant unless you are worried about double spending, but I don't think it's likely in this case.
Transactions are not instant because it is possible to create a transaction that will never be added to the block chain. You really don't know that you have received the bitcoins until there is at least one confirmation.
my idea is that i meetup with the seller and i give him half/full amount then he brings his laptop and transfers to my bitcoin wallet via a text.doc on a thumbdrive then once it is sent, i give him any remaining amount.
You can't transfer bitcoins securely by transferring a file. He can give you a copy of a wallet, but then he still has access to the bitcoins in the wallet.