Finally got it to work.
I uninstalled armory and reinstalled in default locations.
Also renamed the bitcoin folder in appdata\roaming to bitcoin.old
then ran bitcoin core and let it update
then opened armory back up and it finally worked.
not really sure which of those fixed the issue but its up and running.
Thanks for all the tips
Firstly, apologies to crashtest22 et al...I didn't intend to threadjack this convo.
That being said, I also got my setup to work as well. I tried many things, and wouldn't know what fixed the issue had I not been able to compare what I did against your list. By combining our lists, it seems that the way to fix this (for me) was to upgrade to latest version of Armory, delete the database folder in bitcoin core, run bitcoin core and let it re-update (mine took the better part of a day), and then run Armory.
Everything's back to normal. Thanks to all who responded!