Fear Of Public Speaking

[JoshuaBlack1]

Hi everybody I would like to share some insights that really helped me get over or manage should I say my fear of public speaking. In my job speaking in public has become more and more important and to be quite frank, it scared the living daylights out of me.

There were a few techniques I learned and deployed that have been extremely beneficial.



1) Anxiety Management

"85% of people fear public speaking and the other 15% are lying"

Understanding that the anxious feeling you get is little more than your body telling you what your about to do is important. Try greeting your anxiety as soon as you start to notice it creeping in. No...actually greet your anxiety, sounds daft but it works.

"Hi anxiety, this is me feeling nervous, I'm about to do something of consequence"

Another technique I use for anxiety is re-framing the situation I see myself in as an opportunity and not a performance. There is no wrong way to do it. Look at it as a conversation: Start with questions
                                                                           Use conversational language
                                                                           Be in the present moment (reciting tong twisters before speaking in my fav)



2) Dare To Be Dull

"Aiming for perfection prevents perfection"

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best however in the case of public speaking putting yourself under too much pressure can lead to you thinking about what you are going to say next instead of what you are currently saying.

Your mind will get in your way, we are rational beings and its a skill developed over thousands of years! In the case of public speaking this takes you out of the moment. Try a game at home where you point at an object and call it a name other than what it is ie..pointing at a bottle of water and calling it a cat. Notice how you stockpile words or name things in themes (this is you getting in your own way and not being in the moment!)



3) Tell A Story

"Responding in a structured way increases processing fluency by 40%"

A good story has structure, a good story helps you understand what the author is thinking. If your aim is to help the people you are speaking to understand your thoughts, tell a story. Have structure. This technique helped me the most!

PROBLEM/OPPORTUNITY > SOLUTION > BENEFIT      or      WHAT > SO WHAT > NOW WHAT

These structure techniques help me formalise what I am about to say and in what order and it also helped people understand a hell of allot better!

This may not be for everyone but once I found out the about it really did have an impact of my confidence to speak in public. Having said that I still get that sick to your stomach feeling before going out but let me tell you that following these principles has really helped me manage the whole process. Id love to hear other peoples techniques below!

Thankyou

[CLAID]

Great thread very useful and I believe the only way make fear go away is to do more and more speeches in front of a crowd even I was very afraid but after doing few it was no problem

[daedalus8]

yes me in 85% of that also i'm introvert person, hmm thanks for all tips

[beatzcoin123]

Hi everybody I would like to share some insights that really helped me get over or manage should I say my fear of public speaking. In my job speaking in public has become more and more important and to be quite frank, it scared the living daylights out of me.

There were a few techniques I learned and deployed that have been extremely beneficial.



1) Anxiety Management

"85% of people fear public speaking and the other 15% are lying"

Understanding that the anxious feeling you get is little more than your body telling you what your about to do is important. Try greeting your anxiety as soon as you start to notice it creeping in. No...actually greet your anxiety, sounds daft but it works.

"Hi anxiety, this is me feeling nervous, I'm about to do something of consequence"

Another technique I use for anxiety is re-framing the situation I see myself in as an opportunity and not a performance. There is no wrong way to do it. Look at it as a conversation: Start with questions
                                                                           Use conversational language
                                                                           Be in the present moment (reciting tong twisters before speaking in my fav)



2) Dare To Be Dull

"Aiming for perfection prevents perfection"

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best however in the case of public speaking putting yourself under too much pressure can lead to you thinking about what you are going to say next instead of what you are currently saying.

Your mind will get in your way, we are rational beings and its a skill developed over thousands of years! In the case of public speaking this takes you out of the moment. Try a game at home where you point at an object and call it a name other than what it is ie..pointing at a bottle of water and calling it a cat. Notice how you stockpile words or name things in themes (this is you getting in your own way and not being in the moment!)



3) Tell A Story

"Responding in a structured way increases processing fluency by 40%"

A good story has structure, a good story helps you understand what the author is thinking. If your aim is to help the people you are speaking to understand your thoughts, tell a story. Have structure. This technique helped me the most!

PROBLEM/OPPORTUNITY > SOLUTION > BENEFIT      or      WHAT > SO WHAT > NOW WHAT

These structure techniques help me formalise what I am about to say and in what order and it also helped people understand a hell of allot better!

This may not be for everyone but once I found out the about it really did have an impact of my confidence to speak in public. Having said that I still get that sick to your stomach feeling before going out but let me tell you that following these principles has really helped me manage the whole process. Id love to hear other peoples techniques below!

Thankyou

nice ideal very thoughtful, another factor that really worked for me was practice over time, practice they say makes perfect, so a continous and frequent public speaking makes one a good public speaker.
your thoughts are very ins

[LimeFeline]

The only way to get rid of this fear is to do the thing you're afraid of until it becomes for you something natural. There is no other remedy I can think of.

[mockcooleat]

Try to practice in front of a mirror, it may sound rather odd but this helped me a lot overcoming my fear on public speaking. Whenever I practice I always try to look in front of the mirror from time to time so that I overcome the fear and tension whenever I see something or someone looking at me whenever I speak.

[Jcena55]

no

[JaySmithz]

I have the fear too..I feel blank when I am standing infront the crowd of people eventhough I am well prepared

[Lagunaloire2]

I don't fear when i come to the public speaking but i can't look straight in the other's eyes in the first meet, but if their is pretty than it's different. Why im being so weird like that ?

[kiamankudos]

Great tips . Most of these things said are much easier said than done. To me , i believe that as you go on to speak in public, self confidence comes by itself. Although you would make mistakes  from start

[Risoruni]

I still can't understand this problem. Most likely this problem is not even a problem unless you stutter. In that case you really have difficulties communicating in public but this is a completely different topic.

[HaniBaloch]

thanks dear, great tips to eradicate the fear to speak with public.....

[I Phone 100]

Thanks dude, very good article and this help me a lots.

[zazagantiaza]

feel insecure or high in shame

[Cryptojuni]

Public speaking call for courage and boldness with these one can not conquer this challenge. Manifold individual avoid speaking in the public due to the fear of errors and thereby ending being anti-social beings.

[Bittzy78]

The key to non-extemporaneous public speaking is to have confidence in your words.

It means practicing the entire speech you are going to give several times to a mirror and then to a small audience (friends and family)  several times before taking it live.

 

[MADUWAN]

Great information even I was afraid in the beginning but after practice it was ok

[ETHICKNINE]

Hi everybody I would like to share some insights that really helped me get over or manage should I say my fear of public speaking. In my job speaking in public has become more and more important and to be quite frank, it scared the living daylights out of me.

There were a few techniques I learned and deployed that have been extremely beneficial.



1) Anxiety Management

"85% of people fear public speaking and the other 15% are lying"

Understanding that the anxious feeling you get is little more than your body telling you what your about to do is important. Try greeting your anxiety as soon as you start to notice it creeping in. No...actually greet your anxiety, sounds daft but it works.

"Hi anxiety, this is me feeling nervous, I'm about to do something of consequence"

Another technique I use for anxiety is re-framing the situation I see myself in as an opportunity and not a performance. There is no wrong way to do it. Look at it as a conversation: Start with questions
                                                                           Use conversational language
                                                                           Be in the present moment (reciting tong twisters before speaking in my fav)



2) Dare To Be Dull

"Aiming for perfection prevents perfection"

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best however in the case of public speaking putting yourself under too much pressure can lead to you thinking about what you are going to say next instead of what you are currently saying.

Your mind will get in your way, we are rational beings and its a skill developed over thousands of years! In the case of public speaking this takes you out of the moment. Try a game at home where you point at an object and call it a name other than what it is ie..pointing at a bottle of water and calling it a cat. Notice how you stockpile words or name things in themes (this is you getting in your own way and not being in the moment!)



3) Tell A Story

"Responding in a structured way increases processing fluency by 40%"

A good story has structure, a good story helps you understand what the author is thinking. If your aim is to help the people you are speaking to understand your thoughts, tell a story. Have structure. This technique helped me the most!

PROBLEM/OPPORTUNITY > SOLUTION > BENEFIT      or      WHAT > SO WHAT > NOW WHAT

These structure techniques help me formalise what I am about to say and in what order and it also helped people understand a hell of allot better!

This may not be for everyone but once I found out the about it really did have an impact of my confidence to speak in public. Having said that I still get that sick to your stomach feeling before going out but let me tell you that following these principles has really helped me manage the whole process. Id love to hear other peoples techniques below!

Thankyou

good topic because I had Anxiety issues during a public speaking and I knew many had the same problem so you information are very helpful

[Squishy01]

I will keep this in mind, thank you~! To be honest, I grew up as an introvert. I really hated public speaking, even reciting in class makes me shiver and have an anxiety attack. Although now, I can say that I am a really changed person.

I dont mind answering questions in class any more and I am not that awkward around new people (I was before, horribly). I think it's part of maturing or growing up, you just have to face your fears. This may be quite weird but I think of it this way now: there are billions of people in the earth and they might have gone through this at least once, so why must I be afraid?

[gembirdprivate]

When I'm at school and there's a seminar (a time when you have to answer to the whole group), I fall through the ground.
I don't know what to do with it, nothing helps