Life with a Gambler - Solution!

[Gameroid]

I use to tell most people who want to join gambling that 'if you are not psychological stable or strong,  don't bother going into gambling. It's painful and frustrating to drag your love ones into the mess you create for yourself when gambling. Like OP has said, it's really a silent killer and you care about should not suffer because of your greed.

Yeah that's right, I have a friend and he has an unstable psychology, I mean he always focuses on something he wants even if he really likes what he wants then everything he has done before just a moment will he forgeten. Until now he gambled without time and even he forgot the needs of his family. This is the worst situation experienced by a gambler, and I am concerned about it.

In my opinion the solution for life with a gambler is that try to keep them quit gambling and tell them it will destroy your life and your family as well, and if they do not quit gambling let them alone. If they have any sense that friends are leaving him because of gambling he will quit gambling, if not never make any relationship with him.

And if he is not going to quit gambling then ?

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[Ansdaoust6]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

As many gambler I have seen in my life have been disrespected even by their families. They cannot fulfill their needs because they lose all their money in gambling and have nothing left for their families. I hate gamblers therefore I have no gambler friend. If you continue friendship with gamblers you will also start gambling one day. Better to leave their society.

[kurian]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

As many gambler I have seen in my life have been disrespected even by their families. They cannot fulfill their needs because they lose all their money in gambling and have nothing left for their families. I hate gamblers therefore I have no gambler friend. If you continue friendship with gamblers you will also start gambling one day. Better to leave their society.

I don't know why gambling is portrayed negatively everywhere. There are people who made big fortunes from casinos. It's all about patience, control and mainly the ability to control our greed. Someone who gamble his/her life savings is an idiot anyway. Always play with what we can afford to lose. We are paying to watch movies, play games and for other entertainment purposes. So, see it as an entertainment platform. Have the mindset to accept your losses.

[Finestream]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

As many gambler I have seen in my life have been disrespected even by their families. They cannot fulfill their needs because they lose all their money in gambling and have nothing left for their families. I hate gamblers therefore I have no gambler friend. If you continue friendship with gamblers you will also start gambling one day. Better to leave their society.

I don't know why gambling is portrayed negatively everywhere. There are people who made big fortunes from casinos. It's all about patience, control and mainly the ability to control our greed. Someone who gamble his/her life savings is an idiot anyway. Always play with what we can afford to lose. We are paying to watch movies, play games and for other entertainment purposes. So, see it as an entertainment platform. Have the mindset to accept your losses.

Right.Gambling may only become  positive and even profitable if a person involved knows how to handle enough his winnings and losses.Cause if not,better to get away from gambling now or else it will only cause damages in your own personal life in the latter part.

[nydiacaskey01]

I don't consider gambling can be addicting but yes there are people out there who are very much into gambling, not a single day will pass without gambling. If you consider your self as addicted to gambling, you need the help of your loved ones to support and help you not to gamble anymore. I have a relative who was banned in a casino as per request of her husband.

[Sukut]

Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.

What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.

The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.

In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.

It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.

I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.



To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!



My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

some of them are not problems at all. they happen.

let him have fun. it's not a huge deal

[DaughterOFbitcoin]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

Life with a gambler is very difficult. You will try your best to protect him from regular gambling but he will not quit gambling and this act will get you angry. I have no gambler friend because I know that these people will never listen you and will do what they want. So it is better not to make friendship with such people otherwise you will also lose your respect.

[St4yInTh3D4rk]

I don't consider gambling can be addicting but yes there are people out there who are very much into gambling, not a single day will pass without gambling. If you consider your self as addicted to gambling, you need the help of your loved ones to support and help you not to gamble anymore. I have a relative who was banned in a casino as per request of her husband.

Gambling is also one of the most addictive thing next to drink,smoke and porn addictions so we need to be careful while gambling.As you said if someone can't pass a day without gambling then he should realize that he is getting addicted and he need to get out now to live the remaining future better,still it is not going to be an easy thing.SO prevention is better than cure in gambling too.

[jhongzjhong]

I don't consider gambling can be addicting but yes there are people out there who are very much into gambling, not a single day will pass without gambling. If you consider your self as addicted to gambling, you need the help of your loved ones to support and help you not to gamble anymore. I have a relative who was banned in a casino as per request of her husband.

Gambling is also one of the most addictive thing next to drink,smoke and porn addictions so we need to be careful while gambling.As you said if someone can't pass a day without gambling then he should realize that he is getting addicted and he need to get out now to live the remaining future better,still it is not going to be an easy thing.SO prevention is better than cure in gambling too.

A person makes addicted on gambling because of chasing loss or chasing money in gambling that makes gamblers become addicted to it. If you know how to handle with it you can avoid for the possible addiction. I like the way that I bolded above on your post, yes, you can avoid and prevent is better than cure and make worst in gambling.
The solution to this has a self-limitation if you are going to a casino or gambling site.

[NeoMyHero]

My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

I don't have any problem at home and I don't think that gambling is a "hidden disease" because as long as we can control ourselves in the gambling, we are not potential to be an addicting person. but if I have this problem, maybe I will find somebody in my family and I will tell that person that I have a problem with gambling and I really need his/her help to solve this. I am sure that if we really want to get out from gambling, he/she will give some help and always give a suggestion to us so we can solve our problem with gambling.

Playing gambling in times will make you become dependent on it but also the people who tried gambling for two to three times in their lives only, they also would become addicted to it because gambling is more addiction than the addiction itself. When the person starts following gambling, no other substitute can be found of it for the people.

Yes, that's why there are many people afraid to gamble because once they start playing definitely they will start making money in the beginning, this makes them invest more money in gambling. So it is always good to stay away from the gambling once after losing in gambling.

In my country gambling is not allowed and regular gamblers find illegal ways to gamble. That’s why I want to keep avoiding company with such people, because they have no respect in society. They have negative response everywhere even in their homes. Friendship with a gambler means that ordinary people would think that you are also a gambler.

[el kaka22]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

No family - no family meltdowns - no problem! You're right.
There's really no way to live with a compulsive gambler. He'll be throwing tantrums all the time and going from one extreme to another. One day he'll win and he'll take you to dinner with flowers, movies whatever and when he loses he'll either get enraged or will visit the bar and come back looking like a beggar. Living with an addict of any kind is like a torture.

A real time torture. I remember far back in higher institution having a gambler as a roommate. He goes out in the night, comes back later drunk, tired and angry saying rubbish like he will never try to gamble in his life again, how he has lost all and so many other bull shit, only to go back in the next few days after getting hold of some money.

Good thing he eventually came around but it took a whole lot of work even on my own part to see that get done, most especially when he begged that he needed help. It is not an easy thing for them too even though it was their fault they let it get to that extent in the first place.

[darkangel11]

A real time torture. I remember far back in higher institution having a gambler as a roommate. He goes out in the night, comes back later drunk, tired and angry saying rubbish like he will never try to gamble in his life again, how he has lost all and so many other bull shit, only to go back in the next few days after getting hold of some money.

Good thing he eventually came around but it took a whole lot of work even on my own part to see that get done, most especially when he begged that he needed help. It is not an easy thing for them too even though it was their fault they let it get to that extent in the first place.

That's exactly the same as having a drunkard for a roommate. They are getting wasted, puking all over the place, waking up in the morning hungover and all sad and converted. They'll never drink again, not a drop! Then you casually ask them if they want a beer a couple days later, the answer is still the same - no, they're not drinking ever again. Then, a month later you find them sleeping wasted by the door. There's no moderation with those guys. It's either all or nothing. An addicted gambler will play like that. When he starts losing he'll take a loan, borrow from friends and bet his watch.

[coinfinger]

My partner was a gambling addict for many years, and I put up with it as much as I could for many years. We had talks about it. We had fights about it. Sometimes we went for weeks without speaking to each other. Many times after promising to quit, she'd quietly go back there and lose more money. The children would stay up until late into the night waiting for their mother to come home. Where's mommy? They'd wake up tired for school the next day. One night after she came home, something inside me snapped. I had enough!! I told her to get the F out of my house and to take all her crap with her. I told her that I'm going to divorce her and take the house and the kids. I told her that I have copies of all her bank statements showing how much money she's been squandering at casinos and that no judge in his right mind would give a gambling addict custody of the children, besides she was always broke. I was seeing red and I was fully prepared for the ugliest divorce and custody fight ever. Do you know what happened after that night? She quit gambling. It's been 6 months or so since that night, and I have to say thanks be to God for answering my prayers and bringing this whole ugly problem to an end. I've never been that angry with her before, and I guess that is what she needed to see before she quit. I showed her the brick wall that she was heading for and she slammed on the brakes.

Nice story, I really enjoyed. I have also a friend who is regular gambler and I also visited with him for many times, but I just look out and never gamble because I have no experience of gambling. I have never seen him winning big money and took it to home, he always lost and not only he but all other gambler also lost money. Only the owner of the place collects money.

This is the main problem in touch with gambler. After some time you will also start gambling because of the community. I think before you become addicted of gambling you should leave their company. Bad habit and bad people have bad impact on your life. I try to keep avoid of such people and such game. I don’t want to be dis respected in my surroundings.

Yeah we can say, gambling comes out to be integral part of your life just because you are having bad company. When this company just flew away from you or you get apart from them, may be things get better. And if this is of some little surety, believe me you are good to go for this. Make it your concern and learn out this gambling company because they are ruining their lives and yours too.

[feelivent]

Actually when gambler start to get addicted, the religion and the family environment able to recover them for fast rather than using hospital because gambler's mental is difficult to recover !
Luckily, I'm never got addicted too much although I'm ever experience huge winning on the single bet on last world cup match final !

The gambling is addiction to most of the people but if we realize our family situation and our future then we may don't get too much interested in the gambling the only people who hate life or just alone or have money which has no purpose for now will attract attention towards the gambling.Even though we didn't win any big rewards we will hope to win that on someday.

Life with a gambler is very hard and you will afraid of people in your community that they will also think that you are also a gambler. I have some friend in my past, but I leave them all because they are the worst people of the society. Friendship with them is not good at all. Now I have earned my respect back and now living a normal life without gamblers.

[wuvdoll]

Everything works when is done or used in some limits. That’s why when we buy some new electronic appliance, there is a note printed somewhere on that thing with precautionary measurements written on it. These precautionary measures are basically the limits of that thing which means that beside these circumstances, this thing will not work.

As long as you go beyond limit in most cases, you are always going to be bound to enter deep shit most of the time with gambling not being an exception.  A lot of people believe that gambling is going to give them the financial freedom they have always dreamt of and then totally forgot that this is just a game of luck and in most cases, luck is actually something you do not want to rely on all the time, all in the name of wanting to gamble.

As day goes by and they started noticing that they were wrong, it would only take them to get out of it only if they can overcome the impulses of not wanting to go ahead.

[noah tall]

we keep seeing topics coming about the negative side in gambling , it's a fact that there are really few percentage that are addicted to gambling but the majority are fun seekers and professionals

I don't see someone coming with topics like getting addicted to video games , or getting addicted to watching movies

I have seen many people who ruined their selves with different types of addictions , but never seen a person who was affected from gambling

the problem does exist , but it's really rare and I guess the majority know the risk and also know the reward

to be honest living in Syria I realized that gambling is the minimum risk that the human being can take

Yes only few people were seriously addicted to the gambling and then most of them can tackle it even if they were addicted to it with their daily life.
Gambling has lot of positivity too but in most of the world it was just portrayed as bad thing to do,like a sin and sometime even like illegal activities that is why many people afraid to be a gambler even if they wanted to be.

I do not agree with you. I have seen many people who ruined their lives due to gambling. Many people committed suicide due to debts in gambling. I have seen that richest people lost all their properties in gambling. I have seen that drugs addicted people ruined their lives but didn’t affect their families but I have seen that gambler addicted destroyed the lives of their families.

[kotajikikox]

actually i always take risk in gambling here in crypto and in real life but i'm not addict or whatever you post about gambling OP for me better to understand that we play for past time with so fun then for knowledge and experience although this is very risky another thing we can bet here in affordable for us so that's the solution i think also that you need to remember that if your here in crypto knowledge is the key to earn so always try different kinds of way to learn then use that as your weapon for your future here in crypto

Right mate i agree to your thoughts the most important things herein cryptocurrency besides from the knowledge as a weapon to earn money need also the self discipline to avoid addicting in the very risky gambling site, playing of gambling aren't a source of income as you said is for fun.

[Aleister Crowley]

actually i always take risk in gambling here in crypto and in real life but i'm not addict or whatever you post about gambling OP for me better to understand that we play for past time with so fun then for knowledge and experience although this is very risky another thing we can bet here in affordable for us so that's the solution i think also that you need to remember that if your here in crypto knowledge is the key to earn so always try different kinds of way to learn then use that as your weapon for your future here in crypto

Right mate i agree to your thoughts the most important things herein cryptocurrency besides from the knowledge as a weapon to earn money need also the self discipline to avoid addicting in the very risky gambling site, playing of gambling aren't a source of income as you said is for fun.

probably everyone will agree with this ,, because the risk of addiction is very frightening .. if you have been gambling, gambling. I am convinced that addicts can not get away from gambling before they go bankrupt ... this is an event that always happens to gambling addicts .. and in the future if we have been able to control the learning and running every game, my victory will come

[ocid]

actually i always take risk in gambling here in crypto and in real life but i'm not addict or whatever you post about gambling OP for me better to understand that we play for past time with so fun then for knowledge and experience although this is very risky another thing we can bet here in affordable for us so that's the solution i think also that you need to remember that if your here in crypto knowledge is the key to earn so always try different kinds of way to learn then use that as your weapon for your future here in crypto

Right mate i agree to your thoughts the most important things herein cryptocurrency besides from the knowledge as a weapon to earn money need also the self discipline to avoid addicting in the very risky gambling site, playing of gambling aren't a source of income as you said is for fun.

probably everyone will agree with this ,, because the risk of addiction is very frightening .. if you have been gambling, gambling. I am convinced that addicts can not get away from gambling before they go bankrupt ... this is an event that always happens to gambling addicts .. and in the future if we have been able to control the learning and running every game, my victory will come

some people will realize the risk of addiction in gambling when they lose a lot of money he has staked (bankrupt). they should look for other activities that can make money even if the income is small, it is intended to be able to return the capital that has been issued. they will realize that gambling is not the main source of income. but for acute addicts, it's hard to avoid gambling because they can apply gambling to have fun and earn money quickly.

[onrise]

There is no one solution to this. Gambling is an addiction, so the best course of action is to be supportive towards them and offer ways to re-engage with something else, or perhaps hold a discussion about possible therapy sessions?

As far as one can stay away from it is the best solution. Once you start gambling then ensure in life you play for fun and to make yourself entertain and not for just making money. Also always set the goal in a day max loss you can take and if it reaches you just leave the gambling for that day or month etc.