this has really not been a good site to recommend for getting the appropriate fee for a very long time.
Agreed. The fee it gives pretty much guarantees inclusion in the next block, but you can also get in to the next block with a much lower fee. I like to eyeball Johoe's site to get a feel for how the mempool is looking, and I also use this site for a good estimation of the required fee:
https://www.coinb.in/#feesEven if you don't really understand or know what inputs or outputs your transaction will have, you can just read the Sat/Byte suggestion at the bottom of the blue box and key that in to your wallet. That's usually enough to get you in to the next few blocks, but even if you adjust up a bit, you still end up with a must cheaper fee then recommended by bitcoinfees.earn.