Mental health awareness friends

[bitgirluk]

I lost a friend recently who took his own life. I had no idea how he was feeling to the run up of this and didn’t get to say goodbye. I feel guilty that I didn’t see the signs. I also suffer from depression and anxiety myself but have been in a good place and reshaped my life in the past couple of years.

I’d like to offer this thread in my friends memory to chat to anyone who is suffering from mental health issues and needs to vent or offload. I’m not a counsellor or professional but I am a caring person and will offer anyone my time to offer a reply.


Xxxxxx

[TECSHARE]

I am sorry to hear that. While I appreciate your sentiment in this thread, I would suggest you look closely within your shared group of friends and reach out to them as statistically speaking when some one ends their life others close to them often follow. IMO this is where you are most likely to make the biggest difference.

[darklus123]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you as well for bringing this one up, I've been also suffering for the same condition worst would be last year tho luckily right now I am on the process of recovering

I know that as person who struggle for this type of problem, the first thing we should do is to reach out but that is exactly the problem. While talking to a person who is also been struggling with this(she actually has a worse struggle than I do). The first thing that came up with my mind is that they are not sharing it because they can't share it or they are not willing to share it. The very first thing I did is to have an initiative to talk to her as I am feeling that there is something wrong as I have also experienced it during that time.

That friend of mine suddenly started crying, I can't even understand her reasons for having the struggle so basically I can't do something about it. She only keeps on telling me the emptiness she has been feeling and even her parents aren't aware of it.  I was quite happy tho because even if I can't give her solutions. she have shared it and at least let some of the pain goes away.

After that I constantly talk to her and also tell her that I've had the same struggle (tho, my reason is quite obvious it is because I can no longer live the life I wanted to because of my health issues).

To end this post, I just want to tell everyone to please have an initiative to talk to those persons who are important to you. Just let them feel that you are just here willing to listen to their problems. By doing that you might be able to save someone's life.

[okala]

So sorry about that but in all no body have the right to take his own life no matter the the level of your anxiety or depression, we all need to know that depression is developed when you lack the motivation to face life challenges that comes your way. But in all just know that everything fades away with time.

[BitBustah]

The truth is that a lot of mental illness comes from lack of money.  As long as the current economic system reigns supreme there will be a huge segment of the population stuck in real poverty.  Financial stress causes constant stress to your brain until you reach a breaking point.

[GreatArkansas]

Stay strong! You can go through that, just pray and start to move on even it's so difficult. We all have that kind of experience even not on death by someone but someone we use to loved and separated with them, no matter how difficult is that, we should accept that. I know how difficult is that because I already experienced that, we also lost one of our college friends before.

[bitgirluk]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you as well for bringing this one up, I've been also suffering for the same condition worst would be last year tho luckily right now I am on the process of recovering

I know that as person who struggle for this type of problem, the first thing we should do is to reach out but that is exactly the problem. While talking to a person who is also been struggling with this(she actually has a worse struggle than I do). The first thing that came up with my mind is that they are not sharing it because they can't share it or they are not willing to share it. The very first thing I did is to have an initiative to talk to her as I am feeling that there is something wrong as I have also experienced it during that time.

That friend of mine suddenly started crying, I can't even understand her reasons for having the struggle so basically I can't do something about it. She only keeps on telling me the emptiness she has been feeling and even her parents aren't aware of it.  I was quite happy tho because even if I can't give her solutions. she have shared it and at least let some of the pain goes away.

After that I constantly talk to her and also tell her that I've had the same struggle (tho, my reason is quite obvious it is because I can no longer live the life I wanted to because of my health issues).

To end this post, I just want to tell everyone to please have an initiative to talk to those persons who are important to you. Just let them feel that you are just here willing to listen to their problems. By doing that you might be able to save someone's life.

It’s is definitely a good idea if you are lucky enough to have a support network to talk to people closer to you, but also there’s options of Samaritans and the benefit of strangers online you can trust that it won’t be used against you in anyway and there’s no judgment . Indeed a problem shared is a problem halved .

You’re a decent person for taking the time to talk to your friend and reassure her of having at least one supportive person. It can make all of the difference.

[bitgirluk]

So sorry about that but in all no body have the right to take his own life no matter the the level of your anxiety or depression, we all need to know that depression is developed when you lack the motivation to face life challenges that comes your way. But in all just know that everything fades away with time.

I know that some people view suicide in different ways and you have the right absolutely to your opinion and it often leaves people behind really quite angry. You put the reasons for anxiety and depression and the solution to it so simply, but in all honesty it’s really not simple at all. Regardless of the level of motivation to the individual , that doesn’t always solve life’s challenges. And problems don’t always just fade away like that. From a personal perspective I can say each individual is different but the common trait that people with mental illness share is suffering and it’s a very tough journey for people to overcome it.

This thread might be completely useless , but if it serves any positivity at all then I think I’ve done my friends memory justice . And that makes me happy. Just a simple conversation can be someone’s lifeline.

[bitgirluk]

Stay strong! You can go through that, just pray and start to move on even it's so difficult. We all have that kind of experience even not on death by someone but someone we use to loved and separated with them, no matter how difficult is that, we should accept that. I know how difficult is that because I already experienced that, we also lost one of our college friends before.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m doing ok , and I fully accept what has happened. I’m very eager to turn this negative into a positive by being more aware of mental illness .

[bitgirluk]

The truth is that a lot of mental illness comes from lack of money.  As long as the current economic system reigns supreme there will be a huge segment of the population stuck in real poverty.  Financial stress causes constant stress to your brain until you reach a breaking point.

I hear that ! I can tell you before now I’ve almost reached melting point with financial strain before . And my friend actually did take his life because of financial strain and was too embarrassed to tell anyone. It’s why I thought of this forum. It’s definitely true socio economics play a huge role in the lack of mental stability in people’s lives. I’m not saying money directly makes people happy there are plenty of rich people who are miserable, but money definitely does alleviate a lot of stress and provides security.

I don’t have that completely yet, but I can’t wait to reach the day when I don’t have to worry about money.

[darklus123]

The truth is that a lot of mental illness comes from lack of money.  As long as the current economic system reigns supreme there will be a huge segment of the population stuck in real poverty.  Financial stress causes constant stress to your brain until you reach a breaking point.

I strongly disagree with you, Meanwhile the highest suicidal rate in Asia is Japan considering the fact that they are one of the richest country in Asia therefore the idea alone is already invalid. On the other hand Philippines only have less than 4% knowing also the fact that this is one of the countries who has a lot of poor people.

The real problem here is the lack of two A's

Appreciation and Acceptance = Appreciate what you have, Accept what you no longer / don't have

It’s is definitely a good idea if you are lucky enough to have a support network to talk to people closer to you, but also there’s options of Samaritans and the benefit of strangers online you can trust that it won’t be used against you in anyway and there’s no judgment . Indeed a problem shared is a problem halved .

You’re a decent person for taking the time to talk to your friend and reassure her of having at least one supportive person. It can make all of the difference.

There are indeed people who were taking advantage of the struggling person. I did it because I have too and since I am the only one who noticed it plus I know how it feels then I just feel the responsibility to take action

[bhabygrim]

Sorry about your lost , it is really hard to believe that they could do it suicide isn't the answer to their problem.
It is so sad they we couldn't help them even if were there for them everytime ,
There are some people who are so good in hiding their real emotion ,
They might be laughing outside but in the inside they are deeply wounded and struggling to continue on living.

[Malsetid]

I am sorry to hear that. While I appreciate your sentiment in this thread, I would suggest you look closely within your shared group of friends and reach out to them as statistically speaking when some one ends their life others close to them often follow. IMO this is where you are most likely to make the biggest difference.

Yeah. Look after each other, esecially if you know already how it feels to be depressed. I know quite a few and talked to people undergoing such hardships and what i learned is that they'd rather keep things to themselves than open up to others, which makes it difficult to spot who needs help. I think awareness should also be spread that if you're suffering from depression and you know it, talk to soneone. I'm pretty sure that a lot of people are willing to listen.

[otrkid1970]

So sorry about that but in all no body have the right to take his own life no matter the the level of your anxiety or depression, we all need to know that depression is developed when you lack the motivation to face life challenges that comes your way. But in all just know that everything fades away with time.

You have ZERO clue as to what the hell you are talking about. Not motivated for lifes challenges??  Depression doesnt Fade away it gets a little better or worse it NEVER fades away.

[turtletime]

I'm suicidal and the sole reason is because of lack of money.  I can't afford to have somewhere to live and afford food.  I'm under constant stress because of this and want to kill myself.

[Chikitita2004]

Wow! That must be painful for you and I can relate with the guilt you're feeling. Sometimes we only see the value of the person when they are already gone and then we feel regret that we didn't do the right thing when they were still around. Sometimes we are too busy with our own lives than we can hardly notice the changes in our loved ones behaviors but with the story you shared, it is an eye opener and made me think of my loved ones at this moment. Sorry for your loss.

[jaanwr]

I lost a friend recently who took his own life. I had no idea how he was feeling to the run up of this and didn’t get to say goodbye. I feel guilty that I didn’t see the signs. I also suffer from depression and anxiety myself but have been in a good place and reshaped my life in the past couple of years.

I’d like to offer this thread in my friends memory to chat to anyone who is suffering from mental health issues and needs to vent or offload. I’m not a counsellor or professional but I am a caring person and will offer anyone my time to offer a reply.


Xxxxxx

I love your empathy and anything I can do to help your cause, just PM me. I'll make the time.

[Albert Smith]

The truth is that a lot of mental illness comes from lack of money. 

Its for sure a contributing factor. If you dont have good solid finances you dont feel settled in life.  I have always found therapist or counselling helpful at all times.  You also need to consider being physically fit and eat a decent diet + no alcohol/drugs.  Its a challenge.

[Albert Smith]

I'm suicidal and the sole reason is because of lack of money.  I can't afford to have somewhere to live and afford food.  I'm under constant stress because of this and want to kill myself.

If you are young you are time rich, anything under 40 and you have time to work things out.  Even over 40 you can get your health and wealth together.  Go see someone and sart to work on a daily routine which will condition your body/mind for the better.

[yeosaga]

I'm suicidal and the sole reason is because of lack of money.  I can't afford to have somewhere to live and afford food.  I'm under constant stress because of this and want to kill myself.

As someone who has been in this situation, I can say that the best thing you can do is find strength in yourself. If you can't, then turn to someone that cares to help guide you. You can PM me any time to chat about things if you would like, and that goes for anyone reading this message.