Time Wasting at Funerals: Why?

[Mpamaegbu]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

[NotoriousHodler]

 I agree with your opinion!

RESPECT

[Ciscopro2000]

Maybe it is a tradition passed down for generations.  I normally see people standing far back when they lower the casket and put dirt onto it. 

[otrkid1970]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

Where i come from (Massachusetts U.S.A.) they no longer shovel the dirt onto the casket or watch it being lowered. I think because reality sets in that your loved one is no longer with you. They say the prayers and place flowers on the casket then leave.

[Harkorede]

I respect your opinion but from my perspective there is more to it than just a waste of time, what else could they have spent such time doing Making money ? Eating and Having Sex ? Or what ? , of course it does not matter how long you spend there or how many people are there to pour sand on the casket it wouldn't bring back the dead. But I think being there and every activity done is just to help people find closure and move on, just the same as those who chooses to go drop flowers even years after the passage of their loved ones.

[Mpamaegbu]

Oh, thanks for attempting to send me merit.

Where i come from (Massachusetts U.S.A.) they no longer shovel the dirt onto the casket or watch it being lowered. I think because reality sets in that your loved one is no longer with you. They say the prayers and place flowers on the casket then leave.

Oh? Do they then not lower the casket at all? You mean they don't graves any more? I don't understand what you're trying to say.

[davis196]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

Dude,this is pretty weird topic.
Funerals are just a ritual and I think that rituals are important for us as a society,because it's a way to show us that we are a community and we live together.Life is short and we have to help each other and move on,when shit happens.

[CryptoBry]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

This is part of the grieving process so that soon the person can easily get over the whole thing because he/she experienced it first hand. The ceremonies and also rituals are just part and parcel of this process depending on one;s faith and preferences. I don't see it as a waste of time. This is also giving honor to that someone who has left...though we are doing things on this differently depending on culture and beliefs. I do respect your view on this as a waste of time but maybe that might not be for others. And as there are many sands in the seashore, we do have our different takes on this topic. Smile.

[Daniel91]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

In my opinion through funerals we show our respect toward deceased people.
Usually the death of a family member is a very difficult emotional loss for family and relatives.
Family need a certain funeral ceremony and mourning so that they can face the loss of loved ones.
You will understand when you are older.

[Jating]

The simply answer for that is tradition. As far as I know it's more of a Roman Catholic thingy. So if you are brought like this then obviously you can't do anything what the family says.

But we are already in the brink of what? 21th century? Some old tradition faded out, for me it's doesn't make any difference though, I just pray for the deceased person whether a relative or not. Because sooner or later we will all die and be forgotten as well.

[Johnzky]

totally agreed on this,though I respect that tradition still I find it weird why people(family members and friends)of the dead person doing such thing
Why not just cry fo you losses and then bring to the grave and that’s it,no ceremony’s and stuffs that dead people won’t acknowledge.
And also I find it Funny  that when the person is still alive they don’t show the love but when the said died,they cry a lot,things that I find stupid to do since you have many chance to show when they are still alive lol

[traderethereum]

Every religion will have different perception about funerals, and they will give the last honour to that person who died and the family.
Maybe that will not make us feel comfortable to follow the ceremony, and we have an option to not join in that ceremony if we don't like.
I don't think that it's wasting time to go to that funerals since we have a different reason.
Besides that, I don't think every people who go to the funerals will after the food and drinks.

[BitBustah]

Also one of the saddest thing about the whole situation is when they try to sell an expensive casket to the family and make it sound like they are getting a good deal but in reality they are getting ripped off.

[Mpamaegbu]

Also one of the saddest thing about the whole situation is when they try to sell an expensive casket to the family and make it sound like they are getting a good deal but in reality they are getting ripped off.

The church goers believe in buying caskets (they feed the termites and worms with it). This isn't so with the Moslem burials. They just wrap the corpse in a plain cloth and lowered it into the grave without a casket. This cuts off unnecessary expenses.

[kotajikikox]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

Well yes I agree that sermon and preaching is wasting time.human who died never know what happened on earth anymore.what the use of preaching and sermon for a died person.
But a wakes of an person for how many days for me is not wasting time.because this is the only few day that you can see your love ones who died.mourners also is normal in every families who love ones pass away.

[HobbitMud]

I agree, it's really stupid

[nickenburg]

I dont agree because I had a close family member die last week and we went to the funeral ofcourse, and for me it wasnt about food or drinks, but thinking about the good times with that person and griefing, hearing stories about that person.

I can understand if ur not really close to the person and you are just invited, and you go because it is the right thing to do, but you can atleast show some support to the people who where close to the person or family!

[smyslov]

This is a tradition and although it looks nonsense we should respect this, some families have their own tradition that they passed to those they have left, and they go down from generation to generation, we should respect that, some traditions are the things that define their family, so we should let them be.

[aplistir]

If you go to a funeral of someone you do not care, it seems just a waste of time.

But if you go to a funeral of a loved one, the rituals can make it easier to say goodbye and help in the mourning process.

Do not judge.

And what is time Wasting? Two wasted minutes? Wow your time is precious. Funerals take many hours anyway.

[ACheair]

If you go to a funeral of someone you do not care, it seems just a waste of time.

But if you go to a funeral of a loved one, the rituals can make it easier to say goodbye and help in the mourning process.

Do not judge.

And what is time Wasting? Two wasted minutes? Wow your time is precious. Funerals take many hours anyway.

I cannot agree more to be honest. It's not a waste of time unless you are defining it as a waste of time. I'm never present at funerals of people which I didn't know well. That's it. You decide whether a funeral is worth attending or not.