Time Wasting at Funerals: Why?

[Mpamaegbu]

I dont agree because I had a close family member die last week and we went to the funeral ofcourse, and for me it wasnt about food or drinks, but thinking about the good times with that person and griefing, hearing stories about that person.

Of course, not everyone who is at a funeral is there for the food and drinks, especially the bereaved family. But we can't truly say this of gatecrashers and distant attendees. I really don't give a damn about the reasons people attend funerals, whether for food or to pay their last respects. All I am saying is that the time spent at funerals on sermonizing is unnecessarily long and time wasting.

[omonuyak]

I don't understand the concept of mourners/bereaved family members being made to shovel sand into a grave before it is covered once a deceased is lowered into it.

What the heck is that?

Some say it is a reminder that man is from dust and will ever return to dust. Don't we all know that. Do we really need that kind of reminder? I guess not.

People already know all that, except kids and funerals aren't meant for kids. But then, man has always looked for ways to glamourise even the ugliest of opportunities at funerals.

Also, I am of the opinion that sermons and preachings at funerals are time wasting. Yes! It's unnecessary time wasting because no amount of preaching during funerals has ever converted anyone. People are just after the food and drinks. Nothing more!

What do you guys think?

This are culture that has been layed down by our ancestors and though it is not necessary, but been a reminder, it is good we should keep doing them. This brings repentant to our soul. Reminding us that one day people will gather to mourn our own death too. It is good that we should know that everything we do on this earth, we learn it here on earth and since this do not harm anyone I think it is good.

[playboy654]

Different religion has different kind of beliefs ad everyone will fall into this category only the way of funeral might change.I don't think its wasting time,it might be considered as respecting their souls.

[Mpamaegbu]

This are culture that has been layed down by our ancestors and though it is not necessary, but been a reminder, it is good we should keep doing them. This brings repentant to our soul. Reminding us that one day people will gather to mourn our own death too. It is good that we should know that everything we do on this earth, we learn it here on earth and since this do not harm anyone I think it is good.

This so culture we always attribute to dead and long gone ancestors are obnoxious and should be jettisoned. I don't know why we worship these cavemen as ancestors, especially in Africa. Remember that these same ancestors longed to see our days and the phenomenal technologies. They should be the ones envying us and not the other way round.

[jjbanks994]

I agree. I definitely see the appeal of these individuals sending their goodbyes but they are also super expensive imo

[MFahad]

I agree. I definitely see the appeal of these individuals sending their goodbyes but they are also super expensive imo

I think we should respect it because last time we see our love-ones and it is not time wasting to say good bye him, and the main reason behind it, we come in funerals because we share the pain with our family members who have a lot of love for him and now he has left us forever.

[lh-crypto.biz]

Funerals are a way to pay homage to the deceased.

[tsaroz]

You have your whole life for rushing up. At least take a rest and calm yourself down when a person close to you dies and remember how much more time you save, your are still going to die on your death day.

[ZDPGI]

Its not a waste of time especially if its the one you know or your love ones funeral. Gives you closure and all. What I dont like in funerals are the speeches like they talk about the nice things the guy/gal have done, like they really know the person. Im not saying that it should be the bad things that needs to be said but it needs to be neutral. I actually hate funerals.

[BADecker]

Family reunion.     

[Johnzky]

Family reunion.     

Exactly mate,actually most of the time funeral turns as family reunion because almost the whole family members also extended family goes to the mourn special in the last night before settling under 7ft I know this is not part of tradition but maybe this kind of occasion gives the opportunity to the family members to take a OFF from work or what they are doing in life and go tighter to see each other again.and this may happen again when someone died in future lol 😂

[Caluci]

in this way, people pay tribute to the deceased person, I think it is important

[ClockworkTrader]

I told my parents that, they called me a stupid person.

[hoverdrone]

We pay respect to the deceased person, it is important for everyone

[Peyrili]

people really want to complicate your life

[omegasoldier]

People say goodbye to a person, it's normal in the 21st century

[Mpamaegbu]

We pay respect to the deceased person, it is important for everyone

People say goodbye to a person, it's normal in the 21st century

Saying goodbye to a person is normal but what does it mean saying goodbye to a corpse? It's utter trash, IMO. The only sensible goodbye one can say is to take good care of someone when they are sick or in lack, not when they're dead. Dead people don't have feelings. I think people just want to shoe off during funerals (especially in Africa) of how affluent and wealthy they are. That's just it, not as if they truly care.

[KiloFoxtrot]

We pay respect to the deceased person, it is important for everyone

People say goodbye to a person, it's normal in the 21st century

Saying goodbye to a person is normal but what does it mean saying goodbye to a corpse? It's utter trash, IMO. The only sensible goodbye one can say is to take good care of someone when they are sick or in lack, not when they're dead. Dead people don't have feelings. I think people just want to shoe off during funerals (especially in Africa) of how affluent and wealthy they are. That's just it, not as if they truly care.

A corpse is indeed just that, I agree.

But a person who once lived has a soul, which we can neither confirm nor deny the fact until we ourselves had gone through that death or near-death experience for ourselves.

Nonetheless, caring for a loved one even before they're born (while inside a mother's womb), knowing them well while growing up (as a sibling, extended family member or friend), including having personal and/or business relationships (throughout the person's life experiences), or maybe while taking care of them when they're sick are all the possible circumstances that a person may experience with another while they're still living in this world.

Respect though is another story altogether, for when you leave this world, you leave it alone.  But for those you left behind, they are the ones who mourn and pray for their dearly departed loved ones instead.

[Mttewndew]

I don’t think a funeral is needed at all. Personally, I want that after the death of my physical body and after my departure from the material world, so that my relatives do not engage in this nonsense. I approximately know what to expect after death and how it all happens in reality, therefore I can say that it’s better not to bury a person, but to burn it.
Moreover, I see no reason to be sad! Why we must say goodbye to a person with tears and negative emotions, who is better off from this? It seems to me that on the contrary, we should be happy for a person, that now he is not burdened with a physical material body, and only the best is waiting for him. For example, a funeral may be as follows (at 2:46) : https://youtu.be/V1bFr2SWP1I?t=161

[Mpamaegbu]

A corpse is indeed just that, I agree.

But a person who once lived has a soul...

That's where my point succinctly lies — granted that the soul returns to the maker or perishes in hell according to the Bible, then why do we labour to spend a lot during burials? It makes no sense to me. It's just that the bereaved only want to make a point that they could afford to bury their corpse well. Nothing else. Again, I m sure the prayers rendered on a corpse at funeral is needless because it doesn't change the destination of the corpse. The Bible tells us that once a man dies, judgment follows him immediately. His fate is decided even before he's buried.