Electrum 4.0.0 is malware. You have lost your coins.
The real Electrum, which you should only ever download from
https://electrum.org/#download and no other site, is at version 3.3.8. You should also always verify your download before installing it by following one of the following guides:
https://bitcoinelectrum.com/how-to-verify-your-electrum-download/https://bitzuma.com/posts/how-to-verify-an-electrum-download-on-windows/https://bitzuma.com/posts/how-to-verify-an-electrum-download-on-mac/The version you have downloaded from a fake site immediately transfers all your coins out to the attackers' address (bc1qcygs9dl4pqw6atc4yqudrzd76p3r9cp6xp2kny). As bitcoin is irreversible, I'm afraid you cannot recover your coins.
strange that it's electrum themselves wanted me to upgrade "old version" which i did'nt touch 11 month before, so it was seemed legit.
It wasn't Electrum that gave you the message to update. Your Electrum client randomly selected a server which is owned by the attackers, and it pushed a notification to your Electrum directing you to a malicious download link. Just like you should never follow links to downloads from emails, you should never do so from other software.
no one can help me, right?
Unfortunately not. You just have to chalk it up as an expensive lesson.