A problem that can’t be dissolved: mission impossible

[Broly46]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

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[xhomerx10]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

  It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts.  Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone.  Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions.  It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer.  In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer.  It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

[Vispilio]

Hard to clarify the issue under all this censorship (which can pass as the overarching theme for this thread in itself: the modern plague of political correctness ),

but it sounds like a spousal support / post divorce situation. Solution is to hide and migrate your assets as much as possible from feminist jurisdictions clearly persecuting men in court,

and ideally to get married only under the laws of more fair and just legal systems.

[Broly46]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

  It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts.  Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone.  Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions.  It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer.  In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer.  It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

[Broly46]

Hard to clarify the issue under all this censorship (which can pass as the overarching theme for this thread in itself: the modern plague of political correctness ),

but it sounds like a spousal support / post divorce situation. Solution is to hide and migrate your assets as much as possible from feminist jurisdictions clearly persecuting men in court,

and ideally to get married only under the laws of more fair and just legal systems.

Ah hah, I knew many people will derail it quickly, so I want to be clear here, no OBLIGATION no commitment just unconditionally paying it. Hope it’s clear.

[terrong]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

  It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts.  Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone.  Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions.  It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer.  In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer.  It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me it is not a problem, so try to change your perspective, for me parents are luck, the more I spoil them the happier I am with my life.
If you feel it is hard to bear it yourself then try talking to your other siblings to bear it together but if you are just alone then talk to your parents about your situation without covering anything up, I'm sure he will understand.
So it's not an unsolvable problem, the way to solve it is to start talking to him

[DabsPoorVersion]

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me, if they demand more, then talk to them. Tell them that's only what you can give to them.

Or if you can give more and you are really willing, then why not. They are your parents, they are the one who raise you, it is your responsibility to be the one helping them. If you don't have your own family yet then at least let your parents enjoy how you treat them with your salary. It is just a money, you can always earn it, but the memories with them is something that you cannot return once they are gone.

[uneng]

Just explain your parent you can't give him more money than you already do or tell him you think it's an unfair situation and how you are feeling about it during these 9 years you support him.
You might conciliate your relationship through a sincere talk with each other. It doesn't look a mission impossible. I think there is solution for everything, except for the death.

[Broly46]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

  It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts.  Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone.  Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions.  It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer.  In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer.  It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me it is not a problem, so try to change your perspective, for me parents are luck, the more I spoil them the happier I am with my life.
If you feel it is hard to bear it yourself then try talking to your other siblings to bear it together but if you are just alone then talk to your parents about your situation without covering anything up, I'm sure he will understand.
So it's not an unsolvable problem, the way to solve it is to start talking to him

You might be true that’s not impossible mission, but look what I had lurk out from the replies above, the obligatory allowance, it establish my topic where there is truly a mission impossible in this thread, please proceed to discuss.

[xhomerx10]

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.


And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

  It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts.  Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone.  Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions.  It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer.  In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer.  It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

 We are wearing the same shoes, brother.  I can only sympathize but we can't choose our family.

[Broly46]

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 We are wearing the same shoes, brother.  I can only sympathize but we can't choose our family.

I’m kinda optional, it’s a no brainier to set oneself into one unfavourable condition like this mission impossible, but it still bugged me real bad.

[Genemind]

Same thing happened to me about a few years ago before I decided to move out and live on my own. I also provide support to my family out of my own will with the same reason I want them to have food, shelter and even pay their bills. As time goes by they keep on demanding more and they even stopped making their own money since I provide almost everything.

I decided to move out and start investing more for my self, and decided to let them do their own thing. I still support them from time to time as a sense of responsibility of being young and being able to earn. But not as much as I did before.

[Salauddin1994]

Nothing is impossible if you can solve this problem if you want it helps people to go later and become new you can start anew and make your life journey beautiful it's a good time to make money investing in bitcoin can make your future much brighter. This will calm your mind a lot and you will find a way to earn money we humans cannot live without water as it is impossible to live without air with increasing pollution it is everyone trying to drink pure water or at least not harm him in any way the same situation problems it will depend on our earnings.

[Lorence.xD]

Hard to clarify the issue under all this censorship (which can pass as the overarching theme for this thread in itself: the modern plague of political correctness ),

but it sounds like a spousal support / post divorce situation. Solution is to hide and migrate your assets as much as possible from feminist jurisdictions clearly persecuting men in court,

and ideally to get married only under the laws of more fair and just legal systems.

What is more ideal is to have a partner that will have the same financial mentality. It is better to have a partner to get through the problem with someones help. It is not wrong to have partners in this day and age. Independence can cause loneliness.

[Broly46]

Thing are getting worse since 2008, don’t tell you can’t feel it, stop living in denial seriously for f sake, pretending nothing happens is so disgusting that people should make change.

[Broly46]

I’m not being self entitled but actually in a giving position.

When I try to turn the position around. Say my parent gotta give me allowance and I being in their position of being self entitlement, it quickly turn salty. I think anybody can see the point?

You give them money it’s all fine, when asked them give you money it’s not fine anymore, just change a position thing has change dramatically, not really asking for less but more allowance even change position would be kinda suck.

Kudo to the guy who put themselves into this unfavor condition, never ever put yourself into this fire, it would burn you alive. It’s maddening, mission impossible to be turning the position around, from giving side to be given side. Don’t get me? Then it’s kinda self entitlement to the point of totally delusional clouding the whole point of unconditional.

[Broly46]

Same thing happened to me about a few years ago before I decided to move out and live on my own. I also provide support to my family out of my own will with the same reason I want them to have food, shelter and even pay their bills. As time goes by they keep on demanding more and they even stopped making their own money since I provide almost everything.

I decided to move out and start investing more for my self, and decided to let them do their own thing. I still support them from time to time as a sense of responsibility of being young and being able to earn. But not as much as I did before.

Can you tell them to give you allowance instead??

[CODE200]

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me, if they demand more, then talk to them. Tell them that's only what you can give to them.

Or if you can give more and you are really willing, then why not. They are your parents, they are the one who raise you, it is your responsibility to be the one helping them. If you don't have your own family yet then at least let your parents enjoy how you treat them with your salary. It is just a money, you can always earn it, but the memories with them is something that you cannot return once they are gone.

As much as possible, give an amount or support to them without depriving yourself. If it is okay, kindly ask for the reason from doing so and if it is something tolerable, don't hesitate and give it to them. There'll be no laws binding your support towards your parent but it is your responsibility as their child. Whether it is money or anything that you give, try to just appreciate yourself from doing so because it is your way of gratitude for what have they done to you in your life. I'm not sure if my analogy is correct but I think you are  trying to make or mind your life as an adult and you want to focus on the future. I'd say never forget where you came from and who were there at your lowest, more likely that's your parents, not to be insensitive to those who were abused by some bad people.

[beerlover]

My family lived with these type of problems for all of my life, my dad made the most money in our family and surroundings, he was a manager at a very high level company and he had made a lot of money for a very long period of time (30+ years) and whenever anyone had a problem financially, they came to him for help, even sometimes making it so dire that if my dad didn't helped them, they would go to jail and those were only two options available, so my dad had to help them out. End of the day we are talking about something as serious as not having enough for our own family when others took so much from him constantly.

He went into debt and to this day he never really got out of debt because of this, obviously not the same debt but because he retired he finishes one debt but creates another meanwhile so he is in an endless debt loop, all because he was the highest earner, he should have been the richest but he is living a pretty boring retired life because he was constantly asked to help.

[CarnagexD]

One thing that I learned while growing up is to not always help everyone get what they want. Help them know how to get it. That being said, I'm not really sure as to how dire your situation OP but if you're not going to get out of that situation, you'll be stuck helping other people without returns on your end. And we all know in economy that services offered without profits is bad for business. Doesn't matter if they are family or friend. Don't be so altruistic. Or might as well invite them to invest in cryptos to earn cash if they really need it immediately.