I realize the miner fee isn't as low as it was back in 2017, but is the miner fee really 100s of euros these days, or am I doing something wrong?
Miner fee is quite high these days, but it's not fixed. It depends on what you want to send, and
not as total. It depends on how you got those coins.
I mean that if your money comes from faucets, for example, and it's a lot of small amounts, the fee will be indeed high. (As an analogy, if you want to send a couple tons of pennies, you'll have to pay for the truck rental too. It doesn't matter if the total is a few hundreds of $.)
I don't know if that's the case, it's you who has to tell us. If it's the case, you may read this thread
[Jan 2021] Fees are low, use this opportunity to Consolidate your small inputs! and with some patience find a good moment to use the small fees in in your advantage.
Also the fee the wallet wants to pay is an estimation. And I don't know how good that estimation is. More advanced users set custom fee.
But I didn't use Bitcoin core as main wallet for quite a while, so others may give you better ideas.