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Consolidate your small inputs when fees are low. With 239 inputs and 21791 bytes, there's (currently) no other way than paying a high fee if you want to send this transaction.
Fees are actually quite low today. Most days fees have been much higher than 10 sat/byte lately.
or am I fine putting custom amount like 0.00041 BTC ($24.81 USD) 0.00000096 BTC/byte
That average fee is for the average transaction size. Your transaction is much larger. You can set 0.00000096 BTC/byte, which is the same as 96 sat/byte, and would be 9.6 times more than you currently need.
There's one alternative though: enable the Coins tab in Electrum, select (hold CTRL to select more than one) only the highest inputs, and right-click "Spend from" to create a transaction from only those inputs. By reducing the number of inputs you'll reduce the required fee too.
Obfuscating addresses like this
does not really hide them.