Now, as I understand it, "wallet" is BIP 39 seed, I can use bip32.org but I need to get to bip32 extended key first, any ideas how I might do that or solve that problem any other way?
You question is well answered already make sure you run
Iancoleman offline for safety reasons. Click on the site, turn your device data network off, safe the the page, make sure your data network is off, open another tab, and click on the saved page. This will run the tool offline on your device. Aternatively, downloaded the
html file and run it offline on your device.
Also, so far you have your seed phrase, you can also just make use of your seed phrase directly, or follow the illustration above. The derivation path will be BIP44 by default, you will need to change it to BIP32 exactly as pooya87 illustrated. Then you will need to scroll down to see the address you are looking for.