My child refuses to where his seatbelt

[2girls1facemask]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

[meser#]

Apparently this is common thing for children. I had the same issue with my nephews.They were bored with the car trip all the time and wanted to explore the around. First of all, we overcame this problem for a while with things like toys. They were back to the old days when they started to get bored with it. We tried something different; every time they took off the seat belt, we were going very slow.When they realized that they were getting more bored this way, they stopped this behaviour.

[boyptc]

Let him watch those results of not wearing seat belts. That's for sure going to teach him and as well give him fear of what could be the implication if he's not going to wear his seat belt.

Educate your kid that it's required by the government and as well as for his safety.

[meser#]

Let him watch those results of not wearing seat belts. That's for sure going to teach him and as well give him fear of what could be the implication if he's not going to wear his seat belt.

Educate your kid that it's required by the government and as well as for his safety.

Wouldn't that be a bit of traumatic education way for a 10 years old? It would be better to approach children of that age in a more gentle way.

[boyptc]

Let him watch those results of not wearing seat belts. That's for sure going to teach him and as well give him fear of what could be the implication if he's not going to wear his seat belt.

Educate your kid that it's required by the government and as well as for his safety.

Wouldn't that be a bit of traumatic education way for a 10 years old? It would be better to approach children of that age in a more gentle way.

Not really.

You gotta scare him somehow for him to obey. You have to let him visualize what can possibly happen if he's not wearing a seat belt.

But I agree to you that there's other gentle way but based on the situation of OP, you've got be hard on that type of kid.

[meser#]

Let him watch those results of not wearing seat belts. That's for sure going to teach him and as well give him fear of what could be the implication if he's not going to wear his seat belt.

Educate your kid that it's required by the government and as well as for his safety.

Wouldn't that be a bit of traumatic education way for a 10 years old? It would be better to approach children of that age in a more gentle way.

Not really.

You gotta scare him somehow for him to obey. You have to let him visualize what can possibly happen if he's not wearing a seat belt.

But I agree to you that there's other gentle way but based on the situation of OP, you've got be hard on that type of kid.

Children are not creatures that must obey. Raising by fear brings many problems one after another. When you solve problems by scaring them, you will have to scare them more in bigger problems.  In this way you are creating a fear kingdom. And this kingdom will cause many problem. For example, when he needs help or makes a mistake and will try to solve it on his own because he is scared from you and your actions and your reactions. In this case, he can get himself into very bad situations.

But instead of scaring them you should beat them with your intelligent power. You must show them you are the boss with your brilliant solution. In my country there is a saying "The son is the secret of the father". You should act the way you want your child to solve problems. Because they will imitate you.

[ethereumhunter]

I think that is the most common problem that many people has with their passenger. I have that experience with my uncle, nephew, friends but I always tell them that I do not want to get a fine from the police if we are caught. I say to them that the money can be used to buy food or use it for having fun rather than to just pay the fine. I am telling that to my nephew if they do not want to wear a seat belt. Well, at least, that did works for me

[Chato1977]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

yeah my Youngest Brother use to be like that stubborn when our father is driving and he keeps on taking off the seatbelt but you know what my father did?

he contacted an officer in the next stop from our house and make an arrangement that make a pretending violation when we cross as my brother keeps on doing that, and the officer will pretend to apprehend our father and My brother because of the said violation.

from that time forward? he always be the first to wear the seatbelt as He don't wanna be confronted with officer again lol.

[DeathAngel]

Tell him you’ll beat his ass or he gets no dinner if he continues to do it. Only joking, just tell him how dangerous it is & what could happen if there was an accident & he wasn’t wearing it. Tell him you love him & you couldn’t live if something bad happened to him.

[boyptc]

Let him watch those results of not wearing seat belts. That's for sure going to teach him and as well give him fear of what could be the implication if he's not going to wear his seat belt.

Educate your kid that it's required by the government and as well as for his safety.

Wouldn't that be a bit of traumatic education way for a 10 years old? It would be better to approach children of that age in a more gentle way.

Not really.

You gotta scare him somehow for him to obey. You have to let him visualize what can possibly happen if he's not wearing a seat belt.

But I agree to you that there's other gentle way but based on the situation of OP, you've got be hard on that type of kid.

Children are not creatures that must obey. Raising by fear brings many problems one after another. When you solve problems by scaring them, you will have to scare them more in bigger problems.  In this way you are creating a fear kingdom. And this kingdom will cause many problem. For example, when he needs help or makes a mistake and will try to solve it on his own because he is scared from you and your actions and your reactions. In this case, he can get himself into very bad situations.

But instead of scaring them you should beat them with your intelligent power. You must show them you are the boss with your brilliant solution. In my country there is a saying "The son is the secret of the father". You should act the way you want your child to solve problems. Because they will imitate you.

You're way too broad with that.

To me, it's just a simple showing of the possibility what will happen if the kid won't obey. There's nothing wrong in giving that fear to them because they are the one that must obey to you as a parent and not you to follow them.

You should act the way you want your child to solve problems. Because they will imitate you.

And that's why you've got to show them those possible effects, it's not that scaring at all. You're just showing the after effect if no one will obey you.

[jrrsparkles]

Bring your child to front seat and ver yoir vehicle and intentionally make him/her to get afraid and tell her that if she wear the seat belt then you will be safe and also wear your seatbelts then only your kids will follow that.

[Chato1977]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

Tell the child that every time they take off the seat belt, you have to stop the car. If you are taking them somewhere that they have to go, be sure to leave early. If you are taking somewhere that they want to go, let them be late.

This is the best way for me though this does not cross my mind since then , Now i have my way to treat my children and nephew everytime they will make the same act though my children are well educated in how the seatbelt work and how to save their lives in case of accidents .
this may take longer the trip but worth doing so they will decide if to continue the trip or will end up on the road and go back home.
not unless the trip is not their wanted also so they will be stubborn to not continue at all lol.

[TopTort777]

Bring your child to front seat and ver yoir vehicle and intentionally make him/her to get afraid and tell her that if she wear the seat belt then you will be safe and also wear your seatbelts then only your kids will follow that.

Great advice. This might turn into childhood trauma and he/she will never ride a car again. How do you suggest to make him afraid? By emergency break? What if the break dont work? Or they will break simultaneously with airbag. Are you ready to fix child's broken nose?

You obviously dont have kids. Dont educate kids with frights. This so wrong. Lots of times I've heard from parents that fright their little kids with: "dont do that or monster will eat/kill you", "dont do that or the police will come and put you into jail", "dont do this or I will hit your or you will be punished" and etc. Such kids will grow up afraid to experience something new, the police will be their enemy and not someone that will protect you.

If a child refuses to do something, all you need to do is to talk. Talk, talk, talk and sound persuasive. Shouting, frightening, beating is 10000% wrong.

[mich]

When young people won’t do what’s in their best interest such as wearing a safety belt, I usually start with explaining the why.
Many times children just don’t understand why what you’re asking of them is so important.
However, if they still continue to not wear their seatbelt I will try to create a fun habit by giving rewards such as candy, once they have a positive association with the task I am asking of them it’s much easier to get compliance later on.

[Renampun]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

when my kids are 1 year old, they are also very difficult to feel comfortable with the seat belt...

At that time I just gave them a pacifier bottle to make them feel at home, or when they were bored I immediately put them on my lap. children are very active and that is their innate nature.

[jrrsparkles]

Bring your child to front seat and ver yoir vehicle and intentionally make him/her to get afraid and tell her that if she wear the seat belt then you will be safe and also wear your seatbelts then only your kids will follow that.

Great advice. This might turn into childhood trauma and he/she will never ride a car again. How do you suggest to make him afraid? By emergency break? What if the break dont work? Or they will break simultaneously with airbag. Are you ready to fix child's broken nose?

You obviously dont have kids. Dont educate kids with frights. This so wrong. Lots of times I've heard from parents that fright their little kids with: "dont do that or monster will eat/kill you", "dont do that or the police will come and put you into jail", "dont do this or I will hit your or you will be punished" and etc. Such kids will grow up afraid to experience something new, the police will be their enemy and not someone that will protect you.

If a child refuses to do something, all you need to do is to talk. Talk, talk, talk and sound persuasive. Shouting, frightening, beating is 10000% wrong.

Have you read OP completely? He refuses and being stubborn with his activities so just practice that action speaks louder than words.

Wearing seatbelt is compulsory in all the countries if I am not wrong so if someone wants to drive a car or even as a co passenger then they should wear the seat belt or else you have to face the tickets.

[ymckartal]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

hi my friend, it is very important to understand child psychology. You ask why? because children max. degree of force. It measures your reaction. Accordingly, it determines how it will treat whom.

My advice to you is not to fight with him or get angry with him. Tell him about his mistake either by speaking or with sample videos. After a while, he will understand you and listen to your words.
When you get into mutual arguments with him, he will have to look for other outlets. which takes your child away from you.

[tnyldzerdm60]

My stubborn 10-years-old will take his seat belt off when im not looking or if im driving fast.   Does anyone have this similar problems and how to you deal with it?

Hello there,

your child is a boy. It is necessary to be very patient with his boys and tell him about his mistake.
do not argue with him. He must see what he will experience when he causes such problems.

[Xinarae*]

Seatbelts should be used by every passenger for safe travel there is no difference between big and small. It is a legal offense not to fasten a seatbelt since your son is younger you have to understand him if the child is more than willing to do something he or she will need to be asked to do so this time can not be ruled more so it can get worse. Tell him about the good and the bad through loving entertainment his mistakes need to be corrected.

[peter0425]

Just explain what will happen if the authority caught you violating the rules , kids nowadays are normal being stubborn but still they are concern about us parents so eventually they will use to that, and tell them about the fines to pay if you are being held .