There is an open-source alternative called
Wasabi that focuses on improving your privacy, but Electrum isn't bad in it. Quite the opposite; it's a non-custodial wallet (meaning you're the owner of the keys) which also has coin-control feature. Seems fine to me.
Security != privacy != features. Electrum (when used properly) is a good wallet for security, since as you say you are the only owner of the private keys, and it provides a lot of more advanced functions such as coin control, RBF, and Lightning. None of that necessarily means it is good for privacy, though.
How about having different SPV wallets like Electrum (like 2 or more Electrum wallet), using TOR to access it, making use of single or few addresses on each wallet.
It's much better than just using a single Electrum wallet without Tor, but you need to use at least a different Tor circuit for each wallet you open, and ideally a different Electrum server too. If the same server sees the same IP (even if it's a Tor exit node IP and not your own IP) query two different wallets minutes apart, then there's a good chance they are linked. If you repeat this behavior multiple times over a period of months or years, then it is certain they are linked.