Marriage: Character or Beauty?

[aanestic]

In my opinion, the notion of having a specific reason to like or marry someone seems unnecessary. Relying solely on factors like beauty or character as a passkey in choosing a wife can be problematic. When we prioritize beauty, for instance, we may find ourselves in a predicament if we no longer see the same physical attractiveness in our partner. This can lead to feelings of resentment or even hatred towards the person. Similarly, relying solely on character can also have its downsides. A woman may initially pretend to have a good character in order to secure a marriage, only to reveal her true personality after tying the knot.

Instead, I believe that understanding should be the foundation of a successful marriage. When we truly understand and accept our partner, we are better equipped to handle their flaws, including potential character flaws, with grace and patience. We can also appreciate their beauty beyond superficial looks, recognizing the deeper beauty that comes from within. Understanding fosters tolerance and empathy, allowing us to navigate the complexities of marriage with maturity and wisdom.

[Freeveto]

In my opinion, the notion of having a specific reason to like or marry someone seems unnecessary. Relying solely on factors like beauty or character as a passkey in choosing a wife can be problematic. When we prioritize beauty, for instance, we may find ourselves in a predicament if we no longer see the same physical attractiveness in our partner. This can lead to feelings of resentment or even hatred towards the person. Similarly, relying solely on character can also have its downsides. A woman may initially pretend to have a good character in order to secure a marriage, only to reveal her true personality after tying the knot.

Instead, I believe that understanding should be the foundation of a successful marriage. When we truly understand and accept our partner, we are better equipped to handle their flaws, including potential character flaws, with grace and patience. We can also appreciate their beauty beyond superficial looks, recognizing the deeper beauty that comes from within. Understanding fosters tolerance and empathy, allowing us to navigate the complexities of marriage with maturity and wisdom.

In marriage, character is most important and should be considered more relevant to beauty, due to beauty will fade away while a good character will last forever. The problem you may have in this process is that Character needs time to assess, it can't be determined at first sight, where as Beauty will be there staring at you for immediate assessment. Beauty can be an entry point but when decision needs to be taken, Character should be taken more important.

[misterrtwisterr]

Your wife doesn't need to be beautiful by any social norm, but it needs to be beautiful to you. You can't be married to someone you're not physically attracted to. That's just my two cents.

[MetaMii]

My take on marriage is both personal as it is general.

I personally think of the woman I'll marry to be my spec of both beauty (physical appearance)and characteristic advantage which is what every other man under the sun aspire as far as marrying a wife is concerned.

Unfortunately the truth of the matter is that reality has proven and will continue to prove that it always end up to be beyond what the eyes can see.

However ours is a society where the most beautiful girl child is always taken for marriage before her contemporaries irrespective of if she's best behaved or not.

The above mentioned factor is not changing any time soon...

For me though, physical beauty should never be underemphasized knowing that the first attraction to a woman for me is her looks but that doesn't mean I still go ahead if nothing convinces me about the both balances.

You want to marry a woman you will be proud to go to event with, introduce to friends as your wife without thinking of the shame of her body or facial looks...

At the same time you don't want to marry a beauty that will turn to be a beast because of her character bankruptcy

Infact, besides all the factored sentiments, beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder.

My cup of tea could be your chalice of poison.
Marry who completes you inside-out.

[Wolfblood200$]

Nowadays I noticed beautiful girls find it hard to marry because they are carried away by their beauty thinking that's all it's takes to get a man but the ones that are not that beautiful tends to build their character because they feel like it's the only thing that will attract men to their sides and it's working because they are actually getting married and building their homes.. while before the others one realized their mistake their age has already gone far and the beauty is fading away slowly..So Good character is a must to consider before getting into marriage because it's a lifetime.. Everyone loves their peace of mind..so I will always choose good character over beautiful face and curves..

[capoeira]

Physical attraction begins to diminish from the very beginning, and this decline is a continuous process that never ceases. While having a more attractive spouse may delay this decline to some extent, it remains an inevitable reality. Consequently, it becomes evident that the most suitable candidate for marriage is your best friend, someone with whom you share a profound bond beyond physical appearance.

[MIner1448]

Beauty is a subjective concept, and it includes not only physical aspects, but also personal qualities. It is very important to realize that the true beauty and value of a person comes from within.
You clearly see and appreciate the qualities of your wife that are superior to appearance. Her intelligence, caring, dedication, ability to be a team player and much more make her beautiful in your eyes. These qualities are much more important in a long-term relationship than appearance.

[yhiaali3]

Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.

In the years of early youth, a man only looks at a woman's beauty and does not look at her good or ugly qualities. He thinks of marrying a beautiful woman without thinking about her bad character.

After marriage and the experience of married life, a man knows that beauty with bad character is worth nothing, so I prefer a woman who is not beautiful with beautiful qualities much better.

[RajeshKarwa]

It's difficult to say whether character or appearance is more essential in marriage. Opinions and desires about marriage vary throughout areas, cultures, and people.

As an Indian, I would like to share In aspect of India. Indian marriages have placed a significant emphasis on various factors, including family background, social status, compatibility, shared values, education, and financial stability. These considerations aim to ensure a harmonious and stable union. While physical appearance may be a factor for some individuals, it is often not the sole or primary determinant in partner selection.

In recent times, as Indian society becomes more diverse and influenced by globalization, attitudes toward marriage are also evolving. Many people now prioritize qualities such as mutual respect, emotional compatibility, shared interests, and personal character traits over external appearances. This reflects a broader trend toward seeking deeper connections and compatibility in relationships.

Some individuals may place a greater emphasis on beauty, while others prioritize inner qualities and character traits.

Thanks !!

[Zoomic]

In marriage, you can see anything you did not expect.
I believe that marriage is more of character than beauty.
But many people prefer beauty to character when it comes to marriage and they will try to manage the character in the marriage but they fail most times.

To me what matters first is decision.
Assuming you have not decided to keep your wife, both her character and beauty will mean nothing to you and you will end up getting a divorce.

[Black susano]

Although there are no generally acceptable feature of a beautiful woman, but there are some physical qualities that we see in a woman and assume she’s beautiful. Large eyes, white teeth,  big smile, the curvature of the spine, a waist-to-hip ratio of .67 to .80, glowing skin, thick and healthy hair are all beauty qualities. We hear slim is beautiful, fair is lovely, fat is shaming.

My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.

Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.

Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.

Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.

Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.

Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.

As I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.

(OP) take this ask a good advice one can give you, from my point of view imagine if your wife a glance dude  with her face just like you and still with that same face can be a  disease to your life and your kids, look at the quality you just mentioned, I no beauty can  go a long way in a relationship but still as for me I can never choose beauty over the good quality of a wife material, telling you a little story I have newly married friends who just got married and before he got married we were discussing quality  of a good wife would you believe what he told he listed
1 must know how to have sex 24 hours a week
2 always look useful means, must always have money more than him
3 must-have a big ass 🤑
4 must know how how to suffer that much in the kitchen
5 must always be current othe n the internet like being a queen on social media also must have 5k follower
6 must wear expensive pouches and wear new clothes

Could you believe what i told he I said brother you have missed it all in life and currently he works as a banker but now he lost his job because he didn't make a good choice for himself him follow beauty.

[Ojima-ojo]

The beauty of a woman is her character if she doesn’t have a good character she is not beautiful A good character is the first thing you have to check in a woman before physical beauty

I think the subject of character have doesn't limit to only women alone and it caught across both women and men and the real beauty and value of any individual are in their character because looks have nothing to contribute to the well-being of the Marriage but beauty is what give the first attraction before the character will build the foundation at which the relationship will be built and nourished on.


Both have a role to play in the marriage institution but character plays a bigger role than beauty in the long run.

[Y3shot]

Character builds marriage and will sustain lasting marriage, a marriage that considers the physical appearance as the most important thing always suffers. Character from couples will be passed to the kids which will help them in the society tomorrow. When there is  misunderstanding between partners character can be used to make things easy for settlement.  Beauty without good character just seems as if the beauty is a waste because beauty is suppose to be backed with good character.

[Gulttam2a2]

One should marry a good hearted woman. She is beautiful in appearance, so is she perfect in all aspects. As the saying goes, the more he looks, the more pride he has. But on the other hand, those who do not have a form, who do not have a beautiful face, you will see that there are many qualities in them. Beautiful women usually get husbands who are drug addicts or gamblers. In this era, not everyone has a good woman on their forehead but your forehead is good that you got such a good woman as a wife, you are really lucky. Give thanks to your Lord. You are still living with him because you have love for him.

[I_RodimusPrime]

Nothing in this world is permanent my friend. So it's also related to beauty. People can say what they want we can't shut others mouths. So love your wife, because if not she is on your life may be your not who you are today. God bless your family!

[BitcSeo]

🌷⚘🌿☘🌷⚘🌿☘🌷⚘🌺🥀🌹🌹🌷⚘
Pls, kindly print out and give those flowers to her on my behalf.
Tell her that a member from bitcointalk sent them yo her.

you can actually buy beauty with money
Take her to beauty planning seminar.i'm sure, you'll be surprise when next you set your eyes on her.

On the other hands, you cannot buy character, Love....
It's either you have character or you donot.

Have you ever pay visit to a couples only to find out the level of disrespect btw the man and women. Couples yelling and screaming at each other like Andrew the giant vs Hulk hogan.

Children jumping like frog from the sitting room to bedroom....

In regards to your friends. Pls keep such friends away from your marriage.


Regards
Bitcseo

[Samlucky O]

That's true.. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder dey said. Beauty in this context is not a facial attribute but rather an inword characteristics. People often misunderstood beauty.
Good character is the beauty of a woman.

Although it's quite unfortunate that majority of men don't like ugly women and there is no good reason for such. The only reason I see is your friends will make mockery of you, because they married a beautiful woman over you.

But one thing is for sure, who so ever married a wife because of beauty,big hips, light skin, pointed nose, or even height without checking other things like quality, will end up marrying a liability. There is one thing I understand in marriag. Marriage is a mutual understanding of both parties which knows no boundaries of class and body structure. Because when beauty fades or the body start to shrink, the good character continues.

I even discover that %80 of beautiful girls are lazy. Lack of skill and more of fashion always on tiktok, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and WhatsApp all they know is to take pictures and post all the time. When dey get married no attention for kids. The home works for kids will not be attended to, to prepare food for husband they'll say my nails are fixed I can't cook. No parental home training that's why we have a hole lot of beautiful single mothers out there. Because they were not ready for marriage because they think beauty can keep marriage.

[BitcSeo]

" .....even discover that %80 of beautiful girls are lazy. Lack ....

Bro, you said it all. But, 80% is rather too low compare to what we are seeing today in our society.
So, 85% 》(+5%) could be more accurate.

No wonder, we hear lot of divorce cases, "..honey, i need gucci sandals, pizza for dinner,clothes taken to the laundry...

Where then is the value of having a woman in the house? I'm asking married men bcos i'm still a 1st class barcelor🤣

Some women esily get irritated washing their undies and pants...manually.

Pls, i have perfect solution for the person who started this thread. i have a beautiful girlfriend (not  married to her...yet)  she knows nothing outside fashion.

We could make an exchange.pls, what do you think?

Regards
Btcseo

[EluguHcman]

Firstly I must say that  you should stop underrating the outlook of your wife due to what people says. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder so if you love your wife, see the most beauty in life both in and out in her
You don't just keep her because of her characters yet her physical look sucks your nerves else that makes you an exploiter.

However, there are many women that beauty has been attracted and sent to man's house as a course of marriage but lack to marriage characteristics had sent them back to their own house.

So I would say that characters should be best considered when making marriage choices before beauty is attached unless you are only into a temporary relationship that only had to offer you pleasures in a main time.

[TakeItEasy]

Man should see something in a woman,  but the most important thing is caring for the life. If you have a successful partner in your life then she can give you happiness at each ans every point even if you are suffering from most of the hardships but she can be better to make you laugh. And also if she is rude at a point then you should make her happy. In this way life would be better.

Also the character matter a lot corresponding to beauty because character of a person make him like by all and the characters is the only thing through which the person is hated by all. On the other had,  mostly beauty didn't matter,  but it is important in some aspects. Although comparing these two should be more voted for character.