Watching Our Kids From Something That Could Dangerous To Them

[rodskee]

we all have our own views and style on how we wanted our children grown , but for me ? letting them to choose what to play is OK as long as i have teaching them what good should be the rightful way in having a game.
my eldest is also teenage and yes i keep am eye still in their activities specially in their gadgets .

If we don't monitor children's activities in playing smart phones, it will open up opportunities for children to know things that shouldn't be known at their age, we must limit children from playing smart phones and check the latest history of activities accessed on the browser, if that method is applied to child then he will be avoided from addiction to playing games, games such as gambling, adult content, etc.

and what we must learn is gambling ? because this is addicted and will turn them into different living .

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[Chato1977]

I am a strict Parent , actually both Me and my partner as we wanted them to grow differently from what we use to have.

My Father is a complete gambler and a drinker , and My partners parent are both gambler .

So we are trying to build a different ambiance for our children and if given a chance? we will never let them learn any form of gambling .

[kotajikikox]

It is teen ager so i think your Best friend is now allowing the child to learn from His own , but what you should ask is how your friend brought the youngster in to teen, if he had enough guidance and treatment then i think you are the only problem here, because what you think is bad in others it is normal or manageable .
so let Him have His family and do yours.
you are only making things troubled here.

[Peanutswar]

If I will become a parent, I will give my child the balance that is only needed. I will be strict at some things but I will give them freedom on other things too. So, watching them having an involvement to things like gambling and pornography is a serious matter. What I will do is that I will talk to them "heart to heart" and give them advice on the effects of these things.

...His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.
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I wonder what game is he playing when you saw it, I think it would be better if we know exactly what type of game the child is playing. Is it about gambling? Pornography? or others. From that, we can fully give our opinions.

You are allowing your child but still with a proper restriction and guidance because of course at a very young age they think this is the normal thing and once they see the excitement, enjoyment and satisfaction by doing this they might do it as part of the daily routine and hobby which can be a risk towards the future of the child but still with your guide I guess you can manage those things at the very young age enlighten about this gambling can be good in a way depends on the decision of the parent or child itself.

[btc78]

I will never let mine to be influenced by Gadget to gamble, I have learn to gamble on my own at very young age but I must admit that my parents are not on hand that time, we are just being left in house to do our things while they are busy at work so yes they don't know what we are doing all the time.
so when I turn to addiction at teen age time? they are shocked when they find it happened.
so best for my Kids to be off from any games that will lead them to gamble , and yes I limit their usage of gadgets and I know everything that will be installed nor being visited by them, this is how strict I am but always explaining that it is for their own good and future.

[peter0425]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

[Tellek Garing]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

That is why as a parent we need to have first-hand experience with various things growing up was full of experiences that we need to transfer to our children in those experiences are leasons.

I have learned that when it comes to training a child we have to be involved in what our children do on daily basis.

[traderethereum]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

That is why as a parent we need to have first-hand experience with various things growing up was full of experiences that we need to transfer to our children in those experiences are leasons.

I have learned that when it comes to training a child we have to be involved in what our children do on daily basis.

All parents want to see their children get their best life and stay away from all the bad things in their life.
That is why parents teach us many good things but often, the way they teach is not in accordance with what their children can understand, so there are often misunderstandings between parents and children.
Maybe we as parents need to actively communicate with them so that children feel that we are not only their parents but we can become a friend or someone who can teach them many things.
Parents think that they only need to provide facilities to their children and that is enough without involve their feeling to their children.

[Mauser]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

I am sure every parent wants the best for their children, but this also includes to let them make their own decisions. Protecting children from everything harmful in the world might work at a young age, but once in high school and university they will make decisions on their own. It is on the parents to give them the tools to make the best decisions possible. So instead of outright banning gambling and harmful cell phones games it would be better to try and make them understand why we are so concerned. It is all about the well being of our children, just hard to convince them sometimes. The problem with not allowing things like cell phones and being very strict about it, is that it could also great a stronger desire for it. Especially during some rebel periods what most kids go through during puberty, they could do things just to offend the parents. It's best to try and educate them about the risks and involved and hope for the best.

[Reatim]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

That is why as a parent we need to have first-hand experience with various things growing up was full of experiences that we need to transfer to our children in those experiences are leasons.

I have learned that when it comes to training a child we have to be involved in what our children do on daily basis.

All parents want to see their children get their best life and stay away from all the bad things in their life.
That is why parents teach us many good things but often, the way they teach is not in accordance with what their children can understand, so there are often misunderstandings between parents and children.
Maybe we as parents need to actively communicate with them so that children feel that we are not only their parents but we can become a friend or someone who can teach them many things.
Parents think that they only need to provide facilities to their children and that is enough without involve their feeling to their children.

But sometimes we are lack of time to totally communicate with our children specially if we are working full time and solo worker , but of course our Wife must do the Job instead .
we knew that children must develop their attitude and learning starting from house then in School and then the community .
it is on us for what will be their future so better watch them all the time and extend time for them or else you will have same issue as whatOP's bestfriend has .

[Renampun]

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What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

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After all, children will imitate what their parents did. If you place a bet in front of them. So in addition to controlling the smartphone, we must also be aware of what to do when children find out that you are also gambling. It's a little hard to control at the moment because gambling ads are spreading on social media. And you're not completely in control over time what access they watch. So that this case will tend to be difficult to overcome if there are still many elements that bring children closer to gambling.

That's right, gambling site adverts that are currently spreading make me excessively insecure...

I even saw a lot of ads about gambling sites, especially slots that appeared on YouTube when I watched videos on YouTube. After seeing the video, I asked myself how about my son, has he seen this too? but I realize that controlling what my children see and eat for now is my responsibility as a parent, I have an obligation to raise them to grow into better people.

[justdimin]

As parents, keeping them under tight control can be both beneficial and harmful. Of course, it is impossible to keep them 7/24 under control. Neither they nor we are robots. That's why they needs our guidance to keep forwarding on right path. If we give them the right clue, they can come to the right conclusion by themselves.

But we have to. Nowadays, we have to be twice or even thrice careful with what our kids do cause Internet is both a place where you can learn something or a place where danger accompanies you all you way you browse. My kids, one 10+ and others below 10, they are under my total internet control and I don't think I will let them use any social media until they are 18. Giving them the right clue is a good idea, but what I think is that they may be influenced by somebody else and you will not even know that.

If you try to restrict your kids in anyway, which we will out of instinct because we know the results of their actions and the consequences will be bad so we want to protect them and no matter how much we try to let them be we try to stop them time to time, but we need to realize that sometimes they have to do something and see the consequences and realize their own mistakes as well.

Obviously if it is a horrible thing like if they do it, they will go to jail type of thing, or can never go to school type of thing then we could intervene if we can, but aside from them let them gamble and lose all their money and let them learn from their own mistakes.

[VanityWallets2015]

OP can you clarify what do you mean something that could be dangerous to them? you mean gambling sites or different kind of applications since this topic can be moved to other board if you are referring other than gambling site. And if it is gambling site then I think this board is the right place.

[ajochems]

Actually after get into teenage,we should handle our children with special care.Because it’s their dangerous part of their life,even as had experienced with this.He is also hard the bad contact with his friends.Then he asked our mother by thread of his life.My mother will send him dollars which he demands by the belief of his lies.As compared to my situation,yours was not bad to recover mate.

[lienfaye]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

Thats what parents should do, to educate and guide our children. In my case my eldest has a gadget of her own to use for school (online class) and to search in internet. But there's a limit on sites that she can access, games that she can install, and I make sure to explain and make her understand why im prohibiting her for doing that. Im also the one who access her social media accounts particularly her FB (thats the way to communicate her teacher) to avoid seeing posts/videos that is not appropriate for children. This might be strict for other kids who wants their freedom but parents knows whats best.

[Reatim]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?
i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

Thats what parents should do, to educate and guide our children. In my case my eldest has a gadget of her own to use for school (online class) and to search in internet. But there's a limit on sites that she can access, games that she can install, and I make sure to explain and make her understand why im prohibiting her for doing that. Im also the one who access her social media accounts particularly her FB (thats the way to communicate her teacher) to avoid seeing posts/videos that is not appropriate for children. This might be strict for other kids who wants their freedom but parents knows whats best.

you seems like a on hand parent mate? and that is best for your children.

All of us wanted our youngsters to become greater than what we did , specially in being a good person , things that is harder to maintain but worth to succeed

Our Children is our Treasure and we should use the best for them , Salute to all parents that has this perspective and views in life, and remember that not all the happy things in life is best for them ,, sometimes we need to pause and think more before letting them have it .

[Wind_FURY]

Is there literally a Parent that would love their children become gambler or at least go to different area where we only wanted them to find best living?

I believe that perception would change if that parent's child is a good in "some forms of gambling"? For example trading stocks/commodities/cryptocurrencies could be a form of gambling. If someone is in the top 10% to make it a living, then why not? Another "form of gambling" that you can turn the odds to your side is poker.

i don't think there are one that in His good mind , so as parent we wanted to prevent this to happen so lets monitor everything that our children may turn too.
I will watch My kids as long as I have Eyes to use it and Ear to listen , as long as I am present in their life? will always be there to make things best.

But gambling is can also be an addiction for some people. It's not a recommended hobby for everyone. If you see your kid at an early age play those games/apps that have them win free tokens/points from playing "games", make them stop. That might start the addiction. It has something to do with constant dopamine release in the brain at a very early age.

[mindrust]

That's a very gray area. Raising children is hard and there might be multiple right ways. The kid will eventually grow up and there isn't much you can do to put him on the right course. Sometimes it happens naturally without your interference, sometimes it happens when you talk sense to him and sometimes it never happens no matter how much you try and the kid ends up a complete failure, a junkie. (no offense to my junkie friends)

[Cling18]

I am a strict Parent , actually both Me and my partner as we wanted them to grow differently from what we use to have.

My Father is a complete gambler and a drinker , and My partners parent are both gambler .

So we are trying to build a different ambiance for our children and if given a chance? we will never let them learn any form of gambling.

The curse of gambling addiction couldn't be broken if we parents won't do anything to guide our kids. We know the feeling of having parents who are addicted to gambling so we shouldn't let our children experience the same thing. As parents, we must show them that we're good parents by keeping them away from gambling. Yes, we gamble sometimes but we shouldn't let them grow seeing us getting addicted to it. We must start the discipline ourselves.

[Stalker22]

Many parents believe that by controlling, restricting, and even forbidding their children from going out and socializing with certain "undesirables" they will protect them from bad society. They tend to feel safer when their children are at home at the computer, online, rather than out with friends. Despite many of the Internet's positive and useful features, it is also not without potential dangers. Online gambling websites are becoming more popular and common. Due to legal restrictions, children cannot access traditional gambling in brick-and-mortar casinos. However, online gambling isn't subject to such restrictions and thus leaves the door open for children and teens to enter into this type of illegal activity. And children are often attracted to quick and easy money because of their inexperience and ignorance. For example, online games are particularly enticing for children and teenagers because it is so easy to get started. All they have to do is enter their parent's credit card number, and the money is deposited into their online account.

Going online is no different than getting out of home security in real life. Teaching your child how to use the internet safely is just as important as teaching him all other life-skills and competences necessary for their personal development. Parents need to teach their children how to use the internet responsibly, and they should be as much as possible alert of the possible dangers. While your kids may know more about technology than you do, you certainly know much more about life than they do, and you should be the first to make the critical judgments when they are dealing with these technologies. Developing an open, honest relationship of mutual trust between you and your child is of utmost importance, and this is an essential component of good parenting.