Watching Our Kids From Something That Could Dangerous To Them

[romero121]

Parents should monitor the children. Nowadays children were more advanced than the parents, and this makes them keep unwanted games hidden from the parents. When a smartphone reaches his children, that is the point where the kid goes away/out from the parents control. As said in the OP there were games in which players can buy more equipments to make themselves powerful at certain cost. In one such incident 10 year old kid have used $10k from his parents bank card without their knowledge.

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[Oceat]

I think what the OP's friend doing is just the right thing, not too tight with their kids because no matter how strict parents you are you can't stop what your kids be doing all the time. At least her friend was able to looked at her kids stuff on what games they were installing or playing. I say, this is just normal to let your kids explore what curiosity hinder their minds and tell what's bad and good thing for them.

Be a realistic or a good parents and not a controlling one because you are just teaching your kids how to do bad things involuntarily.

[coin-investor]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house. We talked about many things because we had not seen each other for a long time. Besides us telling stories, he accompanied his son, who was already a teenager. His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.

Can you name that game is it because those games are difficult or there is a need to purchase to play the game, when it comes to gaming, gamers are always on the look for something new and exciting games to play even if you forbid them to play those games it will eventually find a way

Then I asked my best friend how she watched her grown children. He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.

They have to back up with strong words and they have to see to it that the children are following their instructions

Then I asked again if the kids installed games they weren't supposed to play (but I didn't say the kids were playing those games). She replied that she sometimes checks her children's cell phones and asks what they are playing and that a parent should ask their child.

It's very important as long as it is not harmful parents should from time to time check what are their children are playing

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

That is why they should check the history of their children's browsing history to see if there are sites that don't fit their children's age, there are so many browser-based games and sites that your children might be checking out.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

We are living in a technology era where everything is accessible and this has been the dilemma of many parents the key here is monitoring and always checking what your children are up to.

[qwertyup23]

The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

Actually OP, I somehow felt the feeling of having the freedom to operate under the glimpse of the internet.

I grew up in a computer shop in our town. As a young kid, I was severely exposed to pornography and games since most of the customers who opt to rent our computers watch those kinds of stuff. As a young kid who is at the peak of his curiosity, this ultimately led me to check on those stuff. Eventually, I would go and watch alone (I was really young) whenever no one is looking.

Though this may have been the case, I think I can still determine what is right and wrong. Being exposed to that kind of addiction may lead to certain addictions but it still depends on the total upbringing of one's parents. I am fortunate enough to have a single dad who taught me all the valuable life lessons that I need in order to be equipped with those skills to avoid any troubles.

[Wexnident]

From here, I then asked myself, is that what we should do for our children, giving them the freedom to install whatever they want. Then there is another thing that sticks in my mind: if they want to buy something in the game because this type of game allows players to get rare items at low prices. They can ask for the money from their parents to buy that item.

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

I think it depends on how you let the kid grow? My first exposure to pornography was on a TV show my father was watching, I honestly didn't even think much about it. Even when I grew up, that certain event certainly did not influence me to do anything wrong or illegal. Same with gambling. I was kinda hyped up for it when I first played it, my first experience was when I was in Highschool, I played with my schoolmates with money involved. I ofc lost a bunch, but after that short time adrenaline just, well, died down. So yea, it's really subjective on a person-to-person basis.

As long as the parent doesn't necessarily spoil the kid all the time, like knowing when to say no and when to say yes, I think they'd be fine.

[Maus0728]

The child is a teenager, which I suppose he/she is at the age of 14, who understands her/his own limits and what is good or harmful for her/himself.

If I were the kid, I wouldn't feel comfortable if my parents were continuously nagging me to see what I was up to on my phone or computer. I'd like complete privacy. The only thing a parent can do for his or her child is open up about difficult topics, especially if they are related to sex, gambling, addiction, internet safety, and so on, and highlight the risks involved.

When it comes to gambling, there must be an open dialogue about the dangers of losing money and how it might affect your mental health. This is also true in games, where children and teenagers are growing addicted to in-game purchases.

[Strongkored]

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

Children use smartphones to fill their activities if parents can't provide other activities then it will be an option for children to spend time, so if you don't want your children to play with smartphones then give them other activities to spend their energy so they are not interested in playing games on smartphones. I use parental controls on my niece's smartphone so she can only use them for a limited time, and occasionally checks to see what she has access to. But in the future parents will harder be able to prohibit children from using smartphones so giving education will help them.

[avikz]

Well, it's the duty of parents to monitor their Kid's activities until they become an adult. Or else, they could face a huge consequence later in their life. Because in the era of digital progression, it is impossible to stop kids from installing random apps in their mobile phone so a monitoring mechanism is needed. This is serious!

Otherwise, there is a good chance that these kids will have messed up finances although their life due to their addiction and wrongdoings.

[davis196]

Are you talking about freemium games of actual gambling games?
Unfortunately all mobile and computer games are designed to be addictive.
I've heard many horror stories of children getting addicted to freemium games and using their mom's credit card to buy lots of in-game items.
There's no easy solution to this problem.I guess that the only solution would be not buying a smartphone for your children.You simply can't control what they are downloading and installing on their phone.
If you forbid them to install certain games,that might actually have the opposite effect.
"The forbidden fruit is the sweetest."

[Peanutswar]

This is the reason why we must guide our children and always monitor their activities in the online world and with the use of their gadgets before when the technology does not catch too much attention of the children we didn't experience this kind of scenario, recently the gadgets and the applications use now with a child protection feature which not allowed the children to have this kind of searches for possible protection for the kid's minds. As early as a possible guide and prevent them.

[Mauser]

Many of the cell phones these days are very popular among even the youngest children up to people in their 30s. Two of my cousins are 26 and 29 and both of them play a lot on their phone. Every time I see them they are playing. If they were below 16 this would be even more alarming. I like gaming myself, but only on the PC and not excessively. What should be alarming to the parents is that the kids not only invest a lot of time in these games, but also money. Via the cell phone monthly bill there can be a lot of ingame purchases be added to the account. By default this option is always activated, the parents need to explicitly request their children to be excluded from spending additional money. It's really sad that gambling industry is facing so much backslashes these days and is heavily regulated, but children of any age can play these games.

[Ryker1]

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What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

Well based on what I have understood on the OP post, this is very common and it has been discussed so many times on the ^{[Gambling Discussion]} board. You don't need to worry even if it will repeatedly advertise on TV shows or on any social media about gambling casinos, as long you are there ^{[as a parent]} who will be taking care of your children and tech them into a good manner and educate them about gambling, it is better them to be aware than they will be curious on such thing. We know young generations now are always wanted to explore everything that they heard --but, if we are always on their side and will guide, educate and teach them which bad or good, they will become a responsible person in the future.

[cabron]

You can't completely monitor them since they have access to the internet through browsers, youtube to installing games. As long as they are aware that there are bad things and good things to watch on youtube, they will also know you don't approve it. It reminds me of what I do when I was a kid.

My parents just don't monitor me when I was a kid, we steal fruits from the trees in the neighbor's backyard but we grew just fine with my brothers and friends. Times changed though because back in the days there was no internet yet. Social life of the kids today are twisted.

[dothebeats]

I don't restrict them into doing whatever they want on the internet. But, I always give them a warning or a heads up of what might happen should they access sites or install apps that are not suitable for their age. I have a kid that knows what a cockfighting match is, and already knows where to bet and how to bet. He tried to do it once and once his money all went down the drain, I refused to give him more and told him that that is the consequence of his actions, so I am not, in any way, responsible to him losing his allowance for the week. Since then, he never placed a bet anymore. He accesses the site to watch, yes, but his money no longer goes to the betting site.

[michellee]

I think every parent will have their own way of supervising their children, whether growing children or teenagers. They may not be able to supervise every day but if they have been given lessons from an early age, their children will certainly be able to take care of themselves and not try things that might harm them. It depends on how parents can educate their children well and how close they are to their children. If their child has a problem or something, they can share it with their parents so hopefully, their child can find a way out of every problem because they get reasonable answers from their parents who may understand them better.

[Poker Player]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house...
Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

From what you say, I am surprised that children can gamble with their cell phones. Porn is very easy to access but to play in fiat casinos they have to go through an age verification process to prove they are of age. The only exception I can think of to this is if they are playing in crypto houses that do not require KYC. But for that they should have bought crypto, and being children I don't think they have a lot of money or have bought in DEX, because in the CEX they are not required to have KYC. 

So I don't really get your story, unless you give more details. But if the moral is that it is better not to expose children to gambling, I agree.

[xSkylarx]

This is extremely concerning, but it is not new for us. Due to technological advancement, I'm aware that many teenagers and minors are engaging in this behavior, and I believe that even if they are too young to have a phone, their parents are still providing them with phones for their enjoyment, and parents will forget that this would be detrimental to their health (physically and mentally), and that they are also engaging in activities such as playing 18+ games that they should not be playing it. The supervision of parents is essential at this time, as is the control of phone usage. However, this is difficult to implement because teens today are more advanced it than  their parents', making it easier for them to conceal their actions. What is preferable is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with them and try to persuade them to stay away from this, while also explaining the consequences of doing so.

[judeafante]

Here in our country, we are in blended learning, where students are studying at home through the internet and through their tablets and cellphones, they learn a lot with their cellphones, they know about Playstore where they can access hundreds of games those games on Playstore are safe but they learn to upgrade and look further for more exciting games and that's where the risk comes in when they try to access games that are not on Playstore because these games offer a lot of perks and excitement that's what parents should watch out and look for, the source of the games and it's features.

[goldkingcoiner]

Some time ago I visited my friend's house. We talked about many things because we had not seen each other for a long time. Besides us telling stories, he accompanied his son, who was already a teenager. His son is playing games on his cell phone and I got a glimpse of what games he played and he seems to be playing games he shouldn't be playing.

Then I asked my best friend how she watched her grown children. He replied that his children were able to choose what was good and bad for them and he just needed to say that playing games are okay as long as he doesn't lose track of time.

Then I asked again if the kids installed games they weren't supposed to play (but I didn't say the kids were playing those games). She replied that she sometimes checks her children's cell phones and asks what they are playing and that a parent should ask their child.

From here, I then asked myself, is that what we should do for our children, giving them the freedom to install whatever they want. Then there is another thing that sticks in my mind: if they want to buy something in the game because this type of game allows players to get rare items at low prices. They can ask for the money from their parents to buy that item.

Then, I also thought if this could cause symptoms of addiction to continue playing the game and later it could be accidentally, they see adult content such as pornography or gambling or others easily. The role of parents who give freedom to their children in using cellphones does not seem to be felt by those who are starting to grow up. I see that a teenager has started to be equipped with a smartphone.

What do you think about the situation above? Do you have any such situations like me before?

I think that children should not be "leashed" by their parents or any other authorative parent figures. This is because i believe that the kids should be allowed to make decisions and learn the consequences of those decisions. If they want to gamble, sure. But then when they lose their monthly allowance, I think that will make them think twice before gambling again.

A nagging parent only makes the situation worse without the child understanding between right and wrong. It only understands its being yelled at.

Life is the best teacher. Some of its lessons are a bit painful, but necessary.

[barbara44]

His son was as already a teenager, usually with that age they already know what they are doing and the parent don't have a control anymore if what content their kids are accessing but what is that game again your trying to say? my guess is that a summer time saga? because this game is an adult game and it was trending before.

A teenager can now work and there are online jobs available. They can earn money and they can use that money to buy in game items. No need to ask for their parent's money but if their parents are loving, they can give money to their kids. There is no problem on here but you are just paranoid and making it a big issue.