Why do people cheat in relationships??

[Majestic-milf]

 It's quite alarming a rate at which people cheat in relationships. A friend of mine was complaining how her boyfriend was playing with her close friend even while he was with her. When confronted, he denied at first but later admitted that he did such because she wasn't giving him enough attention. Is a relationship supposed to be flexible to the point where either participant is free to "look outside" while in because they are not married? What do you guys think?

[Ucy]

The truth is that there is nothing binding both the boy and the girl as long as they are not married. This is why it's important to avoid boy friend and girl thing for serious relationship that leads to marriage. When you are married, you can now have the right to be angry at infidels. If you are angry while unmarried it makes you a hypocrite because you are actually cheating on your future spouse and violating the rules against sexual affairs outside marriage.

[Majestic-milf]

This is why it's important to avoid boy friend and girl thing for serious relationship that leads to marriage. When you are married, you can now have the right to be angry at infidels. If you are angry while unmarried it makes you a hypocrite because you are actually cheating on your future spouse and violating the rules against sexual affairs outside marriage.

What then do you advise someone who is ready for marriage but has decided to date first to do?

[81coin]

I think it's because sometimes people date, but not really care about each other, they are not afraid to lose their partenrs

[btcbeograd]

I think it's because sometimes people date, but not really care about each other, they are not afraid to lose their partenrs

True! I was dating a lot of girls, and I kind of liked them, but i always cheated on them. But then I met another girl, who became very special for me, and i have no will to cheat already for 5 years. So I would say it's a matter of the love rate

[mich]

In my opinion there are many contributing factors that would make you want to cheat.  Loss of connection being the biggest followed by anger, neglect, and lack of sexual desire. 
A cheater may have bad self-esteem and think that would get it improved for cheating on their loved one.

[Jembe]

Cheating Is just normal attitude in both humans that just want I see only why some are sexual satisfaction why some people are money especially woman they loved money so cheating get them in the ways of that in men, why men's are what woman have in their body attract them like boobs and buttocks 😂

[briandean]

because humans making mistakes..so that's could happens to "unexpected" persons.

[Lancelot07]

i thing because they are already bored with their partner, so they seek another

[Laurendaldin]

For me, all the talk about polygamy of the species sounds like an excuse. People have moved far away from animals in social terms. A person is restrained by his standards of morality, decency, and the ability to be faithful to his partner. And all this is a personal choice. And personal responsibility. Everyone must adhere to the contract concluded between him and the partner (and this may already include polygamy, or insist on monogamy). Yes, no one can protect us from cheating, except for a reasonable choice of partner.

[spectre71]

Both my wives were cheaters and I fired them... 

Neither put any effort in before I knew and then demanded I put effort in afterwards.

No go, you had your chance. Kick rocks.

Why? They were damaged before I inherited them. It had little to do with me and how they felt about themselves,
self worth the need for constant new acceptance and approval of others.  Even if I put on my best captain save-a-ho cape I couldn't save them.

My second wife still sniffs around after 11 years. So I called her bluff, I told you take time off your work and fly, get a rental car and see me on your dime. Didn't happen, two months later she is Mexico...... Predictable.

The lessen I learned is start with high quality material, you can't forge it.
 

[DeathAngel]

Repetition, boredom, lack of sex. Wife isn’t confident with her body so won’t put out. There are so many reasons why couples might go through dry spells. There is help out there, relationship clinics etc, you can sort these things out yourself though. I’m sure you don’t need me to explain how.

Take your wife out to dinner, buy her something nice, give her compliments.

[Mkelgodson]

People cheat because of a lot of reasons:
 - Lack of adequate or no attention.
 - Not being on the same sex wavelength.
 - Lack of trust
 - Love needs fund (money) to thrive
 - Repetitive act/ way of doing things (no new surprise in the relationship)
 - Not good enough in performance (yes, exactly what you think)
 - etc

[mu_enrico]

Gene is why it seems illogical that even in people with happy relationships, the guy (usually) still cheats.
Our history is full of bloody wars that mainly participated by men, hence men usually die at young age killing each other, that's why they must pass their genes ASAP to multiple hosts (women). This biological trait doesn't translate well in modern society which is mainly peaceful (with a few exceptions) hence the word is "cheating."

[Tallupooh]

In my opinion, one of the factors that drives infidelity in a relationship is lust. Or sometimes the infidelity factor is because he sees his partner from the negative side. This means that he only sees his partner's shortcomings and does not see his strengths. Therefore, he wants to find someone else who is greater than his current partner.

Whereas as a couple, we must accept each other's shortcomings and strengths that our partner has. And in this world, no one is perfect.

[BADecker]

People cheat because they want more. It's only after they cheat for a while, that they figure out that they are getting less by cheating.

[Sayakaaja]

In my opinion, one of the factors that drives infidelity in a relationship is lust. Or sometimes the infidelity factor is because he sees his partner from the negative side. This means that he only sees his partner's shortcomings and does not see his strengths. Therefore, he wants to find someone else who is greater than his current partner.

Whereas as a couple, we must accept each other's shortcomings and strengths that our partner has. And in this world, no one is perfect.

true love will definitely not cheat. if a partner is deeply in love, and is not interested in anyone other than their partner, they are definitely not going to cheat. because they only see their partner, whatever shortcomings their lover has, they will remain loyal.

people whose definition of love is because of lust, will falter and one day he will glance at someone other than his partner. because it is only lust and not true love.

love must complement each other. And don't just look at it in terms of appearance.

[Ucy]

The truth is that there is nothing binding both the boy and the girl as long as they are not married. This is why it's important to avoid boy friend and girl thing for serious relationship that leads to marriage. When you are married, you can now have the right to be angry at infidels. If you are angry while unmarried it makes you a hypocrite because you are actually cheating on your future spouse and violating the rules against sexual affairs outside marriage.

In continuation from my previous post quoted above:
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Relationships such as sexual relationships outside of marriage like Fornication and Adultery actually breed insecurity in any society that allows or encourages them. A society is endowed with GOD-given or natural rules that act as Strong Boundary or Wall if fully obeyed. But once any part of the rule is broken, a section of the wall/boundary is broken or weakened and this makes the society vulnerable to attacks or invasion from foreign bodies. Breaking the natural rules create loopholes that can attract more of the "spiritual energy" or evil spirit that successfully caused the rule to be broken. For example, sexual affairs outside of marriage will typically attract Spirit of Lust/whoredom. That spirit will begin to corrupt and takeover the whole society like a gradual decay. And that will weaken the society and attract other kinds of spirits.

Fornication and adultery are serious problems that must be tackled for a society to be well shielded or protected from attacks and general insecurity. Those who promote or encourage them can be qualified as criminals because it's a crime to break the natural rules that keep a society secure. Violators should be constantly reminded to stop or be destroyed.
Obey the commandments and have faith in the CREATOR. and HE will help you do what is good or right always.




Anyone who understands why and how a society gets corrupted and sick can cure many diseases that afflict mankind. Cells in the body operate in similar manner, like micro societies or bodies. Once a cell violate it rules, the cell wall is weakened and harmful viruses/microbes successfully invade it.
Obey the good rules.












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[Ghostnipple]

there are 3 seperate drivers at play here

1: Desire
2: Romantic love
3: attachment

You can desire one person
Be romanticly in love with another person
while also maintaining a supportive loving committed relationship with a third person.

They are 3 different things and most people are capable of having all 3 at the same time. The existence of one does not diminish the feelings you have in either of the other two.

If people understood this, there would be a lot less drama in the world.

[mvdheuvel1983]

It's crucial to realize that there is still a potential that the person you select to be in a relationship with would act foolishly. All parties to the relationship, whether mono or poly, are free to choose whether to continue working on it or call it quits. Remember that someone you meet in the future might have cheated in a previous relationship, and you'll need to assess whether or not they have improved enough to merit your trust.