How Problem Gambler Feels After Losing

[gunhell16]

Sir, you have said almost everything, maybe the only thing I can add is what was said "Be honest with yourself" Because there are many gamblers who cannot accept it in themselves that they are addicted and have become very addicted to gambling, maybe there is nothing others planted in his mind that gambling is the only way for him to earn or get rich even though in real life there are many ways. Second, it's also different to interact with the community so that your mind is not focused on the thing that you lost a lot in gambling. So that you don't get stressed out and end up depressed. It is also good to change your environment around you.

This is what a gambler can feel when he loses a large amount in a gamble.

1. You feel weak or tired.

2. You are always sad.

3. You are thinking about where to get money so that you can gamble again to make up for it.

4. That you will also be stressed because of your defeat.

[Falconer]

The OP, as others have said, I agree that every loss is disappointing especially when we believe we can win the bet. An example is when we bet on Manchester United against Brighton, I was sure Manchester United won but in the end they lost and couldn't do much.

But whether the disappointment will always be remembered at all times? certainly not. I've lost hundreds of times, but I don't even want to remember it for too long because it's useless. I can also think that losing can sometimes make gamblers more curious and make them even more addicted, but if we get to this stage then I'm sure there will soon be problems especially regarding finances and failure to control emotions in gambling.

[Alisha-k]

Join Community, are most people addicted to gambling because they are anti-social people? It's not easy to change the habits of a person who doesn't have a social life and then join a community for any reason, especially if that person is already addicted.
Feelings will be even more depressed when the money used is completely exhausted because don't have the money to go back to chasing what have lost.

Do we have counseling sessions for gamblers where they are taught how to control their risk, and how to control their emotions after a loss or a win? No, we don't have.

How can we expect the majority of gamblers to behave like a professional and not regret or chase losses when there is no governing body to teach them? We don't provide any sort of tutorials to gamblers and accept them to be clever and intelligent enough to solve all their problems on their own.

You've got a point there @noormcs5. Where there's counseling for gamblers like AAs have, it becomes difficult to control these issues because this is money we are talking about here. In a scenario where you loss big, something inside tells you to stake higher on your next bet because for sure you'd win! At the end of the day, the odds aren't in your favor then you become depressed.
 
Humans find it hard to be truthful to themselves especially gamblers. It's hard for a man who is a chronic gambler to accept he has an addiction that's where these counseling groups come in.

[TopT3ns]

I was always a Liverpool supporter in the Champions League final between Liverpool and Real Madrid but sadly I had to finish the game in tears.  I lost betting like 500 dollars for the first time in my life.  To say that this was the largest amount of unexpected losses in my life.  Sadio Mane and Mohamed Salah did well that day but Vinicius Junior's finish brought Liverpool fans to tears.

if you are an easy person to get money then the value of $500 is not a problem for you, but if your economic condition is not good then $500 is a lot of money and of course Real Madrid already looks to be the winner because of the strength of Karim Benzema, the result of the match will be very different when this player does not contribute on the field because the main strength of real madrid is in an attacker who has quite good skills.

[Gozie51]

I was always a Liverpool supporter in the Champions League final between Liverpool and Real Madrid but sadly I had to finish the game in tears.  I lost betting like 500 dollars for the first time in my life.  To say that this was the largest amount of unexpected losses in my life.  Sadio Mane and Mohamed Salah did well that day but Vinicius Junior's finish brought Liverpool fans to tears.

I don't expect whoever lost the bet from that last year champions League final between Liverpool and Real Madrid to feel bad because the both teams are equal to each other, although Liverpool had some many early minutes changes to start the lead early which may be the reason anyone who lost would feel sad. Unfortunately, Real Madrid Vinicius Jr took the chance for them at the second half of the game and that was the only goal thereafter. So you half to take defeat not too disheartening, afterall it was real Madrid playing at the finals and it is risky to bet against Madrid at any finals for the records sake.

[rahmad2nd]

Anyone experiencing/experienced a gambling disorder pls. feel free to share your feelings after losing/winning.

Honestly, I think, all of us here who like gambling especially those who are often directly involved have experienced problems like the ones you describe from this thread.
this discussion is very interesting, most of us would deny that we can actually be said to be addicts or have been addicts. (including myself) gambling is a complex problem, involving considerable feelings and emotions.
in the winning phase, we will want an even bigger win, this is called human instinct or being overwhelmed by greed, as well as when we lose, we often think that victory is almost close, that's why the gambling session continues. it is without realizing that we are actually chasing losses. 

Well, in my case, experience has taught me the importance of having a deeper understanding of gambling, awareness, self-control, responsibility, can help me break free from addiction. at this time I only gamble if I have time after work activities and even then mostly only bet on football.

[Adbitco]

Do we have counseling sessions for gamblers where they are taught how to control their risk, and how to control their emotions after a loss or a win? No, we don't have.

From all clear indications this thread can serve as one basically. I have to tried to understand something that was biting me within myself and it sound as therapy to cover those spaces. I love gambling, i was an addict of pool, whereby going to local shop and betting center around locality to bet but when i noticed this strong failure each time i became more stronger to bet the more so i wasn't helping myself physically and mentally because i believe and with past example of others i could dig out Gold from its spot but never do i know i was sinking more and more. i called and being counseled by my Uncle who is perfectly doing well in life.

After which it took me time to readjust have a normal life just like others. While in this forum i never place a bet that i can't control my feeling or forget about the little fund i deposited in a site, i don't mostly deposit what i can't forget about by reducing tension and pressure.

How can we expect the majority of gamblers to behave like a professional and not regret or chase losses when there is no governing body to teach them? We don't provide any sort of tutorials to gamblers and accept them to be clever and intelligent enough to solve all their problems on their own.

To me anyone who chase losses is on the influence of Greed, I have also being in same scenario so learning to limit their hunger to gain make is gain is one of the major key factor they have to apply.

We don't provide any sort of tutorials to gamblers and accept them to be clever and intelligent enough to solve all their problems on their own.

Anyone who watches football and anticipate in any other sporting activities sees themselves as a champion who is perfect and can predict or gives some correct scores about gambling is another major problem hindering and affecting us.

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Also, addicted gamblers will not feel any negative feelings but may want to recover from that loss another day.

Addicted people can be depressed if they lose to gambling, nobody like to lose, but being addicted will make them to overlook and forget about the loss very fast if compared to people that are not addicted at all, but that is just one stage in gambling for addicts, the end result for being an addict will be more brutal than just losing alone, the reason not to be addicted.

But it's natural for us to get that negative feeling if we lose because we can feel sad about losing money at the gambling table.

It all depends on how much you are paid monthly and how much you put into gambling monthly. Assuming you are paid $1000 monthly, you spend $50 on gambling while the rest which is $950 is used for savings and daily spending, that is still good. If a person like that lose to gambling, the loss would be little, from the $50 that he budgeted for gambling, he can devide it into $2 dollars for each gambling and he will gamble just $25 times throughout the whole month. Like me, just during weekend and using $10 to gamble weekly is not a stress for me, even if I lose, I do not feel bad at all, but I win than lose.

[lionheart78]

Here is a documentary video about a person who happen to fall to gambling addiction.

Bright Lights: what one woman's 25-year gambling addiction really cost

The documentary is about the devastating impact of gambling addiction on a woman named Sharon.  The detailed information regarding the film can be found in the article titled:
Bright Lights: an animated exploration of the devastating grip of poker machines

The video shows, how Sharon got hooked on the Poker Machine (also called pokies), and her feeling and experience during the process and time of gambling addiction.  I hope we can find an important lesson and have more understanding of how a person gets addicted to gambling.

Seems a bit of too much technicality if we need to really be concerned about this.

Above all of those pointers why gamblers tend to continue amid losing, the experience will teach us how to become a better gambler later on. Every gambler should know that the moment they enter the world of gambling, it's just between winning and losing as the only result they should expect.

It will now depend on the gambler on how will they react regardless of the outcome of that particular session.

I hope that will be the case but often times the worse scenario always takes place.  Instead of learning from our mistakes, the mistakes often trigger us to commit other mistakes such as chasing losses and post-loss speed.  Then when we keep on losing, depression comes in.  Just like what aioc stated due to the early winnings we are baited to believe a fallacy that if we keep on gambling, we will eventually recover our losses but it often times never happen.

[Lordhermes]

The experience that comes after one loses a game is one that I can't explain,it a feeling that goes beyond pain,especially when one plays with a very high amount.One can feel like giving up on life,commiting suicide,hurting anyone around,and better still feel like robbing to replace the money lost.So many people have giving up on life as a result of gambling,lost hopes and gone astray,but it is advisable to gamble bearing in mind that anything can happen,either winning,or losing.

[livingfree]

Chasing losses is really on point.

It is what makes us feel comfortable if we're losing and that is to think that we can still chase those losses. In reality, not all, actually, the majority isn't getting a good ending.

And after that, we don't know what may a gambler do to himself when he's always losing. Things like committing uncertain things that will harm themselves can happen.

Being addicted is hard to deal with when you're on your own and that's why the suggestion of joining communities like the forum is really helpful.

We're always tempted to bet more after losing because we often believe that we could recover our losses or even gain the profit that we want which is actually unrealistic sometimes. Chasing losses could lead to gambling addiction especially if we can't handle or control our emotions. We really have to set a target goal and limits so we'll always know when to stop and when to continue betting. We can't always recover our losses and we have to accept the fact that we can't always be lucky in gambling.

It can wipe the current bankroll of someone if he's eager to recover his losses. Chasing isn't really the key to recovery of losses but just another way of adding value to your current losses.

Well, for some they become successful in doing it but not everyone has that luck.

If things aren't really going according to your plan, just let it go and settle for that day as it might give you more of the bad day.

[abel1337]

I've gamble for years now and I know from myself that I did experience chasing loses and doing Post-Loss Speeding after having a depressing loss. The primary reason why I did things like that is because I don't have any control to myself. I admit that I'm a gambling addict before and this is what I experience every time I losses on my gambling session.  It affects my current financial status because I spend more money than I do plan to spend and also the mental effect takes a toll after not getting what you aimed for. Being honest and accepting my current situation helps a lot in realizing and controlling things that I shouldn't do like overspending on my gambling activities.

[serjent05]

I've gamble for years now and I know from myself that I did experience chasing loses and doing Post-Loss Speeding after having a depressing loss. The primary reason why I did things like that is because I don't have any control to myself. I admit that I'm a gambling addict before and this is what I experience every time I losses on my gambling session.  It affects my current financial status because I spend more money than I do plan to spend and also the mental effect takes a toll after not getting what you aimed for. Being honest and accepting my current situation helps a lot in realizing and controlling things that I shouldn't do like overspending on my gambling activities.

Even a non-gambling addict also feels the same.  Sometimes there is this moment when we think we are too lucky we bet and lose and do martingale style and eventually go all-in either because of the frustration or the feeling lucky stuff.  Then regret the action when his desire did not realize.  At least on your side you know what is happening inside you and have time to fix things before it gets worst.

[Finestream]

I've gamble for years now and I know from myself that I did experience chasing loses and doing Post-Loss Speeding after having a depressing loss. The primary reason why I did things like that is because I don't have any control to myself. I admit that I'm a gambling addict before and this is what I experience every time I losses on my gambling session.  It affects my current financial status because I spend more money than I do plan to spend and also the mental effect takes a toll after not getting what you aimed for. Being honest and accepting my current situation helps a lot in realizing and controlling things that I shouldn't do like overspending on my gambling activities.

The moment you crossed your limits and become carried away by your own emotions to gamble more, that marks the start of your gambling addiction. For most of us, chasing our losses and chasing our luck put us into that situation, wherein we can no longer control anymore of our expenses and end up seeing ourselves having financial breakdown. I’ve been there, but I was lucky enough to easily recover maybe because I was fast to admit that I was already having a gambling addiction, and that my family was always there to help me get me through from that certain uncomfortable condition.

[inanilujimi]

There are several cases in my country of a gambler who becomes a motorcycle thief because he wants to gamble, it's ironic indeed, but if he is addicted beyond reason, it can happen.
It's true that the feeling of chaos when you lose gambling is very painful but try to be mentally prepared to lose in gambling, because otherwise it can affect a bad mindset.

[johhnyUA]

Problem Gambler often ends up in depression every time they suffer loss.  They wanted to get out of these feelings which is why they tend to continue gambling to beat the house which is highly unlikely. With this loss chasing and Post-Loss speeding, they end up losing much more money than they can afford to lose

Sad but true. The first aid in this case is to tell yourself: "Man, stop. You should try again tomorrow or maybe later, today is not your day". And after that you should change your activity, to forget the idea to take revenge on your loss.

Why this is work? If you try to tell yourself just "no", in 90 % of cases this will not help, strict restriction even from you to yourself creates more anger and negation. But if you try to fool your mind (we will try this later, just not today) with a great chance you will achieve a success. And tomorrow or later it will be much more to just flee it away.

And yeah, as I said, you need some activity which will distract you from your thoughts about gambling.

Solution:

• Be honest with yourself
• Join a Community
• Get to the root of why you are gambling
• Go to Treatment

1. it's hard for 90 % of people, maybe even impossible
2. What community to join?
3. The same as point 1
4. This will help, but many people find themselves in trouble much earlier. Without friends or family who will force you to treatment this will not useful advice, again.

[Esther C]

Anyone experiencing/experienced a gambling disorder pls. feel free to share your feelings after losing/winning.

Sample Documentary Video of Gambling Addiction, the feeling and thoughts of a gambling addict
Sample 1


As the title stated, I stumbled on an article[1] published way back in 2021 and wanted it to share with you in case anyone is interested in how a problem gambler's mind works after losing his bankroll.  It was stated that losing a huge amount of money is a sign that we must stop our gambling activity but...

Why do gamblers continue to bet even after they lost?

With all the effort of planning, setting a bankroll budget, and time limit, gamblers tend to bypass this plan and continue gambling.  It was said that Gamblers specifically compulsive gamblers don't just gamble for money.  Since compulsive gambling is a behavioral disorder that alters the brain[1], there are more varieties of reasons and motivations to gamble.

Chasing losses

In most cases, when an addicted gambler loses, they don’t stop there. They think that they are so close to winning, that if they just try once more, surely they’ll win this time. This is a very dangerous mindset to have.

They often feel a sense of panic at the amount they have lost, and are determined to gain it back. This is referred to as chasing losses.

In reality, the odds are never in your favor. Relying on skill won’t get you very far, since gambling is not based on skill. If you continue to gamble after you’ve lost a large amount, you will only lose more, and it will result in deeper financial debt, as well as deeper guilt and stress.

Post-Loss Speeding

Gamblers often engage in “post-loss speeding” by placing another bet quicker following a loss because frustration from the defeat prompts them to try and win back their money. As a result, gamblers become more impulsive - instead of becoming more cautious about spending money, they become more reckless.

How Excessive Gambling Leads to Mental Health Disorders

• The amount of money that they spend on gambling often causes a strain on their personal relationships and can negatively impact their job performance and overall work life.
• In some cases, gamblers will go to extreme lengths to cover up their gambling addiction, and may borrow or even steal money from others.
• Gamblers tend to feel guilt and shame when they lose, which can greatly diminish their sense of self-worth.

These intense feelings accompanied with problems that gambling is causing in their personal lives can lead to depression, and even suicidal thoughts.

Problem Gambler often feels depression after losing
Problem Gambler often ends up in depression every time they suffer loss.  They wanted to get out of these feelings which is why they tend to continue gambling to beat the house which is highly unlikely. With this loss chasing and Post-Loss speeding, they end up losing much more money than they can afford to lose.  They end up spending money allocated to households budgets, embezzling others' funds to the extent of stealing money from others.  This triggers family misunderstanding, friend disputes, and even crime.  Due to the problem piling up, a problem gambler often falls into severe depression and possible suicidal thoughts.

Solution:

• Be honest with yourself
• Join a Community
• Get to the root of why you are gambling
• Go to Treatment

Read the explanation here[1]
You can also refer to this thread to know about gambling addiction its  signs and possible management:
Tips on How to Manage Gambling Addiction an Open Discussion
The characteristics of people who are addicted to online gambling

Prevention:
Gambling in moderation or Responsible Gambling is one of the popular prevention of gambling disorders.

• You can also find the benefits of Moderate gambling in this thread[2] discussion.

Differentiating Myth from Fact

• This thread[3] can help differentiate Gambling Myth from facts

Here is the definition of a Problem Gambler to make a clear view between an ordinary Gambler and a Problem gambler.
Problem Gambler is the person with problem gambling.
Problem gambling is defined as

Problem gambling is defined as gambling that is disruptive or damaging to you or your family, or interferes with your daily life.

source:Problem gambling
a more scientific discription would be:

Problem gambling or ludomania is repetitive gambling behavior despite harm and negative consequences. Problem gambling may be diagnosed as a mental disorder according to DSM-5 if certain diagnostic criteria are met. Pathological gambling is a common disorder that is associated with both social and family costs.

source:Problem gambling
Sources:
[1] https://www.algamus.org/blog/how-problem-gamblers-feel-after-losing
[2] https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5407195.msg60607720#msg60607720
[3] https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5409250.0

Gambling is an addictive sport. Most times they continue playing in hopes that they’ll win and recover their losses. They walk on a tightrope between a place where they want to stop to prevent further losses but want to continue to try to regain what they've lost. This is mostly the reason why they continue. That's why it's advised that betting should be played for fun and not because of an addiction.

[Johnyz]

There are several cases in my country of a gambler who becomes a motorcycle thief because he wants to gamble, it's ironic indeed, but if he is addicted beyond reason, it can happen.
It's true that the feeling of chaos when you lose gambling is very painful but try to be mentally prepared to lose in gambling, because otherwise it can affect a bad mindset.

Losing makes us feel uncomfortable, it may take some time to accept the losses especially if you expect too much but then again, this is gambling and we have to accept that losing money is normal. Chasing for any loses might result to addiction and if you gamble too much, this may be the next problem you’ll be facing, to deal with your emotion and if you can’t control it you might ended up doing bad things. I remember also my friend before, they make a bad scene in casino because of too much disappointment with their loses, this can happen to you as well if you are not a disciplined gambler.

[BitcoinPanther]

There are several cases in my country of a gambler who becomes a motorcycle thief because he wants to gamble, it's ironic indeed, but if he is addicted beyond reason, it can happen.
It's true that the feeling of chaos when you lose gambling is very painful but try to be mentally prepared to lose in gambling, because otherwise it can affect a bad mindset.

Losing makes us feel uncomfortable, it may take some time to accept the losses especially if you expect too much but then again, this is gambling and we have to

Yeah, especially when the money lost is budgeted for households.  So it is always advised to gamble free money,  If we don't have free money for gambling then better not force it.  Else we will have lots of problems when the money is lost in gambling.  I have witnessed this kind of scenario from my neighbor.  The father probably has a compulsive gambling disorder since he cannot stop himself from gambling even though their money is enough for their food.  At the same time, I feel sorry for my friend since his father got hot-headed whenever his father loses.

[n0ne]

Not the problem gambler, even the normal one feels like dying once after experiencing big loss. Most of the time user finds difficulty in accepting the loss. With time a gambler get used to it. Even I have got this thinking when I was a new gambler and experienced a big loss. Even now when I experience loss my close ones easily find something had gone wrong with me. So, there is some behavioural change once after losses.