Will You Turn Down Your Old Friend

[uneng]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

Since I'm hypothetically under treatment I can't go to casinos in any hypothesis, otherwise I'm going against the treatment I'm strictly following for months already. I can't lose the progress made and I can't disappoint my family in first place. Those are the mainly goals and priorities in life.

If that long-time buddy is really my friend and want to see me, he will understand my situation, so we can schedule another kind of appointment in another place which doesn't involve betting. A friendship can't exist only in gambling environments, right?

[PX-Z]

A true buddy can understand if you say NO, and explain why, no ifs no buts.

It's not difficult to say that you are currently in treatment. What's the use being treated if you will just accept the invitation for "another round" in a casino, it doesn't make sense  to me.

[gabbie2010]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

There isn't any need to abandon my gambling addiction treatment to answer an old friend who is trying to pull me back to the same problem I am trying to quit, it's better I let him know that I am undergoing a rehabilitation procedure as result of gambling addiction, meanwhile I will prefers seeking an alternative place that has nothing to do with gambling where we can meet apart from visiting casino for reminiscing our old times, for a gambling addict to be undergoing such a treatment means it has gotten to a critical situation that needed a quick remedy or solution.

[goldkingcoiner]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

Of course turn him down. And if he knew about your gambling addiction then he also is a terrible friend for trying to sabotage your healing process. As far as friendship goes, that man is no friend to you and you should stay away from him, as he is toxic to your mental health.

However since you mentioned that only your family knows it, in this case you should tell your friend what you are going through. If he is supportive then that is a good friend. If he still tries to convince you to gamble again then keep away from him.

You are the only one in control. There will be temptation from all sides. Hopefully you can ignore that temptation and go about your day.

Good luck.

[madnessteat]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

As I understand it, if you do not often see a so-called friend, it means that you have lost common interests and he moved from the category of friends to acquaintances. So I don't think it makes sense to give up your goals for the sake of seeing this person. Of course it is your business but if I had a gambling addiction and struggled with it I would avoid visiting gambling houses by all means. 

[qwertyup23]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

It depends on my current situation but most likely, I would turn down his offer.

Imagine being treated for only two (2) months from gambling addiction. This part is very crucial given the fact that the withdrawal symptoms would kick in. I should refuse any temptation that would let me doubt my decision from undergoing rehabilitation in the first place. Even if my friend used to accompany me during my gambling days, he should know that being treated for addiction is a serious matter that he should respect.

Regardless of what my friend would feel, I would turn down his offer and focus on my self-development and growth. Like the famous said, prevention is always better than cure!

[m2017]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

I didn't quite understand. Did this situation really happen to you, or is it a hypothetical situation modeling?

Of course, if a player is being treated for gambling addiction, then visiting any casino is contraindicated for him, even with a friend, and without him. Therefore, I would refuse this offer of a friend, but this is not a reason to turn down this friend. The reason may arise later, after I explain to him about my treatment and the complete cessation of gambling. It will be necessary to watch and evaluate his reaction to this and behavior. If a friend treats my problem with understanding and doesn't persuade me to visit the casino, then the relationship with him will not change.

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I don't think there will be any major adverse effects on treatment for one day. If I have self control I can take it easily. Who doesn't have any self control  they may have problem in treatment . But going with an old friend for a day does not seem to be a bad thing because it's only for the entertainment purposes.

[Fredomago]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

Personally, I will turn him down as I already manage to divert my attention away from any gambling activities, a quick flashback to what I already forget will bring everything back and it will risk all the efforts of myself and my family who are supporting me to this journey, If he's really a true friend of mind he will understand my situation and maybe he will support me and we will do other things together away from any gambling activities.

That's how I will handle if this kind of situation comes up, I will think for the best and never to look back.

Addiction is a serious problem that needed to remove from your daily system.

[noormcs5]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

So why not tell your friend that you are in the process of getting treated for gambling addiction and may not be able to join him in the casino?
If the friend is a sincere one, he will surely not mind it and will appreciate your decision of getting rid of your gambling addiction.

On the other hand, if you go to the gambling casino to remember the old time, all your treatment will be in vain and you might have to start controlling yourself all over again.

[Hispo]

If he is my friend I would have no problem to be honest and tell him that I am going through rehabilitation, i would even thank him for the invitation and suggest to go and do other things which do not involve gambling. This is not about turning down my friend, it would be about not to disappoint my family which I apprecitate.Family is important, more important than having a good night in a casino.

[Zlantann]

Having  a nice time with a good old friend is an unforgettable experience that one can cherish for a lifetime. But you are fighting a more important fight against addiction. It is important not to loose all the gains you have made for just a night of fun because there is every tendency that you might become addicted just for that one night mistake. I would explain my condition to him and if he is insisting that I should come, then he might not have good intentions for him. But as a true friend I know he would understand and we can meet somewhere else.

[Fortify]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

If you are at the stage where you need treatment for a gambling addiction, then it is not something casual and have become a serious burden to your life. If that purpose was a genuine friend then you should be able to share that fact with them and they would easily be able to change the location to a more suitable place. Casinos are not the only place that you can have fun and catch up with someone, so it really is a bit of a boring question. If that old friend does not see the reason why you should avoid that location, then maybe it is time to move on or at least tell them you're not feeling ready so might need to delay it until some later date.

[Saint-loup]

A true buddy can understand if you say NO, and explain why, no ifs no buts.

It's not difficult to say that you are currently in treatment. What's the use being treated if you will just accept the invitation for "another round" in a casino, it doesn't make sense  to me.

I agree with you, if you manage to confess to him that you became a gambling addict and you can't go back to any casinos, he will never force you if he is a true friend. But it's better to ask for a self-exclusion from the casinos close to where you are living to avoid this kind of situation. It's the more efficient way to be sure to not come back into a casino again.

[kamvreto]

I also think that it's not gonna that much impact on treatment if when the purpose for meeting with an old friend and also for entertainment purposes. I don't think anyone would be that addicted to gambling for that

if it's just for entertainment and is still in the treatment or therapy period, of course it will trigger addiction again and it's useless to take treatment. an example of a drug user who is addicted and tries to stop by taking medication, then a friend comes to use it a little more. Of course it will return to its addiction. at least give space or distance to not touch the things that make him addicted, get rid of it first. if you just want to remember, of course it's just a story. People with extreme gambling addiction are very difficult to treat, need a lot of support.

[serjent05]

THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

I will refuse and turn his invitation down.  If he is a true friend he will understand my case.  It is not easy to admit gambling addiction and undergo treatment.  If  I accept the invitation, a relapse may happen so I need to be careful.  Besides, I bet he will understand my situation if I tell him.  We can enjoy our meeting in another way.

[cabron]

A treat for a night! Hell Yes!  This doesn't come very often.    Oh wait, you're undergoing treatment.
Its all up to you so I say don't be too hard, treat yourself for a night and pat yourself in the back. Quitting gambling can't be done in instantly, just like nicotine addiction, its done gradually and sometimes they start with chewing gum or ecigar.

But if you have to say No, then say it.  Just offer something else for you and your friend to do for the night to catch up.

[Alanaz]

Now we turn the question back, when you want to come at the invitation why do you undergo treatment to stop gambling
Actually, if it is true that you are serious about gambling you will not care about things like this because it can indirectly make you return to your addiction and the treatment that is carried out will be very useless.

[johhnyUA]

Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

Just change "casino" to "heroin" and everything will be even more funny  JOKE

To the main point: I would try to change activity with him. I doubt that people can have only one interest in their life, so you can tell your friend not to go to casino, but to the bar or something like that. If he really value you, he will accept your idea. If not - means he's not a friend for you.

[AmoreJaz]

Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.

Just change "casino" to "heroin" and everything will be even more funny  JOKE

To the main point: I would try to change activity with him. I doubt that people can have only one interest in their life, so you can tell your friend not to go to casino, but to the bar or something like that. If he really value you, he will accept your idea. If not - means he's not a friend for you.

exactly! just be upfront about what you're going thru. he will understand if he is indeed your friend. he may even suggest not to go there anymore. and if you are serious about changing your lifestyle, you will turn down your friend's offer. there are so many other activities that you can bond with. gambling is not the only thing that you can spend your quality time with. just think of your family also who are hoping that you will change for the betterment of yourself.