Do you think Color should be a limitation?

[Adbitco]

She sacrificed love and he came back and married five more wives... Yoruba love.

When World War II broke out David Oguntoye hid in a ship   and travelled  to Britain  to volunteer  for the Royal Air Force.

He  arrived  in Britain in June 1942,and was selected to train as a navigator in Canada for  four years.  Unfortunately  the time he was returning  to Britain  in 1946, the war had already  ended, which meant couldn't be   deployed  on the battlefield.

Instead   he was posted to Bicester Oxford   as a welfare officer for the Caribbean airmen stationed there.  In June of the same year  a young beautiful white  lady called  Dulcie King , also serving in the Royal Air Force ,  was   posted  to the same station to serve  as an education  instructor.

The two fell in love  and began courting  something  that shocked  the military. Interracial  marriages  were really resented in Britain, and to make it worse this was happening  in the military. Her commanding officer summoned  her and warned  her about going out with a Black person.

Most  of the  officers  disliked the fact that Dulcie had chosen a black boyfriend. Furthemore  it was Ministry  of Defence's   policy  that   interracial  relationships should  nor be allowed  to thrive in the military.  They even transferred her to another station  in an  attempt  to break the relationship, but the love was too strong.

On one occasion a group of airmen tried to attack David, but Dulcie intervened to protect him. The couple who were now  both  holding  the rank  of Flight  Sergeant,  continued to be seen together, and in October 1946 they attended a dance at Royal Air Force  Bicester.

To rub salt in the wound ,  for the first time they decided to hold each other  in public as other airmen  watched. “He sat on the arm of my chair with his arm ostentatiously around me. This, of course, was something we never normally did in public, but we intended to demonstrate unmistakably our relationship,” Dulcie recalled.

One month later the two decided to leave the Royal Air Force  and   got married  immediately  on 16 November  1946 despite the opposition from her parents. They both trained as lawyers  in London   before leaving  for Nigeria  in 1954 where they settled  permanently.   Because  he was considered a chief by  his tribe  Flight  Sergeant  David  went on to marry five other  wives , however,  this did not in anyway  affect their relationship.  She was contented  with being the first wife.

They went on to start  a law firm together  and in  1960,  she denounced  her British  citizenship.  In 1964, David  Oguntoye  was selected as a Court President while Dulcie  Oguntoye  became first a Magistrate and, in 1976, a High Court Judge. She was   the first woman on the Lagos State bench and the second female judge in Nigeria after Modupe Omo-Eboh.

When  David died in June 1997, she  took charge  as a  ‘benevolent matriarch’ to her late husband’s family until  her  death in  2018.

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My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

Please I need a straight forward answer without being biased over the situation.

[ThemePen]

My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

Love has no limitations.
It doesn't see.
The color.
The cast.
The height.
Or even Gender.

Because love is love.

In our country there is a quotation. First I will write in my country language and then translate it in English.

دل کا کیا ہے؟ دل تو گدھے پر بھی آجاتا ہے۔

Its mean Heart is Heart. Heart can fit on Donkey too.

Replacing heart with Love. We(means in our country) get this meaning from that quotation.
Love is love. Love can be with donkey too.

[btcbeograd]

No way it should be a limitation! The life is to short to stick to any kind of limitations.

[Majestic-milf]

 Love has several characteristics, and one of which is it's ability to not discriminate. Asides from being "in love", we need to also prove it. It's a verb and not a noun hence it's a doing word.
I see no need for color to be a limitation because whether black or white, it's still blood that flows through our veins.
 
 Limitations are only set when one has to follow a certain pattern or belief in my opinion.

[yazher]

My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

The thing is, it shouldn't be a hindrance for anyone no matter what color he has to pursue his dream no matter how big it is. But he should understand that in order to reach those dreams, he should work harder and dream bigger and be motivated to reach them. Our teacher told us back then that beautiful women are for handsome men and he just stopped right there. I said to myself, I'm not closing the door of the small chance of marrying a beautiful woman one day despite not being handsome but the reality came to me when I'm getting older that thing might not gonna happen for real. so I will just gonna consider looking for someone the same as me and love her as much as I gonna love a beautiful woman and do everything I can to make her the happiest woman in the world.

[Marykeller]

When love captures your heart, it comes with different feelings and emotions that you don't understand. It doesn't mind the colour or gender. Love is something no human has control over, it can make you go against your family or friends' wishes.

It surprises me, how some people still use the colour of their skin to decide who they want their friends or family member to get married to. Skin colour is supposed not to be a benchmark to define how happy or successful a human being can be in a marriage when there is love that coexists between the two.

[Moneyprism]

My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

of course not ,, we can love anyone regardless of what color he is .. life will be very short if we continue to worry about the color of our partner's skin ... regardless of what people comment on our choices ,, just let them comment, because who lives life is us not them

[Queentoshi]

My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

Please I need a straight forward answer without being biased over the situation.

What kind of answer do you expect to get, many people replying to this will not be too inclined to tell you how they fell but will tell you what you want to hear which is "love should have no limitation", when they know in their heart that they are still selective about who they love, and not just romantically but who they choose to show love to.

[BADecker]

Color absolutely should NOT be a limiting factor. But we kinda have it backwards.

In the visible-light area of the electromagnetic spectrum, white has all the colors, while black is absence of color.

 

[Mr.right85]

There is a huge difference between 1946 and 2022. My calculator gives me over 58 years difference and that's almost as old as Republic of Algeria and older than the Republic of Burundi.
Times have changed my friend and so has the people. In the days past, people acted this way because they didn't know any better. Sadly, we still have some of them in our world today. Those who believe in a far superior race and the truth is, the changes will get to them one day or to there generations.

Colour is genetic and depends on the place yiu are found in time. As much as your environment affects your being, it doesn't make you any less a human. There is nothing wrong between men of interracial relations.

[Dunamisx]

do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life?

No and i mean it when i say no, colour should not be a barrier to choosing a partner, compactibility should be the major concern, are the two intending couple compactible enough with each other? Have they try to sit down and make individual discoveries about themselves? Do they even go on a courtship to enjoy both the sweet and bitter experience of a relationship, some have ended up marrying their ethnicity colour but the marriage fails all because they were not compactible, love is a practical thing that must exist and regardless of colour, it can be found with a partner whom you're free and compactible with, while culture, parents and colour shouldn't be a barrier to a perfect match.

[BADecker]

People can think and make choices. But regarding nationalities, be careful that you know what you are getting into in your choice of a life partner of a different color. Apply the old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together."

[Techkoy407]

everyone has weaknesses and strengths and that is a gift from the almighty God, so people who like to insult because different races have different skin colors are people who lack tolerance because different skin colors or different races are not an obstacle, especially in matters of love is clear there are no obstacles whatsoever.

[iamsheikhadil]

Love is a mysterious feeling, there are hardly any choices we can make when it comes to loving someone I guess, just like we can't control our heart beats. Color of skin can be directly related to some chemicals and pigments present in the skin layers, morphological difference it is, not something that might stand as a hindrance when someone is falling in love with somebody I guess

[BADecker]

Regarding love, what is the difference between love and infatuation? Infatuationis something easy. True love can be difficult.

When a person has a crush on someone, the person is really looking at things that the other person remind him/her of. Take time to find out if the other person is really the way you like. Don't be tricked by your own imagination into thinking the other person is the way you think he/she is.

In the OP, it seems to have worked out well. Many similar get-togethers don't work so well. Takes grounding in life to make a good relationship.

[OgNasty]

Obviously color shouldn't be a limitation.  The idea of separating anyone based on the color of their skin is outrageous to me.  This is why I think the current liberal movement is to me extremely racist.  They keep wanting to divide and have special rights or access to college, etc.  I understand the black community has been wronged and the financial damage is lasting, but I think the way forward should not be to continue dividing with special privileges for any race.  Instead of this woke movement where everyone should learn to treat people differently, I'd prefer a sleep movement where anyone who mentions race is branded a racist while those who want an even playing ground for everyone going forward should be considered the "good" people.

Either way, comedians are the ones who will suffer. 

[Frankolala]

Color shouldn't be a barrier on loving,since you don't know who is the right woman for you. I am happy that this generation have understood this unlike the previous generation that believe in color and where you are from. I mean back in the days even in the year 2000 some persons still think color makes people different not knowing that we are all one.
 
 Our parents especially where the ones more serious about color because of what they have experienced or heard about in their past,but as the year keeps moving forward we ourselves now begin to see that its not true,that color means nothing in falling in love or in settling down with a lady. For the both air officers they understood this way back 1946, they were destined to be together for greatness. Love have no limitations.

[Naficopa]

Color shouldn't be a barrier on loving,since you don't know who is the right woman for you. I am happy that this generation have understood this unlike the previous generation that believe in color and where you are from. I mean back in the days even in the year 2000 some persons still think color makes people different not knowing that we are all one.
 
 Our parents especially where the ones more serious about color because of what they have experienced or heard about in their past,but as the year keeps moving forward we ourselves now begin to see that its not true,that color means nothing in falling in love or in settling down with a lady. For the both air officers they understood this way back 1946, they were destined to be together for greatness. Love have no limitations.

that is correct - in my life all the good things and images are black and white
To me colour is not the limitation - the real bound of life is the love that is not dependent on colous

[BADecker]

I read a science fiction book one time, where the aliens had eyesight that was very accurate. They could detect minute differences in colors. They based their alphabet and numbering system on colors and shades and hues of color. Color wasn't a limiting factor for them, but it would be for us.

[348Judah]

People can think and make choices. But regarding nationalities, be careful that you know what you are getting into in your choice of a life partner of a different color. Apply the old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together."

I admit this your point as a strong one, in addition to it, we are actually not against the combination here but rather compactibility, unity and understanding that could come aftermath, abiding by an entire different culture away from yours means turning a new life itself and could be somewhat difficult to adjust to, i will say this in contrary that if the two have been together for a long relationship or courtship and have a good understanding of each without minding their differences in culture and ways of live, then they are good to go, what we are after is the peace and joy after the marriage which is a lifetime journey.