Is there an effective way to stop a gambling-addicted person?

[Crypt0Gore]

Has anyone managed to stop their relatives from gambling addiction? I have a problem with my little brother, he is 29 and working for years already, the problem is he is so in debt that we are been called upon to come and bail him in a police station, he lied a lot about the debt and he can't even so some calculation on how he spent his own money, if you know what I mean, he works a lot but still broke, that kinda thing .

Later I found out that he is addicted to sports bets, he kept losing money and won't stop, he has lost up to 4650$, a loan, and his own money that he worked for.

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

[jackg]

How did you find it out? If he told you then maybe he wants help if you just came across it because he left his computer open or something then it'll be much harder to approach the issue.

Why don't you find a local gambling advice or debt advice charity and see if they know anything that might be useful (such as what normally leads people in that area to addiction, what sorts of things addicts can replace gambling with to still get a similar experience from it so they're less likely to go back to it).

[swogerino]

Has anyone managed to stop their relatives from gambling addiction? I have a problem with my little brother, he is 29 and working for years already, the problem is he is so in debt that we are been called upon to come and bail him in a police station, he lied a lot about the debt and he can't even so some calculation on how he spent his own money, if you know what I mean, he works a lot but still broke, that kinda thing .

Later I found out that he is addicted to sports bets, he kept losing money and won't stop, he has lost up to 4650$, a loan, and his own money that he worked for.

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

The only way to recover a relative from such a bad illness is to make him go to a local rehab center.Of course you cannot just drag him by force to the rehab center,it won't do any good if he is forced to go there but it will make wonders if you first talk to him like brother,not just one time but consistently,little by little each day and you will make sure to have an impact on him by giving him all sort of examples of why gambling is bad (just a google search will give you a lot of insights) and finally when you will see that he will let his guard down it is that golden time to bring him by his will to the rehab center.For me this is the only solution to such persons.

[Oshosondy]

You will need to advice him, give him real life stories about people that wanted to make it from gambling but later become something else, I have read many news about that. See if that would help. Losing so that big might have thought him a lesson. You have to let him realize how gambling can make someone to want to lose his life. That life is step by step for those that will make it. He thinks there is hope in gambling, that is why he wants to make money from it.

If he does not change, he needs a medical help. But I think he would change because of the losses he experienced.

[Plaguedeath]

When you have tried your best but it still doesn't change a lot, seek for a professional is the best choice.

The extreme strategy is kick him from your house and break him from family relationship, because you don't want to get dragged and responsible his huge debt isn't? right now you might afford his debt, but you wouldn't know in the future since an addict is tend to lie to get a lot money to gamble.

[Rruchi man]

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

It is very difficult trying to want to help someone who does not even look like they want help, or know that they need help. He is 29 and an adult already, so it may be difficult to help him you should know. But since he is your younger brother and because you are constantly drawn in to settle issues for him, you can talk to him if he will listen so he see's a reason to want to stop. If it is difficult to stop on his own, you can then proceed by recommending help for him from professionals. If everything does not work and you have the clear signal that he is unwilling to change, you let him be and leave him to life to teach him the lessons the harder way.

[bitbollo]

there are groups of people (something like anonymous alcoholics) that can provide some relief and helps.
try to search this in your area...

for sure, he need a professional help.
It's not matter that could be managed by you or other person but by some professional (maybe a team that have a look on whole aspects).
it's like to be "drug addicted" it's not to easy quit and moreover it's really hard avoid relapsing

[Die_empty]

Has anyone managed to stop their relatives from gambling addiction? I have a problem with my little brother, he is 29 and working for years already, the problem is he is so in debt that we are been called upon to come and bail him in a police station, he lied a lot about the debt and he can't even so some calculation on how he spent his own money, if you know what I mean, he works a lot but still broke, that kinda thing .

Later I found out that he is addicted to sports bets, he kept losing money and won't stop, he has lost up to 4650$, a loan, and his own money that he worked for.

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

A 29-year-old man is independent and cannot be coerced to change his way of life. The only thing you can do is persuade or encourage him to change his ways. You need to let him know the consequences of his action and what he can achieve if he controls his gambling behavior. If he refuses to change his ways and keeps incurring debt, he should be allowed to stay in the police station until he repays his loan. Maybe he can learn his lesson when nobody comes to bail him from police custody. You can also take him to a gambling psychologist to guide and counsel him on how to break free from addiction.

[Slow death]

Has anyone managed to stop their relatives from gambling addiction? I have a problem with my little brother, he is 29 and working for years already, the problem is he is so in debt that we are been called upon to come and bail him in a police station, he lied a lot about the debt and he can't even so some calculation on how he spent his own money, if you know what I mean, he works a lot but still broke, that kinda thing .

Later I found out that he is addicted to sports bets, he kept losing money and won't stop, he has lost up to 4650$, a loan, and his own money that he worked for.

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

according to the laws of several countries: when a person hurts another person, that person who hurt another person will respond criminally, the same applies when a person hurts his own body on purpose, so you can look for a doctor and that doctor can go with you to where your brother is, if your brother refuses to undergo tests with the doctor so that the doctor can assess whether he has 100% good mental conditions, then you can file a complaint with the court, the court will call your brother and will have an audience with him and force him to undergo an examination with the doctor

in case your brother denies it, then the court will hospitalize your brother using force, your brother will have to stay hospitalized until the doctor decides that he is in good condition to take care of himself and be fine, this is the only way to deal with it.

NOTE: do not be violent with your brother. don't put too much pressure on your brother, don't send your brother away. addiction is a disease

[Mauser]

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

That's a terrible story and I really hope you manage to find help. In my family we have no one who is addicted to gambling, so I can give you specific advice for that kind of addiction. But I can give you some insights into addictions in general. My uncle was addicted to alcohol for a long time. It took quite a while for us to even find out of his illness (his wife was drinking a lot too and they didn't tell it to anybody and did a good job of hiding it). Only after my grand mother found large sums of alcohol in their house we tried to help them. We did everything from interventions to hiding all alcohol, but nothing helped. Eventually he died of liver failure before even becoming 60 years old. You can't control the life of someone else, there will always be loopholes for them to fall back into their addiction if they don't want to change. My advice would be to try and make them understand that they need to change to get their life in order. It's not possible for us to change it for them. And if they really want to get better they should seek professional help. It's going to be a long way and he needs all the help he can get. Good luck.

[ethereumhunter]

You could try to keep him away from all his gambling-related activities by starting to keep an eye on him all the time. Don't let him look at the news or anything on his cell phone and try to stay close to him. But maybe you will feel disturbed by that because you have entered into his privacy, but you and your family do that because you and your family still love and care about him and don't want him to get in trouble again with gambling.

This is a difficult situation that we would never even imagine but we have to be firm with him because we want to help him solve his problem. Maybe you can talk to him heart to heart and hope he can tell the truth and you can try to go to a rehab center with him. What's important is that whatever the condition, you and your family don't leave him alone and keep helping him solve his problem.

[YOSHIE]

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

You guarantee your sister, at the police station, what are you doing to provide opportunities for your sister to bet/debt again in the future.

Question:
1. How many times has your brother been in trouble with the police, 1,2,3.
2. What case did your brother get caught, gambled or owed.

Now there are two problems that have happened to your younger brother, gambling and debt.
1. Gambling addiction:
Solution:1
You can put your brother into gambling rehabilitation, don't let him hang around and be friends with his gambling friends again, it could be even worse, because you have guaranteed it, he thinks later if I get caught again and get caught, I will guarantee it again brother.
Solution:2
If your younger sibling doesn't want to go to rehab, don't guarantee it anymore, if he gets caught again in the future, let him go to jail, make him a deterrent.

2. Debts:
Solution:1
Here it is clear your brother, owes money to gamble, if she wants to change and wants to be rehabilitated, pay her debts, but if she doesn't listen to your suggestions and advice, let her debt be borne and don't bail her out at the police station.

[Pierre 2]

I think family matters a lot against addiction honestly. You should be friendly towards him. He should definitely become more honest and open to you in my opinion. People who lie about their habits are always going to lose in life. Tell him you don't wanna mess his life but you wanna assist! Also I think it can the best option to buy him some kind of summer or winter holiday and go together. If he stays away from his damaging gambling addiction he may realize how healthy his life can become. If he asks you can buy him a therapy at psychologist so he can explain himself.

[iv4n]

A 29-year-old man is independent and cannot be coerced to change his way of life.

Exactly! If he doesn't want to change, then it is very difficult to reach him!

The only thing you can do is persuade or encourage him to change his ways. You need to let him know the consequences of his action and what he can achieve if he controls his gambling behavior. If he refuses to change his ways and keeps incurring debt, he should be allowed to stay in the police station until he repays his loan. Maybe he can learn his lesson when nobody comes to bail him from police custody. You can also take him to a gambling psychologist to guide and counsel him on how to break free from addiction.

Things can be very complicated... especially if his debts affect the entire household. I have experience with people "who simply don't listen", they only react with some kind of force. Sometimes it's the only way "to bring someone back to earth and reality". But even that doesn't work with everyone, some people are pretty stubborn and autodestructive. They usually wake up when they hit the rock bottom,  and after they destroy almost everything that can be destroyed around them... usually when it's too late.

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If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

Obviously, your brother needs a "wake-up" call. I don't know how much "power" you have over your brother and what you can really do to "wake him up and get him back on the right path"... Is there a possibility to control his finances and movements, can you move his focus on other things? Depending on how "deep" he is you will need to pay a lot of attention to bring him back on track. In any case, it's necessary to work with him, at first 24/7 probably, which is certainly neither easy nor simple.

You are close to him so I guess you should know him, his character and personality... think about it and try to find the best approach. Probably the most important is to not give up even without results at the beginning, sometimes it takes a lot of strength to stay calm in difficult situations and a lot of patience to reach out to someone. I wish you a lot of strength and luck to overcome this successfully.

[virasisog]

It will be hard to convince a gambling-addicted person to quit gambling if he isn't willing or well committed to changing his direction. Words and advice won't be effective for them.
The only thing that could release your brother from gambling addiction is to help him seek professional help. He already needs either rehabilitation or psychological medication. The best thing that you can do is to guide him and have the right approach because what he's going through isn't easy. He also needs family support so it will be easier for him to cope up with his condition.

[Yatsan]

Depends on the individual as others have mentioned and as we all know. Change comes with initiative right? No matter how you wish someone to stop something which would dragg him/her down, if initiative would be lacking then nothing qould happen. Seeking for professional help would also be advisable especially if there a severe need of it. Giving advice would also help but something which qould be suggested by licensed individuals, will be better. And for those who are a bit close to addiction; this industry is cruel simply because it involves money. It is that powerful. You'd sometimes taste the sweet victory but in a long run, it could be bitter. Break the idea that this activity is a shortcut to being rich because not because some people made it, same thing would happen to every one of us.

[xSkylarx]

I haven't tried to help someone, but I saw a documentary about a real-life female gambler who was addicted to it and sold all of their appliances for gambling; even the money supposed to be for bills was used to gamble, and her husband couldn't control her. The solution was to seek professional help and get her into a rehabilitation center to treat her addiction, though it took 6 months, I think, and it was a little expensive, but again, she was cured and back to herself. 

[aioc]

Has anyone managed to stop their relatives from gambling addiction? I have a problem with my little brother, he is 29 and working for years already, the problem is he is so in debt that we are been called upon to come and bail him in a police station, he lied a lot about the debt and he can't even so some calculation on how he spent his own money, if you know what I mean, he works a lot but still broke, that kinda thing .

Later I found out that he is addicted to sports bets, he kept losing money and won't stop, he has lost up to 4650$, a loan, and his own money that he worked for.

If there is any advice you can give me on how to approach this matter please help.

Unfortunately, if he doesn't want help you cannot help him, he is old enough and he should be responsible for himself, but just assure him that if ever he wants a way out you will all be there, it's hard to help someone even a brother if he doesn't want help, as long as he worked for the money he gambles, you cannot force him to undergo treatment if he doesn't want to, the only way is to talk to him in times that he is sober, only a professional can help him and laid out treatment for his addiction and it can only happen if there is a willingness on his part.

[Crypt0Gore]

How did you find it out? If he told you then maybe he wants help if you just came across it because he left his computer open or something then it'll be much harder to approach the issue.

Why don't you find a local gambling advice or debt advice charity and see if they know anything that might be useful (such as what normally leads people in that area to addiction, what sorts of things addicts can replace gambling with to still get a similar experience from it so they're less likely to go back to it).

He failed to tell us the truth, until I got a hold of his smartphone and find out many games he played and lost money, he made us believed that he got robbed, this pissed me off and I had to break his privacy.

Judging from his phone history, this has been going on for over a year now and we don't know, I got into a mess in early 2022 and I bailed him with my money and paid what he owe, I am surprised he did another.

[bittraffic]

This works with my cousin when he got addicted to drugs. It may be different from gambling addiction but same as they still could go to jail.
Sometimes a person needs a real hard lesson in life to widely open his eyes. Let him rot in jail for just a week and he'll realize how bad it could be if it takes longer. Him in prison is another kind of world.

My cousin Mikael got addicted to drugs in high school, eventually tangled with a wrong crowd and start selling meth to pay his debt to his dealer. When he got caught his brothers didn't bail him. After 2 years he got out, he seem to have realize it. Turned his life around. Now with a regular job and got 3 kids after it.