Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[madnessteat]

                            I wasn't threaten by anybody but Myself ,


 Back in the days when i am still super active in Physical gambling (as I live in a community where gambling is bread and butter and part of daily living)

there comes a time when i am thinking of what will happen to me and my family in the future as I never win big and keep losing .

my weekly payroll has been spending and risking for gambling and ending we only have enough for table and no savings at all.

then crypto come to my life in which made easy for me to connect in gambling but realized that I am missing more than half of my life , that is when i start accumulating crypto and lessen my gambling vices , and yes now I only gamble when i have spare money and not to seek to become instant millionaire .

Congratulations on your mind triumphing over the desire to get rich quick. Not all gamblers can make it.

I also had a time when I spent a lot of money on gambling because I could not control my desires. I realized that I was overstepping my bounds but gambling had a greater influence on me. Over time I learned to control myself and gamble for fun. But it took me a year.

[tusandii]

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Congratulations on your mind triumphing over the desire to get rich quick. Not all gamblers can make it.

I also had a time when I spent a lot of money on gambling because I could not control my desires. I realized that I was overstepping my bounds but gambling had a greater influence on me. Over time I learned to control myself and gamble for fun. But it took me a year.

He is a true winner because he managed to escape the negative effects of gambling and was able to master gambling as a place of entertainment, not a place for profit.

Lots of gamblers also experience the same thing, it's just that they fail when they are in the process of achieving it, but you can do this in just one year, that's really extraordinary.
I have to be a complete broke person to stop spending huge amounts of money while gambling.
But I am very grateful because with the bitter experience that happened, I now have real awareness and understanding for gambling.

[carlisle1]

That's a funny story but something serious at the same time. Lol. I haven't been in that kind of situation. I haven't been secretly gambling. My family knows I gamble once in a while. That's not really a big deal because I am not an addict gambler. I gamble just for fun. Although sometimes I lose a good deal of money, it isn't something that is intended for something else. So if a significant amount is lost, there's still food, bills are still paid, etc. No serious damage done.

I’m glad that you aren’t addicted to gambling and also just doing it for fun. That’s how it’s been for me since a long time ago, It’s just a risky activity and you shouldn’t take it seriously as a source of money imo. As far as you ain’t surpassing your limit and paying your bills as well as your family knows about it then it’s fine.

That's exactly what we have to do with gambling. We should not sacrifice money for everyday life just to gamble because, after all, we have to survive and by having money, we can survive. But if we instead use the money to gamble in the hope that we can win, that is not recommended because gambling means that we can lose at any time and when we do lose, we want to recover that loss. And we have to gamble with limits to avoid all the problems that will arise later.

That's the why as a gambler we need to have a peaceful mindset which is we need to control ourselves and gamble using our exist money because once we get money from our daily need and play gambling because we have the mindset that once we bet we will win then that's a bad idea as we all know that in the world of gambling  there's no assurance that in everytime we bet we gain money. Because the outcome is very unpredictable.

And most of the time, the outcome went in the other direction, meaning to say that the result is more favorable with the
casino and not on your side.

Better to have the right mindset and I agree when using spare money, you can treat it as part of your enjoyment or a payment of being entertained. Instead of trying your luck to keep seeking for the right patterns and strategy to increase your bankroll.

More on money making mindset will lead you to addiction and chances of having worse experience to the point that someone will
threaten you.

[Fundamentals Of]

That's a funny story but something serious at the same time. Lol. I haven't been in that kind of situation. I haven't been secretly gambling. My family knows I gamble once in a while. That's not really a big deal because I am not an addict gambler. I gamble just for fun. Although sometimes I lose a good deal of money, it isn't something that is intended for something else. So if a significant amount is lost, there's still food, bills are still paid, etc. No serious damage done.

It is very wrong when we are been forced to stop gambling. Gambling is something that we need to decide to stop if we really want to stop gambling but not someone telling us to stop gambling or threatening us in one way or the other to stop gambling.

It might sound wrong to you but there might be certain cases when it has to be done. In the story of OP's friend, I think it's just right and fair that the wife will have to do something drastic in order to make her husband understand how serious the situation is.

I agree with the wife's decision. At least she's giving her husband a chance. She could have just leave him. He has a family and he's been secretly wasting money on gambling. That shouldn't be condoned. That's a kind of irresponsibility that could destroy the entire family.

[rendravolt]

It is very wrong when we are been forced to stop gambling. Gambling is something that we need to decide to stop if we really want to stop gambling but not someone telling us to stop gambling or threatening us in one way or the other to stop gambling. There are people that gamble for fun like you are hi but it is not good when we become too focus as a gambler. Gambling is not something we need to do with our common sense and we should not become too focus and addicted to it like the way many of us see gambling to be an activities that we needed to engage in that will give us the kind of profits that we want.

Indeed, sometimes there are gamblers who do it because they just want to have fun, but there are also many who gamble hoping to make a lot of money and that is what sometimes makes people misinterpret the existing perception. I think if gamblers make bets continuously it will not be good and will actually destroy their mentality and life. I think maybe we should be able to limit gambling activities and replace it with healing in a cool and quiet place so that we will get a clear mind.

[molsewid]

It is very wrong when we are been forced to stop gambling. Gambling is something that we need to decide to stop if we really want to stop gambling but not someone telling us to stop gambling or threatening us in one way or the other to stop gambling. There are people that gamble for fun like you are hi but it is not good when we become too focus as a gambler. Gambling is not something we need to do with our common sense and we should not become too focus and addicted to it like the way many of us see gambling to be an activities that we needed to engage in that will give us the kind of profits that we want.

Indeed, sometimes there are gamblers who do it because they just want to have fun, but there are also many who gamble hoping to make a lot of money and that is what sometimes makes people misinterpret the existing perception. I think if gamblers make bets continuously it will not be good and will actually destroy their mentality and life. I think maybe we should be able to limit gambling activities and replace it with healing in a cool and quiet place so that we will get a clear mind.

They can continue to play without going to end it , they just need to disciplined themselves and they need to make sure they will not surpass their limits and it won't hurt their family as well because sometimes they will think that it can be a passive income so they will bet and bet until they don't have money anymore , I remember my uncle's friend who has been arrested because he is being reported by someone who he took a loan.

[Kasabus]

That's a funny story but something serious at the same time. Lol. I haven't been in that kind of situation. I haven't been secretly gambling. My family knows I gamble once in a while. That's not really a big deal because I am not an addict gambler. I gamble just for fun. Although sometimes I lose a good deal of money, it isn't something that is intended for something else. So if a significant amount is lost, there's still food, bills are still paid, etc. No serious damage done.

It is very wrong when we are been forced to stop gambling. Gambling is something that we need to decide to stop if we really want to stop gambling but not someone telling us to stop gambling or threatening us in one way or the other to stop gambling.

It might sound wrong to you but there might be certain cases when it has to be done. In the story of OP's friend, I think it's just right and fair that the wife will have to do something drastic in order to make her husband understand how serious the situation is.

I agree with the wife's decision. At least she's giving her husband a chance. She could have just leave him. He has a family and he's been secretly wasting money on gambling. That shouldn't be condoned. That's a kind of irresponsibility that could destroy the entire family.

Indeed! It will be a much different scenario if you were the one who have to make a choice because your marriage is now on the line because of your gambling habit, that kind of situation can be avoided though if the OP's friend is mature enough to confess what he is doing because in marriage, it's all about transparency because surely you don't want the same thing to happen to you because your wife is having a secret without your knowledge. We never know but there is a huge chance that your wife will understand you and let you be you, it's just that the wife was overwhelmed about what she just knew.

[len01]

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It might sound wrong to you but there might be certain cases when it has to be done. In the story of OP's friend, I think it's just right and fair that the wife will have to do something drastic in order to make her husband understand how serious the situation is.

I agree with the wife's decision. At least she's giving her husband a chance. She could have just leave him. He has a family and he's been secretly wasting money on gambling. That shouldn't be condoned. That's a kind of irresponsibility that could destroy the entire family.

responding to the OP story, it's actually only natural for his wife to give a warning like that because a wife wants the best for her family and he as a husband has the responsibility to provide for his wife and children, not just wasting his time and money on gambling. so I don't really think his wife is selfish but she wants a better future with her husband.
but sometimes someone who is already addicted to them will continue to gamble without thinking about who will block him and what's worse can leave his wife for gambling.

[Shamm]

It is very wrong when we are been forced to stop gambling. Gambling is something that we need to decide to stop if we really want to stop gambling but not someone telling us to stop gambling or threatening us in one way or the other to stop gambling. There are people that gamble for fun like you are hi but it is not good when we become too focus as a gambler. Gambling is not something we need to do with our common sense and we should not become too focus and addicted to it like the way many of us see gambling to be an activities that we needed to engage in that will give us the kind of profits that we want.

Indeed, sometimes there are gamblers who do it because they just want to have fun, but there are also many who gamble hoping to make a lot of money and that is what sometimes makes people misinterpret the existing perception. I think if gamblers make bets continuously it will not be good and will actually destroy their mentality and life. I think maybe we should be able to limit gambling activities and replace it with healing in a cool and quiet place so that we will get a clear mind.

That is not a good habit or let say that is not a good mindset because gambling can not provide daily income and we are all know that everyone of of us who try to gamble we can not get a consistent income unlike in our daily jobs. But gambling can make us happy or let say gambling can be a stress reliever cause we all know once we can win we can think that( This is it, we are going to bet more and win more. But in reality we can not predict the  outcome.

[slapper]

That's the why a a gambler we need to have a peaceful mindset which is we need to control ourselves and gamble using our exist money because once we get money from our daily need and play gambling because we have the mindset that once we bet we will win then that's a bad idea as we all know that in the world of gambling  there's no assurance that in everytime we bet we gain money. Because the outcome is very unpredictable.

That's why we have self-control so we don't spend much money on gambling. Gambling is okay, but with good self-control, we can manage spending. And for married people, you should really manage family expenses and not interfere with family finances just to gamble and chase victory. We will never always be able to win so we have to remember that and only gamble for fun. Every time we gamble, we can win or lose, so if we manage spending for gambling, we won't have any difficulties.

You've painted the situation in stark, binary terms: exercise self-discipline, keep an eye on your budget, and don't let gaming drain your savings. Good work, however I'd argue it's too simplistic. Although self-restraint is essential, maybe the problem has more systemic causes. It's interesting how people are expected to take responsibility for their own actions yet the institutions that encourage harmful ones are often ignored. What if we imagined a society in which gambling was not the norm and where people were actively encouraged to seek excitement in other ways? While we're on the subject of absurdity, think about the thrill of placing a wager on whether or not the sun will shine the following day, or the mirth of losing a wager on whether a leaf will fall from a tree. What a wide range of emotions, from elation to despair, would be available to test. In the end, isn't real triumph found in knowing one's own limitations and accepting life's uncertainty?

[nara1892]

responding to the OP story, it's actually only natural for his wife to give a warning like that because a wife wants the best for her family and he as a husband has the responsibility to provide for his wife and children, not just wasting his time and money on gambling. so I don't really think his wife is selfish but she wants a better future with her husband.
but sometimes someone who is already addicted to them will continue to gamble without thinking about who will block him and what's worse can leave his wife for gambling.

This is quite interesting to me because where I live many households are destroyed because of gambling. Whether you realize it or not, the problem here is that my work as an Exchanger provides withdrawal and deposit services (24 hours a day). Of course, I don't aim to facilitate people's gambling.

This scenario continued when many residents blamed me. But I only work and don't know when many of them make cash deposits/withdrawals for gambling activities. Thus causing tension between me and the gambler's wife. Regarding this thread, it is almost the same case, so I also asked the preacher a question and wanted to hear other people's views.

If the problem is like the one above, am I here in the wrong position?

[jostorres]

That's a funny story but something serious at the same time. Lol. I haven't been in that kind of situation. I haven't been secretly gambling. My family knows I gamble once in a while. That's not really a big deal because I am not an addict gambler. I gamble just for fun. Although sometimes I lose a good deal of money, it isn't something that is intended for something else. So if a significant amount is lost, there's still food, bills are still paid, etc. No serious damage done.

I believe the guy in the story also had everything covered, there were no issues related to finances in their household, and his wife was probably getting enough for herself and to run the house, but what was broken was her trust and that was definitely the reason why she decided to do something like this because we all know that women react a bit differently about every situation, sometimes their reactions are too harsh, sometimes very soft and sometimes surprising as well.

I personally don't blame the lady for taking such a step because she probably had believed in him her whole life and definitely didn't expect to come to know about something this shocking which the husband has been keeping from her and never ever told her what he has been doing on her back.

[ethereumhunter]

The system is difficult; we has to confront favorable conditions in gambling while applying new techniques that are beneficial to us. We have responsibilities and ought to step in and deliver where we are called upon; most of us are married and have children; we are unable to depend on gambling to provide for our families; rather, we need the basic skills to use our gambling earnings to invest in another business. Self-control is absolutely necessary for gambling; with this attribute, one would be confident enough to refrain from gambling for a day, because we all have our daily budgets to achieve from the system.

Actually, this is communication between us and our families and not hiding our activities in gambling. If they find out we gamble and know we can control our gambling, they may accept it and stay with us so we don't cross the line. But it will be difficult if we decide to make gambling a source of income because it will be difficult to get it. Self-control is really needed so without having self-control, we will only experience big loss. And what is even worse, we can develop a severe gambling addiction.

You've painted the situation in stark, binary terms: exercise self-discipline, keep an eye on your budget, and don't let gaming drain your savings. Good work, however I'd argue it's too simplistic. Although self-restraint is essential, maybe the problem has more systemic causes. It's interesting how people are expected to take responsibility for their own actions yet the institutions that encourage harmful ones are often ignored. What if we imagined a society in which gambling was not the norm and where people were actively encouraged to seek excitement in other ways? While we're on the subject of absurdity, think about the thrill of placing a wager on whether or not the sun will shine the following day, or the mirth of losing a wager on whether a leaf will fall from a tree. What a wide range of emotions, from elation to despair, would be available to test. In the end, isn't real triumph found in knowing one's own limitations and accepting life's uncertainty?

That's what we have to know, learn, and do so that we don't experience any problems with gambling. But sadly, many people are compelled to gamble more so they will spend more money. They would even secretly use money for their families and not tell the truth. And when the family finds out, it will cause anger and maybe they will threaten us to stop immediately. And when that person loves his family more, he can stop and leave gambling. But if not, he would still be gambling secretly. But actually, we don't need to feel threatened by other people to stop, but it requires awareness from us to stop gambling.

[Sakanwa]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

[Shamm]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I am agree with this Some gamblers not an addict but a risk taker because they will bet their money in casino so that they can win a good amount and have enough money for their needs which is still a pretty good mindset.  But in the other hand gambling is unpredictable and if your aim is to win but there's a small percentage of winning then after your loss you will bet again and again until you realize that so much money you've been loss.

[Hispo]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

[Cling18]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

There are really religious families that don't allow their kids to gamble not just totally because of the religious belief but because as parents, they know what's best for their kids since they're aware of its risks.
They might have disowning their children as a threat but I guess it's just their way of warning their children to stay away from gambling. However, I don't think they would still that to their adult children especially f they could see that they're gambling respnsibly. Parents only want to protect their family because they know how gambling abuse could ruin lives

[Fatunad]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

There are really religious families that don't allow their kids to gamble not just totally because of the religious belief but because as parents, they know what's best for their kids since they're aware of its risks.
They might have disowning their children as a threat but I guess it's just their way of warning their children to stay away from gambling. However, I don't think they would still that to their adult children especially f they could see that they're gambling respnsibly. Parents only want to protect their family because they know how gambling abuse could ruin lives

Comparing up in between experiences and real life situations awareness then we parents or adults does have that different level when it comes to this on which it would be normal that we do know on whats best for our children if ever we do have our own family. Threatening is really one of the most common way for parents on giving out warning into their children which i wont say its a bad way or method on doing so but the best thing or add up is on teaching them about the cons and effects if ever there's someone who would really be engaging to it. On the time that they would really be fully aware about those risks then it would common sensibly they would
avoid it on the time that they would really be able to encounter it. It is really just a matter on how you would really be handling out on every meme of your family. If it turns out that you are the ones who are addicted
and you haven't been telling your wife about spending or savings on the money you are using on gambling then it would really be creating such conflict and if you dont like on getting those warnings
or threats on being leaved behind then better to be transparent when it comes to finances because women are really that keen when it comes to this regard.

[Hispo]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

There are really religious families that don't allow their kids to gamble not just totally because of the religious belief but because as parents, they know what's best for their kids since they're aware of its risks.
They might have disowning their children as a threat but I guess it's just their way of warning their children to stay away from gambling. However, I don't think they would still that to their adult children especially f they could see that they're gambling respnsibly. Parents only want to protect their family because they know how gambling abuse could ruin lives

Sometimes I feel it is rather about keeping their religious values close to them. In the case of muslims, I think there could be some of them which are aware one can gamble responsibly but choose not to do so because what their sacred book, the Koran, says.

In the case of Christianity is more flexible, as it depends on the particular ramification of Christianity ones belongs to, the conservative Christians would go as far as forbidding gambling, alcohol and even look at women who one could find attractive.

In my personal opinion, it would better if one just explain the facts to one's children using some simple mathematics and when they grow up, then explain the laws of probabilities to them.

[n0ne]

We are been threatened to stop gambling only when we are observed making loses in every game we stake although it is not something expected to be gaining always that is why it is termed GAMBLING. I can remember while we were still kids our parents would not want to see us in any gambling hall and will even threaten to disown us at a point if you are been caught gambling you will be troubled and may even decide not to go home but as time goes on they began to understand the reasons for our interest in gambling and also discovered that we were never addict but risk takers

I think that disowning one child for that reason is going a little bit too far, from my point of view.  Perhaps, It is something I would expect to see in families which have very deep religious roots, both Islamic and Christian. Actually, very conversative Christians do not allow their children to play table games which those include a dice, because in their eyes, their children and being slowly being pushed towards gambling through Monopoly, Ludo, etc. To me does not make much sense, but to each their own...

There are really religious families that don't allow their kids to gamble not just totally because of the religious belief but because as parents, they know what's best for their kids since they're aware of its risks.
They might have disowning their children as a threat but I guess it's just their way of warning their children to stay away from gambling. However, I don't think they would still that to their adult children especially f they could see that they're gambling respnsibly. Parents only want to protect their family because they know how gambling abuse could ruin lives

This happens and recently one incident that took place in Nigeria is posted on our forum. The son have won a jackpot out of gambling, and his father requested him to give it back to the gambling company. The son did so, and more discussion came out of it. What might be the reason behind the father's decision. It can be to teach the kid about the value of money, gambling is against religious belief, he might get addicted and never focus on work and lead the life. Many things and the very primary one is to make the kid understand the negative part of gambling which we won't realise at the beginning.