Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[Wakate]

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Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Gambling actually won't destroy a relationship if you're not addicted to it. If you can still control and use spare money, there should be no problem with that. The problem is when you ignore your partner and think that gambling is far more important than them, that's the problem. That's why responsibility in relationships is important, especially when you are a gambler, between gambling activities and your home life must be balanced.

Gambling addict is one of the big challenges a lot of relationship are facing and sometimes it could make people to lose this business and relationship if care is not taken. I have seen different relationships battle to be steady because of the gambling addictions of there partners. It is very important for us not to allowing gambling to affect our relationship because this alone can make things more difficult for us and this rest of our families. We need to work hard to keep our relationship safe from the stress of our own gambling fault.

[Doan9269]

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Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Gambling actually won't destroy a relationship if you're not addicted to it. If you can still control and use spare money, there should be no problem with that. The problem is when you ignore your partner and think that gambling is far more important than them, that's the problem. That's why responsibility in relationships is important, especially when you are a gambler, between gambling activities and your home life must be balanced.

Gambling addict is one of the big challenges a lot of relationship are facing and sometimes it could make people to lose this business and relationship if care is not taken. I have seen different relationships battle to be steady because of the gambling addictions of there partners. It is very important for us not to allowing gambling to affect our relationship because this alone can make things more difficult for us and this rest of our families. We need to work hard to keep our relationship safe from the stress of our own gambling fault.

It is better to take the advise if people advise someone to stop gambling because of this two things:

1. Not everyone that sees you doing the right thing in a wrong way will approach to to correct you, they know you're not on the right track but will either sit and be watching you till you enter a ditch or awaits for the day you will be shamed in the public, but those that walk up to you to correct you are the ones that love you even though it may looks annoying to you.

2. It may not come in a form of threatening to some gamblers while some it may actually be a threat to withdraw, either of the ways, we should known that too much of everything is bad, we can learn from others and also be corrected by anyone as long as we are not doing it the expected ways.

[LUCKMCFLY]

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Yes this is important for every relationships. We must tell everything that we are planning to do to our partner because this helps to build trust although sometimes there are partners that won't let their partner to play gambling.

We should obey it if we truly love them. There are still other alternatives out there which are also fun and profitable just like gambling and I am sure some of them will be alright for our partners. For most partners, gambling with small amount has never been an issue but they will only get angry if you gamble huge because they think it will cause a problem to you later on and will possibly affect your relationships.

Gambling actually won't destroy a relationship if you're not addicted to it. If you can still control and use spare money, there should be no problem with that. The problem is when you ignore your partner and think that gambling is far more important than them, that's the problem. That's why responsibility in relationships is important, especially when you are a gambler, between gambling activities and your home life must be balanced.

Gambling addict is one of the big challenges a lot of relationship are facing and sometimes it could make people to lose this business and relationship if care is not taken. I have seen different relationships battle to be steady because of the gambling addictions of there partners. It is very important for us not to allowing gambling to affect our relationship because this alone can make things more difficult for us and this rest of our families. We need to work hard to keep our relationship safe from the stress of our own gambling fault.

It is better to take the advise if people advise someone to stop gambling because of this two things:

1. Not everyone that sees you doing the right thing in a wrong way will approach to to correct you, they know you're not on the right track but will either sit and be watching you till you enter a ditch or awaits for the day you will be shamed in the public, but those that walk up to you to correct you are the ones that love you even though it may looks annoying to you.

2. It may not come in a form of threatening to some gamblers while some it may actually be a threat to withdraw, either of the ways, we should known that too much of everything is bad, we can learn from others and also be corrected by anyone as long as we are not doing it the expected ways.

When there is a very important relationship, yes, you have to tell some things, but you also have to have some privacy, I couldn't tell everything, you always have to leave some mystery and that so that you can continue the attraction process, without However, when it comes to gambling, casinos, some women do not see it well, however, some things must remain in suspense, a mystery, women like that too, not being totally deciphered, because for them It would turn into something very boring, especially when it comes to this type of casino stuff.

[dezoel]

The wife or girlfriend must be realistic about the gambling activities carried out by their partner, when they prohibit their partner from gambling, they also do not need to demand anything from their winnings. Hiding gambling activity from wife or girlfriend right of a husband, as long as the household needs are sufficient and the wife's maintenance costs are not lacking, the wife does not need to intervene with her husband in something that the husband does.
It needs a turning point from everything you said at the beginning of the topic, it must be traced to their financial condition while their husband were gambling. Financial health in the household is the responsibility of the husband, if all of that has been fulfilled, the husband can do anything to entertain himself after feeling tired at work.

I know that everyone has the right to do anything to entertain themselves as long as it is not negatively affecting something else directly or indirectly. The husband might have been providing for the family and everything, and his gambling was probably not affecting anything at all until he was caught hiding it from his wife which I find unethical because the relationship between a husband and a wife should be pure and sincere relationship where there should be no space for dishonesty and hiding things like this.

I don't find the wife being wrong in this situation because if the same thing was done by the wife and her husband had discovered later on that his wife has been gambling or has been doing something behind his back without letting him know, I'm sure the reaction would be more severe than of this wife.

[Jody.Drummer]

I wish I had someone who had also threatened me when I was at the peak of my gambling addiction but mine was different, I had to learn how to stop it the hard way and I lost of a lot things and like what they alway say experience is the best teacher which I have come to realize the reality of that speech.

In this case the woman is just doing what every reasonable woman would do and thats to scold him and threatened to stop his gambling before it turns out late because the after effect is probably going to be experience by both party.

I don't know what makes you feel like this has never happened to you and it is your privacy I have no right to dig into it much deeper but when in this case we feel we are alone it is clear that it will be more difficult than imagined .
Even though gambling addiction is sometimes said to be like a disgrace if it is told, but when we are no longer able to hold it in ourselves, it would be better if it is told to the closest person, it can be family or partner, maybe even a comrade. can still be done.
The problem is that many feel that those who are addicted cannot do that just because they think they are capable but in the end they feel they are standing alone in the face of a harsh reality.

[wxa7115]

I wish I had someone who had also threatened me when I was at the peak of my gambling addiction but mine was different, I had to learn how to stop it the hard way and I lost of a lot things and like what they alway say experience is the best teacher which I have come to realize the reality of that speech.

In this case the woman is just doing what every reasonable woman would do and thats to scold him and threatened to stop his gambling before it turns out late because the after effect is probably going to be experience by both party.

While this story has a happy ending, as the husband was able to mend the relationship with his wife and leave gambling behind, it is not rare for a person that is addicted to gambling to ignore those threats, and this leaves the other spouse with a monumental problem, do they make good on their threat or not?

If they refuse to leave then the addicted gambler knows those were empty threats and they will never work on them again, but if the spouse leaves then the addicted gambler could fall even further into addiction, compounding a problem which was already bad to begin with.

[ethereumhunter]

I wish I had someone who had also threatened me when I was at the peak of my gambling addiction but mine was different, I had to learn how to stop it the hard way and I lost of a lot things and like what they alway say experience is the best teacher which I have come to realize the reality of that speech.

In this case the woman is just doing what every reasonable woman would do and thats to scold him and threatened to stop his gambling before it turns out late because the after effect is probably going to be experience by both party.

While this story has a happy ending, as the husband was able to mend the relationship with his wife and leave gambling behind, it is not rare for a person that is addicted to gambling to ignore those threats, and this leaves the other spouse with a monumental problem, do they make good on their threat or not?

If they refuse to leave then the addicted gambler knows those were empty threats and they will never work on them again, but if the spouse leaves then the addicted gambler could fall even further into addiction, compounding a problem which was already bad to begin with.

There is no need for someone who can threaten us to get out of gambling because that is based on intention. If we intend to stop gambling, we will try it. But sadly, not many gamblers who are addicted to gambling intend to stop gambling even if they receive threats from the people they care about. They may be more concerned with gambling than the people they care about and this is the cause of many families being destroyed because of gambling. The problem of gambling addiction seems to be a serious problem because it is related to many things that might also become other big problems. So maybe what the woman did was right based on her situation and condition.

[madnessteat]

I wish I had someone who had also threatened me when I was at the peak of my gambling addiction but mine was different, I had to learn how to stop it the hard way and I lost of a lot things and like what they alway say experience is the best teacher which I have come to realize the reality of that speech.

In this case the woman is just doing what every reasonable woman would do and thats to scold him and threatened to stop his gambling before it turns out late because the after effect is probably going to be experience by both party.

I don't know what makes you feel like this has never happened to you and it is your privacy I have no right to dig into it much deeper but when in this case we feel we are alone it is clear that it will be more difficult than imagined .
Even though gambling addiction is sometimes said to be like a disgrace if it is told, but when we are no longer able to hold it in ourselves, it would be better if it is told to the closest person, it can be family or partner, maybe even a comrade. can still be done.
The problem is that many feel that those who are addicted cannot do that just because they think they are capable but in the end they feel they are standing alone in the face of a harsh reality.

Any one of us can step out of line without even noticing it. In the case of gambling this can lead to dire consequences. It is necessary to understand that if you are weak in spirit, and not able to control yourself and your gambling, then you are not recommended to gamble without the supervision of a person who can stop you. This can be your spouse, brother or friend, but in my opinion a very important condition is that this person is not keen on gambling in order to soberly assess the situation.

[Negotiation]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, rather I have been the one who threatened someone to stop gambling else I will restrain the financial assistance I offer the person

How can a wife, girlfriend or parent threaten you to stop gambling if you yourself are always secretive and never tell about the gambling activities that you are doing.
If someone borrows some money from you to gamble then you can threaten him to stop but he doesn't seem like he will listen to the threat and instead goes elsewhere to borrow money.
A gambler who has the courage to borrow money to play capital can be said to be an addict so that he will never listen to threats or advice of any kind.
I am fed up with such a gambler and if my position were you, I would tell him to walk away and say enjoy your stupidity as a gambler until you feel misery.

I agree it is true that when gamblers borrow money, threats do not help them, it becomes their habit. Therefore being away from these people, good gambling addicts do not hear anything. It is normal for wife and parents to threaten to gamble because nowadays gambling addicts are at risk and destroy everything in their family. But now online gambling is more trending. If you play as a means of entertainment, they will not know anything if you do not tell your family.

[LUCKMCFLY]

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't blame the woman for acting that way because that is exactly what every good woman who loves his husband will do after she have noticed he is spending more time on gambling than the family and losing more money that ought to have been used for the upkeep of the family on gambling. Because to me, it's only been once that someone have asked me to stop gambling, and that was my girlfriend years back after she noticed a change in my gambling habit as I was so desperate to for money, and that led me to lose control over my little money simply because I was hoping for more, and at first I didn't take her serious, but it was later I had a rethink to now reduce how much time I now spend on gambling.

A good woman will certainly be able to take care of her household well too but that depends on the attitude of her husband. If the husband can listen to the advice of his wife and start changing for the better, it will change his family life for the better. But if her husband instead spends his time gambling, it will not be good for the family. And even though her husband can get a big win, it seems like it won't be worth it if the husband doesn't share the winning money with his wife. And if his wife asks her husband to stop or reduce his gambling time, the husband should be able to obey his wife because it is for the good of himself and his family.

This can happen as long as the couple understands each other and they know what things they can do and with the help of the other, the wife can ask him to stop the game , but the man says no , because it is his means of fun, to be able to de-stress, to spend a different time, and that is acceptable, in every relationship sometimes you need your own space, so this type of thing can happen for better or worse, when there is an established family , for example children , baby , child , you must be the most responsible man and know that if you Play too much and lose things at home will be out of balance and those who will Suffer or the Children, then I think that for them it is worth Controlling yourself.

[Distinctin]

Wife knows best. 

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

At least you've got your wife on your back and she's there to monitor you if you're doing good or not. She just want to moderate you from gambling and that's typical with wives that's concern to their husbands.

Just like to the friend of OP, it's needed to give that ultimatum or else that guy won't stop and will continue to hide things from her.

True. It’s a good thing that you have your wife with you who’s willing to correct you whenever she sees some irresponsible acts of you. But with OP’s friend, his wife’s decision is already expected since he has been dishonest on her in the first place. And if his wife will tolerate that, he will end up completely addicted in gambling and gambling addiction might only ruin their marriage at the end of the day.

[Maslate]

Wife knows best. 

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

At least you've got your wife on your back and she's there to monitor you if you're doing good or not. She just want to moderate you from gambling and that's typical with wives that's concern to their husbands.

Just like to the friend of OP, it's needed to give that ultimatum or else that guy won't stop and will continue to hide things from her.

True. It’s a good thing that you have your wife with you who’s willing to correct you whenever she sees some irresponsible acts of you. But with OP’s friend, his wife’s decision is already expected since he has been dishonest on her in the first place. And if his wife will tolerate that, he will end up completely addicted in gambling and gambling addiction might only ruin their marriage at the end of the day.

That is the very reason why we should be transparent towards our own wife because if their trust will be broken, it will be very hard for us to keep it again in a stable state and in one place as we already know what can likely happen afterwards after they feel betrayed because their husbands chose to keep certain things behind close doors even if they themselves will be heavily affected once their husbands are addicted because of the gambling. At the very least, they have the right to be informed and know what is happening in our lives as that is our vow.

[o48o]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Is that really threatening? Sounds more like an ultimatum, and she is allowed to do that. I know people that wouldn't watch that kind of behavior at all so divorcing is totally understandable.

I don't know about their monetary arrangement but usually if couple is married, there are joint bank accounts and mutual budget. Any bigger spendings will be planned together as you are living with the same.

Gambling away your family's money is totally unacceptable. I would leave just if i was blatantly lied to. Not to mention gambling away our shared budget.

[Sandra_hakeem]

Has it gotten to this point? How would an addiction be so intensed that he had to be threatened to either choose between his marriage or his addiction? lol 😂
That's abnormal, but you seee, atimes people need to put in hard situations to shape them up... Secondly, his wife ain't even happy about the wins; all she wants is a divorce if he ever tries shiiittt!!, Ever again lol .... Sometimes, she's even correct cus uhhh, she wouldn't wanna suffer the consequences of your insensible mismanagements.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

[Hispo]

Has it gotten to this point? How would an addiction be so intensed that he had to be threatened to either choose between his marriage or his addiction? lol 😂
That's abnormal, but you seee, atimes people need to put in hard situations to shape them up... Secondly, his wife ain't even happy about the wins; all she wants is a divorce if he ever tries shiiittt!!, Ever again lol .... Sometimes, she's even correct cus uhhh, she wouldn't wanna suffer the consequences of your insensible mismanagements.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

A wife, realistically cannot be happy with the wins of the husband, because in the end the wives can be very aware of the differences between the wins and the losses. In the end, the casino will end up take all the money of the household.

The addicted ones won't notice the losses, but the person who is supposed to keep track of the household economy will realize the amount of money is gone.

[letteredhub]

Women are naturally good managers and that's why in the kitchen they don't allow stuff go to waste. You friend wife after calculating the whole losses together and thinking of what such amount could have provided for the family either for foodstuffs or a nice gown or pairs of shoes to her collection she had to take up the decision on threatening your friend her husband to discontinuing from gambling or face a separattion if he still gonon with it.  I haven't had any situation where I got threatened by any family member or girlfriend on stopping gambling, but even as that I do understand that this situation needs to be handled with some diplomacy where your friend need to save his marriage against gambling because his gambling colleagues would not always be there for him but family would forever be there no matter what. Wife first before anything like gambling.

[piebeyb]

Has it gotten to this point? How would an addiction be so intensed that he had to be threatened to either choose between his marriage or his addiction? lol 😂
That's abnormal, but you seee, atimes people need to put in hard situations to shape them up... Secondly, his wife ain't even happy about the wins; all she wants is a divorce if he ever tries shiiittt!!, Ever again lol .... Sometimes, she's even correct cus uhhh, she wouldn't wanna suffer the consequences of your insensible mismanagements.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

That is why gamblers who have become heavy addicts are usually abandoned by their partners because they do not want their household money to run out because of the gambling that their husbands are doing, many of my friends are heavy addicts and they have been abandoned by their children and wife, even though they were once threatened, it seems that addicts choose the wrong path namely divorcing his wife and continuing his game on the gambling platform.

There's nothing wrong with threatening but it seems difficult for a heavy addict to realize that he has gone too far in gambling and is very detrimental not only to himself but to his family as well, in fact if our wife finds out it would be even better because she can manage expenses and limit the budget in gambling, sometimes I am honest with my wife so she can control me when I forget myself. 

[Wakate]

Women are naturally good managers and that's why in the kitchen they don't allow stuff go to waste. You friend wife after calculating the whole losses together and thinking of what such amount could have provided for the family either for foodstuffs or a nice gown or pairs of shoes to her collection she had to take up the decision on threatening your friend her husband to discontinuing from gambling or face a separattion if he still gonon with it.  I haven't had any situation where I got threatened by any family member or girlfriend on stopping gambling, but even as that I do understand that this situation needs to be handled with some diplomacy where your friend need to save his marriage against gambling because his gambling colleagues would not always be there for him but family would forever be there no matter what. Wife first before anything like gambling.

Sometimes it is good for us to listen to women because they can see from afar and know how to help us to make proper plan. Gambling is something that can irritate some persons and this only will make things worse for us if we have friends or woman around us that do not like gambling. If you have a wife that don't it when we gambler because they might be afraid that one can become a gambling addict and it might become very hard to quit if it gets worse, this is why some women would always want to see there men leave gambling and focus on some other things that could give money. 

[wxa7115]

Has it gotten to this point? How would an addiction be so intensed that he had to be threatened to either choose between his marriage or his addiction? lol 😂
That's abnormal, but you seee, atimes people need to put in hard situations to shape them up... Secondly, his wife ain't even happy about the wins; all she wants is a divorce if he ever tries shiiittt!!, Ever again lol .... Sometimes, she's even correct cus uhhh, she wouldn't wanna suffer the consequences of your insensible mismanagements.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

That is why gamblers who have become heavy addicts are usually abandoned by their partners because they do not want their household money to run out because of the gambling that their husbands are doing, many of my friends are heavy addicts and they have been abandoned by their children and wife, even though they were once threatened, it seems that addicts choose the wrong path namely divorcing his wife and continuing his game on the gambling platform.

There's nothing wrong with threatening but it seems difficult for a heavy addict to realize that he has gone too far in gambling and is very detrimental not only to himself but to his family as well, in fact if our wife finds out it would be even better because she can manage expenses and limit the budget in gambling, sometimes I am honest with my wife so she can control me when I forget myself. 

What happens is that if those gamblers cared about their family at all then they would have realized from the beginning that the path they were taking would lead them to leave their family behind.

This is why such threats are hardly effective with an addicted gambler, the fact that it worked with the friend of the OP can only be explained by assuming he was not addicted, he had some problems as he was hiding his gambling activities to his wife, but he was still not on the self-destructive path that gambling addiction entails.

[Doan9269]

Women are naturally good managers and that's why in the kitchen they don't allow stuff go to waste. You friend wife after calculating the whole losses together and thinking of what such amount could have provided for the family either for foodstuffs or a nice gown or pairs of shoes to her collection she had to take up the decision on threatening your friend her husband to discontinuing from gambling or face a separattion if he still gonon with it.  I haven't had any situation where I got threatened by any family member or girlfriend on stopping gambling, but even as that I do understand that this situation needs to be handled with some diplomacy where your friend need to save his marriage against gambling because his gambling colleagues would not always be there for him but family would forever be there no matter what. Wife first before anything like gambling.

Sometimes it is good for us to listen to women because they can see from afar and know how to help us to make proper plan. Gambling is something that can irritate some persons and this only will make things worse for us if we have friends or woman around us that do not like gambling. If you have a wife that don't it when we gambler because they might be afraid that one can become a gambling addict and it might become very hard to quit if it gets worse, this is why some women would always want to see there men leave gambling and focus on some other things that could give money. 

I never experienced such before since am not a kid to be corrected for wrongly doing what is right in an abnormal way, most of us created an avenue for them to see many disadvantages in us to take as reason why they should mount and forward their own advice on us to stop gambling, but if we look at our personal lifestyle and experience in gambling we may see no need to this while an urgent need may be applicable to some because of their critical conditions.