Youths Becoming Reluctant to Marry

[Samlucky O]

My brother I no blame any youth wey non gree marry. E get many things wey dey bother man for head. One of the problem or factor na poverty. Poverty don humble many men. Many of them dey ready but f
Inancialy not buyant.

Another problem na disapointment. Many men don engage but the person wey Dem don engage go just fuckup. Another one na to look caracter. Person wey wan marry no dey too look caracter if not you no go marry.

[Timmzzy]

My country people. E get wetin I dey observe for we country wey I wan make una follow me put mouth. I notice say our young bobo them no dey too marry early again. My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.

I don take one eye come observe plenty set of guy men them for this our time and they belong to some of these categories as e relate to man and woman something:

The Fear Fear Group: This na the group wey dey fear marriage like say tomorrow no dey. For their mind, marriage go tie them down and make them no get freedom again. If you wan scare person wey belong to this group, just tell am make him go marry

The Confused Brothers aka Fine Boys: These na those fine bobo them wey women dey hardly say no to. Them fine die, so na girls dey rush them. Normally, them be ashawo because no type of woman them never harvest; from the ones them chase to the ones wey chase them. Unfortunately, them dey suffer to select wife. If care is not taken self, most of them dey marry girls wey no too catch attention and you go come dey wonder weda na brother solo the ladies spec marry this girl or na another person.

The Tasters Association of Nigeria : This group wan taste all the soup for this world... if you talk about marriage near them, them go use excuse frustrate you wey wan advice them.

Dangote Group: This group wan become Dangote first before them marry. You see this set, unless we plan for them, find one woman force her on them, them ready to reach 45 before them marry.  We know say money dey important for marriage but they no dey pursue money finish.

If you are still single and an eligible bachelor, oya take microphone and tell us the group you belong to or add your own if e no dey for the list.

Its like na the dangote group i go belong like this oh because i don clock 30 like this i never settle down and my junior sister don get like two children like this. Na so one elderly person tell me say as i smart and dey hard working say e dey tey people like us get married me no know if true true this talk na true so.

[Sim_card]

Another problem na disapointment. Many men don engage but the person wey Dem don engage go just fuckup.

Disappointment no suppose to be excuse for anybody wey serious to marry because we get so many ladies out there wey dey ready to settle down. If one person disappoint you then make you thank God because he show say she isn't meant for you.

Another one na to look caracter. Person wey wan marry no dey too look caracter if not you no go marry.

If na character you dey find,omo you go turn old papa and you no go still see the own wey get the kind of character wey you go like. If we understand say marriage na between two imperfect people wey go come together,then na our work to change your spouse ugly character through tolerance and correction in a lovely manners. Everybody get their own ugly character but to tolerate na him be sacrifice and na wetin marriage dey all about. If you like to marry a girl because of big yansh when the yansh no dey again,everything about her go dey irritate you even though she get good character, you go see am as bad character because na that yansh make you trip for her.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Well, as funny as this is, it is the truth, young men, and not just young men alone, but some women too, are refusing to marry on time which to me, is bad, most of the young men I know that have refused to marry are those who are waiting to become dangote, they assume marriage to be all about having a lot of money, I myself got married when I had nothing, and when I say nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, but today, but today, with committed hustling and with the help of my wife(a good woman by my side), we've achieved a lot, I bought a land worth millions of naira in a very developed area and about to start building our own house, I am just in my very early 30s, my first daughter now is 7, and the second will become 2 by December this year, and the third one is on the way coming, I plan is that (which I believe to be God's plan too) is that before I am 40, we are done giving birth, then we just focus on giving them the very best of training , and sending them to the best of schools..

I did sacrifice some of personal ambitions when I decided to marry early, but looking back and seeing where I am today, I have lost nothing, but instead, I have gained a lot, early marriage is not bad at all, for those who are afraid, it doesn't tie one down in any way, you can still pursue your life's goals while in marriage, and let me make it clear that money is indeed important in marriage, but it is not what keeps marriage peaceful, to confirm this, rich people still fight with their spouses, and some even end up in divorce, even with all the money that they have, who ever believe that money is what is required to make marriage peaceful and enjoyable, is being deceived.

[Nheer]

My country people. E get wetin I dey observe for we country wey I wan make una follow me put mouth. I notice say our young bobo them no dey too marry early again. My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.

Mehn you no fit compare those days with this days, things good that time na and world never spoil d way e spoil now. The economy too de contribute for the matter, most young men de fear to enter marriage because of how things hard for the country and we all know that d rate of unemployment high for country now.

I don take one eye come observe plenty set of guy men them for this our time and they belong to some of these categories as e relate to man and woman something:

All the categories wey you mention de funny abeg but some of them na true sha because i don see person wey tell me say if him marry now him no go de get freedom again and the worse thing be say d guy don pass 30 already so which kind freedom him still de find so. And e gt one of my friend wey de form fine boy for area, him de always think say him still young because girls de find am up and down.

Marriage no be something wey we go rush into oo and everybody gt right to decide when him ready to marry so whatever time dem decide to marry na their wahala. I go jus advise dem not to marry without having any means of earning money so you no go enter frustration.

[Cyber_warrior]

Dangote Group: This group wan become Dangote first before them marry. You see this set, unless we plan for them, find one woman force her on them, them ready to reach 45 before them marry.  We know say money dey important for marriage but they no dey pursue money finish.

As you put dix one funny me oh op, but you know say something they wey becsay you suppose understand as e be now ahd the way the country they go e no easy for everybody person they struggle to chop and na only him dey leave for now, if him con go carry people pikin out for house wetin you dey thing e no go better oh.

Because everything wey your wife need na you go give am, Toh you con dey struggle to chop food and your wife they bring another mata how you go feel and work no dey wey you go geh money. So everything na plan bro make we just pray for better time Sha if not e no easy.