School drop out, unwanted pregnancy and divorced - my personal view on these!

[Hewlet]

How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?

 It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.

Because of these,
1.  people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves

2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process

3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.

People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

[CryptopreneurBrainboss]

It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

E no get wetin you go do wey people no go judge you, so you no support dey reason people judgement, dey do wetin you wan do wey go make you happy. If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

You know say people fit avoid all this things wey you dun talk so, unwanted pregnancy can be avoid by the use of protection or total abstaining from sex until you're married. This na wetin God say make we do so na wetin we suppose dey do no be to dey accept wetin dey trend dey later come regret our decisions. For Divorce, symptoms dey dey from the very beginning of the relationship but for the sake of wetin people go talk we go still remain inside and e lead to marriage with the mindset e go better but if we fit dey bold end the relationship before e go far, we no go dey find ourselves for this kind situations dem.

[rachael9385]

It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

E no get wetin you go do wey people no go judge you, so you no support dey reason people judgement, dey do wetin you wan do wey go make you happy. If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.

My O.G @CryptopreneurBrainboss I support watin you talk, as we all be human beings so, nothing way we go do way pipo no go talk, imagine say them dey talk about person way done kpeme, so nah why dem no go for talk about person way still dey alive?
This matter way the op carry come, for me I go say nah just normal thing for life and no be only our country 9ja e dey, e dey for everywhere, and we also know say if we dey reason people mouth, the kind of things way dem dey alter out from am, my guy we no go fit go forward for life.
Op, your talk goes well Sha, but the thing be say all nah part of life, if I go as you, abi you never see person way after them Judge am finish letter that same person dem still dey celebrate am? Some of those things way people dey talk about person nah motivate dem dey motivate the person.

[Y3shot]

It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

E no get wetin you go do wey people no go judge you, so you no support dey reason people judgement, dey do wetin you wan do wey go make you happy. If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.

The truth be say anything you do for life people go always talk, because of wetin people go talk Don make many people do wetin dem no get strength to do. Like the school thing is not for everyone,  infact the world Don change wey be say the world Don pass the system wey person needs to go to school be e go make money or succeed for life. The school thing no dey favour some people but because of wetin people go talk dem just dey force their self on school and nothing still dey come out.

For life no follow wetin people go talk, do your things and make sure say anything you dey do for life make you succeed,  when you succeed people no go get wetin dem won talk again.

[Hewlet]

[quote author=CryptopreneurBrainboss

 If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.


[/quote] normally people eyes don de open to the reality say school or no school, na money everybody de find last last. The only issues be if you choose to drop out at any point e go first make sense say you de on funds because nobody go reason your matter again but majority of our students now an small children when be say before them go get mind make that kind decision, e go really hard them

[Lorokan]

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

My personal view on these? Life de happen to anyone, na to deal with am and move forward or perish!

[LordMiguel]

It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

E no get wetin you go do wey people no go judge you, so you no support dey reason people judgement, dey do wetin you wan do wey go make you happy. If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

You know say people fit avoid all this things wey you dun talk so, unwanted pregnancy can be avoid by the use of protection or total abstaining from sex until you're married. This na wetin God say make we do so na wetin we suppose dey do no be to dey accept wetin dey trend dey later come regret our decisions. For Divorce, symptoms dey dey from the very beginning of the relationship but for the sake of wetin people go talk we go still remain inside and e lead to marriage with the mindset e go better but if we fit dey bold end the relationship before e go far, we no go dey find ourselves for this kind situations dem.

You drop a mind blowing opinion. accepted but i don't like the idea of doing what makes you happy.  i prefer to say. people should be honest to themselves. As you choose to do things that make you happy, don't inflect others with pain. Don't make decisions solely because it suits you and not the other person.  if things are not working out between you and someone. point it out. Learn to know when life conditions are learning process and when stupid ideas clouds your mind. it is difficult. Life is difficult.

[Miles2006]

How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?

 It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.

Because of these,
1.  people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves

have met a situation where the lady got killed because of domestic violence because she refuse to leave her marriage fear of what the society will say and definetly people will always have there own opinion towards something and her end result was death

2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process

3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.

young girls and boys endure all this, knowing after graduating no job, no wonder a song writer sang wetin we dey do for school. Seeing the education system in Nigeria amazes me because if you no longer have money or your parents are not wealthy it is very hard for you to make it through, 4 years course has turn to 6 years course. Schools no longer look how intelligent you are but rather they are looking for the ones with the money

People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

[Commorant]

This life get so many faces my broda. Woman fine no mean day e go marry person wey no go still cheat on am.. man get money no mean say him girl no fit still dey whine am collect the money go dey give another manwry she like.. change na also one thing wey dey constant; person fit dey infatuate buh him no know. After some time, the so called love go fade and him go chase another woman, leaving this one with maybe 3/4 kids ...na her fault? Ehnn,I know say sometimes e fit be her fault but,e don happen already.
Dropping out from school no suppose be something wey person go laugh naaa.. you no Sabi how things hard? What if na him dey sponsor himself and money no come dey again?? What if the person wey dey sponsor am von die nkor? Make we no dey judge like that at all

[Richbased]

How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?

 It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.

Because of these,
1.  people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves

2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process

3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.

People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

Dropping out of school sometimes is not actually that they people don't have the finance to continue their education it might be that there mentality is on something else and continuing their education might make it difficult for them to meet up their goals on time.

Whichever way it is, it is important that we have a primary knowledge of education as the world is a global village and obtaining a higher education can possibly enhance your exposure to a better future.

Unwanted pregnancy are caused by indulging in immoral sex before and I advise that people should continue to have sex before marriage it should be done with protection as sometimes because of the nature of man and woman it is difficult of staying together without having a canal knowledge of each other.

Divorce cases have been on the increase over the years because of lack of contentment by couples. Like instead of couples to plan together on making a better future for themselves they start seeing flaws in each other and blaming themselves for minor misunderstanding. And one of the causes of divorce is also being in a relationship for too long before marriage. As soon as they get married they are already tired of each other during courtship as they don't see anything new in each other again which may make there love for each other to diminish. In the old days most of our parents doesn't have canal knowledge of who they're gonna be married to their marriages were mainly determined by there parents so after they get married they start building there love towards each other and there love becomes stronger as times goes on making it difficult for them to disintegrate irrespective of challenges they might encounter during their marriages.

And again people should stop getting married because of the benefits that the marriage can offer them rather they should get married because of their love for each other and building there future together as husband and wife.

[sokani]

Nobody dey perfect, people dey make mistake, and also dey learn from their mistake but in dis life make we no let someone opinion define us. I know say some of dis situations dey avoidable, but wen you don enter be say you don enter, na wetin you do next na hin really count.

If you find yourself in abusive marriage, no keep quiet say you go endure becuz e fit claim your life, so e beta to be a divorcee dan to be a corpse. If you be drop out too, no reason am. Start a business, learn a skill or pursue wetin dey give you joy. If you get carry belle at the age of 14 - 16 years, no be de end of the world. I know say e go come with stigma but you gat bear am and dey strong. If your family give you moral support e good. Dis one na one story of a girl wey carry belle at de age of 15, di papa disown her and after 10 years she don become medical doctor and di papa want her back. So you see how dis life be emm, nobody know tomorrow.  

[Marykeller]

If you wan drop out go chase your desire do am, I no think say people too dey reason that dropout matter again because now wetin dey rein na money not degree. You fit be drop out but provided say you make am fir life, nobody go dey reason you as drop out. Those wey finish school go dey wish say dem dey like you self. As for the divorce matter Nigerian never accept that culture yet that's why people still dey judge wen e happen but as I dun talk, no reason anybody matter, do wetin you feel is best for you.

normally people eyes don de open to the reality say school or no school, na money everybody de find last last. The only issues be if you choose to drop out at any point e go first make sense say you de on funds because nobody go reason your matter again but majority of our students now an small children when be say before them go get mind make that kind decision, e go really hard them

OP I no sae na quote wey you be wan do give our boss "CryptopreneurBrainboss". I don help you arrange how em suppose be. Em go make sense make you edit your reply well so that peso go know sae you d quote peso.

Wetin I wan add for the subject matter be sae, as peso the think dropping out for school, make em d sure wetin em wan leave school for, worth am. No be dropout for school to end up creating nuisance for streets or joining bad gangs wey go d thief or dupe people of their money. If you check the number of people wey dropout from school, majority of them don commit themselves for one bad business to the other in search of money.

We know sae our country itself don fail us. As per person go spend years for university finish, come graduate and em no get work join after all the years, money and stress wey em pass to get a degree, still yet no available job waiting am. Upon all that we still get millions of Nigerians wey d graduate, year in, year out with hope of available job waiting for them(wey be sae millions of people wey graduate years back never get). On top that, them go still go meet those dropout for labor market controlling and working under them. That's the funniest part of it. Since a graduate go now turn out to serve a dropout.

As this thing the continue d go so, people are beginning to find school as a waste of time and resources, since peso go kukuma end up serving under peso well em d educated pass. Em go better make them dropout for school, so as to use that energy, time and money to go into learning a skill or establishing a business for themselves.

[Ever-young]

How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?

 It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.

Because of these,
1.  people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves

2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process

3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.

People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

Well, me I no lie everything wey u talk here na just true, nothing comot and nothing add, the rate of school dropouts, abortion, unwanted pregnancy too much for this our society today, de worst part be say dem dey see am as lifestyle, everyone won feel among because of maybe dey won mk people laugh dem or mock or shame no go gree them, so to avoid all the embarrassment, dey see all these things as option meanwhile wen u tell them to abstain from sex till marriage, e dey be like say u deprive dem of their rights and also the way things be, low class people no fit afford to dey for university because nobody dey to help u out, so with the pay pay way dey for school, person fit use because of frustration and all that fit go steal or kidnap which is against the law so mk we too dey try to dey support them in a way e no go make person look depressed or guilty or bad to correct dem with love, kindness etc. like that the rate of corruption go reduce.

[Notalony]

How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?

 It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.

The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.

Because of these,
1.  people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves

2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process

3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.

People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.

Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.

Yes I agree with especially with your last sentence, loving one another should be unconditional, such that we should be able to extend help when we have the opportunity to help others, there is also this saying that someone you help today can as well help you tomorrow. Good names are better than richest it is good for us to help each in time of needs and difficulties.

[Pearl_20]

Life happens, and there's nothing so certain about life itself. You wake up this days and hear or read about stories that baffles you on media and trust me when I say people will always bad mouth you even if it turns out the situation wasn't entirely your fault. I know someone who dropped out of school and she's doing so well in her business.
We should do better and encourage teach, and educate people around us so we can make the world a better place, that you decided to leave an Abusive marriage is a good choice, dropped out from school for a good reason isn't bad at all. Gone are those day's when I see people with these situations and then I start judging them for their actions, these day's I just listen to them, give them a big hug and support in the best way I can. Mental health isn't something one should joke with, in every thing you do in this life, people must talk, so just make sure you do you, stay Alive while thriving.

[Versatile_choice]

I no say our mentality on this kind of things they they off sometimes because we they quickly judge when we never no how the Matter be, so person we suppose judge when them done carry their eyes see waiting make them comot for school, even for social media we they see how person they leave school to go hustle base on say there mama and siblings they suffer. For the pregnancy matter e get some girls way they go through hell for were step mother they, so them fit they reason whether na to just get Belle marry comot for that place but however I no mean say that one na excuse ooh because no be the only option them get.

[Juicyhome]

School drop out: is not a bad idea if the student drop to get a skill or on a financial ground. When the resources are not longer available or one lost his parents and no means to generate funds to continue the school it's advisable to drop for and get busy with other skills then later you cab continue the school. But if its in the ground of poor academic performance then its a shame to the person.

Unwanted pregnancy: just as the name  implies its unwanted and should be kept for any reason. Except you are ready to have a child. Even marriage couples do abort when they really don't want to have a child. So there is no shame in it, just get a good doctor to do it so you won't cause a harm to the girl.

Divorce: Is most talk about in the country right now, my lawyer friend told me there are more Divorce case in court than criminal case. Yet people are getting married every Saturday, it's quite unfortunate people just marry just for wedding ceremony there after they will file for divorce. Our young ladies no longer have patience in marriage every disagreement they will seek for divorce. One must be careful and know the person you about to marriage to. Because people just meet and marry without knowing each other well.

[Majestic-milf]

 Make I no lie, the judgement wey people dey place on these individuals wey Op mention dey mostly come from we African sides, and I stand to be corrected but nah wetin I don see. Society don make am look like say if you be school dropout or a divorcee or a single parent, e mean say you dey incapable of doing anything again and as such people supposed to see you like liability.
I no see anything wrong in being a single parent. The question you need to ask is; can that person take care of the child or not? I dey hear this term "unwanted pregnancy" and sometimes I dey ask myself why e dey unwanted in the first place. The deed has been done and whoever dey responsible suppose to act as one but e dey look like say with how society dey regard girls wey carry belle at a young age as incapable nah dey cause these issues of abortion and all that.
 E no get as e wan be, people must talk about you but wetin go make the difference nah how the individual wey fall under the category wey op mention react to those things. Big names wey we know today like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Zuckerberg and even Micheal Dell all drop out from school but look where them dey now.

[Pressurizedem]

Make I no lie, the judgement wey people dey place on these individuals wey Op mention dey mostly come from we African sides, and I stand to be corrected but nah wetin I don see. Society don make am look like say if you be school dropout or a divorcee or a single parent, e mean say you dey incapable of doing anything again and as such people supposed to see you like liability.
I no see anything wrong in being a single parent. The question you need to ask is; can that person take care of the child or not? I dey hear this term "unwanted pregnancy" and sometimes I dey ask myself why e dey unwanted in the first place. The deed has been done and whoever dey responsible suppose to act as one but e dey look like say with how society dey regard girls wey carry belle at a young age as incapable nah dey cause these issues of abortion and all that.
 E no get as e wan be, people must talk about you but wetin go make the difference nah how the individual wey fall under the category wey op mention react to those things. Big names wey we know today like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Zuckerberg and even Micheal Dell all drop out from school but look where them dey now.

You dey correct mate,but wetin I see here na their mentality.Wetin dem dey think of themselves when them don drop out already? Some of them dey feel say nothing good go ever come out of them again,while some of them dey reason say na the end of life be that.When you drop out of school and you be single mother,first,you don place yourself in a position wey be say e go really push you to either hustle more of give up on life,but if you have that mentality of never giving up,and determining to change your situations,then you can change that narrative for yourself.

[Versatile_choice]

You dey correct mate,but wetin I see here na their mentality.Wetin dem dey think of themselves when them don drop out already? Some of them dey feel say nothing good go ever come out of them again,

I they feel your capping but the thing be say e get some kind situation way some small girls get enter as a single mother no be small ooh, imagine say person go born you no get food to chop, you no get were you go stay, you no get clothes to wear, you no get babies things like accessories, feeding bottles and plenty things way babies need as them they very fragile, so person like that fit see herself say everything done finish for her because she go they reason how things way I mention get take they available for her.