The rate of divorce in the society

[Ndabagi01]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

What more can you expect from a world that has embraced everything new while forgetting the positive aspects of marriage? When modern social events are intertwined with marital problems, it complicates the situation, and the worst case scenario is that it will undoubtedly lead to a lack of understanding and the separation of the couples. Our forefathers are not comparable to us. When it comes to patience and endurance, they are the true definitions.

For the other point you raised, I will blame the man who divorced his wife the next morning after seeing her true face for the first time. The reason for this is that in today's world, everyone is aware of make-up and how it has tricked many men into failing to recognise the genuine face appearance of the one they love. Before bringing them in, he should have seen the actual face of the woman he wants to marry. Perhaps it was an arranged marriage and he never saw his lover's true face before marriage. Such occurrences are very rare to happen.

[Idiedugha]

Many things could be the reasons, but in this case be fake and deceitful could be reason as stated by the said husband. Probably that was his first time seeing the woman without makeup, who knows? It could also be that he wasn't satisfied with the outcome of after wedding night. Lol..... But many things can cause divorce ranging from cheating, abusive partner, selfishness, and many more.

[kotajikikox]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

this only shows that marriage nowadays is not composed of LOVE instead either Lust or desire , look at that story  of yours just because of a woman without make up being divorced already> how cheap that reason is?
Marriage supposed to be a matter of Love and Promises to be together for the rest of life , but in our time now as this was getting to be forgotten the true essence of married life , this made me have asking "Why need to get married when there are no one forcing them to get in"? why not stay in relationship and just give time to each other to learn our feelings and otrue plans towards each of one , even if this took us many years before finally deciding to get married.

[electronicash]

this is because men have options and the government gave that options to all of us and we liked it also in the name of democracy. and why not. its the best the best we could get for having these laws.

its not about whos wrong either men or women, women are also fighting for their rights especially if they hate the man theyve married.

if women can get the share of wealth from the man after divorse, its good for them. its freedom.

[Jegileman]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Both are the problems of it, I won’t want to chose one over the other because when you look into it very deep, you’ll see that they are one way both at fault. Marriage is all about understanding, sharing feelings, pains and what have you. For a marriage to work out, both sides have to make up their mind to make it work, they should have a believe that no matter what happens, they will strive to resolve it together without allowing others to interfere into their marriage.

Most of the marriage divorce are caused by outside influences but in some cases it is caused by societal factors (modern world) when the two sides haven’t been able to agree to a consensus of what their partner should do or how they react to instances like that when they arise.

[passwordnow]

The problem is the influence of the society today. The masculinity and feminine content that we see on social media make it look like finding another partner while being in a relationship becomes a norm. It's because of their shitty content and getting some confirmation and affirmation with those nonsense ideas and validities they're asking from the people. The approval that they get is also from those people who just want to plainly cheat. They think that they deserve better, they need that they need to be loved where in fact they're loved. They say that they're not getting time because their partners are busy. Like what the heck, if they're working their ass hard off for a week with just a few hours to take a rest, understand that they're working for your comfortability. It is not about the gender but the influence we see from other people looking for validation that their cheating is a normal thing to do and asks sentiments from the other people.

[yazher]

There are lots of reasons why divorce is happening and it depends on what country you are living in because, in some places, facial beauty is not really important rather the capability of building a family is what they are looking for. But in our society especially those who are exposed to social media, their role models are Hollywood artists and other popular celebrities, whenever they do something, others quickly mimic their actions no matter what it is even in their marriage life, they are just like a person that even when their role model enter a hole of a lizard, they will not hesitate to follow them.

[Dunamisx]

Divorce is now something found so easy to do in the society today just because you think you can't continue to live or manage along with your partner due to some reasons you can just overlooked and continue with life, most people in marriage or relationship don't have the mind of being tolerant at all, everyone thinks that what they do is the best and cannot be corrected, if we keep encouraging for divorce then almost everyone will be a divorcee in life, we had better learn to adapt and live peaceful with others and stop the issue of getting divorce, nothing is perfect in life, including we humanbeings.

[Publictalk792]

It is true that divorce rates have increased in recent times. it is important to remember that every situation is unique and cannot be generalized. While some divorces may occur due to trivial reasons like the one you mentioned.
In the past divorce rates was less than today and people stayed in unhappy marriages for the sake of societal expectations.
Both men and women play essential roles in maintaining a successful marriage and we can't blame only one gender.

[Hewlet]

Divorce has become too rampant recently and I think it course is obviously visible to all.
You have so many cases of a couple that had a child while dating and because of the child, they become married without knowing if they are even compatible at all. And it doesn't take time before they discover the flaws in there partners life that they can't bear with and the marriage just comes to an end because of this.

There are others that got married because of the wealth of there spouse or what they feel they can achieve as a result of the marriage and when reality dawn on them and they finally discover that there expectation can't be met, problem breaks out in the home and the only solution they think of his to get divorced.

I feel that most of the course of divorce comes from lack of understanding from the partners and the inability of them to compromise for each other just for the relationship to work.

[Richbased]

Many things could be the reasons, but in this case be fake and deceitful could be reason as stated by the said husband. Probably that was his first time seeing the woman without makeup, who knows? It could also be that he wasn't satisfied with the outcome of after wedding night. Lol..... But many things can cause divorce ranging from cheating, abusive partner, selfishness, and many more.

Yes fake and deceitful life while in courtship is one of the major reasons why divorce in on the high rate. Many people date (courtship) before they get married so in the cause of this courtship a lot of people hide their real identity maybe it could be their character, their facial beauty or the morals, for instance you see a situation where a lady that is incusitive to get married maybe because she's running out of age and she has a bad character, will pretend as if she's a saint, she will hide her characters just to win the heart of the man till they are married, and after marriage they now show their true colors. So in this situation the man will begin to imagine the reasons why she never showed all the bad characters during courtship and before you know it the man will seek for divorce because she no longer shows those attributes that made him marry her.

Again most people marry because of what they see in their partner, maybe because they have money of they are good looking, or they're hardworking so as soon as they don't see those attributes that made them get married, the love begins to fade and definitely leads to divorce.

Inasmuch as marriage is concerned, it is an agreement between two couples who choose to live and share things together as husband and wife irrespective of their various flaws so by this definition, it is important for us to know that we ought not to get married because of the physical things we see in our partners as those things will diminish as time goes on rather we should marry because of love and passion for one another not withstanding our differences.

[uchegod-21]

In the past divorce rates was less than today and people stayed in unhappy marriages for the sake of societal expectations.

Societal expectations played a major role in marriages in the past. Everyone believed in "for better,  for worse". Many people in the past endured their marriages instead of enjoying it. Even when it was killing the couples slowly.  But now, the people are wiser and more civilised. If its not working,  it's not working and their is little or no stigma attached to being divorced now. While this modern trend in marriages might be a blessing to some people,  it might also be a curse to many others.

Intending couples should do their findings well before walking down the aisle because when marriages hit the rock,  the children suffer the consequences. Both parents are adults and can take care of themselves.what happens to that innocent child who was born into a once lovely family?

[Suzume]

I think the trust issue is the main reason to giving divorce. Now day this is a common problem in our society no one trust on his partner in  this generation. Because of trust issue after sometime the decide day will leave his partner because trust is more important in a relationship then love. We can see our previous generation like our mother and father they do fight on a reason after sometime they stay together. That's type of trust and believe not available in this generation that's why the rate of divorce is increasing in our society.

[Frankolala]

I think the trust issue is the main reason to giving divorce. Now day this is a common problem in our society no one trust on his partner in  this generation. Because of trust issue after sometime the decide day will leave his partner because trust is more important in a relationship then love. We can see our previous generation like our mother and father they do fight on a reason after sometime they stay together. That's type of trust and believe not available in this generation that's why the rate of divorce is increasing in our society.

You think that trust is above love in marriages, I will disagree with you on this. Love conquer everything because it is love that brings tolerance and trust. Any marriage without love will never work, because when two partners are in love with themselves, they will build trust.

There are some problems like rushing into marriage when you didn't take time to know the person and after rushing into it, you will rush out because your expectations were not what you saw. Another thing is that people marry the wrong partner and it is compulsory that when you marry the wrong person, there will be a divorce, because you guys were never made for each other. Not being open minded and iron out issues that you don't like that your partner is doing by telling him you don't like it and not also giving attention to your partner can break your marriage.

[Dunamisx]

Many things could be the reasons, but in this case be fake and deceitful could be reason as stated by the said husband. Probably that was his first time seeing the woman without makeup, who knows? It could also be that he wasn't satisfied with the outcome of after wedding night. Lol..... But many things can cause divorce ranging from cheating, abusive partner, selfishness, and many more.

One thing about divorce is that the two of them couldn't bear it to the minimal level again than to cut it off and put an end for each to part, another thing is mostly that divorce is mostly being followed by the absence of a pleasure, tolerance and endurance for hardship in challenging times, there are many reasons that could have lead to filing for divorce in the society today because everyone will think he's always been right and therefore cannot bend down to rules.

[jrrsparkles]

I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Its pretty evident that your source is a Twitter post or shared WhatsApp message.

In most countries the couple can get divorced only after 6 months or 1 year after they get married. And there is no proof that in the previous generation, the divorce rate was low because as per the records its almost similar but due to the increase in population the numbers got higher and due to the social media influence and fake news we get to see them more often that how it used to be.

[Victorik]

There are so many reasons why people get married and when they feel they have achieved their aims, they can opt to go their way.
But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.
If both couple can have an understanding and know that there are different phases in a marital relationship, maybe they can work hard enough to keep their commitments.

[Gozie51]

There are so many reasons why people get married and when they feel they have achieved their aims, they can opt to go their way.
But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.
If both couple can have an understanding and know that there are different phases in a marital relationship, maybe they can work hard enough to keep their commitments.

Like what op said about a man asking for divorce after two months as he saw the face of the wife without makeup, this may be one of the many reasons people go for divorce. But to look deeply, some marriages were never contracted in the beginning because they were under falsehood from either of the spouse unknowingly to the other spouse. I have heard of such an unimaginable thing as sex as a reason that a man spent his time and money to deceive a lady he has been having crush on just to sleep with her. He got that and no natter her good the lady was to the "marriage ", it was never good for the man until he left the fake "marriage ".

[Victorik]

There are so many reasons why people get married and when they feel they have achieved their aims, they can opt to go their way.
But, I think peer pressure some times can affect some persons and the responsibilities that comes with been married can be very pressing sometimes.
If both couple can have an understanding and know that there are different phases in a marital relationship, maybe they can work hard enough to keep their commitments.

Like what op said about a man asking for divorce after two months as he saw the face of the wife without makeup, this may be one of the many reasons people go for divorce. But to look deeply, some marriages were never contracted in the beginning because they were under falsehood from either of the spouse unknowingly to the other spouse. I have heard of such an unimaginable thing as sex as a reason that a man spent his time and money to deceive a lady he has been having crush on just to sleep with her. He got that and no natter her good the lady was to the "marriage ", it was never good for the man until he left the fake "marriage ".

I do not want to believe that someone ended a marriage because he saw his wife face without make-up.
The question is, was there no courtship before the marriage? I mean didn't they dated for a while before getting married?
If they did, does it mean the man never saw the woman's face without make-up before they got married?.

I know people get divorce for the weirdest reasons, but this one is strange, don't you think?

[DubemIfedigbo001]

I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without  make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.

This is fiction and not a factual story. I mean its a childish play. The man in question can never convince me that he's not been in the same house with the wife until dawn, not can he tell me he hang seen the wife immediately after taking her bath. Nobody can be on makeup every time , and no matter how much she covers up with her makeups. One day she'll lose guard and expose her natural face mistakenly.
This is just a cock and bull story, I put it to you that the man used this as an excuse to go his  separate  way.

But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?

Our fathers were with different women as wives, so they choose to be with anyone of their choice at any time, depending of their plans. Information available now is much and our ladies mostly pick the wrong ones and build their lives from it