He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[Docnaster]

  
 , just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.[/i]

I really don't think this matter should be handled just lightly. If I were in her shoes, I would lock up that man and ask him what he had truly used the money to do. Like he could possibly have use d the money for something else (another woman to be precise) and to lie his way out he claims to had use it for betting. If he really loved her, I don't think he would use such huge amount of money to gamble that if he really did loss it to gambling. I feel that there's something he isn't saying or the story isn't just complete.
 

The manner at which some people gamble with almost everything is most times unbelievable. I would've probably thought this was a mere falacy but I've also seen people who's gambled with money meanr more important thing like this and still ended up losing the money.
Using a savings that was meant for wedding is just too difficult for anyone to forgive whoever that did that. I think the best thing for the lady in question to do is to call off the wedding because it'll be very dangerous for her to go ahead and marry such chronically addicted gambler.

[goaldigger]

Well many news flying on social media and everyone wants to hop on the trending news. Right now the news about playing bet, gambling is trending that's the biggest news right now and this is another story wanting to get into the trend, let's assume this is  true but how can your husband he in a financial situation and you people have saved 5 million this is not practical and saving 5 million for a wedding if you have Any financial issue at all is not wise.
Regardless of if it's true or not playing gambling with funds meant for something else is a red flag for me and to me signifies how desperate or addicted the person is. Gambling should not be a do or die affair

That could be their savings for their future family as a whole including that grand ceremony in gambling but of course we don’t know the real story behind this. Though we cannot deny the fact that this is really happening we heard a lot of true story about a gambler spending their savings and losing it, being responsible is a must and as a gambler you should have your separate funds to address your gambling activities or at least to fund it if you want to gamble, don’t ever use any funds that is not yours.

[Sandra_hakeem]

Damnnnnnnn......!!!! What a mess....
I've never heard something as disgraceful as this before... You see the reasons why sometimes you don't need to habour an addiction in you, Cus it can actually hunt you tomorrow,.. on a very serious note.
That was actually something he could control but, since he was too obsessed with gambling, he couldn't realize his boundaries - so much that he had to penetrate into a joint wallet that atleast 60% of the cash wasn't his own... So sad!

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

[AmoreJaz]

Well many news flying on social media and everyone wants to hop on the trending news. Right now the news about playing bet, gambling is trending that's the biggest news right now and this is another story wanting to get into the trend, let's assume this is  true but how can your husband he in a financial situation and you people have saved 5 million this is not practical and saving 5 million for a wedding if you have Any financial issue at all is not wise.
Regardless of if it's true or not playing gambling with funds meant for something else is a red flag for me and to me signifies how desperate or addicted the person is. Gambling should not be a do or die affair

That could be their savings for their future family as a whole including that grand ceremony in gambling but of course we don’t know the real story behind this. Though we cannot deny the fact that this is really happening we heard a lot of true story about a gambler spending their savings and losing it, being responsible is a must and as a gambler you should have your separate funds to address your gambling activities or at least to fund it if you want to gamble, don’t ever use any funds that is not yours.

though we don't know all the details in the story, in my opinion she should call the wedding off. if that is true, at least, she should be thankful because as early as she can, she already got her warning signals. would be disastrous if they are already a family and having this financial problem owed to gambling. and the fact that changing someone's lifestyle would take forever, i don't think his soon-to-be-husband would change that fast just to make amends with her.

[macson]

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Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

whoosh, i didn't expect that woman to pin her future hopes on a man like that, i'm sure that man actually never had any intention of marrying that woman, he just wanted her money, that man was really stupid, he's not a responsible gambler.  i will never touch my savings for gambling capital, the more i insist on "always using money that you can lose" when gambling if you remain stupid then, of course, you will cut off your relationship with the people you care about.  Don't fall into the trap of thinking that the money you bet in gambling can give you big profits in a short time, it's never that easy.

[wheelz1200]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

This isn't a heart breaking story, this dude totally deserved anything negative he got.  There are true things to be sad about, dumb people doing dumb things aren't.  It's real easy weigh what matters most in your life and don't sacrifice something higher on that list for something lower.  Unfortunately people have to find out the hard way but I hardly believe this is the worst things people have done in gambling.

[Dunamisx]

Gambling sometimes ruins someone's life and ambition - like what happened to the lady and their wedding plan, I'd see it was possible to discontinue and even ruin their reputation as well.

Aren't people evil on theirselves even without having gambling influence in their life, there are many attrocities that people do to only satisfy their own personal desires, no one will ever be interested in this kind of a relationship anymore considering the man kind of behavior.

I'm going to wonder why there are some people who rely on luck and think about making money in gambling which in fact, we know that we only have fewer chances to win. If he is a smart person and thinking about his wedding, supposed he should not use that money.

In his own case, if it had been his own personal money then things would have been more better because he will know that he's suffering the consequences of his stupid act, but now the lady is more in pain because she was disappointed and heartbroken with what happened.

[romero121]

Really sorry for the girl who had got dreams about her marriage as well as the life after her marriage. Now everything collapsed, and even if they marry on the scheduled date I don't know how good the marriage gonna take place. Even if the marriage is over, their life starts on debt and the enjoyable days goes in vain. The guy couldn't have done it, but his statement is kind of escaping and in other way it looks like he had tried to low the burden over her girl. What we can do now is just pray for the couple to get married and start good life. Wealth can be made, and the guy needs to be good with his actions.

[acroman08]

that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I have and heard this part so many times from so many people, so many relationship and lives have been ruined by that thought, what's sad is that the majority of people I heard say that usually use money they really need and would have dire consequences when that money is lost.

I feel bad for the woman but on the bright side she found out that his soon to be husband has a problem and she will be able to dodge that problem if she actually call off the wedding. I hope she can find the right person for her.

[Westinhome]

 Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

This is not the new story in the gambling,from the ancient time the gambling addicted person will use the money of the family savings and family properties to play the gambling.This guy is the commercialised person,So he used his wedding savings to multiple the money.We all know how much money needed for the wedding,So behalf of his side he try to contribute by multiple the saving money in gambling.His motive is good,but if he loss the game and holding money in the gambling.Then the girl will blame the gambling site and not his man.It’s human nature to scold others for our mistake and he should not used the saving in the gambling.

[BitcoinTurk]

I felt very sad for the woman because it is definitely not easily acceptable for a man to do such a thing while they are saving money together for a dream (wedding). It is a much worse situation to accumulate this savings especially under difficult conditions and then lose all this savings in gambling. On the other hand, it was perhaps a better thing for this woman to have experienced such an event before the marriage took place because in this way she had an idea about the personality of her future husband-to-be. Perhaps, if this situation had not happened this marriage would have taken place and a much more serious situation would have occurred later during the marriage process. Moreover, in this case it is quite possible that the woman will experience a more difficult process as the divorce phase may be long or difficult according to traditions, depending on the region and location.

[BitDane]

I am also irritated by the guys action and feel sorry for the young lady.  It is right that the young lady call off the engagement and she should charge the guy and file a case against him so that she can get her money back.

It is not the right reason that the guy wanted to get the burden off the lady by gambling the fund off.  That is pure laziness and very irresponsible of the guy.  If he wanted to help out, he should double his effort on earning money by finding extra sources of income.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

As I said it is really the best move to call off the engagement.  This kind of thing won't stop and the guy would possibly end up selling his wife and kids just to fill his urge to gamble. If he is worrying about other people, he can just tell the truth about the guy's gambling habit, the reason why he wanted to call off the engagement.

[Docnaster]

I had already supported the girl to call off the marriage. Calling off the wedding isn't the issue, the main issue is if the marriage will continue to exist without the wedding. I also will leave a portion of the blames on the girl. Is she totally unaware that her man is a gambler? Has she not be attentive to his pattern of spending? If she had known that her man is into gambling as still allow such amount of money to be with him, I have her to be blamed.

But another aspect I will want to touch is why would couple who are not rich plan to host a wedding of that amount and still counting. According to the narration, they were still contributing. Why should I stress myself to impress others in my own marriage?

[Hispo]

In the case, at worst, it is a ruined relationship and wedding.
The lesson here is to always be sure we know our partner and what they are capable of for the sake of money...

This is true as a lesson to take from this story. She doesn't know the would be husband because if she does then she wouldn't have allowed him to have access to the money not to talk of using $5,000 for gambling. It is an addict that is likely to take that as a chance because a new player would be scared of losing but an addict will see it as an opportunity that has been presented to him.

She doesn't know what character he could display and probably he has been hiding his gambling addiction away from her.

Well, I am not sure we can certainly talk about a person addicted to gambling, because in my opinion if he was actually addicted, he would have gambled away that money before and would not have waited for it to reach that amount or even provided up to the 40% of the total wedding savings.
If I had to guess (because I am not an expert and I do not the whole context of the man's situation) it is probable he started to gamble quite recently when they already had that amount saved, and quickly started to chase losses with his own money, when his personal money was gone, he could not help but use those bucks they had saved for their special day.

If he was honest to his girlfriend and handed over those savings to her instead, he could have saved their relationship.

[Oilacris]

In the case, at worst, it is a ruined relationship and wedding.
The lesson here is to always be sure we know our partner and what they are capable of for the sake of money...

This is true as a lesson to take from this story. She doesn't know the would be husband because if she does then she wouldn't have allowed him to have access to the money not to talk of using $5,000 for gambling. It is an addict that is likely to take that as a chance because a new player would be scared of losing but an addict will see it as an opportunity that has been presented to him.

She doesn't know what character he could display and probably he has been hiding his gambling addiction away from her.

Well, I am not sure we can certainly talk about a person addicted to gambling, because in my opinion if he was actually addicted, he would have gambled away that money before and would not have waited for it to reach that amount or even provided up to the 40% of the total wedding savings.
If I had to guess (because I am not an expert and I do not the whole context of the man's situation) it is probable he started to gamble quite recently when they already had that amount saved, and quickly started to chase losses with his own money, when his personal money was gone, he could not help but use those bucks they had saved for their special day.

If he was honest to his girlfriend and handed over those savings to her instead, he could have saved their relationship.

You cant say that he's not addicted. What if he had really just wait up for that pooled money to become big, considering that they are both making up some savings which it would be understandable that the funds that being saved would really be that getting bigger overtime and on the time was right then he had decided to spend it up without his lovers consent on which it is really just that a foolish thing to be done. There's no such thing to be called a safe bet specially in talking about gambling. Its always been risky and anything you do spend whether savings or wedding funds,
there's no way that you could really be able to get out in speaking of risk on losing it all. This is why if you dont value your wife-to-be then you wouldnt really be thinking about it and
definitely be spending the funds without any doubts and just like said by others that regrets do always come at the end.

[Roseline492]

I feel bad for the lady. If she decides to leave the relationship, I think it would more than just about money.

Yeah actually if a man will have I mind to use there wedding savings for gambling he is not worthy to be married and if I'm to be in the shoe of that women perhaps I will be left with no option but to leave the man because if a man has the mind to gamble using there wedding savings to gamble there is every possibility of using there house someday for gambling.

Irrespective of how sure a bet may seem, using money saved for wedding to gamble is totally unacceptable and a person like that should be referred as a gambling addicts.

[komisariatku]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

It was a very stupid act of recklessness. I don't know what the man was thinking when he used the wedding money he had saved for months to gamble. Gambling is not something easy, even the most favored football team can lose to a dark horse.

In my country $5000 is a lot of money and can be used to throw a pretty extravagant wedding. I don't know, is their relationship okay or did the woman choose to leave him? Maybe it is a real example that gambling can destroy everything, not only money but romantic relationships. There is nothing better in gambling unless we can be responsible when gambling

[Assface16678]

If I knew the lady, I would say her fiance is a red flag; there are more scenarios like that that could happen to them in the future. What the guy just made is a decision wherein he didn't think before he used the hard-earned money. I get it; he only wants to help, but the method he chose is not a good idea. You see, it shows how reckless he is about money; he didn't hesitate to waste all that $5 million just to gamble. I don't care about his intention to help; if you are in your right mind, you will never ever use the money for your wedding for something that is too risky. I'm not saying to break up with him I know you love him but you should not trust your fiance in terms of money handling, because he did it once and it could hav more. 

[Wiwo]

I feel bad for the lady. If she decides to leave the relationship, I think it would more than just about money.

Yeah actually if a man will have I mind to use there wedding savings for gambling he is not worthy to be married and if I'm to be in the shoe of that women perhaps I will be left with no option but to leave the man because if a man has the mind to gamble using there wedding savings to gamble there is every possibility of using there house someday for gambling.

Irrespective of how sure a bet may seem, using money saved for wedding to gamble is totally unacceptable and a person like that should be referred as a gambling addicts.

Making contributions to get married or even taking loan to get married with are both not a good ways to start a family,  and one of the cardinal points of marriage is the ability to sustain your family as a man,  and in doing that you as a man must have a good income system and on long term base to avoid running into bankruptcy after the wedding and everything and if care is not taken and proper arrangement is not made by the man before marriage,  the pressure from the marriage may force one of the partner to walk out of the marriage.

So for a man that have such issues with gambling even though he is not financially stable is not yet man enough to start a family because there is the possibility that in the future he may start gambling with their children's school fees or be unable to pay the bill due to being exhausted from gambling passively to make an earns means.

[decodx]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Yeah, I get it.  It's a really heart-breaking situation and I can't help but empathize with her. Weddings are a huge deal for a lot of women, and she put in a bunch of her own money too.  So finding out her fiancé blew their savings gambling has gotta be just crushing.  I feel bad for her.  But it's probably better she found out now instead of after they got married, you know? At least this way she can make an informed choice if she really wants to start a family and spend the rest of her life with this dude.