What's the best advice or should I just let him

[Viscore]

I don't think a young man who barely knows anyone older than him will be heard. I think that your neighbor, if he has money and adult children, will be able to figure out his own entertainment. We have no right to interfere with advice where we are not asked. Therefore, you can observe, and if one day you are asked for advice, boldly go to save your neighbor. But for now, do not do good so as not to receive evil.

The problem with most of the older gamblers is that since they have better experiences in gambling, so they know more how to deal with gambling than those who are only starting to gambling. With that, it’s really impossible that your advices will be heard. However, it also depends on how you are going to deliver your advice. If you advise like a close friend, probably he will try to listen and consider your advice especially if he knows he is going far with his gambling habit. But if you advise him like you know better than him in gambling, you are only wasting your time because once he feels offended and sense that you are already over interfering on his own gambling business, then your advice will be useless and will only be taken for granted.

[TimeTeller]

I don't think a young man who barely knows anyone older than him will be heard. I think that your neighbor, if he has money and adult children, will be able to figure out his own entertainment. We have no right to interfere with advice where we are not asked. Therefore, you can observe, and if one day you are asked for advice, boldly go to save your neighbor. But for now, do not do good so as not to receive evil.

The problem with most of the older gamblers is that since they have better experiences in gambling, so they know more how to deal with gambling than those who are only starting to gambling. With that, it’s really impossible that your advices will be heard. However, it also depends on how you are going to deliver your advice. If you advise like a close friend, probably he will try to listen and consider your advice especially if he knows he is going far with his gambling habit. But if you advise him like you know better than him in gambling, you are only wasting your time because once he feels offended and sense that you are already over interfering on his own gambling business, then your advice will be useless and will only be taken for granted.

Maybe for now, let him do what he wants to do with his life. Anyway, he's a pensioner and his games are like his companion these days.
Try giving such piece of advice if he asks for it or give hints that he needs help about his gambling habits.
But without showing any indication that he needs help, don't offer it. As you said, he will just ignore those words.
He is enjoying his senior years, and maybe this activity is helping him to stay sane and active with life.

[Fortify]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

You can always make suggestions to someone, however it sounds like the guy is a bit older and by that point in life is less likely to take onboard the opinions of others in matters like this. You might find that he is doing it out of sheer boredom and to pass away some time, but you also don't necessarily know his financial situation to make certain judgements. Maybe he's playing for cents at a time and keeps within sensible boundaries every day. Even if his children were to find out, there may be no influence that they can have over his activities because they cannot be looking after him at all hours of the day. You're unlikely to change his habits, maybe you can steer him towards less expensive gambling or even free pursuits instead.

[BitcoinTurk]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Considering the situation in question, it wouldn't be wrong to state that the person is addicted to gambling but how actively he gambles is also a criterion that needs to be analyzed well to determine at what stage this addiction is. I don't think there is a need to warn someone who has turned to gambling probably out of boredom because he lives alone if he gambles in a way that doesn't put a strain on his own budget. However, if this person is negatively affected financially and psychologically due to gambling I think he needs advice and warnings regarding this.

Also, I think this person may need advice on this depending on his age and his level of gambling addiction. As I mentioned, if he isn't negatively affected financially and psychologically by this addiction there will be no harm in him continuing gambling. However, if gambling negatively affects this person's psychology and financial situation I definitely think he should be adviced about it.

[darkangel11]

Is gambling interfering with his other activities? Probably not.
If this was a situation where a man doesn't take care of his children, wastes all the money he works for and there's not much left for the family, can't afford to buy stuff and has to ask others for help, yet he still gambles, it would be a good idea to talk to him. In case of your neighbor, he's bored. He doesn't work anymore, doesn't need many things. He's trying to win to get some emotions into his boring life, maybe he wants to leave some money to his children and thinks he hasn't got enough time to earn that, but might get lucky and win it? I wouldn't say anything to him. Maybe casually ask him how he's doing and if he recently won anything.

[rahmad2nd]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

First, we first look at and investigate what the case is. if he can afford to lose because of his gambling, why should I forbid him. That doesn't mean I don't care at all, but I also have to look at several other aspects. Based on the first story, this old mother was lonely and was only accompanied by a servant. Maybe, that's why he's looking for entertainment without having to do activities outside the home or visit somewhere.
At this point, we don't know for sure why the old mother loves gambling so much. there are many factors, and I have already mentioned one of them.

Secondly, if it turns out that the old man has stable finances, plus gets other income from the share given by his child, for example. That means, this old lady doesn't feel worried about the activities she carries out in her gambling. Maybe, he understands better than us and is able to manage the expenses he has to incur. in particular, those related to gambling. as I said at the beginning, basically we don't know what the real situation is. and most importantly, if he gets pleasure from his gambling activities, why should we prohibit it, after all he has the right to his own pleasure.
So, before you give advice or provide education, you can first get to know it more closely. so that you know how far he is in his gambling. besides, if it doesn't harm him, it means he's fine. If, however, the situation is not like what I said, a persuasive approach is a better first step before we judge someone. After that, especially if you know what happened, then you can act according to the situation and your conscience.

[erep]

Maybe for now, let him do what he wants to do with his life. Anyway, he's a pensioner and his games are like his companion these days.
Try giving such piece of advice if he asks for it or give hints that he needs help about his gambling habits.
But without showing any indication that he needs help, don't offer it. As you said, he will just ignore those words.
He is enjoying his senior years, and maybe this activity is helping him to stay sane and active with life.

I agree with your opinion, we can only give advice if he asks for it but if your relationship is very close to the old widow then you can communicate the gambling problem to suggest gambling with limits and avoid the effects of gambling addiction. I feel sorry for the old widow who earns a monthly pension but her children don't necessarily send her funds every month. If he doesn't have other income then it won't be enough to use to gamble every day because he also depends on buying other necessities using those funds.

[pixie85]

I wouldn't interfere.

There's a lot of these situations where you feel like you should do something but don't know if it's the right thing to do and if that person really wants it.
Just look at the state of that person. Don't try to protect someone you don't know from bad things that aren't happening but could.

Old guy is having fun. I bet he's doing it for longer than you so you'll only make a fool of yourself trying to give advice to an old gambler.

[Jody.Drummer]

Maybe for now, let him do what he wants to do with his life. Anyway, he's a pensioner and his games are like his companion these days.
Try giving such piece of advice if he asks for it or give hints that he needs help about his gambling habits.
But without showing any indication that he needs help, don't offer it. As you said, he will just ignore those words.
He is enjoying his senior years, and maybe this activity is helping him to stay sane and active with life.

I agree with your opinion, we can only give advice if he asks for it but if your relationship is very close to the old widow then you can communicate the gambling problem to suggest gambling with limits and avoid the effects of gambling addiction. I feel sorry for the old widow who earns a monthly pension but her children don't necessarily send her funds every month. If he doesn't have other income then it won't be enough to use to gamble every day because he also depends on buying other necessities using those funds.

Right. even though for example we already have good intentions to help them but basically if they don't show signs of needing help then yes we can't do anything, and if we force them to follow some advice from us maybe they will think of us as people who like to interfere with other people's business. Therefore, a better first step is if indeed your socialization relationship with that person is not too close then do whatever it takes to make your relationship closer and one of them might be by always greeting them. I think this method is quite effective to do, with that I think then you will be able to find out whether they need help or not.

The impact  of gambling is huge and casinos never see who their target is, young or old it doesn't matter because of course the control is on the gambler himself, if he can't impose any limits on his gambling then obviously they will enter a worrying addiction, and I hope the old widow realizes soon that this activity does not have a positive impact on her life,  but will only cause a lot of problems, that's clear.

[maydna]

He may still be fine and doesn't gamble as much even though he has more free time. You can watch him from a distance to see if there are any changes in his health. If something has changed and his house helper asks you for help, you can help him and contact his children. Maybe he felt lonely because he didn't have his children or grandchildren visiting often, so when he saw gambling, he found something entertaining. But you can visit more often so he can chat with you. He can also reduce his gambling time. I think an older person needs other people he can chat with so that he doesn't feel bored living in his old days rather than just gambling all day.