What's the best advice or should I just let him

[coin-investor]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

[Beparanf]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

[Oshosondy]

If you are close with the man, there are ways that you can use to approach him. You can talk about gambling with him and also talk about games that you are using to gamble and also know how much that you are gambling with. I think you have known all these already. All you have to do is to just advice him because I think you are close already, but in a polite way like you are not advising him. He will have something to talk about it, if he says it is not affecting him, just leave it be.

Know first when he started gambling, if it has been a long time like over 10 years, I do not think he needs advice. I do not think someone that has been gambling for over 10 years needs advise. But if it is not long, like a year or two years ago, you can discuss about it like not in an advice way and give your own opinion which the man can see as an advise.

[acroman08]

if you are certain about him getting addicted and you are concerned, then do it, but think carefully about how you do it, like you said, senior citizens are very sensitive to criticism. you can also just inform one of his children about your concerns.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

the OP did say that he is concerned that his neighbour is getting addicted. the problem with gambling addiction is not just about financial loss, it can also negatively affect your relationship with the people around you(like his family).

[yudi09]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

She was still energetic and her skin was still tight even though she was an elderly widow. He also likes exercising. Is it true?

If he needs advice, it would be good for you to explain how to manage gambling activities. If she doesn't ask you, be a good neighbor who is ready to help when she needs help because she still has children who are ready to look after the old widow.
If you care about him, monitor him and call him out when his gambling activities go astray.

[coin-investor]

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

I think I can ignore that for now unless he starts borrowing or neglecting his health he is new to gambling but a senior citizen who wants to gamble for the rest of his life is something to be concerned about, we have a saying here that old people should behave like a dignified person, maybe this will come to pass since its new to him and has nothing to do the whole day.
I get the notion that it is bad to grow old alone with money coming to you without doing anything and then suddenly find gambling very interesting to indulge in, is it possible that he will be like this until the end or until he is very old and cannot walk, maybe gambling is doing great on his mentality like he is more focus and find it energetic only time can tell.

[lovesmayfamilis]

I don't think a young man who barely knows anyone older than him will be heard. I think that your neighbor, if he has money and adult children, will be able to figure out his own entertainment. We have no right to interfere with advice where we are not asked. Therefore, you can observe, and if one day you are asked for advice, boldly go to save your neighbor. But for now, do not do good so as not to receive evil.

[salad daging]

That is a new neighbor you may have to be able to approach further than directly giving advice about gambling of course the neighbor will definitely be sensitive because you just know you immediately advise the elderly which is like rude, maybe the best way is to approach children and then do what is the best advice if you want to save him from addiction then it needs to be more familiar.

And we cannot determine whether the elderly are just having fun when they are alone or are already addicted, if you see excessive gambling activities that make the elderly stressed then you can advise in any way you can.
I myself am not so sure because these parents still have the responsibility of their children who are still there.

[cabron]

The old man I guess did a good work in raising his children and letting him do what he wants to do is not such a bad idea. Knowing that he even have a hired care taker means he can afford stuff. Or maybe his kids are also helping him out. Since you are talking a lot, you can always ask the usual stuff we talk here. His loss versus the win I guess if that's not so much of invading his privacy.

I do have a renter about 64yrs old who is also betting on horse race and betting on bet365. Because he is an ex-cop I just let him be. Old man like this are grumpy. He only greets me if I throw his trash.

[Sunderland]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Its not about telling him to stop is a good thing or let him is a bad thing for you as his friendly neighboor.

You must know his background first, lets say he gamble $100 daily while he has $1M in his bank account or his sons send him $10k monthly.
It will be useless and after that he will keep the distance from you.
Different story when he cant pay the bills, food and he is poor.
That is the time for you as a friendly neighboorhood coin-investorman telling him to stop and yes with a soft approach.

[Hirose UK]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

He is retiree and has monthly income plus being a widow which makes him have relatively smaller expenses for living necessities so it is natural for him to carry out various gambling activities.
I'm sure he did it also to entertain himself and make gambling comfortable place to have fun without having to think about anything else.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

If you want to give advice, it is better to give advice on how to manage finances in gambling and also remind to always have limits and also control emotions because woman will be more easily provoked by emotions when she experiences bad luck such as losing.
But you also have to approach this advice in way that the children know about so that there are no bad prejudices about what you are doing.

[DaNNy001]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Well if you say he has children who are doing well and it's an advance man, I personally think he is just trying not be bored because so many folks out there see gambling as a event we can use to ease the mind and take it as our fun activity so maybe your neighbor is trying not to be bored and besides if he has the money and the one he is using isn't going to be of any damages to him them I see no problem with him finding out time to please himself.

[Beparanf]

if you are certain about him getting addicted and you are concerned, then do it, but think carefully about how you do it, like you said, senior citizens are very sensitive to criticism. you can also just inform one of his children about your concerns.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

the OP did say that he is concerned that his neighbour is getting addicted. the problem with gambling addiction is not just about financial loss, it can also negatively affect your relationship with the people around you(like his family).

I understand your point here if the subject is not a senior citizen. What kind of damage to the family which a senior citizen can be done while he is just gambling on his own assuming you remove financial loss here? I assume that he is living on his own since this is the typical setup of senior citizen in my country so I’m not sure what kind of damage you are pertaining.

The subject here is an old guy probably has a lot of experience than us. Interfering others life might cause you a consequence which you can avoid if you just ignore unless you are a person who really want to dip on other personal problem then go on.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

I think I can ignore that for now unless he starts borrowing or neglecting his health he is new to gambling but a senior citizen who wants to gamble for the rest of his life is something to be concerned about, we have a saying here that old people should behave like a dignified person, maybe this will come to pass since its new to him and has nothing to do the whole day.
I get the notion that it is bad to grow old alone with money coming to you without doing anything and then suddenly find gambling very interesting to indulge in, is it possible that he will be like this until the end or until he is very old and cannot walk, maybe gambling is doing great on his mentality like he is more focus and find it energetic only time can tell.

This is the right approach bro, Just observe first because I knew a lot of senior citizen that just using gambling as source of entertainment since most of their family is busy on their own life. Just help him if you knew that he is already showing sign of extreme addiction like what you said. But according to your description, He is just having fun since he have the money and I knew a lot of oldies playing gambling most of the time since they hangout with other senior citizens in there like the weekends bingo at mall.  

[Docnaster]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Well if you say he has children who are doing well and it's an advance man, I personally think he is just trying not be bored because so many folks out there see gambling as a event we can use to ease the mind and take it as our fun activity so maybe your neighbor is trying not to be bored and besides if he has the money and the one he is using isn't going to be of any damages to him them I see no problem with him finding out time to please himself.

From his explanation, one can clearly see that the man is likely engaging in gambling as a result boredom or just trying to keep himself busy since he's the only one at home and mostly do not have anyone to talk to.
I think the best thing to do in other to help the man is to try and introduce him to other gaming activities that an old man can engage in his leisure time which will help reduce his gambling activities. Gambling I know might be one thing he enjoys doing but getting addicted to it isn't good for an aged man

[Dzwaafu11]

I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

This person cannot get addicted to gambling anymore as he’s not a small child or teenager. This person is already exposed to and has experienced many things in his life already, which I believe people who get addicted to gambling or easily get addicted to gambling are those who gamble to get money, which this person you're talking about doesn’t need because he already has children. When he needs money, they will support him, so I’m sure he is not doing it for anything but to have fun.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

I don’t think it is necessary because you know how old people behave, and this person has been doing this even before he met you, so don’t you think advising him may, of course, solve your problem? He will be thinking about something that he is doing even before he knows you, and suddenly you came and told me to stop. Which I believe he will see as bad; however, why don’t you just free him and let him continue his gaming activities as he has been doing since he is only doing it for fun and he has money already, even though he has already retired, but there is a pensioner monthly and also children to support him when he needs financial assistance, which is why I said you should just leave him.

[jrrsparkles]

I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

I would say just let him be, since it's just new to you but probably he is doing that for a very long time, and if addiction becomes a cause for concern then eventually will run out of funds based on the assumption that he is living from his pensions. Another fact is, it is quite an impossible task to change the habits of a senior citizen all of a sudden and probably that is one of the few things he can enjoy now.

[acroman08]

if you are certain about him getting addicted and you are concerned, then do it, but think carefully about how you do it, like you said, senior citizens are very sensitive to criticism. you can also just inform one of his children about your concerns.

He is a senior citizen and he has nothing to lose aside from his daily or monthly pension which will not devastate his life since he has family to support him financially. He is not a teenager anymore so I’m sure that he is just enjoying since he doesn’t have someone to accompany him on his daily life.

You should not interfere on other hobby/entertainment if they are not asking for an advice because it’s their life and it’s his family matter. You have nothing to gain if you will interfere while you can be at bad terms on him if he didn’t like what you said. There’s no upside here so just ignore him as best option.

the OP did say that he is concerned that his neighbour is getting addicted. the problem with gambling addiction is not just about financial loss, it can also negatively affect your relationship with the people around you(like his family).

I understand your point here if the subject is not a senior citizen. What kind of damage to the family which a senior citizen can be done while he is just gambling on his own assuming you remove financial loss here? I assume that he is living on his own since this is the typical setup of senior citizen in my country so I’m not sure what kind of damage you are pertaining.

The subject here is an old guy probably has a lot of experience than us. Interfering others life might cause you a consequence which you can avoid if you just ignore unless you are a person who really want to dip on other personal problem then go on.

the damage I am pertaining here is the emotion, the possibility of ruining a relationship with your kids can be extremely hard for someone, especially for an old person, believe it or not, old people are pretty emotional when it comes to their relationship with their kids or grandkids, old people are also far more at risk at being depressed.  

having a lot of experience doesn't mean they'll be able to battle gambling addiction. also, as I said before, OP should think carefully about how he is going to do it.

[alegotardo]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

Gambling addiction among elderly people is much more common than we think.
But see, this is not a very serious problem.

Adults (not elderly) usually play because they want to make money and get rich, that's a fact!

An elderly person certainly does not have the intention of making money and becoming rich, because after reaching a certain age and physically depending on other people, a lot of money will not change their life. So why do elderly people gamble? For fun!
The problem is if your neighbor ends up committing his entire retirement to gambling or if he owes money to the bank, this could even affect his heirs' income in the future.

Other than that, I don't see many problems for him.

[Issa56]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

How sure are you that he is getting addicted to gambling? I don't know if you can talk about things that you notice about the man that make you think he is getting addicted to gambling. You said he gambles only during the weekend, I don't see anything bad in that, but if he is really addicted to gambling, he should be gambling maybe every day or almost every day.

You said his children don't know about gambling addiction, it's better you keep it away from them. If the children don't notice it by themselves, they shouldn't hear it from you that their father is addicted to gambling. You shouldn't try to cause some problems in the family. If you are close to the person, you can just caution him about his gambling activities if he is going to listen to you, but if you are not close to him, then it's better you mind your business, don't involve yourself in things that will end up causing problems for yourself.

[Cookdata]

I'd like to ask the community I have a newly moved neighbor he is a widowed senior citizen and he lives alone with a house helper, all his children are now professionals and he is a pensioner, we talked a lot about many things  I just noticed that he is very active on online casinos and other gambling activities like lotto and cock fighting every weekend, his children do not know his activities and I'm afraid he is getting addicted.

Should I give him advice on how to manage his gambling activities or I just let him since he is just enjoying his senior years and doing things that he missed doing when he was still young? and what's the right approach, we all know senior citizens are sensitive to criticism.

I hope you know that elderly people get bored easily and most often missed their children, who knows playing casino is what he enjoyed and use in killing time since you said he is a widowed meaning he doesn't have a partner to share time with, playing that will definitely be one thing he loves doing the most just to be out of boredom, not thinking about life or been alone.

Something is also not clear, you need to know how he fund this casino because he will definitely have a way he fund it and if it's from money the children send for him, then I think it's better you inform the children or somebody closer to him. It might sound disrespectful as a neighbor to intrude into another person privacy and want to advice him on what to do and how to live his life.