A gambler's family action.

[maydna]

Very normal thing for a family to do such measures and i agree on some post above that they dont really care on what are the steps or things that they'll be doing as long they could help out one of their members.
Family might not be perfect but we do know on whats the best for us, gambling isnt bad but on the time that they've been seeing that you are really that getting addicted too much because they've obviously see you
that become impulsive into your actions like selling your possession or things just for the sake of gambling then this is a solid indicative sign that you are really that addicted to it.

Family is very important in the life of anyone as they are the people that will support you in time of need. However, it is important to put in mind that family can take the wrong decision when watching out for their own. This very action might not be right even though the intention may be good. The man is an adult and has right to his decisions as much as he should be ready for the consequences for his actions. You cannot change an adult with force, especially when he is not ready to change. The best approach will be to continue to talk to him and appeal to his conscience to see the need to stop and change for God. Another approach will be to inform the people he listens to, those are the people that can talk some sense into him.

There's nothing wrong with gambling, but we have to be able to take care of ourselves or be responsible gamblers so that later, we won't cause trouble to our family, especially if we become addicted to gambling. If we are addicted to gambling, we will get into serious problems, which may take a long time to cure our gambling addiction. Family may not be perfect, but they are the ones who will probably help us first when we are experiencing problems, so we should not waste them, especially if we have a family who cares about us. Maybe the decision making made by the family may not be appropriate because of the limited information they have. At least they will definitely try to help us and will look for other information that we need so that we can undergo treatment for gambling addiction.

[Sanugarid]

It's normal for your loved ones to give extreme care most especially that they are your family. They knows what's good and bad for you. And if it means threatening the casinos so they won't let you gamble on their shops, then they will surely do it without hesitation so they can protect you from the danger that this gambling addiction may cause. That's what a family can do even if you see it they have gone too extreme just to protect yourself.

Now if you become lucky and made life changing profits with gambling, are you still supposed to help them? Of course, yes! At the end of the day, the rest of your friends will leave you most especially when you have no money anymore, but your family will stick by your side regardless if you have nothing to give to them. So prioritize helping your family above other people.

I agree with what you said, only your family can really help you when you are in trouble. So think carefully about why your family did this to you at that time, to protect you, to save you from gambling addiction because they love you, they care for you. So don't feel bad about what your family did because they only did it because they were worried about you.
Your family has not forgotten you. So if you hit the jackpot in your gambling, don't forget your family.

[beerlover]

You cannot help a person who doesn't want to be helped. Absolutely nothing you can do. Even if you go for therapy, the therapist will tell you that. The best the family could have done was to put in in a situation where he would see that gambling addiction is damaging and can ruin his career. If I were the boy and my family treated me in that manner, they would probably not hear from me again for a long time to come. I would hate them for life.

We can lend a help but they could reject it. Maybe for now, because there are problematic person who soon realizes their own fault, so we should not give up easily. Helping someone can still give us a good unexplainable feeling, aside from the money that they can give to us. If we are the ones who are suffering from that condition, we shouldn't think in advance because our thoughts are for sure not correct.

Therapy is built that way in the first place to help people like us and they are also going to get paid, so they will never ignore us. Part of curing or preventing to get addicted in gambling is to show its side effects. Everyone knows this already.

[BitcoinTurk]

Is it not possible that this young man can take a cab away from their location and move to a far area to carry out his gambling since his a compulsive gambler.

Share your thoughts!

Of course, this is a possibility within the realm of possibility. Also, considering that there aren't only physical casinos today it shouldn't be forgotten that this person can access gambling games online instead of going to a physical casino located further away. In other words, this precautionary action taken by this person's family is nothing more than preventing the person from going to physical casinos in the immediate vicinity.

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

1) Yes, I think that the family is exaggerating this situation by taking such precautions because as I stated in the answer to the previous question the measures mentioned are not sufficient for the person to stay away from gambling and are only a small obstacle for this person to easily access gambling.

2) This is actually a bit of a difficult question because it isn't very difficult to understand that the family doesn't actually have a bad purpose or goal. Of course, it may take some time or be difficult for a gambling addict to understand this but in this case it is important to remember that the family doesn't have a bad purpose. For this reason, I think that if I were this person I would realize this after earning a very high amount of money from gambling and would make my choice in favor of my family.

[Lanatsa]

Very normal thing for a family to do such measures and i agree on some post above that they dont really care on what are the steps or things that they'll be doing as long they could help out one of their members.
Family might not be perfect but we do know on whats the best for us, gambling isnt bad but on the time that they've been seeing that you are really that getting addicted too much because they've obviously see you
that become impulsive into your actions like selling your possession or things just for the sake of gambling then this is a solid indicative sign that you are really that addicted to it.

Family is very important in the life of anyone as they are the people that will support you in time of need. However, it is important to put in mind that family can take the wrong decision when watching out for their own. This very action might not be right even though the intention may be good. The man is an adult and has right to his decisions as much as he should be ready for the consequences for his actions. You cannot change an adult with force, especially when he is not ready to change. The best approach will be to continue to talk to him and appeal to his conscience to see the need to stop and change for God. Another approach will be to inform the people he listens to, those are the people that can talk some sense into him.

There's nothing wrong with gambling, but we have to be able to take care of ourselves or be responsible gamblers so that later, we won't cause trouble to our family, especially if we become addicted to gambling. If we are addicted to gambling, we will get into serious problems, which may take a long time to cure our gambling addiction. Family may not be perfect, but they are the ones who will probably help us first when we are experiencing problems, so we should not waste them, especially if we have a family who cares about us. Maybe the decision making made by the family may not be appropriate because of the limited information they have. At least they will definitely try to help us and will look for other information that we need so that we can undergo treatment for gambling addiction.

It would really be just that normal for our family to have that kind of action because they do care and really love one another on which if they would really be seeing someone whose in trouble then it would really be just that normal that they will really be lending a hand or would be doing sorts of ways for it to counter or completely stop it. Just like on what been said above that family cant be perfect but the concern and the love on what make it is, it might really be looking that too much of those actions been done but for the sake of your safety or avoiding potential problems then those actions are really just that right.

If you dont like for your family to have some involvement then you should really be making yourself that responsible so that they wont really be that taking any step further just because
you've been showing those real addiction. Selling something or in your possession is really that a solid indicative sign that you are already extreme addicted to gambling.
So it is really just that right that they would really be making otu such step for them to save you up on such difficult situation, you might not really that not impressed
or seeing this to be helpful but later on you would be able to realize.

[Fortify]

During the weekend I was listening to an evening programme from one our the local radio stations they were discussing about gambling, the effects and how to manage it if you might be struggling with  addiction. And they had listeners calling in to share personal experiences or of a loved one that gambles and amidst many callers there was this very caller story that caught my interest and curiosity.

She told about how the family members of a particular young man that is like a plunger when it comes to gambling, his compulsive gambling is to the length of him selling his personal properties and gadgets to make sure he gambles. So what he family did was to print a photograph of him and giving it to all the gambling shops within their neighborhood and around the locality, threatening that any of the gambling shops they have pasted the photo of their brother should they find their brother allowed to gamble in the shops they will sue the gamble shop owner to court as one that is abetting their brother's compulsive gambling lifestyle.

Now, while I was quietly listening to the story in my head I began to ask myself several possible  questions and one of such questions was; is it not possible that this young man can take a cab away from their location and move to a far area to carry out his gambling since his a compulsive gambler.

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Share your thoughts!

It sounds like an incredibly dumb and made up story that has zero truth behind it, either you made it up or the radio station. If a gambling shop is legally allowed to operate and the man is of a legal age to place a bet, then there is nothing that could happen to those shops. A judge would not even hear a case in that scenario, because the man has willingly entered into a legal activity on legal premises. They could politely ask that this person be refused, but that is also unlikely as it raises the threat of abuse or violence against the staff members that refuse him. Nor does it solve any problem as the person might just search further afield and the internet makes it so easy to gamble now anyway. The whole story sounds ludicrous.

[Odohu]

There's nothing wrong with gambling, but we have to be able to take care of ourselves or be responsible gamblers so that later, we won't cause trouble to our family, especially if we become addicted to gambling. If we are addicted to gambling, we will get into serious problems, which may take a long time to cure our gambling addiction. Family may not be perfect, but they are the ones who will probably help us first when we are experiencing problems, so we should not waste them, especially if we have a family who cares about us. Maybe the decision making made by the family may not be appropriate because of the limited information they have. At least they will definitely try to help us and will look for other information that we need so that we can undergo treatment for gambling addiction.

In the case of the topic of discussion, I'm of the opinion that
Went too far in their bid to helping their brother. You can't help someone by destroying his name and reputation.  You don't cure an addiction by making it public, that's a wrong approach.

Do you know that even if such person manages to overcome his addiction after the family exposed his problem to the public without his consent, he will easily be reminded of his past by people at any little argument. This will immediately make him depressed and remorseful. 

While family help is important, the approach must be carefully chosen to avoid creating a bigger problem while solving a problem.

[mvdheuvel1983]

This is the first time that I would read of a family going this extreme length to try and stop their kid from gambling. There is no positive effect this would  have on the boy they had the option of being loving and kind but chose the cruel route because that is what it is. If I were the boy, I'll get the arrested and make them pay damages . At least he'll be able to recover all the monies he lost from gambling through this means and it would teach them a lesson that they should let him be so he can live his life.

[danherbias07]

Very normal thing for a family to do such measures and i agree on some post above that they dont really care on what are the steps or things that they'll be doing as long they could help out one of their members.
Family might not be perfect but we do know on whats the best for us, gambling isnt bad but on the time that they've been seeing that you are really that getting addicted too much because they've obviously see you
that become impulsive into your actions like selling your possession or things just for the sake of gambling then this is a solid indicative sign that you are really that addicted to it.

Family is very important in the life of anyone as they are the people that will support you in time of need. However, it is important to put in mind that family can take the wrong decision when watching out for their own. This very action might not be right even though the intention may be good. The man is an adult and has right to his decisions as much as he should be ready for the consequences for his actions. You cannot change an adult with force, especially when he is not ready to change. The best approach will be to continue to talk to him and appeal to his conscience to see the need to stop and change for God. Another approach will be to inform the people he listens to, those are the people that can talk some sense into him.

That's also a good way to do things right.
But I still believe the family didn't go extreme in what they did. How can we fight against large businesses like gambling platforms? What they did is just a step to avoid unnecessary spending of money by suing them which we all know could be a losing case because of their power.
The trouble will always end up with the gambler and not the business because he is the one who got addicted to gambling and I don't think the gambling business could be tried by that reasoning unless they are in the wrong space (near residential), illegal, don't pay taxes, and other means to close them down.
It's true that talking calmly is still the powerful approach to make the gambler change but sometimes it doesn't work that way anymore and those close to them must use extreme measures to help him out.

[Broadanbig]

There's nothing wrong with gambling, but we have to be able to take care of ourselves or be responsible gamblers so that later, we won't cause trouble to our family, especially if we become addicted to gambling. If we are addicted to gambling, we will get into serious problems, which may take a long time to cure our gambling addiction. Family may not be perfect, but they are the ones who will probably help us first when we are experiencing problems, so we should not waste them, especially if we have a family who cares about us. Maybe the decision making made by the family may not be appropriate because of the limited information they have. At least they will definitely try to help us and will look for other information that we need so that we can undergo treatment for gambling addiction.

In the case of the topic of discussion, I'm of the opinion that
Went too far in their bid to helping their brother. You can't help someone by destroying his name and reputation.  You don't cure an addiction by making it public, that's a wrong approach.

Do you know that even if such person manages to overcome his addiction after the family exposed his problem to the public without his consent, he will easily be reminded of his past by people at any little argument. This will immediately make him depressed and remorseful. 

While family help is important, the approach must be carefully chosen to avoid creating a bigger problem while solving a problem.

I must say that your opinion is of utmost importance because I see no reason why such measures should be taken into consideration by the family members although they meant well as to stop the addiction but it is a measures taken too far because In the near future, he would be reminded by outsiders of his past and that would be a big stigma attached to him where ever he goes. In the other hand doing such can make him pretend that he has stopped gambling but believe me that would be the worse because they would not be able to keep track of his gambling lifestyle anymore which would be very dangerous than he used to be and when it gets to that point he might do the unthinkable with the mindset that his family does not matter to him since they could go a long way to expose and humiliate him publicly as an addicted gambler.

[qwertyup23]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

What do you mean by "extreme" ? Remember, family will go to lengths just to help their members get away from an activity that can also potentially endanger their situation. Personally, there exist no such extreme measure when it comes to solving the addiction of a person if the end result would be benefit to everyone.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

I would definitely share it with them.

At the end of the day, my family members care about my life and livelihood as a whole. They will not attempt to stop my gambling activities if they know that I am being destructive in my lifestyle. Their intention is pure and good- they want me to stop and be responsible with my expenses, so it is natural for them to care.

[Accardo]

This is the first time that I would read of a family going this extreme length to try and stop their kid from gambling. There is no positive effect this would  have on the boy they had the option of being loving and kind but chose the cruel route because that is what it is. If I were the boy, I'll get the arrested and make them pay damages . At least he'll be able to recover all the monies he lost from gambling through this means and it would teach them a lesson that they should let him be so he can live his life.

It's funny to see a reaction close to mine, but contrarily a bit in the aspect that made your words funny; arresting your loved ones. Despite the action of these people or the damages they may have caused. We can't settle a fight with another fight. I think the best action is laying low and observing them from a distant. Because involving the police on this can add insult to the injury. Imagine it's a country where gambling is not legalized would that be an option? although this happened in a gambling friendly environment, yet the police still frown at gamblers. They're the society too, so it'll be disrespectful to embark on such a decision. The family will definitely face more difficulties, and no one would be glad to instigate double trouble in their home. What they did is very embarrassing no doubt and I see a future for the gambler as he may have a rethink. As nobody goes on without thinking of the bad treatment our loved ones has done to us. It's like an everlasting mark on the skin. Meeting a therapist is better than the police. A psycho therapist can swiftly handle the problem gradually. The best part of meeting a therapist is, at the end, the player can surprise his parents, by becoming a better citizen. Still, it baffles me you made this response, could you elaborate more on what may have led you to think this way? have you had any similar experience in your life? I've never seen this before and that doesn't mean I can't get angry to such extent if I were that gambler. But, paying back with love and care in a way that'll change me can be a better revenge. Thereby, helping me and the family instead of destroying the family or bringing more agony.

[Lida93]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

What do you mean by "extreme" ? Remember, family will go to lengths just to help their members get away from an activity that can also potentially endanger their situation. Personally, there exist no such extreme measure when it comes to solving the addiction of a person if the end result would be benefit to everyone.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

I would definitely share it with them.

At the end of the day, my family members care about my life and livelihood as a whole. They will not attempt to stop my gambling activities if they know that I am being destructive in my lifestyle. Their intention is pure and good- they want me to stop and be responsible with my expenses, so it is natural for them to care.

  Not a lie you could be correct, family is everything and when family are all out for you they can take on unspecified action just to salvage you from any nest that is deteriorating your personality in as much as the end result is of a positive impact.


I concur with your reasons to share to share your money with them. There's an adage in my local parlance that says "all what we're struggling for in life in anyway to make money is fixated on making family proud and taking care of family". Therefore, if we now made money and not let your family benefits from it then it's an error. Although some persons wouldn't care.

[Kemarit]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

This is not extreme, this is how casinos also worth, I have a cousin who is addicted to gambling way before. If he leaves the house at night and the wife knows that he will be gambling, he will call the casinos themselves and describe what the husband (my cousin), will look like and so he will be ban from entering the casinos. My casino will tell me he didn't know how it happened, but later on he understand that the wife called the casinos, describe what he is wearing and his looks and description and that's ti.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

9 out 10, if a gambler won a lot of money, they will come back and play for more, resulting to a big lost. So I doubt that it will crossed his mind to share his winnings, but instead what in his mind is to continue to gamble again until he lose all that money.

[Zanab247]

This is the first time that I would read of a family going this extreme length to try and stop their kid from gambling. There is no positive effect this would  have on the boy they had the option of being loving and kind but chose the cruel route because that is what it is. If I were the boy, I'll get the arrested and make them pay damages . At least he'll be able to recover all the monies he lost from gambling through this means and it would teach them a lesson that they should let him be so he can live his life.

Gambling is not a bad thing to allow your kids to do in the society but ensure they are above 18 years before you can allow them to do such a thing, but you need to guide them in some areas not to allow them to be addicted to it because once they are addicted that is were many kids use to do evil things to their parents by using their school fees to gamble and regret why they took such decision. I don't know Why some people don't use to start gambling with little money to see how it work to avoid anything that will make them to regret when they do not get the money back because, the more you gamble to recover your money back the more you are losing more  money.

I don't think the family can stop the young man not to gamble on this condition, but they should try their possible best to help the boy to get a good job that will be keeping him busy night and day, I believe it will make him to reduce the way he use to gamble.

[Outhue]

During the weekend I was listening to an evening programme from one our the local radio stations they were discussing about gambling, the effects and how to manage it if you might be struggling with  addiction. And they had listeners calling in to share personal experiences or of a loved one that gambles and amidst many callers there was this very caller story that caught my interest and curiosity.

She told about how the family members of a particular young man that is like a plunger when it comes to gambling, his compulsive gambling is to the length of him selling his personal properties and gadgets to make sure he gambles. So what he family did was to print a photograph of him and giving it to all the gambling shops within their neighborhood and around the locality, threatening that any of the gambling shops they have pasted the photo of their brother should they find their brother allowed to gamble in the shops they will sue the gamble shop owner to court as one that is abetting their brother's compulsive gambling lifestyle.

Now, while I was quietly listening to the story in my head I began to ask myself several possible  questions and one of such questions was; is it not possible that this young man can take a cab away from their location and move to a far area to carry out his gambling since his a compulsive gambler.

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

Share your thoughts!

This story have to be judge by thinking if you have someone like that gambler in your family, because I won't allow such person to make decisions for the family, I am thinking that he is the head of the house that's why he was able to sell properties successfully,  I don't see a thing that wrong with what the family did, some people are behaving like they are possessed with gambling, they will get so closed to gambling as if it's a do or die thing.

Addiction with gambling has levels, some are top notched, they will even sell their wives and daughters to the brothel for some money to use in gambling, there are different stories like this around the world like those countries where poverty is the biggest problem, these set of people are very hard to control, nothing can work on them not even therapies can solve their addiction to gambling.

To me they don't went to far to help this man but it may not work, gambling addiction is something that you must break yourself, when your mind is made up nothing can hinder it again, and when you decide to stop gambling you will succeed, the only way this addiction can be won is if this man is ready to stop gambling himself.

[Broadanbig]

This is the first time that I would read of a family going this extreme length to try and stop their kid from gambling. There is no positive effect this would  have on the boy they had the option of being loving and kind but chose the cruel route because that is what it is. If I were the boy, I'll get the arrested and make them pay damages . At least he'll be able to recover all the monies he lost from gambling through this means and it would teach them a lesson that they should let him be so he can live his life.

Gambling is not a bad thing to allow your kids to do in the society but ensure they are above 18 years before you can allow them to do such a thing, but you need to guide them in some areas not to allow them to be addicted to it because once they are addicted that is were many kids use to do evil things to their parents by using their school fees to gamble and regret why they took such decision. I don't know Why some people don't use to start gambling with little money to see how it work to avoid anything that will make them to regret when they do not get the money back because, the more you gamble to recover your money back the more you are losing more  money.

Although gambling is not a bad thing but some society and religion sees it as odd and does not allow their people or congregation to partake in it so therefore some parents too do not wish for their child(ren) to also gamble as well. When a child is above 18 it is assumed that the child is matured enough to know what is right and what is wrong to some extent and would know what to do without supervision of the parents to take a decision on their own so therefore any child can take the best decision as it pleases them or seek the consent their parents or anybody they feel is okay to relate anything with in their life.

As for giving a child school fees to pay by themselves now, i think no parents does that for children below 18 who are still under their parents watch only those above that age and most of them are in the university so I believe they would be matured enough to know then right thing to do rather than gambling with their school fees.

I will quote this scriptures which I think is very much important to a child up bringing which says " Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6

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[maydna]

~snip~

It would really be just that normal for our family to have that kind of action because they do care and really love one another on which if they would really be seeing someone whose in trouble then it would really be just that normal that they will really be lending a hand or would be doing sorts of ways for it to counter or completely stop it. Just like on what been said above that family cant be perfect but the concern and the love on what make it is, it might really be looking that too much of those actions been done but for the sake of your safety or avoiding potential problems then those actions are really just that right.

If you dont like for your family to have some involvement then you should really be making yourself that responsible so that they wont really be that taking any step further just because
you've been showing those real addiction. Selling something or in your possession is really that a solid indicative sign that you are already extreme addicted to gambling.
So it is really just that right that they would really be making otu such step for them to save you up on such difficult situation, you might not really that not impressed
or seeing this to be helpful but later on you would be able to realize.

They don't want to see us in trouble because if a person doesn't have good self-control and decides to gamble, he may end up having problem after problem that will get him into trouble. The family doesn't want that to happen, so they are forced to do that to prevent us from having problems. In fact, we should be grateful to our families who are willing to help us avoid gambling in this way. Maybe the family is not perfect, but they want to provide help to us so that we avoid the problems caused by gambling.

We should be able to be responsible for our actions, especially if we want to gamble, so that we don't experience problems, let alone become addicted to gambling. If we can be responsible when playing gambling, maybe they won't do things like that because when we gamble, it makes them worry and anxious if we will gamble excessively or become addicted to gambling. They don't want us to experience something bad that could result in our lives falling apart, so they go to the extreme and threaten us.

~snip~

In the case of the topic of discussion, I'm of the opinion that
Went too far in their bid to helping their brother. You can't help someone by destroying his name and reputation.  You don't cure an addiction by making it public, that's a wrong approach.

Do you know that even if such person manages to overcome his addiction after the family exposed his problem to the public without his consent, he will easily be reminded of his past by people at any little argument. This will immediately make him depressed and remorseful. 

While family help is important, the approach must be carefully chosen to avoid creating a bigger problem while solving a problem.

Perhaps for us, it has gone too far because we don't know the real situation. But for those who experience this, maybe they also find it difficult to make such a decision, and they are forced to do it because they don't want to see their family members being irresponsible in gambling. Or it could be that the person has gotten too deep into gambling and has caused a lot of problems for their family, so they do this as a last resort. It can be considered normal because only in that way can the person realize that what he did was wrong and start to improve it.

I agree that families should be able to take a different approach and don't need to use methods like that because it will make the person embarrassed and uncomfortable to see. But whatever it is, they should discuss everything carefully and not use extreme things to stop the person from gambling.

[Saisher]

Just two questions here:
1. Dis the family of this young man went too extreme in trying to help stop their brother from gambling addiction or not?

Because they love their loved ones families can sometimes to extremes that sometimes can be considered questionable, because all the other means failed to solve the issues of their loved ones, this may be wrong but they prefer it that way to protect one of their family to go astray further.

2. Assuming you are this young man and you had to run to a distant location to carry out your gambling as you are allowed to gambling within your neighborhood and luckily you won huge sum of million dollars. Would you share that money with your loved ones who were barring you from gambling or you will just stay off from them and live new found wealthy live alone?

I will give them a portion to prove that I have no ill feelings about what they've done to me, if they accept the funds then all is good between us and I will stay away from them and be on my own since I have the money to manage myself and my gambling activity,

[Accardo]

Although gambling is not a bad thing but some society and religion sees it as odd and does not allow their people or congregation to partake in it so therefore some parents too do not wish for their child(ren) to also gamble as well. When a child is above 18 it is assumed that the child is matured enough to know what is right and what is wrong to some extent and would know what to do without supervision of the parents to take a decision on their own so therefore any child can take the best decision as it pleases them or seek the consent their parents or anybody they feel is okay to relate anything with in their life.

As for giving a child school fees to pay by themselves now, i think no parents does that for children below 18 who are still under their parents watch only those above that age and most of them are in the university so I believe they would be matured enough to know then right thing to do rather than gambling with their school fees.

I will quote this scriptures which I think is very much important to a child up bringing which says " Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6

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These days adults are derailing from the ways they were being trained by their parents. Hence, the society gets even more difficult to control. I'd say that despite having greater possibilty of being effective, allowing kids above the age of 18 isn't a nice idea. Because not everyone of them are grown enough to take reasonable decisions against delaying the gravity of making easy money through gambling. Peer pressure still control these youths and only the strong or well trained can withstand the gravity that follows it. The worst part of gambling is playing or staking the money given to us by others, especially our parents. To stay on safe side, it's crucial to hand out spare cash to our kids, as pocket cash. Such that, whatever thing they do with the money won't affect the family financially. Whether they're adults or not. The world is becoming too wild and nobody can be trusted with huge sum of money, not even our kids. Most parents have been through countless heart breaks by their kids, who squander their hard earned money on gambling. However, it's good to test the loyalty and morality of our children, by giving them trust. But, when they begin to act strange, our punctured trust would lead parents to act the ways they do not expect. Hence, when investing money on our children, we have to be there because the money belongs to the parents of that child. Whenever, the child, begin to generate wealth for themselves they can spend their money, how it pleases them. Still it doesn't stop us from teaching them money management and laying strong financial or investment foundation for them to be responsible; money wise. As a bad financial behavior, affects the economic growth of not only the child's family, but the society too.