Letting the cat out of the bag

[rahmad2nd]

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If you are facing gambling addictions and you are keeping it all to yourself, you are worsening your problem, find someone who is close to you and open up to them, letting it all out will bring you some relieve and hopefully you will get better, don't wait till you hit the rock bottom before you say it all out.

In fact we often discuss it and repeat it many times. but that's okay, there's no harm in it and it's also useful to remind us all. what you say, I completely agree. If someone experiences a disorder such as addiction, whatever the type, opening up and seeking help is the main and most important part, especially for the family. thus, we will try to find a solution to overcome it and even cure it. although some of our families do not hesitate to ostracize the addict. It's natural, because everyone has different thoughts and ways of responding.

However, the points you make are absolutely correct. especially, for addicted people who do not have limits and understanding regarding the level of gambling. although in reality, the healing process will be different for the sufferer and even then it must be accompanied by strong intention and determination. otherwise it will be useless, even though we have told our family about it. In fact, there are many cases related to addiction of any type. but instead of giving help and taking him to a rehabilitation place, even to an expert, the main key lies with us as sufferers. if the intention is not firm, let alone not having determination. then the healing process can take a long time until a person reaches the peak of his consciousness. Well, just make gambling part of your entertainment. It doesn't have to be all the time, we can play it according to the conditions and situations plus sufficient understanding.

[swogerino]

How many people have you been able to change after they get addicted to gambling? And what is there level of addiction?

From my own experience, I get to know that those gamblers who are secretly gambling in their rooms and develop the addiction habit have the biggest problem, gambling addiction is like 'wanting more' and never getting enough, you will have all day thinking about gambling, maybe if you do this or you do that, maybe the result will be different.

I was able to talk sense into two different addicted gamblers and they also get help from family members, but the major reason why they too so long in their addiction is because they don't open up to anybody, they kept it all inside of them and it's killing them.

Things get better after they voiced out about their addiction and they are able to get help, any gambling addicts you know of? what method works for you when helping them?
If you are facing gambling addictions and you are keeping it all to yourself, you are worsening your problem, find someone who is close to you and open up to them, letting it all out will bring you some relieve and hopefully you will get better, don't wait till you hit the rock bottom before you say it all out.

I think the addiction cannot be overcome directly except the cases where people ask for help and go to rehab centers.The most of addicted people including me who was once addicted overcome it by slowing down their dose of gambling sessions during the day,week,month and years,the more we stay without gambling in time span the more prone to not be heavily addicted we are.

I have found that the best to overcome such problem is like I did in 2019-2020 and once I lost big I settle down and started to think cold headed that I need to be playing less and less,the first step is acknowledging it and start developing a strategy to play less and less in a long time frame.

[goaldigger]

If a gambling addict can tell the truth about his gambling addiction, maybe it can make it easier for the people around him to start helping him. I don't really know anyone who has become a gambling addict, but I heard stories from my neighbours that there is someone in our neighbourhood who has started to become addicted to gambling. My other neighbours often see him gambling using his phone when he is not doing anything. So far, we have known him as someone who is good and never does anything out of the ordinary for the people around us. But I don't know the truth and don't want to find out at this time because there have been no complaints from his family saying that he was addicted to gambling.

Being open is not that easy but I agree that if they will tell the truth and ask for a help, I’m sure your family can help you and even the community might find a way to help you recover. Let’s also avoid to criticized those gamblers who become addict, we should help them instead because their life is at risk and we might lose them without even trying to help them. Being addict is not easy, and if you are already in this situation better to start seeking help and start your recovery.

[darkangel11]

Another topic from the "golden advice series." If you feel addicted, talk to someone.
It's pretty much like telling someone, if you're getting abused by your husband, leave the house and get help.
If you feel sad, go meet some friends and you're going to feel better.
If you get addicted to drugs or alcohol, go to a rehab and they'll help you.

Thanks for saying the obvious, OP. I'm sure this saved some addicted gamblers from falling deeper into the bottomless pit of addiction.

[yahoo62278]

Why is it my job to change anyone? In a perfect world everything would be free, people would help each other, noone would kill anyone, no adultry, no famine, no bad shit period. We obviously do not live in a perfect world and most only care about themselves no matter who it hurts.

I haven't seen anyone in such bad shape from gambling that I should intervene. People I know gamble what they can afford and go on with life.

[maydna]

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Being open is not that easy but I agree that if they will tell the truth and ask for a help, I’m sure your family can help you and even the community might find a way to help you recover. Let’s also avoid to criticized those gamblers who become addict, we should help them instead because their life is at risk and we might lose them without even trying to help them. Being addict is not easy, and if you are already in this situation better to start seeking help and start your recovery.

At least, being open to a few people about his gambling addiction can give him hope that he can find the solution he should use. He can ask for help from other people to help him find the right solution so that he can reduce his gambling activities first or immediately cure his gambling addiction if he already has a gambling addiction. Some suggested and took him to a community that had successfully cured him of gambling addiction so that he could learn from them and get his motivation from the experiences they shared. By paying attention to the progress of those who are trying to cure themselves of gambling addiction, enthusiasm will begin to grow within them so that they will not experience difficulty in undergoing any therapy process.

[goinmerry]

If you are facing gambling addictions and you are keeping it all to yourself, you are worsening your problem, find someone who is close to you and open up to them, letting it all out will bring you some relieve and hopefully you will get better, don't wait till you hit the rock bottom before you say it all out.

If the level of gambling addiction is already at its peak and now in the stage where it's uncontrollable, how can these people be able to help their own?

These people with that high level of addiction will really keep that problem to themselves and won't talk about it to anyone, even with their family and close friends. It's hard and tough. In that particular situation, someone has to step up to help that gambler even by force if necessary.

On the other hand, if the level of addiction is still tolerable, there's always a chance for these people to help themselves on their own without the help of others. It now depends on how strong they are to battle their temptation to do gambling. It's tough work too but if successfully done, what a relief.

[alegotardo]

I was able to talk sense into two different addicted gamblers and they also get help from family members, but the major reason why they too so long in their addiction is because they don't open up to anybody, they kept it all inside of them and it's killing them.

Things get better after they voiced out about their addiction and they are able to get help, any gambling addicts you know of? what method works for you when helping them?

This is exactly why they say that the first thing an addicted person needs to do is: seek help from a professional or a family member or close friend.
If a person who really cares about the player finds out about his addiction, they will certainly "torment" him and monitor him often enough to make him stop playing or to reduce the risk and have more control over his bets. .

Often the addicted player knows he is in trouble and ends up withdrawing more and more, which clearly makes his problem more difficult.

[Assface16678]

Why is it my job to change anyone? In a perfect world everything would be free, people would help each other, noone would kill anyone, no adultry, no famine, no bad shit period. We obviously do not live in a perfect world and most only care about themselves no matter who it hurts.

I haven't seen anyone in such bad shape from gambling that I should intervene. People I know gamble what they can afford and go on with life.

Well, yes, maybe you don't have a care or concern for other people, but what the OP is talking about is that if you have someone who has the case of being addicted, maybe if they reach out to you as a friend, will you not help him? Or, let's say, you don't have the ability to help your friend, but can your conscience take it? That's what the OP is referring to: that maybe a gambling addict could wake up from their addiction if someone would reach out for them and help them get back on their feet. But you are also right that in this world there's no perfect, so maybe there are addicts to gambling who also don't have a concern for the people around them who could be affected by their gambling habit. But the thing is, the person itself should help himself; without the dedication to change, there will be no change, and we can't do anything from that.

[Docnaster]

Another topic from the "golden advice series." If you feel addicted, talk to someone.
It's pretty much like telling someone, if you're getting abused by your husband, leave the house and get help.
If you feel sad, go meet some friends and you're going to feel better.
If you get addicted to drugs or alcohol, go to a rehab and they'll help you.

Thanks for saying the obvious, OP. I'm sure this saved some addicted gamblers from falling deeper into the bottomless pit of addiction.

What you just said about addicted gamblers getting help by talking to people around them is absolutely true but one big challenge that makes most of the the addicted gamblers not disclose their gambling habits to anyone is because of the fear for being harshly judged. The world of today are filled with people who would rather judge someone for his shortcomings instead of helping the person to overcome his predicaments. It's the stigmatization that comes with opening their addiction in gambling that stops a lot of addicts from telling anyone.

[piebeyb]

On the other hand, if the level of addiction is still tolerable, there's always a chance for these people to help themselves on their own without the help of others. It now depends on how strong they are to battle their temptation to do gambling. It's tough work too but if successfully done, what a relief.

Because what we know is that bad habits that are already attached will be difficult to cure, especially if it is not with one's own intentions, no matter how strong the family and people around them try to cure an addict, it will certainly be difficult too, that's why self-awareness is needed to be able to emphasize intentions so that We can stop or at least slowly reduce our gambling activities so we don't gamble too actively.

Most people never want to realize that they are addicted and don't even care about themselves, so it's difficult to detect it if it's not too serious, but if it's still at a tolerable stage, it's possible to recover quickly, namely reducing gambling habits and activities. can help by switching to other hobbies or other activities. my friend once tried that and it worked, nothing can help us except starting from ourselves.

[Weawant]

How many people have you been able to change after they get addicted to gambling? And what is there level of addiction?

From my own experience, I get to know that those gamblers who are secretly gambling in their rooms and develop the addiction habit have the biggest problem, gambling addiction is like 'wanting more' and never getting enough, you will have all day thinking about gambling, maybe if you do this or you do that, maybe the result will be different.

I was able to talk sense into two different addicted gamblers and they also get help from family members, but the major reason why they too so long in their addiction is because they don't open up to anybody, they kept it all inside of them and it's killing them.

Things get better after they voiced out about their addiction and they are able to get help, any gambling addicts you know of? what method works for you when helping them?
If you are facing gambling addictions and you are keeping it all to yourself, you are worsening your problem, find someone who is close to you and open up to them, letting it all out will bring you some relieve and hopefully you will get better, don't wait till you hit the rock bottom before you say it all out.

Personally I have not changed any gambling addict probably because bi have had little to almost no contact with most of them and aswell I don't try to change anyone because most times you trying to change may not turn out well as they may not change completely, but may temporarily stop.

I do advice they get professional help because I think that way they get to completely heal and get to recover faster and better than when been advised by a random individual, and the chances they go back are usually very small because these professional help take it upon their self since they have been paid to ensure these person don't go back to their forma habits and become better person, so personal I always refer to professional help as I see it to be the best and what will most likely work for them them.

[Slow death]

There are families in which the members of the same family treat each other badly, leading to the isolation of other members who are much more fragile in psychological and financial terms and the part of the relatives who have good financial conditions continue to humiliate and criticize the poorer relatives. , reaching the level where poorer relatives are afraid of richer relatives and as poorer relatives know that if they get into trouble they will not be able to ask rich relatives for help, so what poor relatives do is hide everything they do in their lives. Even when poorer relatives know they are addicted to gambling, they are unlikely to ask other people for help because they are afraid of suffering reprisals.

In other cases, people suffer bullying at work, at school and in the neighborhood, so when they isolate themselves and start gambling a lot to the point of becoming addicted to gambling, they prefer to hide that they are addicted because people will criticize and laugh at them. her. That's why when everyone discovers that someone is addicted, the addiction is already at a very advanced stage and the damage done by the addict is also very great, because he goes into debt to continue gambling, he also sells other people's goods and sometimes he gets trapped. is bankrupt and that's all the relatives who pay all the bills including hospital bills to cure the addict

[AicecreaME]

If I have a friend who a gambling addict, I will stay away against them and might cut off our relationship. Why? no one can change except themselves, if they're a good people they wouldn't become a gambling addict, as simple as that. So having a relationship with them might drag myself to become them or they will keep asking money because they already lose it for gambling.

It's a bit harsh to outright do this, but if this is what will work for you, then do it. Your mental health matters more than what other people will say.

But if I were in the situation, I will reach out and do my best to encourage my friend to get away from gambling and seek rehabilitation to completely disassociate himself in gambling. This way, I can show my concern as a true friend. I won't easily distance myself and rather try my best to let them be enlightened. For me, it's important that I at least got to try before completely giving up. That way, I can say I did what I can and will have no regrets such as having what if's and what could have been's.

It's true that they are the only one who can truly help themselves. But they also need guidance and support from those people that surround them. It's much motivating to recover if there are people cheering from you after all. Just learn to set boundaries of course. If you can't provide financial provision, then just give them moral support instead. Never ever lend them money because that's like tolerating their behavior.

[jaberwock]

I've never helped anyone who was addicted in gambling to stop his addiction and I don't think I can even help anyone do it because as far as I'm concerned, the only person who can stop a gambling addict from his addiction is the affected person. I've been a victim of gambling addiction before and no one was able to help me out of it until when I decided to help myself.

Hmm are you sure? You are here in the forum and you are also wearing a signature from a gambling company, which means you can mostly post on the gambling and gambling discussion boards.

And we all know that most of the topics here are about gambling addictions. So for sure, you have thrown a couple of suggestions on how can one overcome it or possibly avoid it, if they aren't an addict yet. If it's true, that we or other people (either addict or not) can't help the addicted gambler, then we shouldn't be seeing those gambling addiction threads here. We can help them actually but most of the help can only come from their selves.

[dothebeats]

Communication with addicts and telling them that it's okay to share their thoughts is probably one of the best ways to start relieving them off of their pain when it comes to gambling. There simply is a lot of stigma around gambling addiction that people who are affected don't go out asking for help to other people, leaving them in the dark and more likely to continue their activities.

If you have the opportunity to make the change or help the person take the first step away from gambling addiction then do it. You'll never know how much that means to the person you're helping.

[goldkingcoiner]

How many people have you been able to change after they get addicted to gambling? And what is there level of addiction?

From my own experience, I get to know that those gamblers who are secretly gambling in their rooms and develop the addiction habit have the biggest problem, gambling addiction is like 'wanting more' and never getting enough, you will have all day thinking about gambling, maybe if you do this or you do that, maybe the result will be different.

I was able to talk sense into two different addicted gamblers and they also get help from family members, but the major reason why they too so long in their addiction is because they don't open up to anybody, they kept it all inside of them and it's killing them.

Things get better after they voiced out about their addiction and they are able to get help, any gambling addicts you know of? what method works for you when helping them?
If you are facing gambling addictions and you are keeping it all to yourself, you are worsening your problem, find someone who is close to you and open up to them, letting it all out will bring you some relieve and hopefully you will get better, don't wait till you hit the rock bottom before you say it all out.

I think that addictions are different for everyone. Some people have it worse than others.  As far as I understand the medical explanation, it is because of genetics.

For me personally, I have never become addicted to the point of losing more than 10% of my money in gambling. So I would call my own addiction, if it even exists, controllable. To prevent yourself from feeding your addiction, I recommend setting firm rules in place before you go into the casino. Set limits for funds, loss and wins. No more than 10% of your disposable income/month.

The thing is, the way we think about addiction might be wrong. One person might be extremely addicted to gambling, while other people barely become addicted at all and can claim that they feel their addiction is not anything serious. Of course, some people could say the same thing but lie, out of shame.

So there really is no realistic way to prevent people from becoming addicts. Unless the casino does genetic screening to filter out the people who have higher probability of becoming extremely addicted. But what kind of a casino would do that?

[Josefjix]

Communication with addicts and telling them that it's okay to share their thoughts is probably one of the best ways to start relieving them off of their pain when it comes to gambling. There simply is a lot of stigma around gambling addiction that people who are affected don't go out asking for help to other people, leaving them in the dark and more likely to continue their activities.

If you have the opportunity to make the change or help the person take the first step away from gambling addiction then do it. You'll never know how much that means to the person you're helping.

If I have an opportunity to help someone, ofcourse I will with all my heart, it doesn't matter the condition but what matters is if the victim is open to accept new changes. Addiction does exists but it's probability of hitting desperate gamblers is 90%. Besides, everyone have one or two problems he or she facing and adding another', doesn't suit the levels. Giving listening ears to addicts, who knows? You can provide solid information and alternatives of helping them. Serving aides to addicts can really improves their chances of eliminating addiction once and for all.

[Oilacris]

Communication with addicts and telling them that it's okay to share their thoughts is probably one of the best ways to start relieving them off of their pain when it comes to gambling. There simply is a lot of stigma around gambling addiction that people who are affected don't go out asking for help to other people, leaving them in the dark and more likely to continue their activities.

If you have the opportunity to make the change or help the person take the first step away from gambling addiction then do it. You'll never know how much that means to the person you're helping.

If I have an opportunity to help someone, ofcourse I will with all my heart, it doesn't matter the condition but what matters is if the victim is open to accept new changes. Addiction does exists but it's probability of hitting desperate gamblers is 90%. Besides, everyone have one or two problems he or she facing and adding another', doesn't suit the levels. Giving listening ears to addicts, who knows? You can provide solid information and alternatives of helping them. Serving aides to addicts can really improves their chances of eliminating addiction once and for all.

Only a few people out of this world would really be showing up something about caring someone in regarding into those unfortunate conditions or situations because most people wont really
be that mindful nor caring about others situation and would really be just minding about themselves rather than on minding others which it is really just that normal.
Its true that people would really be turning out to be secretive just because they dont really like on getting discriminated or really that frowned upon on what they have done.

This is why they would really be ending up on being quiet and would really be tending to share up on the problems that they do currently have but somewhat there are
people who doesnt really like to share up problems personally which its true that if you dont tend to voice out on your current issues or problems
then it would really be just become worst overtime.

[Wakate]

Communication with addicts and telling them that it's okay to share their thoughts is probably one of the best ways to start relieving them off of their pain when it comes to gambling. There simply is a lot of stigma around gambling addiction that people who are affected don't go out asking for help to other people, leaving them in the dark and more likely to continue their activities.

If you have the opportunity to make the change or help the person take the first step away from gambling addiction then do it. You'll never know how much that means to the person you're helping.

If I have an opportunity to help someone, ofcourse I will with all my heart, it doesn't matter the condition but what matters is if the victim is open to accept new changes. Addiction does exists but it's probability of hitting desperate gamblers is 90%. Besides, everyone have one or two problems he or she facing and adding another', doesn't suit the levels. Giving listening ears to addicts, who knows? You can provide solid information and alternatives of helping them. Serving aides to addicts can really improves their chances of eliminating addiction once and for all.

Addiction is something a gambler need to fight or else things might become worsen for them and which can how ever become life threatening. Gambling and winning can be two different things and it is good for us to try to keep winning so that we can earn from what we are doing and not getting disappointed when we bet. There are people that had been gambling for long without results so it is very important for us to do things that would attract winning for us not doing something illegal or something that would affect our personality as a gambler.