Who should quit, and why?

[Lida93]

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In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

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[robelneo]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I don't think it has been discussed before, if this happens to us this is going to be a hard question for me as my wife always has the last say when it comes to finances  but it's better for us to just alternate playing, even if I want my wife to quit we will quarrel about this so why not just play alternately, she will have a whole week playing, and after a week it's my turn to play.
Of course, the money should be allocated so the rule is no additional funds, both of us should be content with the allocation

[Wexnident]

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Definitely yea, but I think it would be a bandage solution? I mean both of them are addicted at that point if they need someone to quit to manage their finances so sooner or later, it's going to spiral out of their control. It'd be better for them to manage themselves with control, either together or not it doesn't really matter so that any future issues can be resolved by themselves instead of relying on another person.

In the case of the one quitting though, it'd definitely have to be the person who'd manage their finances and I reckon there'd already be an argument then and there really. Even rules wouldn't work since, well, an addict can go far and beyond if they really wanted something.

[Fortify]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

It depends on the scale of the gambling going on. If we're talking about 1 partner buying a lottery ticket each week and 1 partner spending all their spare money from wages on an addiction, then there is a big mismatch in the relationship. It's the same if two people in a relationship are smokers, knowing they have to quit, but chances are one of the two has a stronger passion to quit than the other - it's rare that people will hit that rock bottom moment at the same time. In reality, each person needs to figure out their own motivation to quit and apply it, but getting them to do it at the same time is harder. It's going to be difficult for just one of the two to quit if both of them gamble on the same things.

[Yogee]

[...]if that's the case who should quit for who.

Battle of the sexes? If you're going to ask this hypothetical question then at least provide more context like who is earning more and providing most for the family expenses. It's traditionally the Father's role but if this marriage is a 50-50 then both of them has to reconsider their gambling activities. I wouldn't say both should quit if they're able to manage it to a minimum.

[naira]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

to be honest, I have never seen a case like this where I live because it is one of them that is often encountered. Well because you raise a quite interesting case we think that one of the two is the most appropriate to stop of course the wife and focus on raising and educating their children. The child growth and development and level of emotional closeness are in the hands  of the mother. It is the mother who will be the director of her child while the husband has the obligation to earn a living even though in this  case gambling is actually not an ideal source of  income for getting a consistent income. It depends on whether he works at the casino or is just a gambler not involved in any specific activity with the casino.

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I know a family in our area that engages in gambling together, even though it's known to be prohibited in their community. Despite the rules, they continue to gamble, and as a result, their business has been neglected, and their children are no longer being taken care of. These are just a few of the negative effects of gambling, especially when both spouses are involved. It's challenging to be in such a situation, can you imagine the impact on the family's life?
They should consider the possible issues or consequences of such a setup; there should still be boundaries. I'm not saying they should quit altogether, but they should focus on moderation and finding a balance that works for the family. There should be limits on playing; sometimes, they forget that gambling should be just a form of entertainment, not something to rely on for the family's livelihood. In my opinion, it's also not good if both spouses are simultaneously gambling, especially in front of their children.

[EluguHcman]

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Left with me alone, I can not marry a gambler if I get to consider the habitual barriers that is accompanied to it such as the addictions,the inability to control gambling emotions and the lack of conducts about setting up a gambling budget.
But if by such of this threads scenero, they can both set up a gambling budget and must be disciplined not to contrarily bridge their gambling plans but to stable their bankrolls.
Also that they must not discuss about their gambling life in front before the kids else they gets infected.
Always tell each other the truth at when won or lost and every incomes made from the gambling must be in am account of the family so everyone can benefit from it since the goal of gambling is to make profits of solving financial needs. And they must not be in the gambling board together else it is either they are biased to each other at that moment if at lost or they looses focus for mathematical organogram on predictions and calculations.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Oh yes it would be wise if one must quit.
And that should be the wife because women are liable to emotional breakdowns otherwisely she might be unable to control her emotions at when lost hoping to bet more and recover in other to prove her husband that she ya better gambler because Women are used to competitive lives even life living.
The wife is mostly to spend more time at home with the kids so her present at home would be essential and usually indeed of to the kids at home.
The men are more likely to be selfdefense able at an outbreak of mayhems so, the man who stay up while wife steps back because any negative occurances is liable to happen. Especially when one is publicly noted on a huge and amazing amounts of winning or beating (winning) aggressive opposition maybe in a physical skill based gambling.
Moreover, the financial responsibilities of a family is usually on the mans task so let him step up having the gambling as a means make money even though it is not reliable while the wife steps back.

[dothebeats]

I'm a product of this kind of familial relationship, and I'll tell you that it's not pretty.

My mom and dad were both gamblers who develop this habit when I was in 3rd grade. At first, they were just spending very minimal amounts in the gambling house and still manage to take us to fancy restaurants and a treat every so often. After a couple of years, both of them started hiding money from each other, up to the point that we're neglected of our needs so long as they can gamble. It was something awful, they never taught us how to gamble, but we know that they do it every night.

The children are the most affected of this setup. They don't know that this is what's happening behind the scenes, and most of the time, they don't know the reason why they cannot go to school or cannot get food that they used to have before. Thankfully, I didn't develop into a gambling addict like them, and I still know how to control my finances. If I were to marry someone, I might give up gambling just because I don't want it to take up time that I could be spending with my family, and not because I'm scared of losing control.

[target]

If it has come to that situation where the man and the wife gamble, the family is already in a big mess. It doesn't matter who influences who but this is already a disorder in the family. A father gambling in a family is manageable as the household will still be managed by the wife but both of them out of the house to gamble is not good. Both have to quit and look into what they prioritize.

[goaldigger]

They need to ask the help of the professional because being exposed in gambling that much can actually cost you a lot and your relationship with your family might be in danger if you continue to gamble together. We know addiction is not ok, and this can lead to that addiction if didn't address right away.

I believe they should both quit gambling, because they are not winning at all and they know the risk of it, if they really care for their family then I believe they should start moving on, and live a life without gambling.

[Ben Barubal]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

  I think it seems like it was just discussed here in the gambling section, like you are talking about here. It is difficult to have both parents addicted to gambling. And it is impossible that their children do not see that. Except that it depends on the age of their child, who has a broad mind about gambling.

  Even if one of them quits, it will be difficult for him to do that 100%, and of course he still sees that his wife will gamble. Maybe it would be better if they both stopped gambling; that would be better so they wouldn't be tempted to gamble.

[Accardo]

Both spouses should embrace the gambling habit and learn more about gambling. They'll have fun as a family. What matters is being able to prominently control the affairs of the family. It's not bad for gamblers to be married. Who then will stop gambling, it's not bad. Unless they're pruned to getting addicted, then it's of no use to continue gambling. The fun gets better when they both, visit offline casinos and lodge in hotels to gamble during vacations. I understand that in a family where kids are just growing, they'll need to focus more on disciplining their children, and also maintain a mutual understanding of not discussing gambling-related topics around the kids. Don't think it'll be right for them to stop gambling.

They both have jobs and should know how much to spend daily on gambling or set out an amount for monthly gambling. If their gambling habits begin to affect the family lifestyle, then it means they're getting something wrong. They can discuss ways of controlling money spent on gambling. Isn't it a nice experience for the gambler, who married a female gambler, or introduced his wife to gambling? Discussing with our wife about gambling and how to manage money. Gamblers need a companion to discuss, often their gambling attitude and encounters. One party can't get addicted without the next person being aware.

But, in families where the man is gambling, the wife won't be aware if their husband gets addicted. Thereby causing more harm to the success of the family, mentally, and financially.

provided that gambling is legalized in their country, then nobody is expected to quit. They'll be able to manage their bankrolls. I've read of a wife who is mainly interested in slot and the husband a poker player. They spend their vacations together in casinos and end up winning more money. Enjoy free hotel rooms, and food and get fun, as they're comp members. After their vacation, they'll go back home happy. In a family like Op described the kids seem to be young. In the long run, both spouses would appreciate being gamblers, if they maintain responsible gambling. But, OP, if they are currently undergoing any form of addiction, then open up in your thread. From what you wrote, nothing like that, you only care about their financial well-being. Which shouldn't bother you. They've figured out how to handle that aspect.

[swogerino]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Both should quit.I remember when I used to go to offline casinos in 2007-2008 and it was an affiliate or at least it claimed it was an affiliate of Caesar Palace.I used to go there because I loved the slots there and I found there a couple used to come there,they were "rom people" no offense to any gender or race as I respect everybody in a equal way.I mentioned that to show you that they were not rich persons and as soon as they got their salary they stayed in the casino 2-3 days often times losing it all and living with help from the state then so based on this story it is a great thing if both spouse would quit gambling and to continue to run their family in a normal way,not asking for help here and there as this is what gambling brings you into.

[pawanjain]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I would rather say that both the people should quit gambling when the family is involved.
It would be a big problem if one of them has to quit and the best thing to do would be that both of them just quit.
This way both the parents would be able to give time to their family.

If at all they don't want to quit gambling, then my suggestion would be that they should take turns in months.
So that one would gamble this month and then the other would gamble the next month.
May be this way, one of them or may be both of them decide to quit gambling since they would be taking a month's break inbetween.

[coin-investor]

I don't recommend that both of them engage in gambling what will happen to their family if they both become addicted, if both can manage their gambling activities I recommend that the wife give way to his husband, the husband needs recreation after a hard days' work in the office or they can alternately play like the husband plays on weekdays and the wife plays on the weekends.

The most important thing is their finances and the time they are spending with their family will suffer, gambling is for entertainment and it should not have a bad effect on the finances and relationships with each other.

[acroman08]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

the best action here is for both of them to quit gambling and prioritize their child and their financial security. having a child is not a joke, it is expensive and exhausting. also, if only one of them quits, there is a high chance that the other spouse might start having resentment towards the other who is still gambling, this is why the only way to do this is for both of them to quit.

[YOSHIE]

Have you ever heard and seen several cases where husband and wife sold drugs, both ended tragically in prison and their children were abandoned, not much different from what you said about husband and wife being involved in the world of gambling.

I remember a case that just happened five months ago in my country, both husband/wife worked in the same company, both cases were revealed in court, after they were arrested for embezzling company money that they spent, in short both of them have now been fired and sentenced to 5 years in prison and a fine of $50k each for both of them, that is the case if a husband/wife is involved in gambling.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

My understanding is that if a husband/wife is involved in gambling activities, their household is not taken care of, both of them are busy with gambling and other things, it is easy for them to commit all criminal acts, in order to satisfy their gambling lust.

[Hirose UK]

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

If it about finances, it possible that they both work and have their own income that can meet the family needs in daily life and for their children.
It could also be that the money used for gambling is leftover money from these needs, including savings.
Every family has different economic aspect because many women are still pursuing their careers and still working to be able to have their own income, so it not problem if it just about finances if they can manage it well.
And their own time depends on how clever they are at managing it because in the fullness of their daily activities there will definitely be free time that can be used to rest and they use little of their rest time for gambling.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

If both of them really like gambling and only one party decides to stop for the sake of their partner then this is good decision and can be said to be someone who is responsible for their partner.
But it would be better for both of them to make an agreement in deciding to stop simultaneously, this will be more influential and look more harmonious.

[alegotardo]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I see two problems here in this situation that you addressed:

Financial: If each of the spouses has their own income, then each one should decide what is the minimum they will contribute to support the house and family and the rest of the amount they can use however they want. But if only one of them has an income, then they should discuss together how much money they are willing to bet on the games without compromising the family's income.

Time: Addiction is the main villain of those who bet on gambling and if both are addicted, the chances of their children having a terrible education are very high. Parents should decide together how much and for how long they will play, preferably at times when their children are not physically around so that their habits do not influence them at an unnecessarily young age.