Who should quit, and why?

[Davidvictorson]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Both of them should quit and get another hobby or past time that is inclusive of the kids and the whole family. In the case even though we may say that gambling in itself is not bad but here it is. The kids would pick it up easily from the parents. The parents may lose control of the habit and become addicted and instead of time spent with the family and bonding it will be spent on gambling. I do not advice this at all.

If the kids are little, and they do not want to quit, they should put a pause on the it or hold and wait until the kids are all grown up and can take care of themselves. After that, they can return to gambling.

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[Issa56]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

That's really serious, and it's bad. You should have at least added if the both of them are addicted to gambling, but it's just better they both stop gambling or it's going to affect them or their children. They might not be addicted to gambling, but their children might end up being addicted, which is really bad.

If the two of them are not addicted to gambling and they are gambling for fun, then it's better they just stop gambling and get something else done, because I'm sure they both won't want to give up. I can't just imagine seeing my partner gambling, and I won't be able to gamble. So it's better that we both stop gambling so that we can get something else to do just to have fun. Seriously two-spouse gambling might have a negative impact on children because the two spouses might be able to control their gambling activities, but children might not be able to do that.

[GideonGono]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Both of them should quit and focus on their family, kids need both of their parents attention.
And as soon as their is a child involve their life should already be changed they should already have a bigger picture for their family.
How they would manage their funds and their time to bond with their child, instead of gambling they should play or pay attention with their family.

[bitcampaign]

I'm not sure there is a man who wants to marry a woman who gambles, even if the man is a gambler too because if both of them gamble and have children of course the children will be neglected by the behavior of both of them, therefore one of them has to give in to the family, whoever it is from the husband or wife's side, of course You have to be able to give in for the family, but it's a good idea if the children are still too young, it's better for both of them to stop, why not for the good of the children

[Assface16678]

I don't think there is a couple or family that has a situation like that, but even if there is, I don't know if that family or couple is bound to be broke or if their life as a couple will be miserable; they either break up soon or the family will result in a broken family. I don't think there is something good in a couple or family that gambles at the same time, because it will only affect their financial state, and even if there is one person in that couple, I don't think that the couple will last if the gambler doesn't stop. And to answer your question, should only one person quit? They should not quit gambling immediately before it's too late or before the family or relationship can still be saved, or else there will be no future for them. I think there are many situations just like that, and it didn't go well.

[Slow death]

If there is a case in which a family, the wife and husband, are people who play in casinos, then this family may be doomed to suffering and will break up in a short time. It is unlikely that two people from the same household who play in casinos will understand each other or none of them had become addicted. Although the game is recommended to be seen as fun, it is not recommended for stressful situations, playing to forget about problems, playing under the influence of alcohol and drugs. different from other things that serve as fun and don't create problems, things like going to the beach, drinking juice while someone watches a football game, playing video games on the computer, horse riding

spending hours talking to friends, these things don't create stress in people, these things don't make people spend hours thinking about them, these things hardly consume a person's entire salary. but gambling is something that in theory allows people to win a lot of money if they are very lucky, so it makes people start playing with the aim of becoming rich, it's funny and that many people who are in the gaming world, They are fooling themselves when they tell other people that they are just playing for fun, when in fact they are playing to make a profit.

So imagine what a couple who lives in the same house and is playing at the casino will be like, what the finances will be like, the wife is not playing for fun, the husband is not playing for fun, they are both playing to make money, they are both playing with goals of becoming become rich, and this illusory goal will lead both or one of them to become addicted to gambling and destroy the entire family. I think that there shouldn't be many people from the same house playing, this will prevent other people from being able to correct the person who is playing when they deviate from the right path

[Oilacris]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Just dont mind on whatever things that they would be experiencing considering that both husband and wife do gamble then expect that their finances would really be that ruined.
You would be basically be that completely stopping if both of you do realize that you dont already have the money to spend and this is something that you would really be that
the moment you would really be making out regrets and its already too late. Both of you wont really be just destroying your family interms of finances but also in terms of
family relationship on which this is something that it is really important into a family. This is why you should really be that mindful on whatever things
that you do encounter because if you dont then expect for some messed up life.

[Hispo]

It would not be necessary for neither of them to quit, besides one of them quiting for the sake of the whole family, while the other does not, may sound very unfair from the perspective of the one who did.
I think it would be enough for both to lower their wager and the time they have used to gamble and instead invest that money and time to build their family, to give attention to their child and do family activities together, in my opinion.

In the case a complete halt of their gambling activities is necessary for the well being of the family, then both of them should quit as a gesture of commitment to each other and their child.
These kinds of situation are better handled by a professional of couple therapy.

[Docnaster]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Both of them should quit and get another hobby or past time that is inclusive of the kids and the whole family. In the case even though we may say that gambling in itself is not bad but here it is. The kids would pick it up easily from the parents. The parents may lose control of the habit and become addicted and instead of time spent with the family and bonding it will be spent on gambling. I do not advice this at all.

If the kids are little, and they do not want to quit, they should put a pause on the it or hold and wait until the kids are all grown up and can take care of themselves. After that, they can return to gambling.

First of all, I think the it'll be good to know the level of gambling by both sides because as young people, they might be gambling for fun wherever they feel like having good times and enjoying their life while we are here discussing their a life they've chosen for themselves.
That been said, if the reason behind their gambling engagements is caused by their respective quests to make money through gambling, then the marriage should be dissolved so that that it doesn't affect the kids in the future because to me, I personally think that it's absolutely a disaster for spouses to be active gamblers.

[blockman]

They have a lot of options, if they are worried for the future of their children then they need to both quit. That's simple. Why? It's because that this is going to have a long term impact for them and that's not going to do any good for their family. Both being a gambler will have each other's back and will also tolerate their crave to gamble. But as a parent, this is a matter of being responsible, no one stops them to gamble and these are just suggestions but will they manage to become responsible while they gamble?

[romero121]

If they're good enough with their activities and doesn't affect the family life then there is nothing to worry about it. If the scenario is turning bad, then it is time to find the solution. When they're moving to find a solution, it is always good to take a chance to stay away from gambling and understand the good they've experienced. When quitting both have to follow it commonly, because one have quit and other continuing to gamble doesn't make sense and leads to problem.

[Casdinyard]

Why not both? Is gambling that important to both of them that they aren’t able to even give their kids proper parenting? If that’s so then what the fuck, are you really going to put aside your kid’s welfare just so you can indulge in your gambling tendencies?

I keep saying this all the time, and I’ll keep saying it again. Gambling is not supposed to be a part of your life. It’s supposed to be this one-off or once in a while rendezvous that you do to let off some steam. The moment that ganbling becomes a major topic in your life, shit’s already out of proportion and you need to rethink your decisions as they go. You’re definitely not doing it properly and responsibly and in the first place you shouldn’t even be gambling.

[Adbitco]

If possible both should quit gambling because children are now involved otherwise it would ruined your family. At first place why would husband and wife engages themselves into gambling how does it sound like a joke or what? I would rather asked wife to go for something much better that can be bringing a stable income than gambling because it's a major distraction to the family, it's better you hid it from your children that you both gambles otherwise they don't seeing it as a routine for living with a gambling life styles.

[BitMaxz]

I'm not sure there is a man who wants to marry a woman who gambles, even if the man is a gambler too because if both of them gamble and have children of course the children will be neglected by the behavior of both of them

No, not all unless their parents teach their child to gamble but most parents don't want to show their gambling activity to their child and a woman gambler I'm sure she still cares about her children except her husband.
Both of them should learn to control themself and only think gambling is just a waste of time because if not their family will be destroyed.

[Quidat]

I'm not sure there is a man who wants to marry a woman who gambles, even if the man is a gambler too because if both of them gamble and have children of course the children will be neglected by the behavior of both of them

No, not all unless their parents teach their child to gamble but most parents don't want to show their gambling activity to their child and a woman gambler I'm sure she still cares about her children except her husband.
Both of them should learn to control themself and only think gambling is just a waste of time because if not their family will be destroyed.

Just as we all know that regrets do always come at the end and people wont really be making any steps or actions before anything becomes severe. If you wont really be that mindful about
into your actions then you are really that putting yourself at great trouble and this is something that we dont really like to happen. Gambling isnt bad as long both of you
are really that responsible on the money spending and not really compromising in terms of financial because if you do then you would be that basically putting yourself on a huge problem.
People do only usually quit when its too late or the damage had already been done. So this is why it would be always best that you should be sensible and wary about on the
actions you are making.

[TelolettOm]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

This is quite a complicated situation and a family case. Maybe there isn't just one case like this, but many, maybe...
In this case, there are several considerations:

1. What kind of gamblers are they and what is their real financial situation?
If they are not addicted gamblers and they get more income from gambling, and their finances are good enough, then it would be better for the wife to quit. Why wife? because the wife will be more focused on the children. In this case, don't let children get involved in gambling too, especially if they become addicted because they are still small and cannot control themselves. Maybe their parents can manage and control themselves so that they still get the positive side, while for children, we won't know what will happen to them in the future. So, it would be better if one of them quit, in my opinion the wife. Note here that the husband is obliged to work even harder so that his income remains sufficient for the family. And the wife also remains on duty while monitoring her husband, because she is afraid that the atmosphere will change and become negative addiction.

2. If their gambling activities are bad enough and are affecting their family life and finances, then, why don't they just quit both and take a short break to really prepare themselves first who will continue to gamble but with a commitment to effort who are tough and earn income.

*Note: Actually, gambling is not a good means of earning income, because gambling is still high risk and there are concerns about bad addiction. So actually it is not recommended to get too involved or dependent on gambling continuously. The husband is still obliged to support the family, so remain focused on doing the work to provide for this well and wisely. Life is not just about hobbies, but also responsibilities, especially if you have a family.

[klidex]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Very interesting question @OP
In this case, of course, the one who has financial control is definitely the wife and the one who can manage the needs is also the wife. If the husband and wife are gamblers, the wife should be good at managing her expenses and prioritize daily needs and the needs of the children first before thinking about gambling and if by chance the husband and wife do it. I think gambling would be better if it was done together rather than stopping at one point which would cause injustice.
for example, if there is sports betting and if husband and wife have an interest in the world of sports betting, wouldn't it be a better step to make decisions together so they can use their analytical skills together and the profits can be enjoyed together to supplement their daily needs, but this is It can also cause misunderstandings if husband and wife have different predictions.

Incidentally, my wife is not very interested in gambling, but my wife always reminds me not to bet beyond my limits, so my wife is my self-control.

[wxa7115]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

We will need more data to answer the question, as if both parents work and they are earning a salary which is way above what the average person earns and they have their gambling under their control, then I do not see the need for any of the partners to give up on gambling.

However if money was tight and they did not had any savings then I think it would be for the best for both of them to quit gambling immediately, as they cannot really afford to gamble with so many responsibilities to attend to.

[Xxmodded]

We will need more data to answer the question, as if both parents work and they are earning a salary which is way above what the average person earns and they have their gambling under their control, then I do not see the need for any of the partners to give up on gambling.

However if money was tight and they did not had any savings then I think it would be for the best for both of them to quit gambling immediately, as they cannot really afford to gamble with so many responsibilities to attend to.

If both husband and wife have much salary payment from their working its huge problem with gambling habit, they can get house assistance for helping their needed to control all thing but if less salary its not good way have habit gambling between husband and wife. Children need more qualities time with their parent despite father or mother and not make your gambling loss qualities time with your children not matter with your position as husband or wife.
Money can help more but time with family and children as once moment in our life, better controlling family time between husband or wife with their children and not make them loss qualities time with his parent. If gambling habit can leaves yet for husband or wife need to manage well your gambling time.

[Oasisman]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

What a coincidence this topic has been brought here lol.
I knew a family like this in my birth place, but I didn't get a chance to have conversations with any of them not even once when I was still residing there (now I live in another province with my wife). Honestly they are still together up until to this very moment. I just literally saw them in the grocery when I visited my place a couple of weeks ago. I just had a thought after seeing them how they were able to make things work when both of them were regularly visiting a local casino before. Not sure if they still do today as they are already late in their 60's.
I guess there's no huge secretly to make this thing work, but just being responsible with finances is they key IMO.